Im a first time mom and our little one is 2 months old, I had a pretty hard pregnancy and then my recovery at the hospital was worse was in labor for 34 hours with induction and then had to have a c section and then got a uterus infection after which landed us almost 2 weeks of a hospital stay. Anyways my question is when did you get your sex drive back??? Not that I don’t love my husband dearly but he’s always in the mood now and I’m just not, and he seems to get irritated with me sometimes. I try to be but it ends up not going so great. My lady bits feel sore and I’m just not feeling it and much rather just be with our daughter. Then I end up feeling guilty. Is it normal? Is something wrong with me? Lol idk maybe y’all have some advice. Thanks mamas.
2 weeks after Csection nothing wrong with you your body just went through trauma give it time it should return to normal soon
Everyone is so different. Some people are ready to be back at it within a couple weeks, others can take months or even a year. You don’t need to feel guilty. You just made a tiny human! Take your time to bond with her and heal yourself. Talk it out with your husband. There is nothing wrong with you. Take your time and don’t rush it💞
I lost my sex drive my first pregnancy and didn’t get it back til two years later when I got pregnant again.
Id be more worried about him being irritated with you over sex.
I feel the same way and our son is also 2 months😔 I’ve also had a hard time healing, my c section incision is still open in spots and draining. I just don’t feel the same as I did before. It has nothing to do with my fiancé , it’s just my mind is so different now
Completely normal. 2 months is very soon after giving birth. Give yourself time. I would hope your husband would understand what your body has gone through. My goodness. Please no rush. Get some rest. That is all
with my csections it was around 6 months til i came fully back…i definitely would try anything til ur less sore though
throw the whole m.n away
naturally your sex drive isnt back for a reason… you need more time to rest your hormones are still all over and your body is still healing
it took 40 weeks to grow your baby it takes alot longer then 6 weeks to bounce back.to normal
Umm… Your body just went through a lot its only been 2 months … Does your husband love you? If he can’t grasp what you just went through and is upset bc the sex drive ain’t there right now id be asking different questions…
You will get it back when your ready until. then dont feel guilty.
i think your husband needs to have a set down with your doctor and let him explains what it would be like for him to have sex with you…or grab his balls…when he tears up…let go…tell him that ache in his nuts, is how your lady bits feel…
It took me several months to get my sex drive back
Everyone is different, I have friends who had high sex drive just days/weeks after having a baby (both natural and csection), then I know some like myself who have a hard time even getting in the mood. I personally don’t have any sex drive unless I have a few alcoholic beverages, and my son is 1 1/2. I recently started taking medication to help increase lavish, and they seem to be helping but very slowly.
Your husband needs to be more understanding and patient
Show him all of this…make him read it. He has hands right? He can take care of himself while you rest and heal. I understand feeling God guilty…but you shouldn’t…he needs to stop being selfish and understand what you went through…understand that you are still healing in more ways than one. He should be supportive and not make you feel guilty.
Well you got to wait a while thats part of life, tell him stright up its not time yet your healing, guys are so f stupid sometimes tell him to go to the bathroom and let his hand do the job for now
He dont seem to care about you, so why care about him,
You got a infection and he wants to have sex, really what an inconsiderate ass hole
I also had baby 2 months ago with my 3rd c section I had sex within 3 weeks after ha ing him and my God it hurt since then I haven’t really had a sex drive but u still try to have sex but honestly for some reason its painful and it’s not really the same right now so I’m just waiting for a bit before I try again but your husband should understand my husband is not really a sex fan he says its bit all about the sex your in a relationship
Have him take care of baby clean the house he won’t have a drive then
You do have a mouth 
I have had c sections for both and it took about 6-9 months to fully bounce back and feel normal, in the time before that we used a really good lube and took it really easy and if i started to be in too much pain we would stop. Oral is also an option if you’re too sore downstairs
Your baby is 2 months old. Your body is focused on your baby, not pleasing your husband. It will take about a year for things to be normal. Also…does he not realize that your body just went through major trauma? Labour is hard, c-sections are not a minor surgery. Your body needs time to heal…
I see both sides, I mean there are other options you could explore not to be the explicit one lol… he’s probably just feeling insecure and unwanted to be honest. There’s a compromise somewhere in there.
He will have to get himself off while u recover, or do oral or a handsie.lol. If ur not ready to have sex then thats it. You just had a baby. Some can jump right back into it and some cant. Its fine. Your drive will come back. Does he make u feel sexy? Like, a suprise romantic dinner, run u a nice hot bath ? Back rub with some sented oils? Talk to him. Let him know how ur feeling. Dont do it only because he wants it. Maybe if he did some romantic stuff…maybe u would find the drive lol.
****Biggest romantic moment…letting u sleep in and taking care of the kids. You wake up to a clean house, hot coffee and he asks u what u want for breakfast. (Even just pouring ur cerial and bringing it to u). Then…he continues to care for children while u eat and drink ur coffee. Then, he continues to take care of everything while u go and shower/get dressed. Lol.
***Men- put in the damn work. Lol.