Find a youth crisis center they have residential programs that will help.
Iâd call the police out and show them them destruction to your new stuff. Find out what is what .
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In most place sheâs actually right that you canât kick her out until sheâs 18.
Send her to me. She needs redirection. And lots of prayer.
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I would start calling the police on her for destruction of property but tou have to be and stay strong its not easy and so very stressful.
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She should have had her butt spanked, she has no respect
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Absolutely not! Being that rebellious teen, Iâm grateful for what my mom did⌠If you have ever heard of love and logic that is a great start to getting a handle on her. One of the biggest things is curfew. Dont let her go out/ stay out past like 10 or 11, and if sheâs not in by that time lock her out. Dont allow her back on for her clothes in the morning. If she has a car, take away her driving privileges and donât stress it. Get one of those sliding locks on the door.
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Tell her she wants to act like an adult - fine. She wants to live there and trash her room - she can pay rent and pay for her own things.
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Teen challenge is a great program for at risk teens
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You sound like a horrible mother. You donât just toss your kid because theyâre being bad. Her behavior is a direct reflection of your parenting. You have obviously fucked up somewhere and considering you donât seem to be compassionate or empathetic and you jump to kicking her out rather than talking to her or trying to stand in her shoes, Iâd say itâs because youâre shitty and youâre never there for her. And if sheâs your grandchild and you have custody of her then sheâs obviously had a rough life with no one being there for her. Children who have a rough time communicating anything other than anger usually come from parents or guardians that also donât communicate with them. I have been in her shoes, my father didnât communicate with me.
As someone who was the rebellious 16 year old with an extreme anger issue and âhatingâ my parents. Iâm guessing that there is a lot more going on in her life then she is letting on.
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Tough love is what she needs.
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All Iâm saying is if she were to be picked up with something illegal in her pocket she would prob spend from now till 18 in juvenile detention and your problems would be solved 
but thatâs just a hypothetical situationâŚ
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I cant believe all the âparentsâ on here so quick to say lock her up, have her stay at the boyfriends⌠even so far as lock up all the food!!! Wtf??? Does any one.person with such harsh comments know the back story to this young lady??? Didnât think so. So, you said youâre raising your grandchildren and Iâm assuming there was a problem with the girls parents or something g drastic that lead to this. Isnât it entirely possible she is acting out due to any number of emotional instabilities of feelings of bottled up anger and or resentment!!! Children that act out this bad usually do so for an underlying reason that could possibly be helped by some counseling, both individual for her and then also family sessions to work through all this. Also no telling g how this girl was raised and what she has been through. A little understanding goes a LONG way in something g like this. Oh and this is heartfelt advice from a woman who was once a young girl like herâŚmaybe not so extreme, but I had alot of issues growing up that stemmed from emotional issues that were never addressed. Please consider counseling for her before you act out in anger or resentment and potentially make it worse. P.s not making excuses for her or in ANY way excusing her behavior at allâŚshe sounds waayyyyy out of control and it isnât ok by any means. But also sounds like she needs help
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Sounds like this is the grandparent. So there is definitely deeper issues and therapy should be discussed before kicking her out. Sheâs angry and if she is kicked out it is going to tell her she isnât wanted and Iâm assuming she is already missing something from her mother and father.
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Have you tried putting her in therapy. Also, if she is being destructive or violent, keep calling police. If a 11 yrcold can be charged as an adult for murder in this country, she can be held responsible for herself. Remind her adults earn respect. Behavior like hers shows immense immaturity. There are group homes or impatient mental health treatment facilities she could be placed in. Let her know, yup I am responsible for your safety so if you dont act safely,I will have to place you somewhere secure for safety.
Everyone saying sheâs acting out for a reason not all teens need a reason. I was an ungrateful lil bitch for a few years. My parents are great and always have been. Their last straw was destroying their property. Dad whooped my ass and my mother packed my shit. They put me out with the boyfriend I thought was sooooo wonderful at the time.
they kept an eye from a distance. But itâs what I needed.
That was almost 15 years ago and since then I have nothing but respect for my parents.
They took the other route with my sister.
Word of advice. It didnât work out very well for any of them 
raising her 2 kids and a very long drug history. Thousandsof dollars and pawned family Heirlooms we will never get back.
Nip it in the ass NOW!
Everyone saying its grandmaâs fault and she needs more attention missed that there are 3 other grandkids in the house.
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down here in ms. in perry county a person has to voluntear to go to boot camp
Honey you deserve better
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I was kicked out at 13 and the police okayed it
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Depending on some states 17 can be considered and adult I would check the laws in your state cause if itâs 17 you can legally kick her out at 17!
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You may not be able to kick her out, but you damn sure can call the cops due to her unruliness!
Call the police when she doesnt come home. If she wants to play those âpolice rulesâ games, hit her back with them!
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Get a CHINS (Child In Need of Services) you go to the courthouse and ask the clerkâs office to help you.
If sheâs not in school and she still living there make her get a job if she doesnât have one alreadyâŚ
Curfew, house rules, chores and she is in your house⌠she needs to go by your rules. if she doesnât like it she can go live with her boyfriendâŚ
Take away her pride and joy things⌠Her tablet, phone, computer, car keys, ability to go out with boyfriend and friendsâŚ
or if you feel like sheâs 17 almost 18 and she needs to get out and do her own thing if sheâs not in school you can legally do itâŚ
I personally would do the first part but if any of my kids would act like that I beat their fucking assesâŚ
I wouldnât kick her out for being reblious but def make her pay rent. And possenion is law so everything in her room is yours.
scared straight jail for a couple days
Send her to therapy h take away her privileges⌠car? Take her keys. When sheâs not home by curfew, have the police pick her up. If push comes to shove, have dcs vome get her. You canât properly take care of the other kids if u have the oldest vandalizing things & running over u
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I called the police when one of my kids threatened me and they basically told my kid that if I canât control him, they would put him in a place where he will be controlled, one way or another. It was a great wake-up call for him and he didnât make threats againâŚ
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You can kick her out. Just go about it the right way. You have your other grands to look out for. Iâm sorry youâre dealing with this. She has some issues that need intense professional help.
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So sorry you are going through that. Itâs time for tough love. Put her in a locked facility for juveniles that offer intense therapy.
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See you at Beverlyâs about right try to help her before put her out on the streets
So sorry your going through this go to your GP and they will put you in touch with the correct people, sounds like their may be some mental health issues, TRK might be a good start
Call DSS and explain what she is doing and make her become an âemancipatedâ minor
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Is she doing anything thatâs actually illegal or a threat to anyoneâs safety?
Kick the little bitch out.if she got no respect for use tell her to go live with her bf
Call youth services,and tell them everything and you canât handle her anymore.They should take care of her.If not call police on her Everytime she gets out of hand.Evintually Youth Services will have to take over.Thats DeSoto Countyâs way of doing things
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You can put her ass in a program. Look up your local ones and have em come get her. State property.
There is always the option for trouble teens. They have something in every state like ycp
Iâm sorry call the tyrant office out they will set her straight tell them she untrollable an you need help! They 'll help you ! Take everything away from her every her b3droom so it an when donât com3 back at night report as a,run away can your responsible for her until 18 years of age! Good luck God bless you guys
It sounds like she thinks she can do whatever she wants and doesnt understand consequences. I was rebellious and did similar things when I was younger. I did have an abusive father though. I had issues but that didnât make my behavior okay. If she wants to act how she wants, let her deal with the consequences. Out past curfew? Call the cops. Wanting to vandalize? Cops. At that age and with that behavior theres only so little you can say to change her ways. The best way for her to learn is to deal with the hardships. I went to several group homes, had the cops pick me up several times. Ran away, snuck out. Etc. My parents would lock me out of the house If I had left. Even went so far as to seal my windows closed and lock the rest. Had to sleep in a friends bus during Wyoming winters which was not fun. But itâs what I needed. I came to my senses sooner than later and committed myself into a behavioral institution to fix my life.
17 is grey area they call itâŚbut u can use police for your side tooâŚu donât have to deal with abuse eitherâŚand in Michigan she canât be kicked out but Iâd def make her know there r laws on abuse and child safety for your other 4 as wellâŚ
All u gave to provide is food clothing shelter n water
Dont know why she thinks you cant kick her out. Call social services and tell them she is out of control and you fear for yourself and your grandchildren
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No I d say u can stay BUT, u must pay for ur meals, laundry etc. Nothing n life is free, except love, respect, n understanding! She needs to respect u both n then she can earn it repect. Take her to the streets, show her homeless camps, soup kitchens. Ask her if this is what she wants for herself, because without ur help she ll end there! Set rules that she must obey by. Otherwise put her bed n the cellar or attic. Give her a bit of tuff love. Unless u put some kind of plan into effect she will walk all over u. Or simply tell her pack her bags n show her the door. Sheâs doing this because she doesnât think u ll throw her out
If she goes, she ll realize how lucky she is at home. Explain she ll have to get a job drop outta school, n struggle rest of her life cuz without an education her income wonât b enough to survive on n she ll never b able to get new ve clothes nevermind food. Mite b good idea ask a counselor for suggestions. Good luck to u. I hope she figures out how very lucky she is to have parents who care!
Call CPS ! Usually itâs for the chids safety but they can and will come out and help with parental abuse which is what this is.
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You could file unruly charges against her. Sheâs still a minor so you canât kick her out on the street. Or legally if you can that seems like a crap human thing to do.
Would you rather her living at her boyfriends and getting knocked up and wasting her life. You need to sit down and have a conversation where you donât talk down to her. Donât start with ranting either. Ask her about her aspirations, goals, dreams, future etc. then help her build a plan to get there and help her enact the things she needs to. You trying to control is what is making her rebellious. She needs to feel in control of her life but by giving her that it helps you build trust and a foundation of emotional support. She needs to see what her life could end up like if she kept going down this path or chose to make a new one. Youâre not bring a parent by kicking her out. Youâre being a failure to this child.
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Tell her to emancipate herself.
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Changed the locks, when she breaks in file charges and get a stay away order problem solved
Send her to the youth home.
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Get the police and social services involved.
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How old is her boy friend
This will certainly piss many of you off, but I really donât g2s.
I am a mother to 4 healthy and sucessful adult children & 12 G- children from 1- 18yo. I HAVE seen/done it ALL!
You have a very spoiled, overly entitled, jealous, young lady on your hands;
But to be safe,
medically R/O any mental illness; eg. Depression, anxiety, narcissism, sociopathic behavior, or even PTSD your unaware of.
Iâm seeing way too many âsoftâ and, too hard solutions offered on this thread. Many options youâre given may not coinside with your state laws. You need to learn them!
Simply kicking them out, especially of minor age can put your family in liability of neglect/abuse, not to mention involving law and social services that can make your life a nightmare and also risking losing your grandchildren.
In addition, putting them on the street or submitting her to state care/ custody only puts more burden on society, (dare I say- us tax payers), and worse, can hurt her further, exposing her to possible drug, criminal, or an abusive existence. Iâm not trying to be calus, but she IS your responsibility.
Iâve dealt with teens who have no regards or respect of anything or anyone if it doesnât benfit them. Iâve also dealt with teens who have been very enabled by their parents only to discover they created a monster. You have to decide if you have any accountability in that, or again, is she just an entitled little ass! How have you disaplined her in the last 10 yearâs? Is the attention your grandchildren require a problem? Itâs a crucial time for teen girls to need their parents, even though they wonât admit it, and will act out horribly if mom and dad a forcefully distracted taking care of others.
My sister in law became a runaway, stealing drug addict when her mother had to take care of HER dying mother for a year. She ended up In state custody for 4 years.
Put her on youth at risk. Most counties have a youth at risk (or similar) program. You file contemptâs when theyâre being disrespectful little shits, you go to court, and she goes to juvie for a week for each contempt. I know because my mother did that to me and my brothers. We didnât clean our rooms the second that she told us to⌠we went to juvie.
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Send her to a youth shelter
Sounds like she needs a belt across her butt⌠Call the cops if she isnât at home by curfew and they will take her from who ever she is spending the night with and bring her home. You need to show her that she canât walk over you. That is how she will end up pregnant or get her butt beat by someone else or worse. If she runs into the wrong person she could get put in the hospital or killed.
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Call cops send her to Tobin for unruly child show her you mean business dont take that crap
call the dang cops. she should not be treating yall like that. keep calling them until she and them get tired of u calling n getting her for breaking curfew. see if there is a program u can put her in (like boot camp or so forth). call cps. itâs just going to keep getting worse until sheâs pregnant n ur taking care of a fifth grandbaby or sheâs witj the wrong guy n doing something worse she keeps doing it cuz she thinks u arenât going to do anything. tough love momma
File unruly teenager charges against her and she will stop are go to jail
I thought that there was a law for elder abuse as well as child abuse.turn her in for it or call social services to find out what to do.i raised my two oldest grandchildren I had to send one to her mother I couldnât take anymore.
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Take her on dr. Phil. He will get some help for her
Get the proper authorities involved. There are childrenâs homes that deal with children like her. Do not put yourself through that. My husband and I work at one of the childrenâs homes and thatâs what they are there for. It will only get worse if not dealt with!!!
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Do what you feel is right
Myself Iet no one take over my house hold
I have that this myself.
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I left home at 17 and was in hostels (wasnât me being rebellious it was family issues and for my safety I had to get out) sheâs at a age where social can accommodate her, she will learn what it is like to live in the real world and on her own, not in the comfort of mum and dad. It will teach her alot of good that she needs, sheâs hit a curb teenager going crazy thinking she can do as she pleases. By all means when she leaves donât help her I know it sounds mean but she needs to learn the hard way of not taking the piss with her parents.
Take away priveledges they are NOT covered by law, t.v. ,phone, privacy like removing her bedroom door, cerfew, if sheâs not home by a certain time lock her out Evan if it means an extra lock on door/ windowâŚshe will move out on her ownâŚ
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Should have been whooping that ass! Wouldnât have this issue
Call it abuse, right or wrong, but be it my kid, a good swift ass kicking is in order.
Not like a bloody free for all, but it could come to that if she is bold enough to push it!
Sheâll want to call the police, my son did at age 14 when he thought he was bigger and called me a bitch when I made him do, (his turn), the dishes. I bitch slapped him but good! Call me names in my house wonât fly!
I replied to his threat this way:
Go ahead! Let me inform you of what will happen.
When the cops show up Iâll be kicking YOUR ass in the front yard and I will tell them about your asnine behavior.
Iâll go to jail; Fine!
Youâll go to juvenile detention.
Youâll be stuck there until a Court date comes. Youâll be examined by Phycologistâs and it will feel like prison. Youâll lose all freedoms until âtheyâ decide what to do.
Iâll bail myself out that night, because I have a job & money and be home watching TV.
You decide!
Now do the dam dishes and shut up!
He is an army vet, husband, father of 2.
My point is sometimes you have to stand your ground and make them understand the real consequences that are at stake. I never beat my children but I dam sure didnât put up with a smart mouth and disrespect of my home! I donât care how old yâall are. Remind her sheâs never so big that your foot wonât go up her ass! Then get to work and make her clean up what shes destroyed!
I know you love her. But real love is tough!.
Good luck.
Yes you can kick her out. She may be a minor, but Iâm pretty sure you can kick her out.
I donât know where you are but there is a place called Link crisis center that deals with unruly kids too, my friend had an out of control daughter she sent there. They kept her til she was 18 from time she was 13 & pregnant
You can petition your juvenile court thatâs sheâs incorrigible
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If she is using bad language around younger kids thatâs enough for the cops to take her out of the house. You need to put the fear of God in her.
Donât know what state your in but in Missouri at 17 they are considerate adults
Take the tires off her car, take everything out her room but her bed and clothes and when she gets a attitude say well there is bread and water for dinner or get the fudge out stop you are the parent ither she follows your rules or she can go
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If she thinks she is old enough to throw her fists. She is old enough to be thrown out. Let her see how hard it is to throw her fists somewhere else.
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Put her in a boot camp or surrender her to the state. She will end up in a group home and realizing how good she had it.
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Call your local sheriffâs department and see if they will come out and talk to her. Maybe, they will scare some sense into her. If not, Iâm sure you can talk to the juvenile court and see what your options are.
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Show her she is accountable for her actions. I would call Dhr and tell them sheâs their problem. You have choices. Cold hard love works for me.
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I am guessing this started earlier and maybe not addressed cause of the grandkids. âTough Loveâ do what you think is best, but possibly that bootcamp that was talked about. She will be taken care of plus getting discpline. I am always torn about throwing a teen out âŚ
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I donât mean to be rude, but yâall must be scared of her. Yâall need to put a belt to that a** and put the fear of God in her if she canât get it together it will be on the other side of the door. Kids donât realize how good they have it she will come to once the swelling goes down.
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Thereâs a reason sheâs acting out like this.
Is your husband her father or her stepfather?
Something is going on, and throwing her out wonât help her.
Have you taken her for counseling or to see a psychiatrist? Get her some help, donât turn your back on her, sheâs your daughter!
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She is right. You can not kick her out until she turns 18 by law. If u kick her out cops will bring her right back to your house and keep bringing her back. My parents tried kicking me out more then once when I was younger and cops just kept bringing me back telling them to grow up pretty much. Its kind of sad because you should not have to deal with the child treating you guys like that. I have grown and learn from my mistakes and I regret the way I ever treated my parents
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Id send her to a place for unruly kids.
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Take her to court house before a judge give her to the state let them take care of her. Her spirit needs to be broke
She says, she says, how about you say whatâs going to happen for now on. You both need to be the parents and be the ones to speak up and tell her whatâs what. Not the other way around. In Texas at 17 you can be considered an adult, Iâd look into it.
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Emancipation of a minor, followed by eviction proceedings is what you want to look intoâŚ
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She needs her ads whipped
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Let her move out. As a parent of 5 I can tell you different children are ready at different times. But there is one major rule. When she moves out sheâs responsible for herself. You are always there for her but she will have to stand by her decisions. And it will be hard. Life is hard sheâs gonna want things.
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I got kicked out at 17 for unruly behavior and guess what all the state did was stick my butt in a foster home til I turned 18. Thatâs it.
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Hey assholes, she obviously posted this to be posted here to hear others advise and experience⌠Not to be belittled and made to feel like shit smmfh, most all of us have or will go through something similar, quit fuckin judging!!
Take away everything but a mattress and pillow for her to sleep on. (Of course not necessities/hygeine things). Go commando. She needs the shock. Then earn back things
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You cant kick her out legally however you also do not have to allow her to take over. Take away all extras, tv, phone, none essential food (such as snacks), take bedroom door off hinges.
Make her an appointment with a counselor/therapist.
Give lots of praise for positive behavior. Anything that is good, positive or right praise no matter how small.
Set aside time for just her.
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Spoilt punk is she⌠Bag her shit, change the locks and letâs see how she rolls knowing yall kicked her to the kerbâŚ
Take her phone. go into her room and take out anything she can write on the walls with. If she says âu canât go into my roomâ tell her âyes we can unless u want to start paying billsâ in the mornings when she comes home from her boyfriendâs to get ready for school make sure the door is locked have her backpack outside before school. Shell soon realize yâall r bosses of the house. She needs to follow ur rules. My grandmother is 68 yrs old and if u disrespect her in her house, if ur old enough uâll get slapped and yelled at to get out of her house. Her daughterâs wouldnât dare disrespect their mother no matter how old they r. The youngest grandchild is 13 and he makes sure to say thank u ma and give her a kiss and hug good bye. Iâm 20 and make sure my 3 yr tells his great grandma thank u plz and give her a hug and kiss good bye and he does I donât have to force him because heâs being taught to respect ur elders and any person for that matter
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Answer is no if you canât control her turn it over to juvenile delinquents theyâll controller for you then she wonât be so funny if she likes your boyfriend that bad let her go stay with him but she wouldnât be right down my walls Iâll guarantee you that
Tell her that room isnât hers the room is approved at you give her it is not something she owns you on it and if she canât respect then kick her ass out
Emancipate her. You can also get a restraining order on her. Or take all her shit and put it in storage and only give her the bare necessities. Donât give her a house key and lock all doors and windows at a certain time every night. Donât let her back in. Donât give her her things back unless she deserves them. Make her life a living hell following the law. Legally you have to feed and clothe her but nothing else. So do nothing else. Strip her belongings and freedom.
Mattress on floor, door gone. Welcome home
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She sounds like sheâs never had a good kick up the ass. Your never to old for that. Pull her disrespective little butt into line.