I’ve been on and off with my daughters dad for about 3 years… it hasn’t been a good relationship at all… just feel like I don’t love him anymore and don’t feel happy with him but scared to say anything cause he screams and yells about everything and goes nuts and makes it feel like I can’t get away… any tips? Thank you!
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Please leave as soon as you are able to. If not for you, do it for your daughter. If you stay she will be accepting of that behavior from her boyfriend, husband or partner. Because mommy stayed and it became the norm for her. Break the cycle. Do it for her. Prayers for a smooth transition.
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Just pack up and leave and deal with the custody crap later but first find a place U can stay either short or long term
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Accept that there will be drama bad hurt feelings, but separate and stick to your guns. It gets easier and he will learn how to take the emotion about you out of the equation, and focus on your daughter. If you are afraid of him, involve the police. Make sure you two are safe, but do it and don’t give into any begging or threats, or promises of change. You know you’re done, so what’s best for you and your daughter.
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I was going through something similar with my baby’s father. I just packed a few bags, grabbed my son, and left on a plane without telling my baby’s father. He was toxic and when he gets mad he would throw things, break things, etc. so I wasn’t dealing with it anymore. I don’t suggest doing what I did, but what you can do is call a halfway house or there might be a hotline you can call, you’ll be able to stay somewhere safe until you are able to figure out where to go. If you feel as if you and your children are in danger, that is something you can look into. I hope everything works out for you and good luck!
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Sounds like he thinks he has control over you & your daughter. As long as you stay the more powerful & in control he’ll feel. This situation is not good for you or your daughter. Hope y’all can get out as soon as you can. And others here are right, if needed the police will escort you to get ;your things out of the residence so he creeates no trouble. Hope all works out for you and your daughter.
Find somewhere safe to go and leave. Ask the police to come with you to get your things if youre afraid to go alone. They will go and make sure he doesnt try anything
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Maybe write him a letter? Not sure how your living situation is, but if you’re afraid of his reaction, write a letter explaining why you feel this way and how it came about. Maybe you’ve been feeling this for a while? Do what’s best for you above all, your mental is important for the well being of your daughter.
If y’all have been together for that long and have had many talks and he’s clued into how he acts isn’t ok then there is no need for a letter. He doesn’t deserve that window to be able to explain through why he does what he does. That’s just another opportunity for him to pretend things will change without the change itself. He’s grown. He knows the way he acts isn’t ok. Best scenario is pack, leave and don’t say anything. 
Hopefully if u have a few people to help you could get it done in one day while while is working… if not Packup whatever you can clothing and kids stuff that he wouldn’t notice. Then pickup everything else owing day. If u think u wouldn’t have enuff time leave things that aren’t necessities people in ur community will help to get bedroom furniture clothing etc
You will know when you feel like you can’t take it one more minute of one more hour, of one more day of his behavior. Leave. Don’t reply to his texts? Block him?
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If you recognise the abuse…then the next step is to get away from it. Easier said than done….but doable:flushed:
Be like me. Set you up a Lil flat then leave him a letter
Do u hav money can u leave and find ur own place.
Pack your bags and leave, then he’ll get it
Pack your stuff and leave babe! Leave him a letter.
Just get everything lined up to leave and when you are ready just tell him we are leaving because xyz and we can work out custody arrangements but for now we are leaving. And then leave.
He will only scream until u walk away girl ! Good luck… Been there and done that.
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Leave while he is at work
Run away with your kids