How long would you have a 10 year old play Xbox in the summer or what type of a schedule for him to play Xbox? Right now he has no schedule and he is on it all day long unless he has baseball or if a friend comes over and they play outside. He does not need to be on it all day long its way to much and he is starting to act like a brat! Especially when i come into his room and ask him something (like what do you want to eat)? He gets snappy with me because im talking to him during his game!I need to set some sort of schedule like play for 2 hours in the morning and then not again until after supper and has taken a shower and brushed his teeth? I really dont know so any input would help me out! So please help im in some dire need of a schedule!!!
My 14 yr old only gets to play as long as another activity is done. For example if he plays outside for an hour he gets an hour of game time. If he reads for an hour he gets an hour of game time. Etcā¦ Watching TV, eating, chores, donāt count for time.
This isnāt a question that would fit all kids. Some kids are anti social (and thatās completely ok!) so they would rather be on games then play with other kids. Some kids like to just relax and have fun. They Def deserve it after going to school for a year. The summers are for them. As long as chores get done, who cares how long the kids on for?! If he gives attitude, then yes cut back some. My son has unlimited access to video games. Heās 9 and has been playing since 2. He doesnāt have an attitude. He gets off when told. He goes to bed just fine. He plays outside too. So I donāt care how long he plays for. He can play 5 hours a day and I wouldnāt care bc heās a good kid and he doesnāt give me lip when he has to get off or do chores.
I have a strong rule in my house that even I abide by. We are a house of gamers, been playing since I was 7š No games if our chores arenāt done. I also have my kids take brain breaks on the days they play too much. Hope that helpsš
My kids get 1 hour a day on the switch
We have timers set on the PS4 and his switch. 2 hrs on PS4 and 3 hrs on the switch during summer. We still try and encourage him to spend more time outside, in addition to chores and sports. We obviously take it away if he has an attitude.
1-2 hours TOTAL play for electronics for the day. He should be outside.
I would allow him 1 hour and 15 minutes in the morning the 15 minutes allows him time to get his game set up the hour would be his play time. Then as long as he has done something else during the day I would allow him another hour or hour and a half in the evenings
Let him earn an hour at a time with pitching in.
Every so often, reward him extra.
Iām that parent. Itās summer. Do as you please. We do say usually once a week no technology
My 10 year old son gets 1 hour a day after all his chores are done. If itās raining outside, or if he went above and beyond that day Iāll give him an extra hour. But kids have plenty of things they can do to entertain themselves.
My girls are 10 and 11. Nights are no tech, so dinner and onwards is family time. During holidays, a couple hours but we throw a lot of no tech days in the mix as well. I dont have an issue with them gaming, I have an issue with kids sitting around all day on the internet.
My 15 y/o plays all day during summer, but he does pause when I need him to or his sisters need him to and heās not snappy about it. If heās disrespectful, I would take it away for a few hours if I were u and let him kno itās not tolerated
During summer my kids play however long they want. Itās summer, itās their vacation from school and expectations so when we donāt have anything planned they do what entertains them. But during the school year they really only get about an hour to an hour and half. We are always super busy during school time with strict schedules so during summer we tend to not stick to schedules and just enjoy doing whatever brings us joy and if itās his Xbox then go for it. But I donāt allow past 9 any day. Also I think this is more of whatever fits your schedule kinda question.
My son has one day on his games console one day off but the days heās on his heās only on it for a few hours. And heāll have every Sunday off to do homework reading etc regardless if heās off on a Saturday heāll still not be allowed on it on Sunday! Heās nearly 8 xx
Talk to his pediatricianā¦ We came up with 1 hr a day Mon-Fri no schedule on the weekends contigent he gets minimum of 1 hr of cardio and 1 hr sunlight
I would only allow 1hour during the day and maybe 1or 2hours after dinner , he needs to be outside playing , riding bike or what ever , I never let my kids just sit inside and do anything when weather was nice.
Hard for me to answer. My son is about to be 6 and I donāt have a time limit really. He just has to be off by 7 in school nights he in summer school
dont let them play on video games all day during summer,any time of year
only let my son play on the weekends and at night time but all his chores must be done 
I donāt limit its to hot to be outside. He does whatās asked of him.
My son is almost 9 and he was acting the same. We go days with no electronics just to reset.
I donāt allow electronics before lunch. Prior to gaming, he has to have any chores completed and read. He enjoys reading so we have 30 uninterrupted minutes of reading daily. Then he can game. Sometimes I allow an hour. Sometimes he gets 3 hours. It depends on the day and what we have planned.
As someone that games, 2.5 hours is sufficient time a day to get some good progress made in a game.
The thing to understand is that these games mess with peopleās dopamine levels. Winning at the games triggers a dopamine response, so playing the games for long periods of time creates elevated dopamine levels. When you threaten to take that away, they lash out, because youāre taking away their drug (dopamine).
In other words, your child is becoming a low-grade dopamine addict. Thatās why he lashes out at you when you ask what he wants to eat.
Heās 10. His brain is still developing. You need to nip this in the bud.
Iād start by having a talk after dinner. Explain that his behavior has become inappropriate. List several examples. Then tell him heāll spend the next week doing other activities. Ideally, have a catalogue he can choose from, a week of day camp, or other things he enjoys. No video games (on Xbox, tablet, phone, etc) for one week.
Donāt be surprised if he has a tantrum.
After the week, discuss how much he enjoyed the other activities and try to incorporate them more. Lack of structure increases game play; itās an easy default option. Arrange for more play dates NOT involving video games.
Limit video game use. How much is appropriate? You might want to ask your pediatrician for guidance here, but the research is to delay this stuff as long as possible. For a 10 year old, maybe a few hours per week.
I never limited screen time but didnāt use it as a babysitting tool. My kiddo also had a pretty early bedtime as he went to school year round and was just one of those kids that did better with a schedule. He survived , heās 25 and a captain in the Army. He was also always involved in sports and clubs.
My daughter is 10, sheās a Switch player not an Xbox. We donāt have limits for her so long as her attitude is okay and sheās getting adequate sleep. Sheās generally a helpful child, always helps with her baby sister and plays with her middle sister plenty. I do periodically ask her to bave electronic free days, and we dont do games/phones at meal times. She will go days at a time on her own not playing on any devices. I really donāt think this is a one size fits all type question.
Kids do not need to be playing computer games for hours at a time
I told my son he canāt be on the Xbox until the street lights come on because until then he can play outside
My foster kids tried this. I did 2 hrs then 2 hrs off then a hr and 2 off. It didnāt get turned on until 10am and it was off by 8
Completely depends on your child and your life style
Set a schedule id do 1hr morning one in evening. Maybe earn more time for good things or chores?
Itās summer, I donāt specifically limit screen time in summer but they canāt blow off chores or other obligations for screens. Also if I noticed attitude like OP described I would definitely be cutting off access and having a chat about it. Luckily neither of mine have had this issue. I donāt think there is a one-size fits all solution to screen time as everyone reacts differently.
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I feel like this question does not have a one size fits all answer
One minute of reading, chores, physical activity = one minute of game time, room not clean no game time. Turn off the wifi until chores are done and reading time is put in.
Well if you had made him a child acct since heās 10 you could control the amount of time, which games he plays and what type of contact he has with randoms. Not to mention he has full access to the internet thru the Xbox. In fact every parent on here should have their kids on a child acct to protect them.
Heās young, he made a mistake, youāre prying, try it. Ask him if his games inspire him.
I personally hate them we have a son that 35 years old and still plays 15 hours or more a day on it.sick?? Lives at home wonāt clean or cookā¦
Minute he gets snappy because YOU, his PARENT disrupted his game to make sure HE is fed, is way too late. Bye to the game when it causes anger issues.
Two hours a day is good enough. Make him do chores and play outside. Make him earn extra playing time with good behavior and good grades.
My son has a hot spot box. Heās 10. Has 10gb a month. Anything more than that he has to ask me to turn on my Hotspot. He knows how to check his usage to manage his time
I took all electronics away for 2 weeks for attitude. This weekend I took the ipad. Not down with the zombie mode and attitude either lol thinking of summer camp next year instead too.
First, he gets snappy because youāre interrupting him. I donāt know about you but I hate being interrupted. Maybe tell him to try to communicate more clearlyā¦ example āIām fighting a boss give me a few minutes.ā
Second, my youngest has unlimited time as long as what I ask them to do gets taken care of.
As soon as he gets snappy or doesnāt do what they are suppose to do within a reasonable time frame take it off him ā¦ no respect = no games ā¦. Games can be extremely addicting and competitive specially when itās with online people.
I would sit down with him and come up with a schedule together. My husband was a big gamer and I used to be tough on my son like āan hour a day is all he really needs!ā Until my husband sat down with me and explained to me some āmissionsā can take up to an hour to complete, if you screw up once and ādieā it can take longer. I think by sitting down with your son and explaining how you want to set boundaries around the screens you can come up with a schedule together that works. He knows what heās playing and how long his stuff takes to complete as long as heās a generally honest kid.