Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. How to handle adult separation anxiety?
I feel for you. But I am the COMPLETE opposite. To a fault! I have yet to cry over a man. My daughters Dad and I broke up soon to be 2 yearsā¦ Iāve been single ever since and havenāt shed a tear 
ā¦ Thats not normal. Iām so jaded Iām like, cynical. The only way I can truly understand what youāre going through is when my daughter leaves to go to her Dadsā¦ I am an absolute WRECK! But personally, I would look for community based programs. In the area I live near, there are free mental heath programsā¦ Some faith based, some notā¦ Both funded by the state. Also check with an organization called NAMI ā¦ They might be able to lead you in the right direction?
Youād think with that info I have, Iād take advantage myself. Butā¦ Honestly, Iām too afraid. I donāt want to feel. I live in a bubble of denial and I think Iām gladly stuck here. 
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Thatās not separation anxiety, that is trust issues. Because no matter what youāll never trust him again to not leave when things get tough.
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In all honesty someone who has been thru this, sit down with him and tell him I wanna work out I wanna do great but Iām absolutely horrified when you leave I have so many terrible doubts of what can happen. He should understand and know where your coming from and reassure you it will get better. Packing my husbandās lunch I sent love note reminders and we texted on break etcā¦ it does get better.
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Practice self-care and try to focus on other things besides the fact youāre not with him. Recognize your irrational fears of him not coming back while heās out doing things away from you.
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I completely understand. we seperated because he was openly cheating,and I couldnt except it. now I cant trust him,I feel like he constantly lying and cheat. he swears heāll never cheat again. i cant let the past goā¦
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Could it be anxiety or could it be a natural reaction to a loss of trust? Anxiety is treatable, loss of trust is not, depending on what they did or said.
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You need something to do. A job, hobby, friend, sport. Focus ur attention on something else to help ur self esteem and confidence
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Iām with you this is like me gotta have someone around when my partner goes to work as the same things goes for me as soon as my partner would leave the separation anxiety kicks in but since someone is with me Iām a bit for settled
Whatever it is you need therapy no. Forgiveness is major and you need to work on your insecurities, which you have to do.
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I sleep better when he is around. However, he has the track of helping his cousin for than a week. Other times, heāll take a weeks clothes and text me the last minute while he is at work that he has to help his relatives. I havent seen him since July 8th, 2021
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Therapy now for you. You seem really insecure. Talk to him.
You should definitely let him know. He may be able to help you. Communication is key in situations like this. Iām sure if he was having issues you would want to help him.
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Girl thatās not separation anxiety thats trust issues
Sounds like you need to focus more on you and no worry about him. Are you working? Get a job. Support yourself and focus on it. Start stashing money if you you can.
Talk to him and let him know how youāre feeling. Communication is key in a relationship. If you wanna stop feeling like shit address the situation and talk about it or keep bottling it up until you break. Your choice.
Get a job, volunteer, find a hobby that involves being active. Anything to keep yourself busy so you donāt have time to dwell on that.
I think you have a little too much time on your hands try to volunteer or get a part time job, Hang out with friends bc overthinking about the situation is going to drive you more to anxiety. I also think u should have that communication with him let him know whatās the real issue.