I’m sorry you have been lied to. I would walk away and honestly wouldn’t even respond to him would ignore any contact from him since he has no respect for you by lying to you.
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You know what you got to do… 
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I had a fwb for a bit and I respected that he got into new relationships and he would confide in me in the beginning of the relationships but that was it. But respectfully in my relationships I wouldn’t care if my s.o. went to a strip club but that’s just me. Different strokes for different folks. But given the fact that he wasn’t honest about it up front is still a red flag.
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If he’s already talking to other women/woman straight away in your relationship he is not worth the relationship. Run for the hills and find someone who will treat you with respect.
. When the red flags are there you never stay.
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Dump him. But,I am curious how you found all this out? Were you going through his phone or messages?
Major trust issues and lies aren’t good
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The real question is, how are you feeling about this?
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I think what’s more important is how do YOU fell about it? That’s all that matters. You have complete control on who you decide to surround yourself with. I can validate that he’s a liar if that’s what you need to hear. Yes he’s lied to you several times. You have to accept the consequences and the effects of continuing this relationship. If that’s not something you want or would be happy to do…I would get out.
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Leave now! This should be the best time for both of you in this relationship, but so far he’s done nothing but disrespect and lie to you. Run!!!
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Why is he not your ex?
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You don’t need anyone’s advice. You can see the huge red flags waving, and know what to do.
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If he can lie to you about this what else can he lie about not worth it hun you need to walk away now small lies turn into big lies xx
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You know what you need to do. It just sucks that once again someone that can’t just be honest 
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Early in a relationship and he’s already lying straight to your face and hiding things from you. Especially when asked and given a perfect chance to speak on it. Run.
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You say it’s a new relationship, how new are we talking?
If it’s in the first few months then maybe talk it out an what not.
I’ll be honest this is why so many people of today don’t have lasting relationships like our grandparents. Because you come on here, an others are so quick to jump an say leave! Red flag!
About a dude who can’t even defend himself.
We all have red flags in us, imagine someone pointing them out to your partner constantly.
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Red flags!! They could be good friends still, which i can understand, but to bold faced lie to you about her and the situation, yeah… nope
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Your wasting time by just writing that post up.
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Red flags should not be ignored
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Run don’t walk RUN to the nearest exit.
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That’s enough to be done. Not that he’s talking to a girl, or even went to a strip club, because who cares, but because he lied to you about it.
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Time to walk away I reckon
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Cut your losses. Trust me, I wish I had sooner.
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time to break up with him.
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Throw the whole man away🗑
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Leave now, don’t waste your time. Loser!
Would be a newly ended relationship
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Run trust me I learned the hard way.
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Sounds like he really isnt that into you…have a convo on why he felt he needed to hide it…his reaponce will answer your question
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He already sucks, drop him and find someone that respects you.
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I’m hoping you’re not too attached because leaving now is crucial to your own mental health and happiness.
Please let him go
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Not good I’d get out quick
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Wipe your ass with those red flags and leave.
Think you know what you need to do
He’s keeping his options open. I would end it and move on because it will probably end in heartbreak for you if you don’t.
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Ugh get rid of him if he’s already lying.
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Ditch him! You deserve better!
Run , before your too attached . Please , don’t be me !!
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It’s new so it shouldn’t be to hard leaving him. Never start your relationship out on lies. Those are red flags. You want to spend a few years dealing with a list? Also when they lie that means they don’t respect you and when they don’t respect you they are capable of doing you wrong in any kind of way. Get out now while it’s still new
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He can be honest with her but not you? Red flag. Not worth it.
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Once you accept this he’ll carry on doing whatever
Either speak now or end it
There’s no need for you to deal with the bs … tell him to hit the road …
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End it, hes playing you.
Nope let that shit go while you’re still ahead. If not it’s your fault. You see the red flags
you know what to do.
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Sounds like he’s trying to keep options open.
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He is not invested in your relationship… Things will get worse and there’s already broken trust. I think you’re gut knows it’s time to leave him, follow your gut.
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Cut ties now this is going downhill fast.
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I’d bring it up to him. But I think if he’s talking g to her about what’s happening in your relationship then it’s a big red flag.
This happened to me a couple times
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Run while your still ahead of the game!
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Please be done with it.
Girl you deserve better than this liar. Doesnt matter what hes lying about:triangular_flag_on_post:
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I’d leave him. It sounds like this relationship is going to be nothing but stressful and crappy. If you have to come to FB for relationship advice, then he’s not the one for you! It’s a new relationship and you already are having issues with him lying and not being honest and doing crap behind your back. I’d tell him to kick rocks!!
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This can’t ever end well. It’s disrespectful to you as the new girlfriend and he clearly doesn’t respect boundaries so better to cut losses now
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First off…we teach people how to treat us.
If you put up with that then he’s going to continue
Tell him straight up AND YOU MEAN IT that you will absolutely NOT put up with a liar or a cheater. Have him make a choice and if he chooses you and does it again, kick his ass to the curb…no sense in it…stick to your guns lady…say what you mean and mean what you say…
NOPE! He is actively looking for a way back there. Just leave… x
It never gets better
Not worth your time. He is not into you nor does he respect you or your relationship.
That’s a form of cheating plus he doesn’t respect you
This is what your relationship will be with him…it wont get better. Even if he does change years down the road, you will have already been hurt enough to the point where you’ll resent him and have zero trust in him. Im glad this is a new relationship so hopefully it will be easier for you to walk away.
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If you just started dating recently and he’s already lying to you, then your going to expect that the whole time. He clearly doesn’t respect your boundarie wishes.
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Are you playing dumb? Don’t wait for us to tell you not to continue wasting your time and just leave.
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Sounds like my ex. Let her have him. Honesty is important
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Ehh… sounds like something to walk away from.
Chad’s and Tyrone !!!
Red flags!!! Leave now!
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He reached out before y’all talked… also he’s a grown ass man get over your discomforts and stop using your insecurities to control him. Grow up.
Walk away, if he’s already lying, hiding the true nature of his relationship with this woman and doing things he knows you’re not okay with he will continue to do them.
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FLAGS ON BOTH . The MINUTE I hear "he knows I am not comfortable with porn or strip clubs’ yikes … this os exactly why he hid it. He likely loves you but can’t be himself or do perfectly normal things. Most of us can have convos with exes that don’t lead to sex, and go to strip clubs without intercourse with a stripper, and watch porn without wanting to cheat. In short yes he lied and you guys are not compatible neither one if you are bad. You can not want strip clubs and know exactly who he talks to sure, but he ain’t the one sis. He doesn’t want to be that person and that’s ok. Move on if he isn’t what you want
Are you serious
Be self caring
It’s the beginning?? It will not get better.
Not worth your time.
It’s a new relationship, LEAVE
Doesn’t sound worth it. If there is someone else, let her have him.
Ewwwwwwww. I’ve dated one of them before.
Don’t invest anything more. Time to move on
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Sounds like an ex he’s talking to and it also sounds like he doesn’t respect the relationship and wants to be with her
Im going to be odd man out but have you ever thought maybe you are the problem? Hear me out. New relationship, how new? A few days, week (s)? You already laying down the rules and trying to control and change this guy. No this, no that, you better not do this or else, nope none of that. I mean come on. Whatever happened to just dating and seeing where things go. Get to know a person for a while. Then if they aren’t your cup of tea, go! Why do you feel the need to change and demand? My husband has things that he does way different then I do. I would never try and change that. I accepted him for the person he was/is. Almost 20 years later, we are still going. This younger generation kills me. Everything has to be 100 all the time lol, well SURPRISE!!! It’s not. Learn how to deal with differences. He likes strip clubs, fuck, go with him! Get a lap dance, cut up have fun. Who cares. He talks to an ex, oh well. Trust he’s coming to your room at night. Be the fun, energetic, happy, flexible person you are, and watch how quick his eyes sparkle for you and only you. You put demands and try and change he will close up and run to the hills quick.
Drop him now. If this is a new relationship, you’re still learning what one another’s boundaries are. But if you’ve expressed your boundaries to him, and he has blatantly ignored or broken those boundaries, he’s already showing you that he doesn’t respect you.
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Don’t waste your time, once they lie to you and you forgive them they will keep doing it. Save yourself it will only get worse
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Red flags left n right, run away while you still can.
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Liar, liar pants on 
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Dam miss FBI ,hope dude finds someone who lets him live a little
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At this point I wouldn’t even bother with him anymore
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Too many others out there to accept a liar. Not a good way to have a relationship
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Respect and love yourself, more than the man that’s lying to you does! That mess will break you mentally, emotionally… Good luck! 
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He doesn’t respect or value you.
Nope. He’s gotta go. Move on. Men are gross.
Apparently none of your boundaries matter to him and he has zero issue lying to you. Blabbing to her about your relationship is not okay. If I were you, I’d be relieved it was only a brief relationship.
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Not trustworthy move on don’t waste anymore time on this man
Bye, bye, bye! Get out before he takes any more of your time! I lived with a liar for 20 years and it was pure HELL. Please don’t waste 20 years.
This is a new relationship?? Yes? Drop him. Not worth the heartache
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Get out before you get to involved.
Move on start lying to him and see how he feels about it seriously give him a taste of his own medicine
Get out!! He will never leave her alone, and you will always feel this way, and that is not good!
Don’t waste your time. You are only going to end up getting hurt.
Nope he could hit the door
Run now before you get attached.
I could’ve saved myself years of heartbreak if I would’ve just listened to the red flags & ran.
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Get out! Seriously and don’t look back.
I’d just go now. It’ll only get worse. Save yourself the heartache.
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Red flags this early in the relationship are good, better to know before you invest too much time and energy.
What you allow to continue will continue.
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if it’s new RUN while u can! Shit RUN either way!!! So not worth ur precious energy TRUST ME ON THIS