I’m a stay at home mom, I never really felt like I had post partum till now. I had to sell my car months ago to help pay for the bills. I stay at home by myself all day. None of my friends ever wanna talk? Or hang out. It was never a big deal before, but I’ve been feeling isolation big time. My boyfriend works all day, and when he comes home I feel like I don’t get the company I need because he is too tired to wanna hang out with me. Any other stay at home moms feel like this? Any tips how to get out of this horrible isolation funk???
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Same ,your not alone . I just started back on my depression meds to help bring me out of this funk .
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I am in the same boat…
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So sorry to hear. Completely understand. Message me if you want to talk.
SAME. I have three toddlers and talk to no one for months at a time (besides my husband)
Idk how to fix it cause I’m too exhausted to try lol 
and when I do get the energy I spend my energy on the kids cause I feel guilty for not being energetic with them earlier.
I feel like the right answer is supposed to be either meds, yoga, exercise, or putting yourself out there somehow. Idk
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Take your baby to the library they have reading time there and go to the park
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Get out with the baby. Walk to a park or coffee shop. Do it no matter how you feel. Smile at everyone. Really. Just do it!
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Find a hobby, sitting and feeling sorry for yourself will not help the situation get up and get motivated.
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Girl add me. I am a SAHM of 3. I am available to text or chat on messenger. You’re not alone. I got you.
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I babysit so I dont get this way 
weekends when I dont have kids are harder because my son is so independent and I’m 38 weeks pregnant with our second. I babysit to help with Bill’s and to give me something to do.
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Dude, was was there until I recently bought me a car with taxes… and I live in the middle of my town so I can easily walk to town with my baby in her stroller I’ve been a stay at home mom for 10 months… my bf works 6 days a week and doubles every Friday 5am- what’s supposed to be 7 but he never gets home til 8 8:30pm and by then my baby ready to go to bed
Hard to say, but there are ways. Just depends what you would get a kick out of doing. I go on walks with my kids, I read on my Kindle, I watch documentaries on my phone, I do my makeup, I take a bubble bath once my kids go to bed, just things I enjoy. Maybe plan a date for you and your boyfriend if you can get a sitter. Or just take yourself out once he gets home!
Sometimes when my husband gets home, I put dinner on the table and say “I’ll be back in an hour.” I run an errand or I just take a blanket and go lay in the grass, smile and meditate, I just do what feels right! The spontaneous aspect gives me joy! Being outside really helps me personally. And it’s healthy for the kiddo too. Get a little sandbox or swimming pool and just be in the sunshine. Sounds cheesy and some days I don’t feel like it, but I never regret it when I make myself do it.
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Yes I felt this a lot in the first couple years and still feel it over 2.5 years in. We don’t have family that watches our LO and therefor no time by ourselves unless little one is asleep and we need to go to sleep by a certain time to be up with her. It’s definitely hard and isolating especially for you because you’re alone with a child 24/7 and when your spouse is home to help it’s all about the child still. It can be a very lonely feeling. I never found my way out of it and still feel it at times. I try to keep in mind that this stage won’t last forever and my child won’t always want to cling to me and will one day be in school and worried about anything but her mommy. I’m looking for work now that LO is going on 3 years old. LO has been in daycare two days a week for a few months now which helps for me time but it’s still clean the house do the shopping when she’s not here. Try and connect with friends or a hobby. Sometimes I look at our child and think how precious and loving she is. This won’t always be her stage and she’ll only be this way once.
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Put the baby in a stroller and go for walks, to the park, to the library, play. ECT
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Try and get outside, go walking, go to the playground. Being outside in the fresh air does wonders for everyone. I’m a stay at home mom of 5 and my husband is a farmer so he’s gone before 7 and right now I’m lucky if he’s in by 12am, you just find things locally to do. My kiddos are 8,7,5,3,1 so keeping them busy and going to parks is always our go to, also it’s free and we pack a lunch.
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Same love your not alone at all 
my youngest is 8months as of yesterday and its still a struggle with pp . Im sorry it is hard mentally but i figure nobody can take care of my babies like i do so yep ! Im blessed my husband works so hard to make being a stay at home mama possible:heart:
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Same, Your definitely not alone… I’m up for new friends msg me anytime… It gets better as the kiddos get older I feel
Find or initiate play dates in your area.
Find a local mom group and see who wants to go to the park or something
Walk , read , local park. Mom groups church
I craft. I learn new things constantly to combat the isolation. I have two other SAHM mom’s and we try to meet up one every week or two but it’s hard lol we get tired, mo motivation to leave, babies aren’t cooperating.
Cherish this time with that baby. The time goes too fast and can never be reclaimed. Take it from a mom who’s kids are grown and the rushing in the working mom world is worse. I could tell you stories. You are blessed to be able to stay home. Get the stroller out and go out and converse with people. The availability of social media should be able to help. It is so easy to be sociable. There are groups for all interests. Any family near by? Join your neighborhood church and library. If there is a will, there is a way.
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I too am a stay-at-home mom and recently started feeling isolated I try to make it a point because I don’t have a car either to do something different everyday weather it take my daughter to the park near the house walking around the block string art project any type of those things kind of help I try to just surround myself with things I can do with my child and it’s helped me along the way
Just try to get out. Keep going even when you feel like shit. Smile Walk to park library, lake, beach, movie, play date area’s. Maybe try to find a park time job. Anything to just get out the house. This helps me. Even when I feel horrible I just make myself go. I normally start feeling like a normal person after a couple hours.
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Get a car. You need to get out sometimes too. Get a hobby.
Yes… I was working full time but bc of my baby sitting situation I haven’t been able to find a job that would work with my kids!! So now I’m home 24/7 with my 3 kids and then 2 more I baby sit some times my husband works constantly trying to build his company up to give us a better life one day and when he is home he is chilling listening to YouTube on tv or asleep or helping me with the kids… I don’t have any friends. My husband is my friend, my kids , and my husband’s friends… I don’t really talk to anyone but like 1 person and that’s rare… my sister every now and then. I understand extacly where u r coming from. But I just try to stay positive doesn’t work all the time but I’m making it until I can get back to work. I miss work… Lol
I completely understand how you feel. Im exactly in the same boat
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This isn’t post partum honey, this is unhappiness and loneliness. I went through the same thing. Now that my daughter is a little older and is starting to talk it’s a lot easier to not feel alone.
Time will make it better but make sure to talk to your man or a therapist if you feel it’s needed.
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I started taking up hobbies I didn’t usually have. I started pottery and painting. It helped me a lot.
When I feel like this I take the girls for a walk. Either down the road or through the woods in our backyard. I have no friends either. And my husband works a good bit. I write in a journal also. I write down w.e. I want. From my thoughts and feelings,to short stories,etc. It helps.
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I remember that feeling. I was sham for 10 years. Then worked part time for 10 years. It gets better as they get older and can talk. But enjoy this time it goes quicker than you think. I would do it all over again. My kids are 35 and 33. I miss those days. But get out as much as you can. It does help. Also talk to baby even if they can’t talk back. Good luck. You got this.
Yes, I was a stay at home mom…I loved it… Went to the park, where I met other Mom’s… Watched out children play, went home, ,& found plenty to do… Husband working lot’s of hours, he would always say, ( I’d rather work more, & have u home, )… Planned thing’s always to do … Never felt bored or down…
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All the time my kids are 13 and 17 and am always alone i work and go home everyday. My only day off is fridays and i set in the house nobody never ask me to join them only when they need soemthing it sucks big time plus am single mom
Find things you like to do make a business out of it. Im starting back up doing my crocheting and knitting that i used to sell now that i cant work anymore and with my first on the way.
Find a mom play group maybe that can attend couple times a week
Get outside. Literally try and get fresh air daily, go for walks, play with bub outside, eat outside, anything. Just being out in the air makes me feel better. Also if u can walk to the local park or playgroup?
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I am 72 now. But I remember being overwhelmed with all those feelings when I was 25 and had my first. What I didnt realize at the time was how very quickly it would all be over. It seems to me that all stages we go thru in life ALL end so quickly…HA even life itself. Seems like just the other day I was leaving for college. My point is these are all milestones. Some are harder than others. When you find one over…you miss it. Do you very best to remember this is all going to end so quickly.
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If you have a local YMCA use it . They offer a few hours a week of free childcare so you get some adult time and the exercise will help keep those baby blues away it takes about a year for your body to start functioning normal ( whatever that is) again.
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Right here! I’m looking for a part-time job for some extra money and my sanity 
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This is exactly how my postpartum manifests itself also. Its so rough, I’m sorry you’re going through that. The only thing that made mine better was time.
I use to take my hubby to work so I could have the car sometimes.
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This is how i feel too… It got bad around 4 months pp and better around 7 or 8 months and now were at 11 months pp and im feeling it again. The lack of sleep really brings it on for me i think.
you may need friends with different priorities now. like mommy friends. Try to meet friends and set a playdate with friends from your childs school or sports team.
I sure did, and, yes, it was a funk. I was a nursing mom drenched in baby milk, feeling fat & blah. Finally I told hubby I just needed a night out! The next day he called me & asked me out on a date. He asked my mom to watch our 3 kids and we got away for a couple hours. That helped me, anyway. Hope you can find that works for you!
Find a mom friend that’s going as bananas as you are. Are you by me? 
Pick up a hobby, like having a veggie garden or take up sewing or knitting. You get satisfaction from seeing a finished product
Maybe if you had one of those online support jobs.or whatever to earn your own money that might make you feel better.
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My life. I moved across the country and that made it worse. I’m sorry 
I’m in the same exact position and it really sucks!
Do something with yourself