Sounds like he’s the problem
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I’m going through this same thing. Been together 25 yrs. We both got our covid shots the same time. He passed away two weeks later I however lasted 6 plus weeks very very sick. And it kills me that we couldn’t come close before he passed. It was nothing I could do to change things. He was my life now he’s gone and I hate I didn’t do more to make him see how much I loved him.
Communicate your concerns and get to bottom of the problem, fix if able!
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Marriage counseling or sex therapy?
Roommate Syndrome look it up. Talk to him about what you need ask him What he needs. I went through this I am 49. We are doing great now dating all over again.
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Try doing something new as a couple that’s a bit out of your comfort zone, dance lessons, kayaking, biking, golf etc. also focus on the good qualities of your relationship that has lasted for so many years
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Theresa England Deiss I still can’t find the spell checker:sob:
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If you have tried everything,what has he tried?marriage is only boring if you let it.you both are still young,your actually in your prime ,sex gets better with age and your missing out when you shouldn’t be .usually a man is not interested if there having problems in that area,or there cheating,or just no longer attracted to the other .bottom line is you gotta be completely honest with him and tell him how your feeling and if he don’t show interest in what your saying,then there’s more going on
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Maybe a blue little pill ???
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He needs testosterone. A trip to the dr will help. There is the creams or the shot. They will do a simple blood test to get his count.
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Talk to him. Ask his opinion on how to spice things up? I mean, you’re trying to turn him on, so it would be good to know what he wants. And this sounds rude to me, and I am really not being rude. I’m too tired to do better, but I really think you should talk to him. <3 Good luck! Maybe ask him on a date and change the venue and the rules on him. Rent a room… change of scenery. Wear something he’d love, even if it’s not something you’d choose. Surprise him into sexy!
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Women hit their sexual peak in their 40s men hit theirs between 18-24. By the time women catch up the men have started losing testosterone and their libido has dropped. Not to mention a lot of medication also causes impotence. Instead of asking a bunch of Facebook strangers, try talking to your husband! It could very well be a medical issue. If that is the case then maybe he would like to try erotic massage or toys to spice things up but you need to ASK HIM NOT FACEBOOK!
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You can try travelling alone or with friends. Have your me time. When u dont feel like you need him to complete you, then you can love your partner the way he wants to be loved. At the same time, you get to strengthen yourself and find the adventure you are yearning for yourself. Focus on you and not on him.
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Spike his normal drink with a Viagra pill. Saw it in a movie
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Definitely sit down and talk to him and explain that you’re feeling very unattractive and unwanted and please do not listen to the people telling you to drug him with Viagra. I know that they’re just trying to help but Viagra is a very potent medication and without the proper testing before taking it you could quite literally kill him. Viagra is not meant for the weak hearted… Literally. If he’s having an issue with ED or low testosterone he could have other underlying issues in his body that taking a drug like Viagra could potentially make worse…
If you have been together for 40 years, he obviously loves you very much and maybe at his age he thinks you are feeling the same way. So he might think that a lack of sex drive is normal for a couple of your age… Just respectfully remind him that it’s not and explain to him that you would like to seek help for it because you miss the intimacy that you both shared together!
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Take a shower together. Soap each other up. Or, give him a massage, with a flavored oil. Let him massage you! You know the rest. WHAT man would refuse that?
Glasses of wine strawberries, whip creme (sound cheesy?) Try it.
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Proof reading and spell checker first.
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Has he been medically cleared. It could be as easy as testerone levels
Try a pan of “Brownies” !! Sure to take the “wrinkles” out of it !
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Exactly, sex gets better with age, my a#s. Anything after 40+ it either needs a refurbished motor or more lubricant that will last little longer. Men go thru sh£t & we are out of estrogen & faced with vaginal dryness & all that other crap. Nothing gets better with age, it gets worst, let’stand stop lying to ourselves and it’s not only men that go through changes at this age and stage.
Get high and explore your sexuality 
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Try date nights something romantic somewhere special show him how you need him put the romance back think back to what first attracted you try that
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Talking us best he may not know how you are feeling inside. This is both your time and I hope it helps both of you to be interment again
Viagra? Have you got a trusted family GP that you both use? Maybe go see him right before your husbands next appointment and express your concerns, maybe something under lining and he could open a dialogue with him to check for depression etc and make sure nothing underlying… also try having an honest chat yourself and communicate how you are feeling
watch porn together do a threesome or cheat
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A spark and a sex drive are two very different things, so what is it you’re actually looking for? Relationships can still be exciting and have that spark without sex being the forefront of it
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What made you fall in love in the first place what do you both like doing get out there you both need to have fun sit him down and tell him your marriage has gotten boring and you want to feel alive you want more exciting because as much as you love him your marriage won’t work so you need to have a word with him you could both write a list on what will make you feel alive and you both do it together
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Wow you must of been only 18 when married…
Find just spark, you once had, nice dinners, look at some fun hobbies together
Have you tried sticking a finger up his bum
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Are you soul mates? Why did you marry him? What if his libido is low due to age issues?
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Talk to him about it
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Talk to him about how you’re feeling
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Buy him some Viagra.
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I mean maybe hes just tired. Shit I’m in my early thirties and I’m tired lol mentally, emotionally etc. It just happens as u age.
My 3 year anniversary is coming up on the 18th. .but the first thing I instantly thought was
“They lost communication”
Not just talking about your problems but like sitting out under the stars talking about the deep shit you can’t tell anyone else.
I don’t know if you’ve tried it but get to know each other again.
Anyone who isn’t married will not understand.
Im still newly wed but my husband and I have gone threw more than most and after I had my baby and we brought him home 6 weeks later things kind of got lost.
But after we had one of our long talks like we did in the beginning things were much better.
When was the last time he had a physical with his doctor? He might be having issues with low testosterone. Let him know your next date is for both of you to go in for full lab work and physicals. Good luck 
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Talk to him maybe his sex drive is low. Communication is key. I’m sure u know that after being married so long.
Go out together. Go on trips. Spend time doing the things that made you fall in love in the first place!
Also consider his age. This may be a possible medical issue, it may have nothing to do with his feelings toward you.
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Marriage counseling and get a hobby
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Maybe his testosterone levels are low
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I would try getting to know each other again. You could play some ice breaker games for couples (table topics is a good one or just Google conversation starters for couples) over dinner. Go do something fun together like mini golf or whatever it is you both would enjoy. Also don’t rule out low testosterone, he definitely should have a physical just to be sure.
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You should talk to him, and also remember just like us when we get older our hormones change, if you’re both in your late 50s your husband could be having hormonal changes. Maybe talk to the doc.
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40 , year married in your 50s ?
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Talk to him. Then travel together!
Have you tried a tazer? Lol
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‘We don’t drink so I cant even get him drunk and seduce him’…what
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Buy some toys and use em in front of him, when his eyebrows raise ask him to join/help you 🤷 either way your getting off lovely
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Start dating again. Do things that turn each other on. Do things u guys love
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Pure Romance. Im dead serious. I thought my 2 year marriage was boring bc of myself. Then i found pure romance & my pure romance girl has helped me SO much. Also start dating each other again. Go out have fun be “newlyweds” again.
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Oh boy I’m 49 message me i’d love to chat !
Marriage counseling. Find local support groups of others going through the same struggle. Back to basics- court each other again.
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Go do something as you would as kids again! Go karting would be fun or bowling!
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Talk to him about finding common interests. Also, like others have said, there may be some low testosterone issues (for both of you).
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Might be a drop in testosterone. Happens to a lot of men in their 40-60s. I’d talk to him,
Openly.
Have him go get his levels
checked.
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Once the children are grown and out on their own you realize you don’t know your spouse as well as you thought you did. You have grown up and to a point away from each other as you furthered your careers and raised your children. Now that it’s just you two the distractions are gone. Barring any health issues he may have that spark can be rekindled. You need to discover and appreciate the man he is now. Have actual conversations. Discover mutual interests or hobbies like gardening, dancing classes, golf, boating, bowling/darts/cards the options are endless. Take short trips to interesting destinations. Get out there. Visit places that are interesting with a dash of romance. Learn to relax and enjoy each other’s company again. I wish you luck!!
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He may be having prostate issues that stop him from getting in the mood and get it up. I would advise to have him check that. He may not even know.
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Some men have a very low sex drive unfortunately. I am in the same boat, although not together as long as you. And yes it sux. My advice invest in a Toy, still not ideal but better than nothing
I can’t get passed the spelling! Sorry!
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Have a serious conversation with him. He may be struggling with erectile dysfunction and ashamed
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Learn some new “moves”
At that age he probably has a low testosterone level, or if he had any medical conditions that could cause this as in diabetes or some thing? Oh do the doctor can prescribe him viagra and insurance will pay, and with don’t it can still be pricy but you can use good rx as well and it’s reasonably priced then. Y’all to him about going to the doctor they will help
You’re just not the same horny teenagers you were as teenagers.
Weight lifting will boost his sex drive.
Honestly, smoke some weed or do some mushrooms together.
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pure romance can spice up a love life, but being a pure romance consultant and making sure all bases are covered make sure he gets his testosterone tested as well as yourself. if levels of hormones are low it can mess with alot.
Testosterone for both of you … Total RESET.
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Pull your pants down and give him a brown eye.
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He’s almost 60 so his testosterone level have dropped! Make an appointment with a urologist and go with him.
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Get him one of those Rhino pills from the liquor store. 
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Next time he showers…join him !
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Role play?? Maybe meet up at a restaurant for a “first date”. Maybe go that day and get your hair done up and grab new outfit, don’t let him see you before you meet up. Blow him away with your beauty!! 
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Bubble baths, candles, and sexy romantic nights?
That’s cool…
Have you tried doing something that he likes?
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I say loosen up and have a drink 
guarentee your night will be amazing 
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Couples counseling? Sex therapist? I’ve heard sex therapy is amazing
Throughout the day give him flirts like a pat on his behind, a wink, a kiss on the head and say sweet things to him. He needs attention.
Be straight upfront with him! Talk about it!
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Go talk to your Dr about a prescription called ( Muse/ alprostadil ) talk to him and find out if he is having (ED ) this could be c a c problem and like most men they don’t like to talk it.
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You said you have tried. Have you actually asked your husband what he would like to try? Any new interesting things he had read about and would like to see in person or try? Join him in what he likes more. Remember these are your ideas u said you tried ask about his. After the kids are gone u need to build something new
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Doctor for check-up for him first. Let him know there are several simple solutions such as Viagra, hormone therapy, devices, prostate work, a change in medications or diet, or whatever.
After 40 men start losing ability (and especially after 50) and most need help. It’s nothing to be ashamed of but most men shut down when it happens to them. Tell him Viagra and Cialis wouldn’t be making money hand over fist if there weren’t a TON of men (including the late Sen. Bob Dole) who needed some help, so he’s just one of the masses. Maybe get him some therapy if his self-esteem is low. Once you get everything checked out, maybe ask his GP or urologist for a sex therapist if that might help the two of you.
Tell him what you like outside of intercourse that turns you on, including getting some toys that he could use to pleasure you. Can you pleasure yourself until solutions are found?
Good luck!
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Find out how to be his best friend again. Do the things he likes to do, and do things you like to do. Together. Laugh again Together. Thats where the spark lies…it will bring back the memories of why you originally fell in love. And don’t forget to talk to one another, about the little and the big things.
Take a stroll through a park or go to the beach, where it’s just the 2 of you. And turn off your phones. Makes a huge difference for quality time.
Naturally the romance and sex will spark up again…
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Be honest with your husband on how you feel rather than showing him and failing with him receipcating those same feeling. You need to articulate how you feel and ask him if you guys can get a Mediator or Martial Counselor to help you both figure this out
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If your marriage is Boeing, then you must get a lift out of it. Boeing is the king of the heavy lift vehicles. My wife has worked for Boeing on the C-17 program. I’m so proud of her. Live life on the leading edge!
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Life is what you make it. If you are bored it is because you are boring, if you are content it is because you are content, if you want to be interesting, then do interesting things. People around you are your mirrors. “if I could give my child only one gift for life, let it be enthusiasm”
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Well after 44 years we both see romance differently. He helps me clean, cook and can food. He grows a garden so we can eat thru the winter. I do lots of planning ahead to keep us on track . This is our romance
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Don’t be in such a rush I was like that at one state. But years later I realized he sick we ten years of no touch feeling. I went to bed crying. But he last ten years he said he’d make it to our fifty anniversary and he did ten days later he was dead Make sure he’s not sick. God will be with you
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Try going on dates again. And and my husband go on he picks a place then I do sometimes we don’t tell each other where we going to make it more exciting for the other . Even if it not a restaurant . Try maybe pic nic kinda dinner by the bay or river or lake . If you do that bring a food he loves or you do. . makes for interesting conversation
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My husband got the adventure date book challenge. You scratch off something amd have to do it. We also got the familyedition so we can do stuff we never would think of with the teenagers. It sounds corny until you actually do it and nothing but laughs. We built a kite with only stuff we had on hand and there was no wind so we used the air blower. Lol. Just got to think out of the box. And those quality moments will bring back the spark.
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I find that as a woman men seem to forget foreplay. You need to kiss him passionately in the morning text him that you are wanting him and can’t wait to get your hands on him when he gets home. Keep him thinking about you all day so you aren’t starting at ground zero when he gets home. Kissing us very much underated. Slow dancing is a plus with some sexy music Barry White comes to mind. Good Luck!
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Went through this recently. We went on a cruise to Mediterranean . He didn’t love. We were together 34 years. We grew apart. I tried everything. Begged him to go to counseling. I was alone in my own life. I’m sorry to tell you this but I left him. I tried. He didnt
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My advice is don’t ask for marital advice on FB
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I’d get him to his doctor, his testosterone levels may be too low!!! If that’s not it, you may need a sex counselor….or start with a long heartfelt conversation… make sure his needs are not being met with online porn… a friend went through that….lots of therapy and they are great now! Wishing you well.
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Talk to him and make sure he understands you. It’s not enough just to communicate you have to comprehend each other’s needs.
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Haven’t read the comments but how about a seductive massage with massage oil n Blow job, toys, lubes… but before all that talk to him if u haven’t already and ask him how he would feel about u doing that to him, about adding toys… they have a sleeve for a hand job that works awesome n makes him want u more…
well Idk how much of a naughty person u n ur husband have been but I’d try that… good luck 
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Consider looking into the book The 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman and Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. The videos conference is also excellent.
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Your kids area all grown up then make the most of it,make his favourite meal ,buy some toys and sexy outfits to surprise him,if that doesn’t work then try counselling
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Go to the Lord, make your request into God and pay close attention to His instruction. Be obedient into Him even if it sounds absurd. And then the fire will burn hotter than you could ever imagine. My wife and I have been together 7 years and from time to time it gets boring. Same ol same ol, and then all the sudden the passion will begin to burn so bad it’ll literally make me crazy lol
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f it isn’t a health issue…then, possibly…you should take up an activity together…join a bowling league…plan a weekly “date night”. Some partners lose the “romantic” edge to their marriage quicker than others…this is a tough one. Hopefully, it’s just a phase.
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Do all that for you. Read a book. Order pizza for one in bathroom. Lock the door. Arrange for a movie night something you love. Tell him when and where it is. Keep both tickets. If he cancels go with girlfriend that you prepared in advance. Plan a whole 2day weekend getaway close but have fun. If he refuses go anyway. Life is too short to be moping and gloomy. Be yourself. Do you. Get confidance in all your own self.
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