My daughter started sleeping in my bed when she was 9 months old because of medical reasons so I could keep a very close eye on her. She’s fine now and I would like to transition her into her own bed but she isn’t having it. I can’t do the cry it out method because she will wake her little brother up. Any advice on how to do this as smoothly as possible? She’s almost 3 now. If she wakes up in the night and can’t feel me she freaks out
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How about putting her in a pack and play next to your bed and then go from the pack and play to the crib? I had to work my way there also with my son.
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Following, my (almost) 7 year old needs to move out of my bed!
Is her bed in a different room? Try sleeping with her in her room until she falls asleep
Try napping in there during the day then slowly try putting her in there St night then when she wakes bring her to u but gradually stop bringing her back to bed with u.
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My last child stayed in my bed until 9 years old. Finally I bought her a panda bear and she stayed in her bed! I made her a little pad on my side of bed if she had a nightmare. This works!
Maybe start from the beginning? My little girl was breastfed til two, so it was easier for me to feed, then hold her in my arms til she’s asleep then come into my bed. But, when we stopped breastfeeding, we switched it up, PJ’s, teeth, story in her bed, then two songs. Then I’ll stay with her (next to her bed) til she’s settled, then we’ll have kisses then it’s goodnight love you… at the beginning it wasn’t easy, it was horrendous really, but you have to stick at it. And when they get up, you have to be consistent with putting them back to bed, ‘it’s bedtime, time for sleep’ repeat and repeat. Good luck xx
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My daughter slept in bed with me until we moved into a new house. The transition worked best for me by sleeping in her bed with her the first 3 nights. I would then lay with her until she fell asleep and move to my room after. I did this for about a week. And then we started reading her stories before bed every night and have her in a very set bedtime routine
Start with naps during the day. And then when she comfortably naps in the crib everyday for a couple days. Start transitioning her in the middle of the night to the crib / or starting bed time in the crib.
We put my daughter’s bed right next to my bed. Got her comfortable with that, then slowly started moving it further away until she was in her own room.
I got a little tent that goes over the bed, get new bedding that she picks out, maybe even let her rearrange her room and make it fun. Tell her that she’s going to sleep in her bed and then go from there. Just be consistent about putting her back in her room. My son is 6 and has to have someone lay with him to fall asleep cuz that was how we got him to sleep in his bed, and he wakes up and comes down every night to my bed or the couch in my room. Just keep at it
You have to decide what you want. Do you want your toddler out of your bed, or do you want to keep the peace? Because it has gone on so long, you wont get your toddler out of your bed without tears, there just isnt a way around it. It might help if you get some new “big girl” bedding or a blanket that is for her room, only, but in all likelihood, there will be unavoidable tears. If keeping the peace is worth not having your bed, then you do you.
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Maybe one of those body pillows so she gets the feeling of you being there without you actually being there.
Maybe put little brother in pack and play for a bit and have her do cio?
Put something in her bed with your scent on it and try that
I had to wait to sleep train my son at three years old for medical reasons also. You have to establish a night time routine where she falls asleep alone. When she wakes up through the night, you can go in and comfort her, rub her back, talk to her then leave. Do not pick her up. Google sleep training methods and pick one or combine a couple to suite your needs. I thought my son had sleep apnea because of how much he woke up. The sleep neurologist said it’s situational insomnia from me training him to only be able to fall asleep with me. He said children wake up about six times a night and have to learn how to self soothe back to sleep. I combined a few sleep training methods and he was fine after 1-2 weeks. I don’t know what to tell you about waking your other child. Sorry.
Good luck my son wouldn’t have it until he was like 5!!