I’m having a really hard time with depression. This is my second pregnancy. This was not planned I was dating a guy that I didn’t know had a gf at the time and now we are both pregnant. I’m now dating someone else but they are always breaking up with me then taking it back and throwing in my face I’m pregnant by someone else but I love this new person I’m with it’s so hard to let go. I don’t want to be a single mom of two small children…what can I do?
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I don’t understand the whole situation, but its probably best to just be a single mom for awhile. Focus on yourself and the kids.
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It’s too late to worry about being a single mom with two kids… you already are. I think instead of wasting your time on someone who only wants you part of the time and was majorly dishonest with you, you need to work on yourself and learn to be ok and happy with being single for right now! Focus on your kids and what is best for them. But do not focus on someone who clearly is only focused on themselves.
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Uhm how about suck it up, do what’s best for your CHILDREN. It’s not about you anymore honey. I know this may seem harsh but it doesnt matter if you love that man, he clearly doesnt love you and hes causing you and the baby unnecessary stress. You dump them. That doesnt mean keep his child from him, unless you have reason to believe they would hurt your child. But you need to leave because being with them is NOT what’s best for your children and you’re children need to come first. Point blank period. There is no debating it. This is toxic and unhealthy.
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I’m a single mom of 5. Toughen up and suck it up and do what you have to do for your kids.
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What you can do??? Use fucking birth control that what you should start doing!!! I’m sorry but someone need to tell you the fucking reality you can sleep around as much as you want your body your choice but use birth control have good day and good luck
Ignore all the ignorant comments. Im here if you need to talk baby girl my inbox is always open. Keep your head up.
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He keeps breaking up with you and throwing your pregnancy in your face?
But you love him?
Relationships aren’t supposed to be one sided
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We often make decisions about our lives based on how much we value ourselves. Please make yourself a priority instead of males. Look after you and your kids. Treatment for depression and counseling could really be beneficial.
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Baby, you’ll find a man to love you and your babies unconditionally. I know first hand how it feels. You gotta boss up momma
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I was a single mama of 4. It’s really not too bad! It’s a lot of work involved. Being single majority of 6 years was the best for me! I learned alot of independence. I learned myself all over again! Now I know what I want in life and I’m going after it! I also have a wonderful boyfriend who I was friends with for almost 2 years first! My point is take time for yourself! Enjoy your pregnancy and your other child! Take yourself on dates and don’t accept anything less than what you know you want and deserve! The right man will come along when you least expect it!
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what is meant by “ They are always breaking up with me then taking it back “?
Was you guys three waying it ? Sorry 
just really wondering ?
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I would love to parent your child inbox me. I was a single mom of 4 and cant have anymore
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You can do it . The rest will come when it’s time. Have faith. Don’t go looking for your man, he’ll find you . You just can’t hold onto someone who was never really there. God bless you and your children.
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I’m willing to talk anytime. Im in somewhat the same situation. My first child’s father refused to be in her life. I met someone else a year ago and thought things were great until it all went south when I found out I am pregnant with number 2. Only to find out he has been cheating on me since Jan.
You don’t need to be in a relationship. Take care of yourself and your baby.
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Don’t get married for the wrong reasons.
Dude leave the guy. He’s a piece of shit
Better to be a single mom than be with some one who will be inconsistent in you and your children’s lives. There’s many many more fish in the sea.
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Say goodbye to that guy. The first time you guys broke up should of left it alone. Now it’s just gonna hurt you the more you take him back, it’s not worth it.
I’m a single mom of 3 boys! Ages 14, 11, and 9! If I can do it then so can you! In just a year, I went from part time, to full time, to assistant manager at my work, to as of the 1st of May I’m the general Manager. I myself got rid of the man in my life and made it. I own my own home, have a new truck, and my babies are my #1 priority!
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You love a man that clearly can’t love another man’s child like his own for your sake, if he keeps throwing it back in your face he’s not the father and constantly calling it off and on. That’s not a stable foundation to create a life with someone
You sound blinded by this man’s ways and desperate to latch onto someone because it didn’t work with the father of your baby whom you’re better off without anyways, but by the sounds of it you’re better off without this ass hat too. You said it. You just don’t wanna be alone with 2 kids
Take that negative and turn it into a positive by showing your children that a woman can do it with or without a man, the right man will find his way to you in due time if somethings meant to be. But this guy… is NOT it!
Hanging onto him, you increase your chances of being a single mother with 3 kids… make the decision that you love your children more than this game playing man-child and focus all your energy into being the best mom you can be and let someone find their way to you in time while just doing you and the kids in the meantime!
Honestly, I wouldn’t choose a guy over my babies. If they kept throwing it in my face, then bye-bye to them. All I need is my babies and I would be content with my life.
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Well if the new guy keeps throwing “your pregnant by another man” in your face, then the first thing is get rid of him. He is insecure and will always be insecure, and guys like that cheat, lie, and abuse. Get through this pregnancy as healthy as possible and make sure you get child support cause kids only get more expensive as they grow. As far as relationships go, just let that happen organically. When it’s meant to be, then it will be. Meanwhile (and always) kids are number one.
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If he’s doing that now, then he’ll do worse once the baby arrives. As much as it hurts, you need to let that guy go. He’s not good news. He will never be good for you and your 2 babies.
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Stay single. Your children do not need to see that as their life. Make good choices so that they can grow up to be strong