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Hi ladies! I had a doctor appointment at 11 weeks and 5 days pregnant and everything was perfect.
I go back 4 weeks later to find out the baby had passed at approximately 12 weeks. Absolutely heartbreaking for myself and my fiancé. I scheduled the D&C for that very next morning which was on the 14th of June.
I’m terrified of not being able to conceive again. I’ve read you’re most fertile after giving birth and after a D&C procedure. The doc gave us the okay this week to try again when we are ready. We decided together that I would not get the BC implant and not use any precautions because it took us so long to get pregnant the first time.
I guess my question is, how early can you tell you’re pregnant after having a miscarriage? Was it difficult to conceive again? Is there anything I can do to reduce the stress of being scared of not being able to get pregnant again?
I know I’m still hormonal and emotional from the loss and that stressing myself over things out of my control will not help the situation. Thank you ladies in advance for any advice or words of wisdom! 
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I got pregnant 2-4 months after both of my miscarriages. We didn’t exactly try either. We just said if it happens it happens. So sorry for your loss.
In so sorry for your loss!! 
I lost a baby at 13 weeks and we just were not ready to try again. When we were ready…it took 5 months to conceive. It was nice for us to just relax a little bit and keep track of my cycles before trying. Due in October with a healthy rainbow baby girl. Baby dust to you and your fiancè
I miscarried is January 2014, had a D&C and have not been able to conceive since.
I’m sorry for your loss. Losing a little one hurts deep. I too had a D&C then fell pregnant. My rainbow baby will be 9 this fall. It’s possible to conceive again, but I was terrified to lose him. For me, I waited to try until my hormones leveled out and the doc said it was okay otherwise you’ll wonder if the positive is from the miscarriage or new baby.
miscarried october 15. d&c october 17 - got pregnant right away in november after one period. sorry for your loss
It took me a few weeks shy of a year to conceive again…
It took me 18 months after my first miscarriage to have my son. This time round we were trying for 5 years and 8 miscarriages our second baby is due in 7 weeks!!!..
I misscarried on August 4th and found out I was pregnant again exactly 6 weeks later. After D&C and complications from a hemorrhage. There is nothing that helped me from being stressed it was my 3rd miscarriage and although I had a healthy pregnancy 3 years ago I was terrified… my hormones were crazy and I was constantly worried during my entire pregnancy. But now I have a newborn and everything I have gone through is worth it. I wish nothing but peace for you and your fiancé. Take care of yourself. If you feel a certain way it’s ok. I was extremely sad and didn’t share with anyone how I felt and I wish I did. So if you need anyone to talk to or have any question please message me!
I’d wait until after your first period especially since you had a D&C. That’s what a midwife told me after my miscarriage. I miscarried June of 16’ and conceived my rainbow baby that October. So sorry for your loss
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It was 8 mos after my miscarriage when i got pregnant with my now almost 14 yr old daughter.
First of all, I am extremely sorry for your loss. I have had a few miscarriages along with D&C’s. I was always told to wait for at least one regular menstrual cycle and then we could try after, if we were up to it. Personally, my emotional healing took longer than my physical healing each time. I have 4 beautiful kiddos now…it will happen for you, mama
I know it sounds crazy but when I wasnt trying I ended up pregnant, my husband and I celebrated New years eve, I got wasted and we did the wild thing and I got pregnant.
We were not thinking about or trying so the stress was gone and we had a beautiful baby girl
I’m so sorry for your loss. I had a miscarriage July 10, 2017, and ended up pregnant the next month. We had our rainbow baby May 15, 2018, and in November of 2018, I had my left fallopian tube removed due to a huge cyst being on it. The obgyn said it would probably take about 6 months or more to conceive. Three weeks later, I go back to see her with 3 positive pregnancy tests in hand. I’m have a c-section August 7! Everything will work out in its own time! Just relax and let it happen and try not to stress. I know it’s easier said than done, but just be happy when it does happen for you and enjoy every single minute of it.
I miscarried July 18 2018 , had my d&c October 16 2018 ( my doctor wanted to see if I was able to miscarry naturally since I was so young , I know pissed me off too ) I found out I was pregnant Jan 7 2019 & my baby is due September 19 2019 & she’s as healthy as can be! Very active! My advice , stop trying , stop focusing on getting pregnant & just have fun & enjoy sex. The more you focus on trying to catch ovulation days , periods & things like that , the harder out seems to be!
I had and early miscarriage around 6 weeks and then 5 weeks later found out I was pregnant with my son who is turning a year old today! I’m sorry for your loss and good luck!
I am so sorry for your loss
I had my missed miscarriage back in February of 2017. Went in for our 12 week ultrasound, only to find out our baby had stopped developing at 6 weeks and 3 days. I had to go through the whole D&C process as well. The hardest part for me was emotionally. After we got the “ok” to try again, I cried the first couple of “times” afterwards with my husband… it was of course something we both wanted, I was just so scared to have to have to possibly go through the loss again after having tried for years.
That said, I am officially 33 weeks pregnant today with our rainbow baby… and she is completely healthy and doing well 
So it took us about a year and a half. Then again, we weren’t adamantly trying either though… we were more so just in the mindset of: “if it’s in the cards for us, it’ll happen when it’s supposed to.”
When the timing is right, it will happen for you.
As far as fertility goes, the first 6 months after a miscarriage you are the most fertile. It goes down a little after that, but your chances of another miscarriage are still much lower.
I hope that helped! Much luck to you and yours once you are both emotionally ready to try again
I had miscarriaged in August of 16, by January of 2017, I got pregnant again and have a healthy 20 mon olf
I miscarried at 18 weeks, after induced delivery of the fetus April 14 had a D&C April 16 2015 because I retained the placenta. Was pregnant again by June and Rainbow baby was born in March 2016. High risk pregnancy with lots of bleeding but healthy baby who is now 3 years old. Didn’t even have a period.
I am so sorry for your loss. We don’t talk about it as women but you’re definitely not alone.
We got pregnant about a 8 months after our D&C with our 
. Very healthy. We had a fertility specialist help us in the first six weeks of pregnancy testing my hgh weekly and progesterone for the first 20 weeks. We then started seeing a high risk doctor who start seeing us at week 7.
I’ve had 7 miscarriages a D&E after a terminal diagnosis and a D&C about a year after the D&E.
If you’re really worried look into a fertility specialist that can help. Ours looked at the health of my eggs (I was only 28) and did a sperm count on my SO (he was 29).
Take prenatals, try not to stress (silly I know. I saw a therapist to help with my grieving. It helped my hormone levels after being able to actually talk about my fears. Really work on bonding with your SO and don’t have sex just to make a baby, just really enjoy time together and enjoy sexy time.
We changed our diets as well. More fruit and veggies and tons of water. I cut soda and actually started kickboxing to help me deal with a lot of the pain.
No lie- once I started this I was happier and got pregnant with our Nolan.
This really speeks to me because I found out I was pregnant in May of last year my office wouldn’t get me in tell July I was supposed to be 12+ weeks pregnant the 18 on my appointment they told me that baby was only 9 weeks and it had no heart beat next day I had a D&C I went on birth control pills that same day for 5 months found out I gotten pregnant in December of last year ( while still on the pill) and we are expecting our little rainbow baby come September, I’m so sorry for your loss❤️
It took us awhile to conceive after my Miscarriage. It took us about a year. My body had to reset. I am now 8months pregnant. Give it time.
I had a miscarriage, had the D&C done then went on the pill because I didn’t think I could handle losing another child. Then the following month I was pregnant, I was considered high risk through all of the pregnancy but I now have a healthy 7 year old. Then got pregnant again 8 months later. Recently had a miscarriage we are trying again.
Have your thyroid levels checked . That was the reason for my 3 miscarriages at 12 weeks. I’d give it a couple months for insides to heal. For the optimal attachment.
I had a miscarriage in October, pregnant again in November, miscarried in December. (first spontaneous, second due to a UTI). The last miscarriage was a nightmare and quite the process. Got pregnant again in March after taking a little time to mentally heal!
Every single pregnancy I have been able to tell super early, regardless of it being after a miscarriage.
Good luck
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I had a miscarriage April 2017 and found out I was pregnant June 2017
So sorry Mama! Hugs on your loss and many prayers. Please calm down and give yourself time to heal. You will conceive again
I had a miscarriage at about 12 weeks and I got a birth control patch and used it for about six months and was able to get pregnant again about a year after the miscarriage. I’m sorry for your loss. I know that losing a child is probably the hardest experience i’ve been through besides losing my mother. my heart goes out to you.
I had a d&c July of 2017 and conceived in may 2018 and had my daughter feb 2019. Dont give up hope.
it’s hard to shake the worry about having another miscarriage. I feel like I was worried that I would lose my boy all the way up til he was placed on my chest.
You should just try to enjoy the sex and hope that it happens and for me it took a few months but all my children are rainbow babies ( babies conceived after a loss ) i am pregnant with my hopefully 3 live birth good luck
In sept 2013, I got pregnant. At 11wks, I started bleeding and went for a check and discovered I was pregnant with my second set of twins but unfortunately lost one of them. My daughter was born healthy and then when she was 18months old…I found out I was pregnant again but miscarried 2wks before xmas
I had a miscarriage at 7 weeks pregnant and was pregnant again with my son a few months later. 
I was very fertile after the miscarriage! Dont give up hope.
I had 5 miscarriages before falling pregnant with our twin boys in 2017, then at 16 weeks had to terminate 1 of them due to his urethra not forming properly he had major bladder damage due to this.
There is nothing in the world to prepare you for when heart wrenching things like this happen to us females. My heart goes out to you and your partner at this time.
Don’t go rushing out to fall pregnant ASAP, YOU need time to heal mentally physically and emotionally.
Don’t give up hope and as hard as it is at time try to keep thinking positive thoughts.
I had a miscarriage my 2nd pregnancy…fetal demise. I went in to see if can hear heartbeat the 11th almost 12th week of pregnancy. My stomach was growling so much. So to be safe, they got me an ultrasound and my LO was at the 9th week still w no heartbeat. I got DNC done n did wind up pregnant again but it was at a point where I got addicted to painkillers…so idk the help I could get then so I got an abortion (plus the guy and I broke up n that was the 1st time I actually put that out in public). The 3rd pregnancy happened about 2 to 3 yrs after the miscarriage. Everyone is different and I didnt have sex right after the DNC procedure in case it created more bleeding…so that could be why too. Also, it was after that miscarriage, I got put on percs and I went ripping and running staying numb. I however now have a soon to be 7mth old along w my 14yo daughter now but w a man I’ve been w for 8yrs and married to for over 1yr. I understand your worry but it will happen again and successfully. 1 out of 4 pregnancies will result in a miscarriage. I’m hopeful for u from here on out, u WILL have a successful pregnancy or pregnancies. Best of luck mama
