I’m at a loss anymore my 7 year old daughter is way over weight she’s bigger then all the kids her age she wears a size 14/16 I cannot get her to stop eating…the doctor’s have tested her for her thyroid and it came back fine but she’s constantly screaming she’s hungry and if I try to tell her no or to just wait she literally goes in to screaming tantrum mode from the time she wakes up to the time she falls asleep she’s literally eating anything she can get her hands on me and my husband are at wits end idk what to do anymore she’s in the 99% of her age for her weight she’s gotten so big she literally has boobs to where we have to make her wear a bra
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Take her to the doctor and get a dietitian and counseling for her.
Get her involved in sports or other activities, get her mind on other things.
Sounds like she’s bored and eating just to have something to do.
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It’s hard but you are just going to have to tell her no and stick to it through the tantrums and all. Maybe counseling too. Good luck 
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What are you feeding her? Is she getting exercise? Also you are the parent, you CAN say no. If she knows she can scream and you will give in then of course she’s going to do that, she’s 7.
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She needs a good Dr that can help with her weight. Have her blood glucose checked. Try having her drink plain water every time she says she is hungry if she is still hungry afterwards then give her a healthy snack.
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Have her genetics tested for prader willi syndrome
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Its your job as a parent to put your foot down and dicipline her. She is controling you by the sounds of it. Let her scream, get you some ear buds or listen to some music while she pitches her fit. She will give in before you. Better to correct this behavior now rather than trying to later. Also is she active in anything, sports, summer events etc? If not a lot of eating could just be from boredom. My younger sister use to do that.
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She’s 7 pretty sure she doesn’t do the grocery shopping… buy good healthy options
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Get rid of anything processed. Only have fresh food, vegatables and fruit available. If she doesn’t like it…let her scream. She will eat when she is hungry enough. Processed foods are the worst. Look into the Jillian Michael’s diet. She has a book out with easy recipies and it explains everything. It works. I lost eighty pounds following it , and learned very healthy ways.
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Get her into sports, let her eat veggies all throughout the day. Don’t buy sugary snacks or if you do, hide them away.
Limit tv time and make her play outside. Let her throw a tantrum. She’ll get over it.
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How about being a firm parent? She knows you give in when she throws a fit so that’s why she’s doing it. Put Locks on the cabinets. She’s not hungry she’s bored make her go do some physical activity and she’ll lose some weight. As for the screaming. Walk away, if she follows you then a good whooping would work. 
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Try feeding her high protein, fruits and vegetables. Keep the bad food out of the house if it’s not there she can’t eat it.
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Is she eating actual meals and snacks, or just snacks all day long? If not eating at meals I’d cut the snacks. Maybe set a timer for snacks 2-3 times a day. She sounds bored. If you’re outside and there’s no snacks she probably wouldn’t ask for any.
I can’t understand this to save my life! Why are you letting your 7 year old run your house? Bust her butt! Make her go in her room until she shuts up. Whatever discipline you use at your house is what’s needed! You don’t wanna hear her scream? Or discipline her? I guess burying her will work out better for you, since you don’t wanna parent. Seriously! Don’t let her eat!
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My son will be six. He’s 4 ft tall and 100 pounds. We have tested for numerous things, seen 5 docs, been in counseling. He also suffers from constipation. Our rule is you eat your meat and a vegetable before you get a starch. We don’t do dessert every day. I let him help pick meals out.
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Just buy stuff for meals and only keep healthy snacks in the house.
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You need to just let her scream and get over it. Dont let her be your parent.
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So, without this sounding harsh, you’re just letting her scream and teaching her she can get what she wants when she throws a fit. Tell her no. You’re the parent here. Look at her diet, if she’s hungry give her some vegetables. They fill you up. What physical activities does she do? Get her into something where she needs to really move. Plenty of fruit and vegetables and most importantly teach her that she can’t just get what she wants.
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Do fun activities to distract her from being hungry. Take her to the park, take her swimming.
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I used to be like this. I’d eat out of boredom. It’s a habit and eating for pleasure. Just give her fruit anytime she asks for something. It will be hard for a long while but be consistent.
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Put the WHOLE family on a healthy eating plan…get rid of the crap and processed foods…that way shes not gonna feel singled out …if every1s doin it then shel hav too
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Give her fruit to eat when she’s hungry or vegetables. What on earth are you feeding her for her to be that big? And let her scream, it’s not going to harm her.
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So there are things that will fill her up But have literally zero calories like cucumbers. Also you can buy 100 calorie snacks. Get her up early and make her walk for 30 minuets before eating breakfast. I promise this works.
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Feed her healthy foods and say no when you need to. You’re the parent you make the rules and stick with them
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activity… what does she do at school? how is her behavior? keep her hands mind busy
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You need to be strict and stop buying snacks and she can eat her meals and one healthy snack a day and let her scream… she will learn eventually that you are serious and she wont get her way by having a tantrum. You’re the parent. Act like it.
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Has she been tested for:
Prader–Willi syndrome (PWS) is a genetic disorder due to loss of function of specific genes. In newborns, symptoms include weak muscles, poor feeding, and slow development. Beginning in childhood, the person becomes constantly hungry, which often leads to obesity and type 2 diabetes.
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Cut out all sugar and carbs if she’s hungry she can eat fruits and vegetables and things that are healthy
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It honestly sounds like you’re babying your 7 year old and giving her everything she wants.
You CANNOT do that. Portion control her and if she wants more say NO! You are the adult here.
If you don’t get her portions under control it’ll be way harder for her to lose the weight as she gets older.
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My son is 9 and weighs 125 and he is 5"1. He plays tackle football and is also on medication that helps curve his appetite. He has counseling once a week as well. When he was 7, we found out he had severe separation anxiety and that would cause him to overeat and overreact when it was time to go to school or when both me and my husband were not home at the same time. ( we are not sure where that came from) So we got him into counseling that started 2 times a week and worked with his doctor who helped us come up with a plan to get him where he needs to be. I will say, once he started playing football, we noticed an immediate difference in his reaction and anxiety levels. I also suggest and highly recommend getting her into sports. My youngest is 5 and is in gymnastics twice a week. She is competing for the first time this year as well. Best of luck momma! You got this.
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First, I agree she needs counseling. Second. Make sure there are healthy snacks for her to eat between meals. Carrots, celery & salads work. Third. Watch what shes eating during meals. Is she eating empty calories or filling sustaining foods? You might want to see a good dietician for help in changing her diet.
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If all possible medical issues have been rules out, then I would try getting her involved in more physical activity. Take away all electronics, and make her play outside for a few hours a day. Take her swimming…when she throws a fit, whoop her…grant it, I know some people are against spanking, and this is just my personal opinion. I have a 15 year old and a 7 year old, both girls, and neither would ever disrespect me like that because they know they’ll be in a world of trouble!
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Guys. Stop being a dick to her.
Who’s the parent?? STOP GIVING IN BEFORE YOU KILL YOIR DAUGHTER WITH FOOD. Don’t care if I sound harsh you’re slowly putting her into an early grave by allowing her to get her way with food. It starts here what will be next
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Stock up the fridge & cabinets with pure healthy choices. Take her for walks, put her in activities like dance or something, keeping her active so she won’t be thinking about food, don’t body shame her cause it’ll make worse (you can start a eating disorder).
relax, talkin a life style change here, slowly, so she craves things to eat, make them healthy things, cold carrots, celery, yogurt with walnuts, start creating a game with her bout lousing weight, remember the goal is not to lose 50 pounds, but to lose 1 pound 50 times. Fall comes, make sure u sign her up for soccer, running in games an practice will burn necessary calories. Limit the couch potato an TV, fact, no TV at all when there is school the next day. Also, an achievement prize when she meets certain goals would be great…
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I think u should put her in sports have her do activities. Maybe change the whole diet of the family… have healthy snacks and eat healthy so she would have to do it too… I don’t judge cause I only have a 10 month girl so I really don’t know what the world has in store for us… wish u luck
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Put locks on the fridge and cabinets and stop giving into her fits. Sorry to say, but with how she’s acting, that’s your fault. A 7 year old is NOT the boss.
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Maybe she’s bored? And that’s why she eats so much? I know I’ve done that more than a few times myself
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Let her scream, only feed her when she needs to and only healthy foods. She is 7 not 1, screaming will not hurt her.
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Fruits and veggies!! Low fat ranch for veggie dipping bc everything is better with ranch. Tons of healthy snacking recipes for kids on Pinterest. Takes time and patience but she will adjust. Her health comes first. I would definitely add in some fun physical activities.
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Sounds like discipline is lacking on your part. You let her scream until she gets her way and she knows it.
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Watch what she eats ur the parent not her, portion her food, take daily walks, encourage her too!
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Bring her back to the doc and be firm tell them this is your daughter and this is not normal your the parents and if they refuse go and get a second opinion, your understandably worried about your babygirl and I would be firm about it. Sometime that’s what it takes for them to listen to you
Needs to see another doctor!!
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Make her exercise if shes gonna eat like that she has to get moving and if she only wants junk shes not hungry. Make her eat healthy things and if she complains she gets nothing at all
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Only put healthy food and snacks in the house and maybe stuff with protein to help keep her full. Also you need to do things with her. Like go to the park, swimming or swimming classes. Anything to get her going without knowing. Also maybe a second opinion.
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Get her a fitbit type watch have competitions in the family and a reward for who does the most steps in a wk…mayb bowl in or the cinema if u keep it interesting then shel luv it x
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Talk to her dr and a nutritionist. Make a plan for healthy eating. Get rid of ALL processed foods and don’t buy them anymore. There are healthy alternatives for almost any food.
And as far as the tantrums go. Kids are kids no matter what they are tantruming for. You give in and they learn that that’s how they get their way. It’s not easy but be strong Mama. You got this!!!
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Put her on Keto diet
Make her walk with you or ride her bike
My advice would be to come up with some healthy snacks and maybe get active as a family. Cooking healthy meals as a family could as be good.
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Healthy is the way to go even though kids hate it. There’s more test they can do then just a blood test for thyroid it’s just the most common. Could be another health concern too or genetics. Activity works a bunch too (sports, walk your dog if you have one or volunteer, wii fit, Zumba, dance central for Xbox) see A nutritionist, water (flavor it with a no sugar added flavor if easier) have her drink it through out the day and at meals the more water she drinks especially at meals her body will be full, also eat smaller portions
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My daughter tries to do the same but she’s 6, I only give one snack a day along with her normal 3 meals same as I would if she were still in school just because it’s summer time doesn’t mean it’s time to eat up the entire house we have 6 other people here not just her. I manage the food and I also make her go outside and play for at least an hour out of each day she doesn’t like it but no snack until then either. But healthy snacks help and also if it comes down to it buy snacks she doesn’t like, if she doesn’t like it she won’t eat it and time out can happen as fast as that tantrum can. Don’t let her win she will thank you for it later being an obese child like I was and being picked on isn’t fun and only makes you want to eat more. Maybe try counseling also maybe try and figure out if there’s something bothering her and she’s using this to cope. Good luck mama I really hope you figure it out!!
Buy a healthy cook book and maybe let her circle yummy foods and let her help you cook them.
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My parents locked cabinets and told me if I wanted to throw a fit, go outside and do it. Worked for me 
I also got my ass whooped.
Depending on what she is eating perhaps sub out for healthier food, exercise such as dance or sports teams to burn some extra calories, maybe therapy if it seems like it may be more of an emotional issue vs a physical deficiency.
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Get her exercising do yard work vacuuming dusting, playing outside, swimming
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That level of weight gain is most likely a result of emotional eating. Has she gone through any big changes lately? Having social issues at school or home? Obviously making healthier purchases at the store and standing firm with “food rules” are necessary. But also know that the more negatively she’s made to feel about her weight the more she will focus on it. And that’s never good this young. She’s either going to up the eating and hide it from you or go in the opposite direction and become bulemic/anorexic.
Above everything constantly reassure her that her health is your concern. Hey physical, mental and emotional health.
Keep going to the doc until all possible medical causes are ruled out. Enlist the help of a professional counselor or therapist and possibly even a nutritionist.
Involve her in the process of buying and cooking the meals and remember that positive reinforcement will always have a more effective impact than negative reactions. She’s still going to want the unhealthy stuff. That’s natural. Don’t make a big deal of it other than to remind her of why it’s not the best choice she could have made. But if she voluntarily chooses a healthy option be sure to aknowledge that verbally.
Be a parent, let her scream, don’t buy junk food, more discipline… These aren’t solutions. They are reactions to symptoms. You can’t fix it unless you find the root first.
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Just buy fresh fruit and veggies, dont give her any other choices.
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Please keep persisting for more tests until you find the cause. You are your daughter’s advocate in the medical field! She’s only 7…it’s very abnormal for a child to scream about being hungry and to nonstop eat all day long. Someone mentioned testing for Prader-Willi Syndrome and I tend to agree. While this disorder is rare, answers will help your whole family. Most kids are naturally inclined to go off and play at that age. There has to be a medical explanation! Good vibes that you find the answers you need.
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She wont eat junk if you dont buy it. Bring her on lots of walks. Drink ONLY water.
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Veggies only. Maybe even watch Fed Up
Have you tried Keto diet? Try to keep her busy? Find what she likes dance, ballet, swim, swim team, karate. find something to take her mind off of food. My baby is 7 I have her in karate and swim team she too busy to eat.
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What kind of foods do you give her for snack? And stop giving in to every single fit she isn’t starving. I’d do something like three meals a day and a snack in between breakfast and lunch and then a snack in between lunch and dinner.
If she wants to throw a fit put her in her room and close the door and tell her to come out when shes ready to stop crying.
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Prader willies syndrome, l may have misspelled it.
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Have her checked for hunger cues/signals. There are a lot of eating disorders that can be a possibility. I know that there are a few that happen where the body doesn’t know it’s full
I agree with most of the comments, let her scream, cry, throw her tantrum, your the parent, be the parent. Feed her portion size, and only at meal times. If she wants a snack, give her veggies, fruits, water. Get her doing chores, exercising. And see another doctor.
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Stop buying sugar!
When she’s hungry should only be offering vegetables and lots of water. Lead by example.
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My stepmom niece was like this but she had a condition ( cant remember what it was)
It all starts with the parents diet! And for those tantrums one good, open handed, ass whoopin will fix that! Lbvs!
Just buy fruit and healthy food if she’s that hungry she will eat that if not then never mind distract her when she starts to have a tantrum and tell her you and her are gunna go on a bike ride or for a walk. Not to sound horrible but but if tests come back fine then and she has tantrums sounds like you’ve always given her what she wants for food and now she’s overweight and it’s now hard to get out of this routine but stay strong and think of your child’s health
My teenager recently lost 40 lbs, he did a “dirty keto” at first just to get started, now just stays away from carbs and he drinks crystal light, no soda, I am a nurse I KNOW this is not the best diet but it is the one that worked, so I feel it is better than the extra 40lbs, now he is eating better foods and focusing on a healthier diet.
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Get her involved in activities maybe the YMCA if you have one there or something she would enjoy she might just be bored or osnt eating the right kinds of foods to make her feel full , but you have to be strong and consistent with her put your foot down and just let her throw her tantrums put her in her room and close the door have her help you make healthy snacks definitely cut out the sugar as much as possible
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Lock the kitchen untill your preparing food. Have a set time for breakfast lunch and diner and healthy snacks in between. And one day a week if she’s good. Then treat her on that day and do activitys with her where she’l burn off some of it. Keep her busy and in a routine that won’t be good for her health or mental health in the long run. Get more tests done too. To be sure it’s not an underlying health issue. But it sounds like you just give in and let her have her way.
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Has she been tested for Prader-Willi Syndrome? One of the symptoms is that the person constantly eats because they don’t feel full. Obesity is a top symptom as well
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No processed food in the house and keep fresh fruits and veggies ready for her to snack on. Only low fat dairy products. Try to get rid of anything with added sugar and no sugar substitutes if your whole house does it then she’ll learn better eating habits. Try walking together when you get home from work everyday, just make it a family bonding thing not an exercise thing. Riding bikes or going hiking is really fun too. The first week might be a nightmare but it gets way easier after that and she’ll stop craving as much processed foods
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Go for walks, make her ride her bike. Go with her as a family, make it fun. Change alot of her food to healthy food but still allow for treats and such. It’s hard but you gotta put your foot down and be a parent you wouldn’t give in to a toddler screaming because you won’t let them put their finger in a plug socket so don’t understand why you can’t handle her going off?
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Could be Prader-Willi Syndrome this makes it so you don’t feel full. I have known people with this and they just have to work hard to monitor what they are eating and get extra help with nutrition.
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Have you had her checked for diabetes? Also follow suggestions above with not letting her eat 10x the amount she should. I know veggies are expensive and so are fruits, reach out to a local food bank. A lot of them still give things even if you’re over their income limits, so that would be a good way to get some good fresh produce flowing. Check for a vitamin deficiency, certain ones can cause increased hunger. Keep her occupied. Limit juice intake and replace with water.
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Has she been to a therapist? My little sister has an eating compulsion and cannot stop eating and she feels hungry all the time even after a full meal.
We have to lock up the cupboards to keep her from stealing. Worse is that she knows she is doing it and doesn’t want to stop.
Before trying any sort of physical punishment, I would definitely see a therapist. It would be hurtful for the child to be punished for something out of her control.
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Cut the sugar out of her diet, and i dont mean the obvious sweets and junk food. Sugar hides is almost everything. Read ypu labels, sugar is disguised as healthy foods. And like others have said let her throw a fit, dont give in. Offer only healthy low sugar options. And press for further tests and maybe some therapy or counseling and activities to keep her busy.
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For me I cut sodas out completely and added more water using an app on my phone to remind me to drink 7oz of water. The app is drink water. It has been a huge help.
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You are the parent. You can’t let a 7 year old call the shots. Imagine what it’ll be like when she’s a teenager. Only give her healthy options, let her drink a glass of water after her meal if she says she’s still hungry, and if she doesn’t want it send her to her room to throw her fit.And stick to it! I know it’ll be hard, but honestly after a few days she’ll realize she’s not getting her way. You need to think about her future and her health. That’s more important. Good luck!
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There is a condition where her body doesn’t recognize she’s eating. Or like my daughter is allergic to dairy not lactose intolerant but allergic to dairy. Her body doesn’t metabolize the fat content in dairy it just stores it. Makes her gain weight super fast. She always complained she was hungry but was able to tell me it was her stomach hurting she just thought she was hungry. She went into anaphylactic shock from a blueberry muffin which is when I found out about the other allergies she had that didn’t show the common allergic reactions. It’s not bad parenting the human body is a mystery. I would suggest having an allergy test done. She might think she hungry because eating makes her stomach feel better. Listen to your gut mama. She’s trying to tell you but doesn’t know how to explain it either. Be patient with her. Best wishes!
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DO NOT PUT HER ON A FAD DIET!!! She’s 7, everything is still developing. Carbs and natural sugars are essential to brain function. Bread is a major source of iron in kids. Fats are important to nutrient absorption and proper hormone development amongst other things!
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Take out all junk food. When she wants a snack give her fruits or veggies… Let her scream it out but don’t give in.
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Kids don’t play outside anymore that is why there is so much obesity video games cell phones I am glad we didn’t have those growing up we wouldn’t of had them anyway
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You are the one that buys the food in the house, so stop buying junk food first off. I get that everyone wants a snack or treat once and a while, so buy portioned out sherbet for dessert or look into keto friendly snacks to make. My husband, kids and I love keto food. This may sound extra, but put locks on anything that has food in it. Fridge, cabinets, pantry. Make a chart of all meal times: breakfast, lunch, dinner, and all snacks. Maybe put it by a clock so she can see it and see the count down. she’s use to getting all she wants, when she wants, so give a little smaller portions and several of them and slowly take one or 2 snacks out and/or make portions smaller. Right now her stomach is a lot larger than it should be. (Her actual stomach is stretched and needs to slowly shrink down or she will continue to cry she is hungry). If you make a schedule of when to eat and she doesn’t want to wait then let her scream. It sucks listening to it but give it a good few weeks and it should get better. If you have to take everything out of her room so she cant throw things and break them or hurt herself, then do it. Its hard on you but its going to be hard for her as well. Its an adjustment for both of you and the whole family. But if you all stuck together, all follow the chart, it will work over time. She needs this fixed now so that you and her aren’t having to battle some serious health issues in the future.
Sorry if someone already suggested this, I only read some of the comments
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My sons try to eat all the time. Alot of it for them is they are bored so I make them go play outside and they forget they want food
I would consider getting a referral for a good Child Psychologist in your area from the pediatrician or NAMI or a local organization you trust. It sounds like emotional eating, or another medical or emotional issue considering she is so young. I would trust your gut that something is wrong and push for more testing, counseling assessment etc to try to get some professional help figuring out the root and the best way to treat it. The commentors that say ’ ‘yelling at her’ and ‘force dieting’ will make it worse’ are correct- she is likely to just hide it or develop an eating disorder binging/purging binging/starving etc and make this worse. As a parent I would seek professional help. Hang in there.
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I agree she needs to go to the doctor. Have her checked for diabetes. When sugars are too low or too high you can get the feeling of being starving. Wonky sugars levels can cause mood swings too. Stop letting her scream until she gets her way. The older she gets the harder it will be to get her to stop doing that. Maybe plan healthy meals and have her help you cook. Not only is it healthy but she’ll have a sense of accomplishment at helping make a family meal.
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I know she’s not screaming for carrots and apples or yogurt or salad etc… If you only keep real food in the house she will succumb to eating healthy snacks. Fruit juice and soda pop are the worst thing you can offer. She will not starve.
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You don’t want her to have a negative relationship with food and run to eating every time something bad happens or binge when nobody is looking. I would take her to counseling and a nutritionist. Someone knowledgeable about what’s going on with her other than mom telling her no more food and feeling like even more shit about herself. This is a big change, especially for a 7 year old. Only buy things she’s allowed to eat. You’re choosing what she eats when you shop. If you only buy healthy she can only eat healthy. She needs informed not yelled at.
Like other have suggested it could be anything from a condition that hadn’t been tested to needing to see a therapist. Etc. but you are her parent. She needs 3 meals a day and a snack in between and nothing more. If all she is doing is eating, cut it back. Is she eating mostly junk food or sugary foods? I would cut her food down and if she throws a tantrum then she throws a tantrum. She can’t just eat and eat and eat or it’ll turn into diabetes if it hasn’t already. It might be hard for a few days but she needs boundaries on how much she can eat.
My dear, as a child who fought the weight loss all my life, please encourage her to lose weight!! Try different types of diet! Not all diets work for every one!! Try switching to while fryits,and vegues, use olive oil or rapeseed oil for cooking!! Have the whole family eating healthier!!, Learn to eat slower!! Hope thus helps!! One other trick, does she like to bike ride, swim, or any other regular exercise?? Encourage her to find a hobby or sport!!
She may be eating her emotions shes not hungrey something bothering her or shes bored
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If you were just gonna make up a bunch of excuses why even post on here asking for help?
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She needs to see a therapist ASAP. There may be some underlying physiological issues that need to be addressed.
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Have her tested for diabetes. As a child I was on the larger side, in 8th grade I dropped a lot of weight super quick, passed out and they tested me for diabetes. I’m type one diabetic and they think I have been my whole life, they just didn’t know it. It’s better to be safe than sorry.