Put her in her bedroom, tell her that’s where big girls sleep, place a baby gate in the door so she can call you if she needs you, but she cannot come out (or you go in) until morning/get up time. Don’t relent on the going in/coming out rule, stick to it for a few days until it becomes her “new normal”
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Not wait until they’re seven to try
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I never co-slept with any of my children, but once in a while they would wander into my room and climb in bed with me. I would simply pick them up and take them back to their bed. You could try letting her fall asleep with you and then carrying her to her room. Or you could try going to bed with her, in her room, and waiting for her to fall asleep.
Start out laying down with her in her bed until she falls asleep. She may wake up and come into your room. Eventually she will stay in her bed
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With my kids we just had to keep getting up and taking them to their own bed, very tiring but it did work eventually. and keep talking to them about it. Tell them mommy and daddy need their own space, and maybe offer rewards for nights slept in their own bed.
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Come on mamas, have a little grace. Maybe sleep with her (or dad sleep with her) in her own room for awhile and get her extra comfy in her own space. Same thing with my son. Our daughter slept in the crib from when she was a newborn and does great. I co slept with my 7 year old as a baby because he was born with bilateral club foot and had both legs casted. And then graduated to shoes and bars at night at that was the only way he would keep them on. He still sleeps with me, he will sleep in his bed but I prefer him with me because he’s extra snuggly and he’s only little once. She will sleep in her own bed eventually, just may need some help and comfort.
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Keep putting her back in her own bed
Use a pediatric sleep specialist to guide you.
Do it slowly, maybe start by putting a twin bed in your room beside y’all and tell her she can sleep there. Once, she gets comfortable in her bed, move it to her room and she should be more receptive to it. We did this when my daughter was a toddler and it worked, so I’m assuming it would work with her as well. That way it’s not immediately out of the room. I’d also maybe pick out some special bed sheets or a comforter, let her decorate her room a little.
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You have to put your foot down and keep taking her to her own bed. Eventually after awhile of doing that she will realize her bed is the only place you let her sleep. If the baby is still in your room, explain to your daughter that the baby needs you to eat and will not be sleeping with you while still a baby. There will be some jealousy. Make time when you can just for your older daughter. Do activities she enjoys that have nothing to do with the baby. Maybe create rewards. Like for each night she actually sleeps in her bed.
I had 4 kids all adults now but when I had another baby the one prior had to go so I’d wait for him to fall asleep then I switch him to his own bed. So he’d wake up in his bed alone it wasn’t that hard n followed with the other 3
For my oldest daughter (5yo) I have to lay in her bed with her until she’s asleep then I sneak out to my own bed lol she was always a terrible sleeper and napper as a baby so she would always end up in our bed and got used to that I guess . She even still eventually comes into my room and crawls in bed if she wakes up in the night or early morning lol 
but anyway we went from her sleeping in our bed , to her sleeping on a different bed but still in our room , to making the spare room into a “princess room” for her to convince her to sleep there lol but yea still gotta lay with her read her stories til she’s asleep . And she goes to bed late otherwise I’m up there forever and she doesn’t fall asleep 
its a process lol every kids so different
Easy. Keep her out! Don’t let kids control you, you won’t be able to when she gets older
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My 9 yr old and 4 yr old still sleep with me. Not intentionally but I’ve been working with their play therapist to get them in their own beds. Advice given to me that if you’ve tried any of the sleep training methods CONSISTENTLY and they aren’t working, consider that she might just need extra affection from you right now. Her brain might be having a hard time processing a new baby. If you go back anthropologically, it was common to have a family bed. Just do what’s best for your family. Theirs lots of opinions on how to parent and it can be overwhelming. Don’t feel bad with whichever way you choose. It’s tough being a parent.
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When you do tell me how lol
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Put her in her bed stay there do not let her in your bed
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Well……YOU are the parent….you MAKE her sleep in her room….and yes…before anyone asks I have four children….all boys….from ages 31 to 11….
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My 9 year old and 4 year old slept with us and would never sleep in there own bed. We bought them a fold out couch to sleep in our room for a few months now most nights they will sleep in there bed together when one of us lays down with them
Kaylynn Rizzotto lol
Don’t let her in your bed. Put a blanket on the floor for her and if she wants to come in your room she has to sleep the floor.
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They make cribs for a reason. They leave the basinett and transfer to a crib. You chose to let you kid sleep with you so now you figure it out lol
Apparently I’m the odd parent out because this comment section breaks my heart. I would never sleep train my child, letting them cry it out doesn’t teach them to sleep or independence, it teaches them that no one is coming to help or comfort them and severely damages their mental development. Your daughter, at 7, will soon want her own space anyway. But to force her out now with the timing of a new baby is going to make her feel like an unwanted burden. Better start saving for therapy now.
Biologically Normal Infant & Toddler Sleep is a wonderful group for parents to learn to GENTLY get your children to sleep on their own without damaging them. Obviously a 7 year old isn’t a toddler but they’d likely be able to help better than all these people telling you to basically slam the door in her face and lock her out.
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Put her in her bed n keep her there
Take her shopping & get her a really comfortable mattress, & let her pick out her favorite bed sheets & blanket set. Buy a nightlight of her choice, a few books of her choice (maybe a lava lamp or cool light that shines in the ceiling) & a bottle of melotonin gummies.
Let her help put her bed stuff together, let her put her nightlight in, & place her books by her bed.
Right before brushing her teeth for bed, give her a melatonin gummy, get her in bed, darken the room, & read a story.
Use the gummies for about 2 weeks to implement your new routine. Then stop them but continue the routine.
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We struggled as well but learned to compromise (for now) … I lay with her for 10-15 min while I decompress from the day on my phone (with headphones) she knows it’s that or nothing so she takes it without resistance. We also keep a washroom light on with the door only open a few inches so It doesn’t interfere with everyone else in the house. We have also agreed to let her sleep with me one night a week (while dad stays up late watching a movie or playing video games anyways). It’s not perfect but it’s what works for us 
I’m also ok snuggling with my girl as long as time will allow…
Shes 7. Put her in her own bed and make her stay there. Your fault for letting it go on so long.
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Ours was 5 and we had to slowly transition her into her room started with a bed beside ours and worked our way from there…maybe redo her room and let her pick things out for it paint,decorations or such, get her excited about it and also some sweet night lights.
Get her a bed with a slide
Won’t be forever, just enjoy it while she does 
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Re-decorate her room.
Start sleeping in her bed. Then u get out when she falls asleep
For my son it took us letting him sleep on the couch in the living room, he really liked that. Then I let him pick out his own bedding and stuff and he finally got out of my bed at like 8 yrs.
Lots of different opinions. I have 5 girls, from the age’s of 22 down to 2, 1 with asd, all been very different sleeping. Personally for me they grow up way too fast, my 2 year old sleeps in my room in her own bed (odd occasion my bed). It must be very confusing for her to understand why mummy and daddy get to share a bed and not her. Try the bed in your room see if it helps. X
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Mine didn’t leave my bed until he was 9… so no advice from me… But good luck.
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I’m having the same issue with my 9 year old son. He has severe separation anxiety from me. He used to sleep in his crib and his own room when younger. Then when he was really sick I’d have him sleep with me to watch him and his temperature and since then he won’t get out of my bed. He has slept in his bed and room a few times but will wake up around 3am and come in my bed.
Maybe just slowly wean it off since she might be jealous of baby. Like have a certain night of the week where you guys have a “sleepover”
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I would let mine fall asleep in my bed then put them in thier own bed sometimes even in our room to start out slowly, then eventually it works its self out.
Make a Night routine and stick with it, for example after dinner take her a bath, lavender lotion, sit with her and read a book and then just explain to her that she is a big sister now and being a big sister means she gets a special bed and her own room that she will love it. Also maybe put a shirt that you wore during the day as her pillow case and a night light so she feels safe and if she gets up and goes to your room just tell her it’s time for bed and keep taking her back to her room. It will be hard but if you stick with it she will get the hang of it eventually