How to leave a relationship?

Have a cop come to your house and escort you out and tell them it’s been bad that your scared for not only your safety but your babies

He sounds like a threat to you and your baby. In this case, I wouldn’t tell him any part of your plan for your own safety. Don’t tell him you’re leaving, don’t tell him where you are, don’t tell him where you’re going. He doesn’t deserve to know.

DON’T TELL HIM. CUT AND RUN. PLEASE. Girl I’m begging you. Leave quietly. Plan it all out ahead of time for when he’s gone, make sure someone else is there with you as you take your things just in case he comes back in the midst. You owe him nothing especially not an explanation.

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Leave ASAP. Experience tells me he will only get worse. Go with your baby. There are protected women’s shelters

As a guy please leave that toxicity behind get out and don’t look back it’s going to be rough for a while but get out he’s not going to change and he will keep walking over you and treating you like crap and the baby will see that and have a troubled life get out of there and either stay just you and your child for a while or find you a nice person to share the raising of the baby with

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Don’t say anything just leave

Just leave, don’t tell him shit

Say, nothing!! Take the baby and go!! This is not a safe place for you or the baby!!

Leave while he’s not home to avoid him hurting you or your baby. Please get out of there ASAP. If he’s not on the birth certificate then I’m pretty sure you don’t even have to tell him where you are. If you really wanted to you could Leave a note or send a text saying you’re done and have to do what’s best for you and YOUR child. Then block all contact. I wouldn’t even give him that though I would just leave. It sound harsh but stay strong don’t fall back to him, men like that never change. Keep your head up and do what ever you can to provide for you and your baby to get on your own two feet, it’ll be hard as hell but it can be done. Keep your head up hun❤️

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DON’T TELL HIM… just get u and the baby the fuck away from the monster. And don’t look back… Block him on everything… And tell his family what he’s doing im sure his mum would be absolutely horrified if she knew her son was a w*nker…

When he’s gone. Get outta there. Don’t tell him anything.

Why tell him? He’s abusive. Just leave while hes gone

Just leave orcall cops i just went through something similar. If you are scared get a restraining order and go through everything find a place that help women with abuse from men

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Dont tell him your leaving DONT just leave when hes gone and never look back…but block all contact with him…you deserve a MAN not a bitch and I’m sorry he is…you dont need that…you just be the best mother ever and never look back…I’ll pray for you

Leave then tell him so he doesn’t try to harm you or baby. So proud of you love for taking this next step :heart: you got this :muscle:

Dont tell him… Just go…its not safe for you or your baby

Leave and then tell him. And I doubt he will hurt himself. If your worried he will after you’ve told him you’ve left with baby. And he starts saying he’s going to hurt himself. Call the police and ask them to do a wellness check. They will go to his house to make sure he didn’t. And my ex was physically, emotionally and sexually abusive towards me. He actually did punch me in the stomach a couple times during early pregnancy. And would say he would hurt himself if I ever left. I finally got smart and while he was at work one day. Had my parents come get me. And then told him I had left. He had tried pulling the I’m going to hurt myself before and I would always go back. This time I thankfully didn’t. You need to get yourself and baby out of that situation. I know it’s hard, but you can do it💗

Wait until he’s gone. Pack up everything or at least everything you can, and leave as quickly as possible. Plan it out in your head what all you’ll need what all you’ll bring and as soon as he’s gone and you know he’ll be gone for a little while you execute that plan in your head as quickly as possible. Do not tell him anything. As soon as you’re in a safe place contact the police. Get a restraining order or something.

Do NOT tell him you’re leaving. Take your baby and leave while he’s at work. Pack what you need, make sure to take any money you can, and birth certificates, social security numbers.

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Pack up while he is gone. If you have to just take what you need for you and the baby. That’s what I had to do. You could potentially get an emergency protective order until they can set a court date and you may be able to get a protective order for a period of time.

Just leave. You have a place to go. And file a protective order

Don’t tell him… just leave. Then after you are safe, discuss it via phone.

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You can only prevent him from hurting the two of you. Pack when hes gone and ask for an escort when you walk out, either PD or a friend as a witness.

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Look into a womens shelter . my friend left her abusive husband and went to one with her 3 children. They helped her find an apartment and get back on her feet.

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Don’t tell him,just get you and your child out of there.

I know it is hard with a baby…went thru same thing…mine actually turned physical and I left …you are responsible for the safety and well being of your child!!! Do not tell him where you are staying AT ALL…if you feel like letting him see the baby do it in a public place or don’t do it at all…it is hard, but in time you will see he will pull himself away from a relationship with the baby…you will be an amazing mom

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Do not tell him. While he’s working have someone come get you. Take the baby to a sitter. Cone back and pack. Never look back. He will beg you, saying he’ll change. Don’t fall for it. Good luck.

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Just leave. You don’t have to tell him and don’t owe him anything. Just pack your and the baby stuff and go. Do not let him know where you are either. You can even do it while he is “fixing” that girl’s car.

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Don’t tell him shit; pack a bag or two and leave while he’s gone. No mutual friend contact nothing. Completely ghost; I got caught trying to ghost and if it wasn’t for my son telling the school he was afraid to come home that day I don’t know what he would have done. Thankfully the cops and CPS showed up and I was able to leave safely. Four years out and I never regretted the choice. You can do it mama. Protect your baby and yourself. Hugs

The most dangerous time for a woman suffering from dv is when she tries to leave. Please don’t tell him your plan try not to make him see you mean it and hoping he’ll change because he could really hurt you and baby. The fact your baby is irritating him is worrying. I would contact the police explain everything and ask if an officer could be present while you get all your belongings. I’d block his number and not tell him where your going. Don’t ever go back. This is a huge step for you so well done . Most women don’t see it until it’s too late. Strength and love to you mama xxx

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Leave when he is not there.

go to police they can help you leave and find somewhere safe to go

Get the hell out as fast as u can

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Wait til he’s not home and GET OUT OF THERE. You have a baby now. That baby doesn’t deserve it any more than you do!! Baby won’t want to see mommy hurt or scared constantly. You being stressed will stress baby, too. GET AWAY FROM THERE.

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Don’t tell him wait till he’s gone then go and never look back

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You owe him nothing. He’s an arsehole. Don’t discuss shit with him. Leave. I know that’s easy for us all to say but honestly sweetheart you and your baby deserve so much better. I hope everything works out for you xxxx

Don’t tell him girl that would be a very dangerous thing to do. He thinks he’s got you in his pocket. That fact that he’s telling you to make the baby shut up is just a sign that he’s going to be angry with the baby and eventually become violent with him or her as well. The way he’s treating you is very scary. When he leaves to help this female or when he’s going to be gone for awhile then leave. You need to go into shelter as this is the safest place for you, they will help hide you and get you back on your feet. Please don’t stay there and put baby in danger.

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Do not tell him you are leaving, make a plan A, B, C and D …tell a friend what day you will do it so you have some support. Please do not tell an abusive man you are ready to leave…it never ends well

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Fuck him! He has control over you and he knows it. Leave somewhere where he can’t find you.

I suggest calling the domestic violence hotline. From there they can offer you services and accommodations that suit you and your situation. Get as far away from him as you possibly can before he does harm you or your baby. And in case you doubt yourself… you CAN do this on your own. Best of luck to you mama.

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Dont say a word. Just disappear… who cares if you hurt him, he clearly doesnt care if he hurts you.

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Don’t even tell him babe. If you are in, or around WV my husband and I can come help. If he wants to be violent, my husband will happily get violent with him.

Just “clean” really good one day (get all yours and babies stuff packed) and leave while he is gone. Don’t leave a note, leave your cell phone there so he can’t call and harass you. Just disappear.

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Just leave with all your and baby belongings and file a protective order right away

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You know I had an ex like that… he completely ran my life, ghost his ass don’t even give him a reason go. When you get the text message saying that he will kill himself it’s a set up don’t listen… think of your child do you really want your son to learn how to be a man from a guy who lacks the balls needed to actually be a man? Or if your baby is a girl do you really want your daughter growing up thinking that that is normal in a relationship? You may love him but baby girl you can’t fix him or make him change, you are the only person who can make that decision. If you can’t afford to leave there are shelters for children and women who have been abused they will help you and your baby get away from that monster.

While he’s working pack all you can and leave girl. Maybe someone can come and help you while he’s gone. Block all forms of contact so he can’t get a hold of you. You and the baby deserve so much better. Praying!

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Leave, he won’t hurt himself that the bullshit manipulation game they love to play. Just up and leave while he’s doing his “side work” :roll_eyes:

You don’t have to tell him anything! Pack when he’s gone, take your baby and get out! There is no love in this relationship. Good luck mama. You got this.

You need to get a police escort to leave. Get out now before he hurts your baby and you!!!

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Don’t tell him, just go!

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Don’t tell him. This is for yours and your child’s safety. He clearly doesn’t want to be involved being he hasn’t been! He is making the bed he will lie in. Take your baby and leave, you’ve made it this far without him. Your child is better off.

You don’t tell him anything, just pack your stuff while he is gone and get out NOW. If you stay and something happens to that sweet baby it’s on you cause you stayed.

Dont tell him and leave. Call the police and try to get a restraining order if you think you or your daughter are in danger

Don’t tell him. When hes gone. Have someone waiting outside to help quickly pack up you and baby. . . book it out of there fast. . .

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Don’t tell him. Just LEAVE! He sounds dangerous and might lash out at you and the baby! Run!

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DON’T TELL THAT MOTHER FUCKER SHIT!!! get your stuff and go.dont look back. And god please dont ever let him take that baby alone.

Don’t tell him. When he’s not in the house, pack your bags and the baby’s bags and leave.
I am legit scared for you and your baby right now. I hope you both make it out :heart:

Ah hell no…girl when hes gone het your essentials and leave

Do not tell him and do n8t let him know where you are going and get an restraining order

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Pack up your baby and what you two will need and leave when he goes to work. Go towards a family members house since none are close. Get a job and change your name. Once your able to move into your own place and never have contact with him agian.

Don’t tell him. Just leave.

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Get out as soon as you can. The worse thing you could do is tell him you’re planning to leave. Just take your loved one and leave. Good bye to the shithead!

Knowing the back story of the abuse he’s been putting y’all through since before baby was born telling him you’re leaving would be dumb. You need to dip. Went through same situation. Telling him could put you or baby at risk. There are resources!!! You can get temp shelter just to get away. Go to your local court they can provide everything or a hotline. If it’s not now that you don’t leave it’s going to get worse.

holy shit. leave. now. just leave.

Don’t say anything and call the cops when you are leaving a cop can assist you so if he shows up he can’t harm you. Don’t ever go back and get a protection order for you and the baby and then just be safe. These are the situations where women and children all end up dead please be careful.

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Just go! No contact and get an order of protection!! If you can, post an update!! Be safe!! :heavy_heart_exclamation:

Don’t tell him. My exhubs told me, when I just had our son, that if I didn’t lose the 50lbs I gained from being pregnant that he would leave me. When our son was almost 3, I bought a washer and dryer that I stored until it was time to go. Get your ducks in a row. I was lucky to have family, but prepare first, do as he says…(and I know that’s bullshit), and keep the act up until you are literally ready to go. All I left with from my marriage was my clothes, our son’s clothes, maybe some toys. I didn’t walk away with much and I let him keep everything. I just needed to leave .

Don’t tell him anything pack your stuff while he’s at work or “helping”the coworker over the weekend and leave then call or go to the police department and file a report

Just leave without a word.it’s for you and your little one.That’s what i did.

If you want also, buy a disposable phone and like someone mentioned, leave your phone there. Just call whomever you are planning to stay with from the disposable phone and let them know your plan.

Call project safe in shawnee ok they are a shelter and they help you get on your feet. It’s not a big room with a bunch of cots they are keypad locked bedrooms.

Do not tell him you are leaving girl. You made your mind now go! I promise it will get better. Believe in yourself :heart:

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When he’s going to be gone for a long enough time period pack only what you and baby can’t live without and leave. Take all important personal info and leave no trace of where you are going. You need to block his phone number and file an order of protection. Someone stated above that leaving the abusive relationship can be the most dangerous time and they are correct. I was choked at 27 weeks pregnant while leaving in the middle of the night w my then two year old. I almost lost my baby girl. You HAVE to protect yourself and baby. If he tells you to make the baby shut up and such , it sounds like he could potentially harm the baby.

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When he leaves you get out! Don’t tell him nothing. Just get your shit and don’t look back!! Run! Noww!!!

Don’t tell him, plan a day and time while he out and go xx

Dont tell him anything…just go…start removing the necessities…to your new place…stay calm…polite…keep your distance…but get out of there…you and baby will both feel better…can u tell i had to do this…

Just go and dont look back.

Don’t tell him, and just leave. Take what you NEED and run!!!

Damn girl…I’ll pray for you. Get out of there and move far away. If you don’t have a support system there then there’s nothing holding you back. Just go. Ghost his ass. Save yourself and that baby.

Don’t tell him. Leave while he’s at work, get a new phone and immediately file for sole custody and a restraining order.

Just leave. Dont tell him anything

Don’t tell him! Just leave while he isn’t there…and don’t answer his calls or texts. He’ll get the picture. 🤷

Do not tell him …pack your stuff and the babies …while he s helping his friend with her car …and go …

Never look back …
He could not love u and treat u and his child This way …
I know your scared …
But you are stronger then you think …
You are a mama now …
Protect that baby like a mama bear …

Don’t say anything and just go. You need to protect yourself and your baby. If you feel unsafe about the safety of your baby and you call the cops and ask them to be there when you leave.

Just do it. He’s a bully and probably won’t get any better. Sounds like he has no relationship with the baby.

Go without telling him

You need to leave it would be less stressful on your own, bad for you and very bad for baby to be in that environment. Leave when he isn’t around with out him knowing. And never let him back in your life.

Dont tell him at all. Leave while he is away. Plan it all ahead. And advise your local police when you leave asap about your situation.

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Pack up the essentials when he is not home and leave. Why tell him at all?

Don’t worry about what he will do as he has clearly stopped caring for you.

Dont tell him…wait till he leaves, pack your baby up and leave! Call the cops and get a temp restraining order based on the threats and comments hes made! Get out now sweetie for both you and your babys sake!!!

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:cry: My heart hurts for you and your baby that you’re going through this please do the right thing and leave you don’t have to tell him and don’t let him know where you’re staying either no one should be treated like that

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I wouldn’t tell him he sounds like he will hurt you and I would make sure you have someone with you and maybe not have the baby with you so you can pack and head out without problems god forbid you try and leave and he turns it around on you and tries to keep the baby. You can do it! For you and your baby. No one should be scared living in there own home especially after having a baby. Get out while you can and don’t look back. People like that don’t change.

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I would go he sound like he could hurt the baby my first husband was always gone I had 3 kids by him I was always by my self me and kids I walk out and never look back guess wh0 was sorry not me got marry again he past away but we was to gather about 35 r so yrs I still miss my second been dead 5 yrs but we was always to gather we were buddies

Get out of there now! Call the Domestic Abuse Hotline and report the behavior. The police should be informed, also. There are shelters for you and the baby who will keep you safe.

That’s where most women make their mistake is telling the man they’re leaving and that they’re taking the baby. Don’t say anything. Just go when he’s at work! Don’t worry about him. He’s got you believing he will hurt himself? Naw! He’s not! Don’t let him know where you are going and for the love of everything, don’t go back just because you are feeling like you can’t do it alone and because you “love him”. These actions you speak of and NOT love. He doesn’t love you if he’s doing the things you are describing. RUN LIKE HELL GIRL AND NEVER LOOK BACK! It will be worse if you don’t! It can save you and your baby’s life

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Girl just leave, get you a plan together an leave while he’s at work so there won’t be any confirtation… Do what’s best for your baby and yourself. Don’t allow your child to grow up around that. Prayers that everything turns out good for you and your baby

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Look up women’s shelters in your area they will help you get back on your feet take your BC, Social, baby’s documents. Do this when he is at work or “helping his co-worker”

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Yea don’t breathe a word or you or the babymay end up dead

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Run fast. Run hard. And don’t look back. When you doubt, look at that baby and ask yourself is it worth it?

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Don’t tell him, just run as fast as you can and don’t look back!