How to deal with different sex drives?

same boat here I have a ,ow drive and hubby has a high one you don’t owe him sex and he needs to respect your space I tell my hubby the same thing we don’t fight anymore about it and he’s just accepted the fact that my drive is low but if you say no then no it should be

Talk to your husband. He is the one you are intimate with. He is one to have this conversation with. If you think it’s medication talk to your doctor, your ob-gyn could be helpful. This is an important part of a relationship, faking intimacy or telling him to take care of it himself lacks maturity and lacks interest in the whole of the relationship. Maybe try counseling? You sound busy but there a lot of online counseling available these days.

Well his attitude would make me literally never want to give myself to him. Just a thought but maybe it’s not YOU.

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I take the easy way out and give him a blow job he’s satisfied, only takes a few minutes of my time, and no arguing

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Dont think anyone has any right to decide when ur in the mood or not.
Tell him to go whack one out and youll catch him when ur in the mood.

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I told my “ex” … Do whatever you want to me.
…Just don’t wake me up. :nail_care:
take note of the “Ex” part :roll_eyes:

I’m the one with the higher sex drive and I just do my best to not push and casually ask so my husband doesn’t feel pressured.

Get your testosterone level checked and vit D. Could be the meds also.

It would help a great deal if he would make you feel loved and cherished. He also needs to start foreplay early. “Foreplay begins in the kitchen.” Most importantly, I have 2 words for you. Marriage counseling.

Same boat here. My sex drive is almost non-existent. Idk why and it’s very annoying. I then get out down because I don’t want to put out. We have four kids been together 16yrs and honestly I could be fine without it he wants everyday two to three times a day but he takes what he can get. I’m just tired mentally by the end of the day. After dealing with the kids all day and I finally get them down for the night. I just want to be left alone. I’ve never been a super touchy feely person. Ik it’s weird but I just don’t like being touched at all in any way. I’ve tried taking libido pills and they don’t work, I’ve tried eating foods that’s known to be an aphrodisiac and nothing. I’ve even thought about hypnotism to see if that would help me(crazy right). Like I feel bad but it’s just not there.

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I’m the opposite. Ever since I had my hysterectomy (back in april) I want it all the time, but my husband had gotten used to going without. So he’s never in the mood while I’m always in the mood

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Opposite here. Once I hit 40 my drive went way up and his went down. :cry: :sob:

I suffer from a low sex drive ever since i was pregnant with my daughter and she is now 4 years old ! I am only 26 years old and i know im too young to have this problem ! I dont even think about sex but my husband is always getting mad because of this issue ! Please someone give me advice too !

Compromise, sex is important to some people maybe that’s how he feels loved? :joy:

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Zoloft/Sertraline and many antidepressants affect libido and sexual function.

Maybe his “hounding” doesn’t help

What does 5 kids on and off mean?

Girl I’m with u. I don’t even want to be touched let alone have sex

You have to communicate with him the fact that his boners are NOT your problem. It’s HIS body. Yes, sex is part of marriage, but that doesn’t mean you’re a buffet waiting to be interrupted to be devoured at his will. However, y’all also need to communicate that this is an issue in your marriage-and tons of others. It’s never good if it’s forced (or an obligation) so maybe he needs to step up his game and try harder. And you can too. Grow together, not apart. Only way to do that is communication and compromise, staying on the same team.
Good luck.

Nearly 3 years we still have an amaaaazing sex life. Mathias Hill :purple_heart::sweat_drops::heart_eyes::see_no_evil:

Common side effect. I just had to go off for a different reason and I noticed immediately a difference in libido cause I went from none back to almost normal

What are you, a fucking sex slave? Gross.

Well mines cheated so hmm ya

Tell him to go do it himself

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Well. Nothing wrong with not being in the mood from time to time. But consistently I would consult with a Dr or explore that within yourself or with him.
Personally for me, I have a bigger drive than he does and it actually hurt me when I was constantly rejected. But we worked through it. Communication is important

Its totally okay that you don’t want to but at least give him something? Like i hope hes allowed to watch porn, i’m sorry but sex is a huge part of a relationship and if you guys aren’t on the same level then you need to allow the other person a release (porn) its not cheating and he may stop bagging so much.

My sex drive is high could do it everyday (i’m a mom and it still has never gone away) my gf however it depends on her mood if its been a rough day or week shes not thinking about sex so i do my own thing and go abouts our life and it works great i’m not “angry” cause i didn’t get none and shes happy that we can both be happy and she doesn’t have to feel bad for a low drive.

Really common to have decreased sex drive while on SSRIs

LOL, you went to the beach all day yesterday, and that’s why he’s so horny… :drooling_face::neutral_face::joy:
Tell him to go take a Damm shower and take care of that shit and leave you alone… smh

You need time away to get back to you. Not mom, not sister not wife just you time

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