Find a child support enforcement agency near you.
May I ask where do you live? I’m trying to figure out where you need to go or who you may need to contact first.
Send me a message on Messenger & I’ll help or find out info for you,I don’t like putting people’s personal stuff on Facebook Pages if I can help it.
Court order. Until you get a court order, he doesn’t HAVE to give you anything.
Call The vet said to ministration and let them know what’s going on
Have you spoke to him about needing some extra help
It doesn’t matter where it comes from. Child support enforcement handles all of that. Just tell them how he receives his money. They will handle it from there. You will have papers to fill out but that’s standard. Good luck!
You can apply for child support on line
It’s extremely easy go to the child support office near you and file
Go to the courthouse and file
You probably need an attorney
You should definitely be getting child support 100%
Lies if you say if its an extra 50. You just want to hit him up on money or make yourself seen…
First contact DES and fill out the paperwork to start the process and go from there.
Why are u going through the VA go through the state. The states job to get his ass.
Call your local prosecutor and they will go after him, the government will garnish his benefits
It’s really your choice if you wanna use the VA or just use DHS. Either way it’s a process. My ex is a veteran too and our case is pending (I’m not receiving anything because he’s incarcerated) but I filed thru DHS, not the VA. My other ex is not a veteran and i filed CS on him also thru DHS and it took about 2 years for me to finally get help.
Just go to child support agency and give them what information you have and they will do it for you. If you weren’t married they may require DNA testing.
The military is excellent regarding child support. He gets retirement and it’s his medical that comes from the V.A. Go through child support to get the order. My ex is military so I have experience. Don’t listen to people who aren’t military. They don’t know.
I totally agree get the child support depending on what state you might not need a lawyer. but just because he’s not physically disable doesn’t mean he’s not disabled……
Were yall married? Is he still enlisted? If yall were married and he was still enlisted and ghosted thats no Buenos
He could be court marshalled
Get a lawyer. His kids wipp he covered
If you are married and their provider then you can also possibly receive funds. But if y’all werent married then only his kids.
Contact your state dept of revenue/child support enforcement division and they should be able to help you.
Alternatively, if you know his ss# and current address you can file through your local court I believe
What state are you in? Everyone’s different go on the website
If you can apply for government assistance, They will find him n keep track
Go to local dhr or cps whichever you have, and they will help you file. They will most likely go off minimum wage for him. But it will be more than 50 extra dollars. Dont feel guilty, if you ghosted your kids or didn’t take care of them you’d lose custody. Other parent should be held to same standards
Get an attorney who is familiar with how the military system works. They can file it through the VA. It helps if you have a child support order in place
My daughter’s dad is on v.a checks and social security also… He doesn’t do his monthly payments only twice this passed 2yrs … Do I call the V.A office and notify them what can be done to get direct deposit from his monthly checks instead of waiting on him to Make a payment when he feels like it???
Everyone saying get an attorney shes literally saying she cant get her kids what they need and 50 A MONTH would really help her…she needs advice outside of a lawyer!
Which is just go file support on him! Very easy
I’ve lived in VA and child support was easy. I went to the family court, filed and they handled the rest.
File for aide in your state. They’ll take care of rest. There are no punitive actions any longer for not paying however, so don’t hold your breath
I’m so glad I live in Australia.
All I had to do was prove that my child’s father was who I said it was and then child support took over from there and did everything. Now it automatically gets taken out of his pay every month and sent directly to our sons bank account.
And he may also be receiving a check for yoir kids off his military check! If he was deemed 50 percent disabled, then he is getting an extra check for the kids. I’d call the local VA ask them to help.
In the state of Texas, I just approached the OAG and opened a case. They handled the majority of the rest.
My husband was the supreme asshole in his support situation. Army. Very young and stupid and no real guidance regarding the situation. We pay out the ass to his ex wife, who moved back to Germany with the baby, and didn’t file for several years, which set my husband into arrears automatically. Go to the courthouse and simply file. Or do it online. If you’d feel better, find a free consultation from a family law atty in your area and see what they suggest. He needs to be paying and you will most likely, like I’m almost 100% positive, that you’d also be entitled to arrears, or back pay, for the time he hasn’t been paying. Who do these guys think they are?! Gah. Pay your damn child support. If there’s no order, GET ONE AND PAY FOR YOUR DAMN KIDS. We’ve never even met the child my husband pays for, but she’s almost 18 and at some point I plan on letting her know she has another family. No telling what she’s heard from her mom, but knowing the situation from years ago, I can’t say I wouldn’t have done the same thing she did. I don’t have high hopes that we will be accepted with open arms and I completely understand.
Anyway, good luck. This is owed to you. You’re not ruining his life or being vindictive by requesting a fair child support judgment by a court. It’s not even for you, it’s a responsibility he has to his children. A military man of all men should be into doing that at the very least.
Simply file in your county and serve him . If it’s reg pay not disability I get a judgement and send to dfas
My dad was disabled and i got $ from social security
The VA CAN FIND HIM THROUGH HIS SOCIAL SECURITY NUMBER
Apply for state assistance and they’ll handle all of that for you.
Contact your nearest V.A. office
It is NOT hard to get child support from the military. They don’t play with that shit. Burn him! And, make sure to get his tax check with a tax intercept filing this fall! They’ll also have medical coverage and dental. Don’t be ashamed to ask for what you and those kids DESERVE!
You can go online and apply
Just go and try.
Contact the attorney general office
I work for the VA. PM Me and I can help you.
Sign your kids up for families first, you’ll get about $70-$100, if that, a month per child.
GO, Go Now. It’s his responsibility. They are entitled!
Hope everything goes well❤️🩹. Contact your child support enforcement in ya state and go from there.
You go to the county courthouse and file court papers for child support. Don’t be too proud to receive assistance from the state, as they will help you go after their benefits, especially since he is a Vet. File as a pauper, that will save you a financial cost, is he on their birth certificate? Otherwise he can make you have to go through a paternity test. Once he is determined to legally be the biological father he will have no choice as he is collecting benefits and it will automatically be deducted from his benefits.
Just to speak to the disability thing - this is a rating/percentage based on damage that military service did to the body. I have family that receives disability payments due to back and knee issues, as well as headaches connected to a TBI. It’s more complicated than “he has all his parts and is capable of work”.
Why is anyone being rude🥴 when anyone who served still has responsibilities to their children. She isn’t asking for a whole lot, even $50 a month. She’s stating he doesn’t have a job, just VA income and if that makes a difference CS wise. She isn’t going after him and being nasty. She even tried to carefully word it and some of y’all still found a way to twist it up.
Doesn’t hurt to try, unfortunately even this moms group can be nasty vs supportive. Which if you ask me, should be more closely monitored and people need booted bc they are using the misery of their own life in this group to try and down talk others to share their misery.
F^c* their opinions and do what YOU feel is best for your kiddos because they come first always.
Depending what tbe check is under, my ex was on disability from the military and child support couldn’t pull from it, luckily we are on terms and he gives me money every month he gets paid, but you can open a case so if he does get job they’ll find out, plus it’ll keep totalling up as back child support
You say he doesn’t work but gets a check & he is a Vet. Did you ever think that he is suffering from something?? Just a thought…from a ex Marine wife who serviced in Vietnam…oh he’s dead now & i divorced him a long time ago. And i also got no child support. But it is done through the court system & it will be based on how much he gets a month
Wow just astonishing how rude and nasty some of these replies are!
Does being in the marines/army make u immune for paying towards children u helped to make? When it comes to kids it should always be 50/50 it’s so unfair to put all the financial responsibility on one parent and even more so when they are the only one raising the kids! And as for the he might be suffering with something comments . . . .does that mean his innocent children need to suffer too? Why is it men seem to be seen as heroes if they see their kids or help pay towards them or clean around the house as if it’s not their damn kids and house too
It’s amazing how ugly and rude people can be toward and momma reaching out for advice. Since when it is an immediate reaction to dish out straight judgement? I don’t understand what has happened to people but it’s not a good change
Its hard to get child support period. If a man doesn’t want to support his children then he won’t and the courts rarely do anything to enforce support. Here in Louisiana our government employees are so uncaring and unconcerned about the children they are emoloyeed to represent. Have you ever stood before someone who looks at you with no emotion on their face? A complete indifference when you are speaking to them? I swear the government must train them and desensitize them in order to fill these positions. I have stood and watched as the father of my children goes before the court, he can cut up and curse everyone in the room up and down. Act a complete fool. And still walk out with not a single consequence for not paying his support. They will say it will all catch up. But he is currently 100k in arrears on all of his children. Won’t get a job and our government is giving him food stamps and medicaid while he lives for free in an apartment on his parents property. I lose so much money taking off of work to go to these pointless court hearings.
What you can do is take him to court. That’s all you can do. It sounds like he has some ptsd or mental issues possibly. If he gets a check from the VA he was discharged for a reason or he retired. But I doubt he retired. But go to court. Explain the situation. But if I were you I’d ask for him to get better help. It sounds like he needs to work through some stuff.
I’m fairly certain disability from the VA is not considered income in the same way income from a job would be. If he is getting disability from the VA is absolutely is disabled, even if it isn’t visible. Talk to your local child support office and see what options you have as it will depend on your location but don’t hold your breath.
The money wouldn’t be coming from the VA it would be coming from court. You take him to court. the court authorizes his withdrawal from the VA check.
Reach out to your states legal aid. They can tell you better then anyone here.
Of importance… did the OP ditch the man, or did he ditch her? If he left her and the kids, he should pay up. If she left him, she should pipe down a few tones, and be glad he doesn’t go for custody, considering he can clearly pay to keep a household, and the OP clearly cannot.
the VA does NOT pay child support!! Sorry but your friends are wrong. The FATHER has to send cs through the child support office and they pay the mother. It’ll be EXTREMELY hard for you to get assistance now since you e waited 4 years since the separation and didn’t file then (just a heads up there’s a lot of cases that get dismissed because they waited so long to file). Speaking from experience. If it’s so important for you to get that extra $50 a month (do not take any disrespect for this) then you should’ve filed when y’all split but if you want to go back and try and fix that you need to contact the local child support office and go through them. They will tell you what you need and what they can do if they can help. My advice for right now if go for the cash assistance and wic and all the state assistance you can get in the mean time because it will be a lengthy process and it’s not easy going for child support after so many years
Literally all you gotta do is go file for child support get a court date and it’ll be worked out from there. They’ll pull out a certain percent of the check depending on the childrens age and how many you have together and how much he gets monthly. My dad was getting 700 a month pulled out for my 2 brothers and I. My littler brother is 7 years younger than me so his payment was more monthly than for my brother that’s 2 years younger than me and I.
Allot of negativity in these comments because he’s a vet and thats literally disgusting. Even if he has issues that would get him disability that doesn’t take away from the fact that he made children and is not caring for them in any way shape or form. If he don’t want nothing to do with them kids he can sign off his rights until then he definitely needs to be responsible.
He is still responsible for his children that he helped make. Take him to court
If they are on disability of any kind, they can not garnish it. You can go to your local social services and file for child support. Depends on "Your"situation at home and age of your children they maybe able to help you with cash assistance.
If not then child support will keep filing and take it from there, and take measures necessary to get it. If not it will all go on back and eventually itll cone around.
Not a VA but dealing same thing here going on 7 years.
My husband is a disabled vet and he pays childsupport for his two sons. Court ordered even when we have them most of the time.
Wow the nerve of some people don’t judge, just look up child suffering in your state and they will help you ro see if uts possible to get any help
Disabled, not disabled, this man brought 3 children into the world and HE HAS TO SUPPORT THEM. Go to the child support office or court clerk and FILE for support. They will give you a court date and the judge will order support based on his income and yours. He can not just NOT HELP support his kids. Doesn’t work that way.
Use Google for your local child support office
Good luck my daughters father quit working and went on welfare for I couldn’t get child support I was the same if only 59 a month nope got nothing he left before she was born and she is 25 yrs now
She mentions ‘the kids’ then at the end she writes ‘my kids’.
Why doesn’t she refer to them as ‘our kids’ or ‘his kids’
I mean you can go to Domestic relations and file for support. Have you considered just asking him for help? If he’s getting a check from the VA then it is some form of disability which is not considered income. But honestly I would try and communicate with him before you take it to court
You should file and they will go about how he’s going to pay, if he doesn’t pay, they are obligated to take his license away until he starts paying the back pay he won’t be able to get it back. I know this bc my ex husband is still unable to get his back until he pays the back child support
Go to the courthouse to the clerk’s office and file the paperwork. No ones opinion or experience matters. Go file and let the judge sort it out.
The only way to skip ahead of the line with child support is to apply for some type of public assistance. Medical, food, cash. However if only $50 is good enough, think about discussing this with him again first. It’s always better to talk to person about these issues before dealing with court. Meanwhile, discuss your finances with family or friends that can help out in some way.
I don’t think VA disability can be touched.
May I ask what caused the divorce?
If he gets any money from the military a month beside VA they will garnish his wages before sending him his money. It all depends on the divorce papers. That is what they did to my x
File through your county/state for child support. They will go after it for you.
Apply through the state and let them handle it.
All you can do is file for child support and see what happens.
My man gets VA benefits and still has to pay child support
Contact the VA. There is a way you can receive benefits for your children.
If he receives disability, your kids are entitled to dependents benefits through social security. It’s possible the same applies with VA. Don’t listen to the salty and miserable cows that are bashing you in these comments. These are his kids and he has a legal obligation to help care for them financially.
Definitely lawyer up.
Nope. I tried. I mean it doesnt hurt to try but they denied me.
His disability counts as INCOME and they will establish anamount of support based on it. The VA doesn’t pay you but he will owe
Perfectly fine to work? Clearly she’s never heard of PTSD, also she says he ghosted? He probably just went to fight for his country and you weren’t happy about it, let him see his damn kids and stop trying to rinse him for money. He’s a veteran, show some fucking respect!!!
His military disability payments CAN be garnished if he is receiving them in lieu of retirement pay. Also, take him to court! You are and always have been entitled to CS. Keep in mind this may also open door for visitation if he wants it though.
Vet or not. A father is responsible for child support even if he doesnt work. The courts will put an unemployed man in jail for nonpayment. Also, if disabled through SS even is he didn’t work enough years for SSD, he’d get SSI and his children would get a monthly check. Back to VA. My got 1/2 of my father a Vietnam veteran’s check after they divorced until she passed. The military expects veterans to take care of their moral and legal responsibilities and would senf the children a percentage of his monthly check as they should.
You can get child support when he’s on VA disability same as when they have civilian disability
he can have a court order but they cant doc his check because its federal not state so he can wrack it up but doesn’t have to pay its all about how aggressive your state is
Just file. The court will help you get it
It’s hard to get child support from anybody who wants to be uncooperative period. All you need to do is file and they will go from there.
I ended up leaving this group because of how rude all the women are. I’m so sorry your going through that. I don’t know anything about child support & VA ETC but in Georgia you file for it through whatever county you live in & then go from there. Try & Google your state child support office & it will bring up a website & have links to click to start the process. Just ignore all the rude women on here they have no idea what yoour going through not do they care because if they did they would be supportive instead of rude “Karen’s” they shouldn’t even be on this if they have nothing nice to say
I am almost speechless that there are this many moms out there making excuses for this loser. It’s ridiculous!! You shouldn’t have had to ASK for child support! He should be the real man he supposedly is & have paid it from the get-go. End of story. Instead of acting like a little BITCH he should be acting like the military-trained person he should be. There is NEVER an excuse to not take care of your children! Me & my little brother were raised by a rock star single mom who NEVER got a penny from my (ironically ex-military) “father”.! Yeah, I could make the excuse he was an alcoholic my entire life, until he passed a few years ago, but I won’t. The only difference here, is for several years we visited every week & even went on a few week-long vacations. Yup, my amazing Mom still let him see us & we never knew she got NOTHING from him! Sending you love & hugs and keeping you & your babes in my prayers.
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id keep pushing and leave him behind and not ask for nothing👏🏾 let him be a bum.
Go to your local child support office