It might be frustrating but consistency will work… keep him in underwear. Pull ups are nothing but expensive diapers that do more hindering than helping. I work in pediatrics and one of the doctors I nurse for told a parent the other day infact “I’ve been doing this for 40 years and ever since pull-ups came on the market I’ve noticed a 15% increase of potty training delays in children that used them and who would still have daytime accidents into age 4 and bed wetting issues at age 6-7 years old.
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Make him clean it up my son finally pooped on potty when he realized anywhere else he had to clean it
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I’m not a fan of prizes for potty, but it can sometimes work. My oldest didn’t potty train until he was 4. Just one day at home he took his pull up off and went potty. He’s 30 now.
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He isn’t ready. He doesn’t get it yet. Give him a few months and try again. Don’t force it or you will go backwards and prolong it further.
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Every kid is different and takes their own time to be ready. The American Association of Pediatrics says many kids won’t fully master potty training until well into their fourth year. And as toddlers, control over what they can control starts to become a huge issue. And controlling their bowel movements (e.g., keep it from happening) can lead to constipation and other issues if you push too hard and they try not to go or they’re embarrassed because they made a mess. It will happen with time. Keep giving him the opportunities and positive encouragement but try not to make too big a deal of it, so he doesn’t get ashamed about it or try to control it too much. You got this, Mama!
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Following, same boat
Give him time and let him go at his own pace. Pushing the issue is going to make him resist more. Every kid is different. My son didn’t have any interest whatsoever until he was 3. When they want to do it, it will go much easier.
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We got a potty chair that looks just like a miniture toilet that has a handle that works just like a big toilet and it makes a flush sound and it worked wonders when I went to the bathroom she would go at the same time.
We were having the same issue but that potty chair was a god send
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My son used the potty to pee from about 18 months old… Didn’t poo in the toilet until he was about 4. He would ask for a nappy do his business and then come to me to get changed.
I told him they stopped making his nappies and he help on for 5 days before needing an enema to clear out the blockage.
Just let him be, it will be very unlikely that he will be in school and still doing this.
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My sons all learned to pee off the back porch I couldn’t handle the puddles all over the toilet lmao 
they potty trained super fast all in the summer time of course but we will deep in the woods so I don’t have to worry about creeps watching my kids either
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My daughter is the same way, she will pee no problem on the potty but she will not poop. Lol she would rather shit her pants or sneak a pull up on and do it.
Let him run around naked. Works like a charm.
Consistency and less talk about it. Don’t ask if he has to go say its time to go and have him try if he doesn’t go its fine high five and move on. If he goes pee or poop make the biggest deal ever and dance and cheer for him. Every single time. Leave em naked waste down and watch him like a hawk for signs of pooping and take him straight away to toilet even if he starts before 
the fear is just doing it first time…lol idk how long people who wait til kids are ready will wait, but can’t see waiting past 3. Thats so long. I think kids are truly ready when you will be consistent and don’t back off. No punishment for accidents and no shaming. Consistency and practice makes perfect.
My oldest took 6 months before he would go on the potty. I stopped making a big deal about it when he would poop in his underwear. I would just say “oh man you missed the potty, let’s try again next time” or “oh no you pooped on paw patrol, maybe next time we try to make it.” Trying not to get mad because they didn’t go in the potty. For whatever reason pooping on the potty is a struggle, be it the splash after the poop drops in or what it is just something they have to work up to.
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All my kids so far have done this. He’ll outgrow it. Keep trying a rewards system and encourage him. He’ll get it soon.
Have lots and lots of patience! My son will be 3 and a half in just a week and he isn’t fully trained yet! Potty is coming along great but poop is so so,it’s a long process but boys generally do take longer to potty train
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My daughter was exact same for almost six months per in potty or big toilet but only poop in pull-ups and she would hold that poop in until she got the pull-up on and I just stopped paying attention and bit the bullet one day and never bought any more pull ups so she had no choice as there was none around , we had a couple of accidents at night with wetting bed but after two weeks she was absolutely fine
he’ll do it when he’s ready, just continue to offer it and encourage him but don’t force him. u don’t want it to be a bad experience for him. imo there’s an average but no set age when they should be potty trained. i have 4. two went when they were 2. one went at 3, and another went at exactly 1 yr and 2 days old, so don’t worry, whenever he’s ready u won’t even have to tell him
It’s hard. Toddlers are savage 
. I get it . Toddlers are weird like that sometimes. He may not like the poop sensation. Don’t be hard on your self or him. This why they usually say pre school before real school is a great idea
My son was like that we just gived it a break but keep asking does he need toilet and tried again a few months later. We ended up doing a sticker reward game with dinosaur toy at the end.
I started potty training my two year old yesterday, and we ran into this issue. I put towels in front of the toilet to catch any pee, and within a few hours, he was learning how to reposition himself to get it into the toilet! Just let him figure out how to aim.
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I have two older girls and this is my first boy. He’s 2 been potty trained 100% since 1 
. I actually didn’t use a potty seat. I put him on the seat backwards and just stuck with it and said over and over each time until he understood how to do it on his own “hold your dinker down” plus when they are backwards their legs are more open so they tend to lean forward making their privates point down so they don’t pee all over lol
I used cheerios or fruit loops, put 3 or 4 in the toilet and had him try and pee on them. N he was potty trained after that.
Get him a lil boys urinal amazon sales them. It has a spinning thing that encourages them to aim there
I just tell my son to push his peepee down.
My son has been using the potty since about 3. Pee only. Would not poop. He would hide and poop in his pull up or underwear. He turned 4 last Thursday and told me he’s a big boy now and is fully using the potty. They go at their own pace. Won’t even let me put a pull up on says he’ll poop in the potty.
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Good luck, every parent and child are different. A trick I used… fruit loops… put a few in the potty, have him make it in the circles. Leave a few next to the potty for next time.
He two still. Slow down boys take longer.
Always gave my kids a toothbrush while they sat on the potty. Worked.
Just not ready yet!!
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He’s 3
Quit rushing or pressuring.
Watch Daniel Tiger & Sesame Street potty episodes. & Read books about using the potty.
Don’t “discipline” but have him help clean up while telling him it’s YUCKY & highly praise him when he does use the potty.
Most of all just keep working on it but also give it time. Use lots of patience & love.
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We think telling kids about being big and being like us is encouraging, but unfortunately for a lot of little humans that’s a big scary concept, as they see our lives and responsibility and pressure and really when your 3 the role of adult can be terrifying 
so those words can actually be quite discouraging and not motivating at all.
If he’s not getting it as this stage it just means he’s not ready
#mumoffive❤️
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I was given the best advice and I pass it on to everyone I know! “This is the only thing your child has control of. Do not worry they won’t talk down the aisle in diapers!”
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He’s showing signs he isn’t ready. The more you force it the harder it’ll be. Back off for a month, don’t sit him on it don’t talk about it then jump back in
My son turned 3 in March and I’m in the same boat
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My grandson was the same way…he was about 4 1/2 years old before he finally got the hang of it. He is just probably not ready yet .
All kids potty train at their own pace. Trust me he will do it on his time. You have taught him. I would read him the Elmo potty book or watch a learning video on. He will get it. We did not push our son because of his speech delay. When he about 4 years and 4 months he potty trained in two weeks. And fully with night time and pull up within a month. Got rod of nuk and blankie at same time. Our Daughter was 3 1/2.
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I did this with a girl…and it worked. may be different with boys…may need a man for this part. Take them to the bathroom with you. Do your stuff. Dont make it weird. Dont ask if he wants to do it too…just let him see how going to the bathroom works. Make it a routine. If him seeing someone else just getting it done, flushing, washing hands, make it boring but necessary.
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The boys are extremely hard from my experience I had 3 girls then my son so even when his dad showed him it didn’t click until he started daycare and he was potty trained within a week & a half! They told me they sat him on the pot rewarded him for going so I started doing the same thing I bought the lil thing that sits on the big toilet he is 5 now and doing great it just takes a lot of patience and uninterrupted training
I didn’t force any of my 4 kids to potty train it just came naturally . They’ve always followed me to the bathroom ( 3 girls 1 boy) . I put a potty chair in there so they could sit when I did even if they still had a diaper on just to get use to it . Pretty soon they ask to take their diaper off and once they managed to go the first time ( which I made a Huge to do about and gave them candy and a special toy afterwards) it just clicked with them ! I only gave prizes for the first few weeks , once they mastered it prizes stopped ! My oldest didn’t potty train till 3and a half , next one was potty trained at the age of 3 , and next was almost 4 , but my son didn’t like diapers and was potty trained during day at the age of 2and a half . Fully potty trained at age 3 … It takes some kids longer and there’s nothing wrong with that ! It’s much easier potty training them when they are ready vs when you want them to ! He will get to that point and surprise you !!!
I really thought my son was going to go to kindergarten in pull ups the thing is, your son is not ready. My advice is to not talk about it for awhile. Don’t pressure that baby. He will grow out of this, I promise.
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My son has been potty trained since he was 2 years, 4 months old. I never forced it on him he just always followed me to the bathroom & id tell him “mommy is going pee pee on the potty”. He’s a copy cat so he started doing it, but what the real kicker was, was peeing with daddy outside & following daddy to the bathroom when daddy poops that’s what really did it for him, he decided one day that he didn’t want diapers anymore. He turns 3 in august, & has had maybe 5 accidents, all of which have been while he’s sleeping. So maybe let daddy show him how to potty outside & in the toilet
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I’ve just potty trained 2 year old twin boys, and it is difficult! I found it helpful that every hour, we would go and sit on the potty set a 5-10 min timer to lead up to it so they know it’s coming, and then go and sit next to them while they’re on the potty, read a book or two, give them a toy to hold, turn the faucet on ( this really helped mine go!) just try a number of different things - every hour!! If they can’t go at the hour mark, then they try again 30 mins later. As for pooping, one of mine hated going on the potty, he didn’t like the feeling, so we’d sit and reassure him, hold his hand, and talk him through it, again make sure you set timers! Make a big deal out of it, clapping, cheering, telling him what a good job he’s done! For a while we rewarded ours with 1 sticker if they went pee in the potty, or 2 if they pooped! It’s a pain making them go that frequently, but it’s well worth it!!!
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WORKED WITH MY 2.5 year old and with a friend’s 4 year old.
INCENTIVES:
Ill explain . Kids are attracted to toys and small interesting things. Us as parents need our kids to evolve to using the potty. So mix one with the other .
Put a shelve above the potty . High enough that they will not reach any how. On the shelve put things they are interested in. My boy was interested in super hero action figueres. First time you take him yourself explain that after a succesful potty training he will get one of his choice.
Try it its worked with 3 different kids in different households.
Your welcome.
So sorry you’re dealing with that. Does he have a younger sibling? Maybe he’s enjoying being taken care of with the diaper changes. Did you check with the pediatrician about it? What you’re going through is not all that uncommon. Some boys train later. Not to worry, he won’t go to college in diapers! Keep your head up, you’re doing great!
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I’m having the same issues with my 3 year old son. It’s like he’s scared to poop on the potty and I don’t understand why. I created a monthly potty chart and he gets to put a sticker on it every time he goes pee and a star for poop. I even tried rewarding him with ice cream for pooping and he still won’t do it. He’s only done it twice since we started potty training. I’m struggling cause I want to be mad and frustrated for having to change him but I can’t let him see that. I’m scared if he thinks I’m getting mad about it that he won’t go at all. I thought about letting him go naked but we’re currently living with my mother in law and I’m terrified he’s going to ruin something.
Potty books, videos ? Rewards?
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Sink the Cheerios for pee. Poop, usually after an accident or two in the underwear they won’t like the feeling. When he finally does poop in the potty make a huge deal out of it, clap, tell him how good he did, give him candy or something. Worked on my son. Absolutely nothing works on my daughter though. She does not care about ANYTHING, so I definitely feel your pain.
My goal was to have my son potty trained by 3, he Did pretty good right after his bday then regressed a little and peed his pants constantly! Everywhere we went 
but if I left pull ups he would go in them. He’s almost 4 and I fiiiinaly feel confident saying he’s fully potty trained. These boys:woman_facepalming:t3:
You need to read the ‘Oh crap potty training’ book. It’s brilliant!
Get a wee man! Best thing ever my son was completely out of nappies by 18mtha old, but every child is different
So good luck
Chocolate buttons… one for a pee on the potty and two for a poop. As soon as he’s got the hang of it you can stop the rewards 
I left mine until he was ready one day he was just over 3 he said no nappy mummy it’s itchy so I put the potty out and he never had another nappy on I think forcing it when they aren’t ready makes it harder all around I’m doing the same with my just turned 2 year old but I do think he’ll be ready sooner because he loves to copy his big brother
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My son has just fully potty trained at 4years 4months.
Don’t sweat it - he will do it when he’s ready.
I’m very relaxed about letting my kids lead so no one is stressed.
Good luck x
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Nothing wrong with him just because he can’t look at you. Maybe he feels stressed/upset over the situation which won’t help. He’s just not ready… but he will get there!
Just leave it til he turns 3 mine were just on there 3rd birthday (both boys) and only took a week each. Boys take longer xx
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My daughter is 3 this month and I literally could’ve written this status … it’s hard going but we will get there
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He’s still not even 3 yet. He’ll get it. Just keep trying
I potty trained both of my boys at 2yrs old. I went on Sunday had them pick some undies. Monday morning they went straight to underwear, no other clothes since we were home. I would ask them every 15mins if they needed to go. If they would go on themselves I would just tell them “you see why you need to go in the toilet? It’s yucky isn’t it? Look 
is gross 
” all Without yelling or getting them in trouble or getting frustrated lol my oldest was potty trained in 3 days my 2nd took almost a week 
good luck
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Make sure he spreads his legs really wide. It makes him naturally point downward into the potty.
I taught my grandson how to pee in the toilet standing up by putting Cheerios in the toilet and tell him to sink the boats he thought it was so much fun
Teach him to pee standing up. Get a little step stool if he needs a boost. Use Fruit Loops as targets in the toilet water to aim at. Cheerios will work too. It makes it into a game, and keeps your bathroom floor cleaner
I taught my 3 boys that it’s not a fire hose get hold of that thing & make bubbles if you pee on me I’m peeing on you was a good incentive also
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Cheerios worked with my 3 older boys. Then along came no. 4 who was different. He did not understand why his cereal was floating in water instead of milk. He tried to pick them up and eat them. . He adored his brothers. After daddy refused to demonstrate,the older boys took over. Soon he was one of the gang !
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Fold a square of toilet paper in a triangle. Have him stand and tell him to sink the sailboat. Worked for my three boys.
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One little boy I babysit says “gotta tuck it!”
But more importantly than that, it may not be his fault. My oldest son had a problem with his urethra…when he was little, he would pee almost straight up. We taught him to “tuck it” too, but at best he would pee right thru the gap between the rim and the seat and pee all over the floor. A few times before he learned to tuck he actually hit himself in the face. He had to have the opening of his urethra clipped. That solved the problem! If your little guy has an odd stream, that may be the problem.
We actually encourage our son to stand (he’s 3.5) because he saw his daddy do it so we purchased 2 things.
A tiny little urinal that hangs on the wall, and a tiny wide step stool. Then his dad showed him how to hold his little stuff so he could aim
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We bought a stick on mini urinalal( like the kind in men’s bathrooms) he loved it and it worked;on amazon
My 3 year old stands on a step stool and leans forward and holds the seat.(yuck) When sitting I would have to point it down sometimes. He takes his pants and undies off when he sits so his legs are farther apart which helps.
I trained my son by teaching him to set on the toilet backwards, or course he had to undress from the waist down but it worked perfect
Sounds silly but put a few Cheerios in the toilet for them to “aim” at. This worked for my own my son and two of my grandsons.
Put a small ball in the toilet and get him to aim at it worked for my 3 boys x
I got my boys a step so they were at the right height for the toilet
Just sit him on bowl backwards. He’s not already to fall in when he poops and the pee goes in too.
I had my son just sit and pee in the toilet and when he got a little bigger I has his daddy teach him how to pee standing up
I would put my boys on the pot backwards. They could hang on to tthe toilet seat
I sat all the boys backwards on the ignition seat.
Give him a little reward each time he pees in the toilet, or someone told me cut up little ships and put them in the toilet bowl and have him aim at the boats.
Sit him backwards on the seat. Hold onto the tank. Worked for my son, he’s 54 today and still does it.lol
I thought they were all talking about cocktail sausages as we call them ‘cheerios’. Thought it was a bit odd
Try putting him on the plain toilet seat backwards. Seems to aim things in the right direction naturally.
I dont k ow about u but what man does make it??i have grown men that live in my house that try but not always do…lol good luck !
This is a trick isn’t it. You’re really talking about a grown man or boy who can’t keep from peeing everywhere.
Put cheerios in the bowl and tell him to aim…
One way to tell if he is ready is if he can pedal a tricycle. Those muscles r the same to release n hold it. Don’t force the matter. If u don’t get good results wait n try again later.
I used to hold my son’s pee pee down until he got the hang of it even with the guard
My son figured it out his self by running naked in the backyard. The first time he filled his own face full he caught on to hold it down.
I had mine sit backwards until they could point it down or stand to pee.
Let him pee in the back yard set up a bulls eye situation. Then back to the pot for instructions
He needs a step around the front base to climb up on.
Cereal in the toilet he can aim at to hit.
Cherrios… Throw some in the toilet have him shhot them
Give him something to aim at like a small piece of floating soap
Throw a handful of Cheerios in the toilet and tell him to practice his aim.
Sit him on the toliet backwards it works
Sink the Cheerios! He’ll hold it to better aim.
Target training, toss in a cherrio in.
Try a ping pong ball, they float and don’t flush… easy enough to clean by spraying it with bleach when cleaning your toilet. My son would aim at it and thankfully the splash back not too strong. Just have to train the hubby not to do it!
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Have Dad show him how it’s done