Non-stop fighting with my fiance.
Our son is going on 6 months. Everything was okay, not great but okay, I"m at a loss on what to do. My fiance and I have been fighting like crazy… Can’t seem to get along at all.We haven’t even been intimate for like 2 months. Idk what to do. Our engagement is off until we can figure things out between us. But doesn’t feel like its getting any better. We have no one to watch our son so we can have time to ourselves. We don’t ever argue or fight in front of our son either. In the middle of an argument and our son gets fussy we put away or differences at the time and care for our son… I don’t know what else to do. He is the love of my life, and everything else is perfect between us and always has just the fighting and no intimacy anymore. Help, please.
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Get some good sex in why baby is sleep 
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Sounds like you’re both sexually frustrated. Maybe pinterest can give you some good ideas for a “date night” at your house. Order your favorite foods, watch a movie, have a glass of wine, put baby to bed and have some one on one with your other half. Best of luck 
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Babies change things. I’d suggest finding someone to watch the little one and give y’all that alone time you both need. Talk, get intimate, etc. That’s important. Sometimes a change of scenery helps! Good luck!
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Mayb you do need a babysitter… A date night every once while. Sounds like both of you are Stressed out… Take some time alone and with eachother
Get to the bottom of things and figure out what’s the reason for the fighting. If you guys can’t find a babysitter do a candle light dinner and wine at home while little man is sleeping. You guys need to talk and have crazy sex. Things can be crazy and hard at times but always remember what made you love a person in the first place. Try to talk it out instead of fussing and biting each other head off.
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There are several online babysitting companies and local churches host parents night out events. I moved to a big city with a 7 week old and too felt like I had no one to babysit, but there are several resources just google it. My neighbor was a police officer and she offered to watch my kids so I could get a break. If you really want this relationship make time for it.
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Get a baby sitter and take your man out on a date! Find that spark.
After the baby is down for bed set up and in home intimate dinner. Order in and just talk. Both Make a list of things your are upset about or would like to see some change in and try to find a middle ground. Definitely look into babysitting services (there’s so many out there) and take a night a week to yourselves. Kids do put tension on a relationship no matter how good you think you have it. Getting alone time will give you guys a chance to breath without worrying when the baby will cry next is. Something as simple as cuddling on the couch with a movie going is intimate for you guys to breath each other in and take the moment.
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Love like crazy when the baby is sleeping it works
Its not abnormal to argue after having a baby. Its stressful. Don’t make any rash decisions… give it some time and as things normal out as your son gets older, you’ll have a better idea as to whether or not it was just infant-stress weighing on you or if there actually is a legitimate problem. Me and my husband rarely argued before our son came along and now we bicker often, but we know its just stress wearing on us. We always both apologize to each other regardless of what caused the argument and move on with life. It’ll pass when things get easier with the baby.
U need to get that spark back ur both nakered n its all new ! Maybe take it in turns a few days with having a break to sort ur heads out mentally then have a raunchy weekend n book a babysitter? Am sure if u book way in advance u cn afford 1 night a month off together? Xx
If he isn’t having sex with you, who is with? Two month celibacy for a healthy guy? Hmmmm
It depends on what your fighting about love. Take a breath step back because you’re not in an entirely fair fight your emotions are so vulnerable and post partum depression is a high peak for you. Do you have any in laws close by any close friends that can give you guys 24 hours to analyze the situation before you both do something you regret. Space is good. But you both need to get back on the same page. It’s hard to balance motherhood and partnership at first but if you aren’t understanding eachother than both have to be willing to figure out your future together and if you don’t want the same things than moving on and co parenting would be the next step good luck!!
You need a date night. Find a sitter. There must be teenagers around you. Do separation to
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Babies are hard on a relationship.
Make each other a priority and that doesn’t nessisarily mean you need a sitter. Find a common interest and commit to doing it together at least once a week. Even if it’s just a tv show you always watch together.
Shower together whenever possible. Put baby down and go reconnect. And no I don’t mean physically. Just being stuck in the same 2ft space will probably lead to much communication.
You both just need to find little ways to pour into your relationship.
Babies bring a change of seasons for people and it isn’t always an easy adjustment for everyone
Think you both need some make up sex when the baby is in bed 
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If you aren’t engaged he’s your boyfriend. I don’t understand how you have this perfect relationship but you fight all the time and aren’t intimate, if these two things are a constant then what about your relationship is perfect? What is the confrontation about? How can you resolve it? Sad to say but some people don’t have a babysitting system. But you can still do things together or get time to yourself. It might just be when the baby is sleeping or taking a nap.
What are you fighting about?
Are you allowing him to parent or are u being bossy?
Sometimes the first year of a babies life women don’t understand they think there in charge and become bossy of the childs well being.
I think u should explain what type of arguments?
A baby isn’t a reason to stay together if you’re not right for eachother, it’s not a good example to set to your child
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When munchkin is sleeping try to cuddle up on the couch and just talk about your day or watch tv together. Date again even if it’s an at home date with baby asleep. Try to talk not yell or get emotional (easier said than done I know but do try). You both are learning to parent and be a family while trying to be a couple. It’s a hard balance to find at first but once you do everything hopefully will be ok. Being intimate doesn’t just mean sex you can cuddle up and just talk, sex will follow but don’t rush it or expect it. Be goofy when you can make jokes and pick on each other if you can do that with each other. Make a special dinner for the 2 of you and relax. If this doesn’t help try therapy.
Conscious Communication might help, there should be resources on line.
My husband and I went through that stage its most likely just stress and learning how to compromise can be hard especially when or if your are an out spoken person. Y’all will have to pick your battles and learn to walk away from arguments that are not worth having. Family is a team work thing and teams dont always get along and it doesn’t get easier you just learn how to handle things that are thrown at you a little better. Time and patience. There is no secret to along happy marriage or family life. There will be ALOT more arguments in years to come but just remember y’all BOTH have feelings and can BOTH forget what is important at times. Hope things work out for the best!
Therapy.
This happend after my daughter was born. Big adjustment. Lots of fighting and built up resentment on both sides. You can’t see things from the other’s perspective. Let a therapist talk you through your arguments to find common ground. You may need to learn how to fight and resolve your issues faster because the next obstacle is just around the corner. It’s a life saver if you find the right person to help. May take a few visits to a few doctors, but if you both commit, it can change the game. Good luck.
The first year after a baby is the biggest roller coaster ride, for mom and dad. Intimacy is hard, communication is hard, it’s all just so fkng hard. Have some alone time when the baby is asleep… talk it out. Listen to his point of view and vice versa. Good luck
Instead of arguing, sit and have a convo.
Wait until the baby is sleep for the night, and have a heart to heart.
Even if it takes one night for a week, do it.
First topic, are u the love of his life? Like he is yours?
Pick ur battles,others aren’t important