How do you mommas get anything done? My little one will be 1 year in 2 days and anytime my husband or I stand at the counter to cook or do dishes(no dishwasher) he stands between the counter and me/hubby and screams. If I put him on the other side of the baby gate he stands and screams there. I’ve tried distracting him with food while I do dishes or toys but it doesn’t work. Dishes have to be done my kitchen is small enough without dishes piling up.
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Ditto!!! I had 4 at home at the same time. All under 13. I literally have 2 now… a 16 year old here and a 1 year old. I can barely manage!! Don’t know how i managed before with the 4
Mine is the exact same way. Either I clean when he’s asleep, or wait until Dad is home to do what I got to do. No other way around it for us. And my child can cry non stop. He’s very determined.
I often put my daughter (11 months) in her high chair and put on some music. Give her a snack and some toys so I can get some dishes done. If I have to sing and dance while doing dishes to entertain her so be it. We make it fun lol.
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Let him cry. It’s not going to kill him!!
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We got a kitchen helper stand so our kiddos can help and be more on our level 
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I’ve learned to just do it… at first she screamed but she got used to it. I don’t like letting her cry but sometimes you just have to get things done. Granted my house is still usually a disaster…
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Nap times are the only times I can really get anything done and I have 2 under 2 and a 5 and 8 yo my 8 yo usually helps tho
Alanna Moore its not so bad, i have 4 10 and under. Theres always one crying about something. Its all about learning which crys you actually have to respond to and which ones will work themselves out 
Put him in his high chair let him see what your doing
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I do daycare and put on youtube nursery rhymes and make lil games when I have to do stuff
I have 4 kids 4 and under… put baby gate up, give them a toy or put cartoons on… they still cry, let them cry. You keep giving in and picking them up or showing them attention every 2 seconds then they’ll keep doing it.
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I know… i think im so much older now. It’s why it seems such a challenge. I’m tired… lol!
Crying never killed a kid. 
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The best advice I ever received from my mom was, “if they are crying, they are alive!”…it sounds harsh but I was a single mom and full time student when mine was that age. Although it may drive you bonkers at first just let your little one throw a fit while you tend to what needs to be done & maybe, eventually your child will realize the fits are getting them nowhere.
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Pots and pans to play with or open a drawer and put ladles and plastic spoons, spatulas in there. Mine loves playing in the drawer
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Mine does too, sometimes I have to stop and just care for him and get him set up with something he likes to do and a snack helps or get a chair and put it next to me and let them help in some way of pretend to help lol give them one bowl and a scrubby but my sons also almost 3 so just try and try again mama
I threw on a movie. Lol. Here’s your sippy cup…here are your baby cookie things, add some toys where the kid is as well…let me have 10 mins to clean up. Always worked.
When that failed. I let them cry. Eventually it stopped. Gotta get stuff done lol
Sometimes you just have to let them cry while you do things. As long as they can see you and you can see them and they are in a safe place.
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Get a baby swing that attaches to the door frame an sit him in it
Put TV on…give toys…sit in highchair with toys or snack… if u cave and give in to holding then they will keep doing it. A lil crying won’t hurt a kid.
My son is the exact same way. I usually put on “Little Baby Bum” nursery rhymes on Netflix, just long enough to do a load of dishes or wash laundry. Sometimes I’ll put him in his high chair with a snack as well.
I used to put my daughter on the floor with a wooden spoon and a couple of old pots to bang. Its noisy but worked for me
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Put him in his highchair and give him some toys. Or pots and pans to bang on. I use to sit my son on the counter to “help” sometimes. He most likely just wants to see what you’re doing and be in mix of things. Maybe while you’re washing dishes you could give a clean dish and a wipe so he can do what mommy does.
If you stop what you need to do every time because he’s crying you’re just reinforcing that throwing a fit gets what he wants and is more important than what needs to get done. Let him cry, he’ll be fine, after a couple times hopefully he’ll even realize it doesn’t get him any special attention anymore and give it up.
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It won’t hurt him to cry little bit. Give him a toy or choice or something to play with and let him cry 
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I have 3 kids 2 under 4 yrs old.
When its time to clean i seat them in the couch put a movie their favorite one (paw patrol)
Give them some snacks or just their bottle. And they are fine or i seat them in their highchair so they can see what im doing.
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He needs to learn to self soothe and start independent play time
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I lowered my standards with each kid. Lmao
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Put on a movie or do them during nap time!
I put a small tub with plastic cups and stuff for him to help me clean or play around
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For me I use the TV and/or books. I honestly hate to use tv but as a single mother without help I don’t have much choice. But when I do use the TV as a distraction I put on something educational. She loves the Planet Earth Documentary lol
Headphones and music if the music is loud enough you cant hear ur kid screaming it just looks like there singing along
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Lauren totally agree! Let them “cry it out” it also teaches them how to self soothe as well. My daughter will be 3 next month and she hates it when I kick her out of the kitchen so I can cook. She cries, screams, throws a fit, but within 5 to 10 minutes, she playing with toys or reading a book.
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I baby wore. But also mine still took 3 naps a day at a year.
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Wear him, then your hands are free!
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Just gently move him and keep doing what you need to do. I don’t react to screaming or I’ll leave the room.
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Turn on a show while cleaning/cooking, I normally turn on story bots on Netflix, it’s educational, teaches lots of things and my son absolutely loves it
Jossy Lopez I do the same thing I can get in maybe 30 min of cleaning before a bottle or more snacks need to be provided
Kristina Chin stolen this a heart idea, my son loves helping
I try to put on an educational show. I find that my son gets more entertainment from them. Just put on a show and ignore his crying. Show him that you will not give into the fit. It is hard and stressful but that is how I got my son to stop throwing a fit while I cook. Now my 4 month old daughter is going threw this.
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He has to learn to self entertain… My daughter is the same way. I give her a snack , a few toys or let her have at my tubberware cabinet
Just let him cry and scream. Sometimes you just gotta let the do it. He will learn that he has to entertain himself and you’re not giving in.
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Involve him, make him feel like he still has attention. Play while doing dishes it may be a lot slower but it may help coz it can be hard when your child screams and you don’t know how to solve it. Other then that all I can say is just keep doing what you think is right and could work. Good luck!!!
Maybe a fam member or friend can help out? When I must get house chores done, thankfully my mom comes over & watches LO’s (4yo & 6mo) so I can turbo clean! If I don’t have any help, it’s a miracle I get anything done! Just being mom to 2 kids is exhausting enough!
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My first 2 were 15 months apart . I had no help from my husband . It took me awhile to figure things out . Hang in there - things will get better 
U get up hr before they do and do it. When they nap u do it.
Or u have to allow him to figure it out. Leave the room. Wait until he stops crying and plays.
It depends on what u can handle…some parents cant handle cry it out method.
Keep using the baby gates and ignore him. He will realize he isn’t getting attention and get bored and go play.
Christine McMurray Dezember who is wearing a 1 year old? What the?
He has to learn to self soothe eventually. So it’s hard but you’ll kind of have to get used to the idea of not acknowledging the screaming. He is not hurt or in pain. He isn’t hungry he’s just wanting your undivided attention
Sometimes I wait to get some stuff done around the house til the kids go to bed, or down for a nap.
When it comes to cleaning I get my girls to help as they like to help with anything but my 2 year old has started the terrible twos stage and just tells me know and throws the biggest tantrums most of the time so I just put her on her bed and let her cry most of the time she will wither settle and calm down and just sit and play or she will fall asleep
I have a 7 month old that is very clingy to me, that he won’t even stay wth his dad sometimes. So when I can’t wash dishes, I usually leave it for the morning when i wake up to make his lunch. They are usually both in bed sleeping, so i have my alone time then. When my husband wakes up for work, the baby usually stays sleeping and I just crawl into bed with him so I can finish getting my 8 hrs 
Involve him. He wants to do what you’re doing too.
I used to give my kids plastic cups or containers and they were satisfied.
I also wore them on my back sometimes too.
My son always played with his toys or crawled under the table. Now at 3 almost 4, he’s wanting to watch us cook or always asking for something while we’re cooking or I’m doing dishes. We tell him no and that’s that. My problem is he won’t play in his room or sleep all night in there. I’m 21 weeks pregnant and my belly is growing…there isn’t enough room for all of us in my bed!!!
Wait til they go to bed
Try a baby carrier or just leave him in the other room screaming he’ll get used to it he’s not supposed to be over there time will tell
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let him scream get what you need to get done done he’ll never grow out of it unless you show him that he has to do what you tell him be firm or he won’t listen.
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Keep using the gate and ignore him. He will learn that him screaming isn’t going to change the fact that you can’t be right next to him all day every day.
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You’re a good mother that’s how you half to do it good recomendation.
I’d be talking to a paediatrician. Will he stop if he just ignore him. He knows doing that, you give in to him which is showing you aren’t in control
Good luck…my youngest started school today. First time in 8 years I’ve gotten to clean my house in peace.
I cant take it when my little one cries, breaks my heart and i was never the mom who ignored my babes either. Just not in me to be that parent. I find that wearing her in the Lille carrier helps and she gets to “help” mommy cook dinner. She just turned 1 today, although we’ve had our trying days most often she finds entertainment in the things that I do as well. She’s a fuss pot too when she’s not on top of me, that’s when I play her favorite songs on Alexa and she gets excited. That’s how I usually get my floors swept too 
you got this momma. You’ve done good so far 
Put your foot down. Crying won’t hurt him. He will also learn that crying and being dramatic won’t get him anything. Rewarding bad behaviour is dangerous. Do what you feel is right.
I would start conversations with my little ones and ask them questions. Talk to them. (Ud be very surprised how much their speech will do just by having normally human conversations while you’re busy) Tell them what you’re doing and why. It’ll make them interested in something solid instead of juat the lack of entertainment. Keeps them busy following and communicating too. (usually)
Let them help…put the child in their high chair, give them some of the soap suds with their play dishes and a small rag and they will enjoy it while you get the dishes done…even put a small amount of water on the high chair…same with the laundry, cooking etc…won’t hurt to try and involve them!!
Girl. I clean when my son is asleep. He is 19 months and will not let me do dishes or cook. He will stand between me and the counter and push me away yelling “mommy mommy momma ma mom” til I just give up and quit.
Play pen maybe with toys, crying never killed anyone though
Give him some plastic containers and lids to play with, spatula and things are so entertaining to kids
I used to put mine in a high chair with measuring cups, a rag and a small bowl of water so he could “help me”
His only a baby, he needs to be close. Id suggest baby wearing.
After having a very clingy child, I wish I tried this.
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girl I started the “let them cry/scream” the moment she was born lol and guess what? she already knows what time it is. not about to pick her up every second of the day because shes demanding it. she is also about to be 1. they know! you just have to teach them.
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Put in the pac@ play turn on the cartoon channel and toys just walk away and don’t say anything. You know is OK so let scream and he will stop when knows you aren’t paying attention to him,
Pop him in the high chair so he can see what you are doing
Ignore him… tell him no we don’t yell. Eventually he’ll get tired of trying and either find something else to do or try and “talk” not yell.
Do the dishes when he goes to bed my 2 year old is the same!
Brittaney Mosley There are several wraps that work for older kids…pretty common knowledge. Maybe Google it
Mine does that too. He just wants to be a part of what your doing. If I’m doing dishes I’ll let him play in some bubbles or let him “wash” a cup I’ve already cleaned. Just make him a part of what you’re doing.
I have a one year old and though it’s challenging to get things done we figure it out. She will watch cartoons and play while I do a lot, and if she gets too cranky than I take a break and play with her til she’s okay with me doing my thing again. I have a 7 and 11 year old so they help out a lot too with keeping her busy.
Maybe pull up a chair for him to stand on and let him try helping. My 3 year old now insists on helping with dishes, it slows me down, but he has to learn some time.