I’m 8.5 months pregnant with my first child… I have a lot of anxiety and about the baby being “ok”. I guess what I really want to know, is how many expecting mothers fear the worst with their unborn child? Like birth defects, developmental delays, and things that are undetectable during pregnancy? I feel like I am constantly worried that something will go wrong or be wrong and I know every single woman wants a healthy baby, I just want to know how common my thoughts are? I’m constantly worried. And that alone worries me even more. Like undue stress I might be causing my little baby.
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Awhhh welcome to being a mom!! Those feelings are all natural to your mommy instincts!! I worried clear up until they handed me my son. I’d like to say once baby is here they subside but it honestly opens up a whole new world of worry! Lol try to relax, remind yourself that stress is harmful to baby! Find ways to keep busy! 
best of luck!
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Its normal. And it doesn’t ease up immediately after they’re born either.
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That is completely normal. I think you should ease your mind a little. It’s vey common to have those type of thoughts. Even if it wasn’t your first baby. Talk to your doctor about some concerns you might have. Everything will be alright.
Perfectly natural just remember anything that is already will still be. Your baby will be how ever they will be and you as a mom will take it in stride and love them just the same.
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My son had a fever last night at 18 months and damn thats exactly how I felt. Like what if something is wrong as my experiences with the er anytime hes been sick has been. Interesting. Last year two separate ers and his dr missed he had a severe form of rsv. But he was taken to a peds hospital and all was ok. They pull through even when sonething does come back wrong. Im sure you will have a healthy child. I was told in an hr long 2nd ultrasound that mine would have dwarfism maybe. Hes fine and just going to be short based on his genes. Youre baby will more than likely be more than just fine 
You’re not crazy I promise!! Normal until the baby is here and then you’ll be checking to see if they’re breathing 20x a night 
congrats 
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Try to keep yourself calm and remember what you feel, your baby feels! I think we all feel this way at some point in our pregnancy, but rest assured…it gets worse after they’re here 
You’re going to be okay, momma!
Yeah perfectly normal. Doesn’t go away either. Welcome to Parenthood lol❤
Not saying this will happen to you but I always asked for a closer look at my daughter’s heart. I had a bad feel but they said she was perfect. I had her and she was gray and rushed into heart surgery
That’s every women in the world! Lol
So normal. The closer I got to delivering my daughter, the more anxious I got and I was so worried that something would be wrong. She was more perfect than I could ever imagine. As I approach meeting my son next week… I am having all of the same fears. I stay awake at night, terrified of the “what ifs.” 
I know that no matter what happens, my heart will swell ALL of the love… and so will yours. <3
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It’s completely normal to worry just part of being a mom try to stay calm you will be fine
Pregnant with my 3rd and I’m still worried it’s just part of it all I think I’m more worried with her then I was with her sisters only difference is my age and my knowledge of the what ifs
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The last month of my pregnancy, I was swinging wildly between what ifs, maybes, and everything possible. I was so scared. Today, my little man is 1. I’m still worried, but it’s part of it. It gets easier. You’re not alone. Talk to your doctor. They can help.
It’s common once you see baby you will relax
Try not to stress and manifest positive thoughts. Sing to your baby, let the emotions flow when they come, it’s part of being a Mom. I’d recommend getting a midwife if you dont have one already. And/or dhoula if possible. You can also have testing and/or an ultrasound done to weed anything out. Just try to practice self care, therapeutic practices like listening to music ect. and gratitude daily and this will help alleviate the hormonal changes and stress that comes with pregnancy. Also make sure your taking an organic food based multivitamin AND DHA religiously and eat as healthy as possible. This helps tremendously.
I feel like this is something you should talk to your doctor about so he or she can put you at ease! Some worry is normal, however constantly thinking the worst And constantly worrying about the what if’s, is not, It isn’t good for your babys health. If you are thinking more negative and worrying thoughts than Happy and joyful then you need to speak with your OB. You certainly don’t want to spend your entire pregnancy feeling that way. For anyone to tell you it’s completely normal for you to constantly live in fear about your pregnancy is wrong. We are already 8 1/2 months pregnant though, so a bit late now
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I’m a first time mom too. My son just turned 3 years old this year. I still am constantly worried lol. I fear for the teens. 
You will always have them but you have to remember everything will be okay! You got this Mama Bear!
me! i checked my first everyday and night with a home HR doppler. but not til 22 weeks. and im 6 weeks pregnant with baby #2 still waiting for a miacarriage. im a nervous wreck! but this is how i was with my first. youll be fine.
It’s normal with every pregnancy however, the first is the hardest.
Every pregnancy I get more paranoid about what can go wrong.
Hello little momma, this is so very normal. Your gonna be stressed for 18 years. So do yourself a favor and put this to the back burner. Think of happy things ie, your sweet baby in your arms. Giving your baby all your love. Her pretty smile. It will be ok, think happy thoughts, practice breathing. In thru your nose out through your mouth, _slowly ! Also practice relaxing all body joints. Start neck, shoulders down hips, arms, legs. Bend each joint a little, extended = stress. Good luck. You’ll be fine.
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Every single one of us.
I found it hard to believe my baby would actually be alive. But he’s 3 months old and perfect. I had a fear he wouldn’t make it out of the hospital. It’s normal!!!
Welcome to Motherhood😆 You’ll be worried about your child/children for the rest of your life.
Its normal. I’m on my second and I constantly fear of things that could go wrong.
It’s normal to feel that way. I always did. Just try and focus on good things. Labor was the worst part of worrying for me. I was always scared that I was gonna die during birth or my children would… That was literally the worst
It is absolutely normal.
That said, just because it’s normal doesn’t mean it doesn’t help to talk to someone. Perinatal anxiety is a real thing. If you’re worried - maybe mention something to your OB or your therapist the next time you see them.
Being a parent is intensely stressful. Being pregnant is insanely stressful. You’re already doing a wonderful job. 
You will love that baby even if it has something “wrong” the baby will be perfect in your eyes and you will Concur it all with love! Your going to do great!
P.S you are completely normal!
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Worrying about your childs health just means you’ll be a good mom.
Once they’re born you’ll start worrying about a bunch of other stuff you cant control. Lol there is no relief once they get born, just worry more 
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I have 5 n i worried with all of em …after you have em you’ll worry about SIDs and vaccines n when they start walking you’ll worry about concussions n how many times they hit their heads n is it causing brain damage and if its boys oh man…especially hyper active boys lol…n then school will start n you’ll worry if they are meetimg bench mark n bullying and if they are eating enough food and what kind of food does the school provide, should you pack lunches? And then they get to junior high n you worry about sports or the fact that your kid has no interest in them and then you’ll worry about peer presassure and is your kid gonna smoke pot? Then its highschool and you’ll worry abput girlfriends and boyfriends and sexuality and sex education and should you tell em about periods and sex or will their friends and school be enough ? (You should tell em just a fyi lol) Omg and then they go to college! And youll worry about parties and drugs and alcohol and weather or not they actually attend any classes and the school does not tell you because by law they are grown and trust me they think they know it all…and the best we can do is be there for the crash when they find out they don’t lol…the worry never ends as a mother …NEVER. Be prepared for the next 18 years(well really the rest of their lives but only 18 of them that you will be responsible for lol) of constantly worrying and checking stoves and doors and baby proofing (and realizing baby proofing does nothing for the determined toddler lol) congratulation and welcome to motherhood …i wouldnt trade a second
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It’s totally normal, you’re walking into the complete unknown. It does get better with time though.
I feel exactly the same and my dreams dont help at all.
Take it from someone whose child has Down syndrome, you would love your baby with all your heart regardless if something is “wrong” with it. I knew in my heart my son was going to have some problem. People said it was a normal fear but I wasn’t surprised when I found out prenatally that he had DS. Many people would have had an abortion but I already felt him kick and loved him. Health conditions and developmental delays can be treated medically and through early intervention. Fears of conditions like DS and other developmental delays are based on outdated information. Kids like mine are being included more and are thriving. Your fears are normal but please know that having a child with something “wrong” isn’t the end of the world. It actually opens you up to more compassion and love that you may have never known otherwise. My son is the light of my life and the best thing to ever happen to me.
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Normal AF!!! I think EVERY woman has felt like this being pregnant… Try not to worry though… I felt this way w all THREE of my pregnancies.
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I cried alot about a month before the baby came. It’s normal, you care so deep and have so many hormones flowing… When the baby comes, then it’s omgsh my coffee… I gotta move it 1000 ft away… And still think the worst possible scenario.
My first question after baby comes out is always is he Ok? He is ok, does he have 10 fingers and 10 toes? I always want him accessed by staff before given to me.
Just relax, enjoy your pregnancy
Relax momma. God will take care of you.
Totally normal! I worried too bc im an older mom. I used to have terrible nightmares about the condition of my unborn son. It’s just part of being pregnant. You’re totally normal so don’t worry.
First time mom here. 31 weeks along. Closer I get, the more I worry about it
normal to feel anxious! I was that way with both my kids. They’re now 14 and 12 and perfectly healthy. Just hang in there mama.
I was so paranoid that I even tried not to get too excited. Honestly the worries would keep me up at night. But I thank my blessing every singe day, and have two perfectly healthy children. I guess it’s natural to worry… be vigilant and you will be okay.
You’re a mom. That’s what we do! 
My daughter is 32 and I still worry about her
It’s totally normal. I’m 34 wks with my first boy. This would be my 4th child and I still overthink everything lol… and worry. All my kids were healthy and okay but I still just keep overthinking.
Its completely normal. The moment you hear your baby crying right after birth lets you know everything will be ok and then you feel that rush of deep breaths afterwards and KNOW you’ve got this in hand. Praying for you and your anxieties and hope the best for you.
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