I feel so lost. My husband treats me badly. My husband and I have been together since 2012, I have told him how I feel about being in threesomes (it makes me uncomfortable), he always tries to initiate them no matter what I say. I just don’t know what to do anymore; I can’t talk to anyone about it because the whole reason we got into this is that I finally agreed. But every time we go anywhere, it feels like he is pimping me to his friends. We just adopted our baby, and I don’t want everyone to think that was the only reason j stayed with him. He doesn’t care; he doesn’t see he is doing anything wrong. I feel so stuck and have no one to talk to. I’m so lost. I know I should leave, but I don’t want to make my daughter’s life harder than it needs to be, I also have nothing to offer my daughter if I do leave. I’m screwed, and I know it, just pray for me, please. Any advice is welcomed. I just feel so helpless. I’m not trying to throw a pity party; I am really at a loss.
Leave his sorry ass. The end.
This is unacceptable to not think of your wishes first and put you in situations that make you uncomfortable. If he can’t see this then it’s time to move on and make a better life without the toxic relationship. Best of luck!!
Get out. It won’t make it better.
Your husband obviously has 0 respect you, dont let anyone make you feel like you have to do something your not comfortable with, leave him!
He needs to have more respect for you. And you need to demand the respect
It wont be making your daughter’s life harder…but staying will. Nobody deserves to be treated badly. From what it seems is that its been happening a while now. It will not change. Don’t show her that this is the way it should be. Get out of there !
Leave, this isn’t right, how do you know he won’t want to pimp your daughter. She needs to know that this isn’t how a man treats a woman. Go for counseling.
Get a life plan together. Go back to school, get a good job, make a timeline and stick to it. You need to get yourself and your daughter the hell up out of there
Can you stay with family? This situation will be more damaging for your daughter, most likely, than you struggling on your own. You both deserve better. I’m so sorry you’re going through this 
What kind of example are you setting for your daughter?
You should think about leaving. He seems like a total douche.
Is it with other women or men?
Other women he is a pervert.
Other men, he is a closet gay.
Either way RUN!
Find urself a job and get ur life in order then leave
Think of your daughter…would you ever be ok with a man making her do something that she didn’t want to do? Respect yourself bc you deserve it, but also respect yourself bc you have a daughter that is watching you. If you don’t leave now, your daughter will grow up thinking it’s normal and ok to be treated that way by a man. A threesome is cheating…and I hope he’s not trying to tell you that it’s not. Want more for yourself! 
Your husband has no respect for you clearly. Have you told him it makes you uncomfortable? You are better off living with family if you can, get a job if you don’t already have one and focus on you and your daughter. You should never do something that makes you uncomfortable to satisfy his fantasy.
I’m confused as to why you’d tell him yes you’d have threesomes, but then have them and not want them. It’s as simple as saying NO and not doing it…
This is freaking terrible. Leave ASAP.
Should’ve never agreed to it if you didn’t want to. Gotta be firm with what you do & don’t want.
From now on, I will not read past the first that says “my husband treats me badly”. Cause that’s as far as that should go anyways
Leaving him will in fact improve your daughter’s life… people think staying together for a child is ok… it’s not. He is looking for someone else and just convinced you to help him… run. Pack and run anything will be better then starting with someone like this. Next thing you know he’s sleeping with someone behind your back… if you both really wanted this it would be one thing… but he’s the only one into it… run run run fast.
This is one of the many reasons I don’t agree with porn.
Get out, that is no way to raise a child. What type of example are you for a child? Love yourself!
Leave him with a baby (it will make him stop being a party goer ) get yourself together because if you not happy then no one will …
I know it’s hard but being with someone in BS relationship is terrible and it won’t help …
Or take kid with you seek help from family who you trust … maybe one close friend who willing to help … this men out there so trash now days I’m just sorry girl …
It’s so sad but right now it’s you and later it will be your daughter he is a pervert 
You have nothing to offer your daughter how about showing her how to take a stand and take pride in herself by being her example there are agencies that help women you need to look for them in your area call your local police station and ask them you need to get out of this situation
Look girl if you ever walk away from a bad or miserable situation with your daughter you are giving her hope and positivity. By staying you are taking away from her. Don’t ever think that you and her living a life will ever be worse then being miserable. What would you advise your daughter?
There’s a difference in saying it makes you uncomfortable and agreeing and saying no. Say no. It’s not happening, you aren’t in to it. You don’t want to.
And even if you agreed everyone is 100% allowed to change their mind. Just because you’re married doesn’t mean you’ve lost your right to say no.
If you do want to leave there’s always a way. There’s always emergency assistance. And eventually you’ll get on your feet. It’ll be hard but you can do it.
So what if you agreed. Take it back. You’re human and that is okay! Teach that little girl that no means no
He is a terrible man and your daughter and yourself need to be safe. You need to seek advice from a woman’s shelter. You are a victim of domestic violence. This is no way to live. You are intelligent, reach out to domestic violence organisations. Other women have been through this and can help you. REACH OUT NOW
Sounds like he had no respect for you! Leave honey, you may feel “trapped” but your not. It may be hard at first but Eventually you will get on your feet and will be so glad you left. Don’t do something that YOU don’t want to do!! Don’t do something to please someone else. Lots of love and prayers.
Tell him no. He can get the fuck over it.
It’s time to leave. This man does not respect you and if he has enough audacity to force you into sexual situations that make you uncomfortable he will end up cheating or doing worse to you. Just ask yourself if this is the type of man you want to raise your child with. My ex (baby’s father) tried to pressure me into threesomes and swinging and I found it very degrading, and this behavior was just one of the first red flag… this is giant disrespect that starts a shit ball rolling downhill
Do you have a place to go untill you can get on your feet? Parents, aunts, siblings? If you don’t want to do something just stand your ground and say no. If he’s asking you to have threesomes there is no telling what hes doing on the side. You have a daughter to think about. An adopted daughter that isn’t even his blood. Imagine what might become of her after being groomed by him her whole life. Make a record of everything for the courts bc you may have to fight to keep her away from him.
My advice, picture your daughter writing this and the advice you would give her. You wouldn’t want your daughter going thru this…
Honey, any man, that really loves you, WILL NOT FORCE YOU OR TRY TO FORCE YOU, into doing anything that makes you uncomfortable!! All of the emotions you’re feeling now, baby girl can sense it too! He’s not worth your time or air you breathe, if he’s handling things this way!! You need all your energy, time and focus for your daughter… leave him asap, before it gets worse than, what it already is. Even if its taking and packing you and baby girls stuff, a little a time. Just don’t let this carry on, too much longer!! Praying for you, shuga, this too shall pass!! And his ass, will end up in a threesome, that he won’t like…
Things emotionally or physically abused woman forget:
*Staying for your kids only shows them a toxic relationship not what one should be.
*You didn’t fail as a wife that douche bag failed as a husband.
*speak up and ask for help. You will be surprised at how many listen and reach out a hand.
*Your stronger than you think. Doing it on your own is hard work and the struggle is real! But, so worth it!
*Reach out. There are tons of groups of woman who have been through your situation. Find one and start talking. Don’t hold that toxic in.
*Let your inner bad ass shine!
Yuk…no way you should be with him…and i wouldny be surprised if you did he would then throw it back in your face that your a cheater…thats how these ppl work. They are sick in the head.
Was y’all upfront about being swingers when you was adopting someone else’s baby?
So many red flags here I’m shook 
So you’re being raped. Like if you do not want to do it and feel forced to do it then it is sexual abuse and its NOT OKAY. I’ve been a single mom my daughters whole life, is it hard? So hard. Is it worth it? Every single day. I’d rather struggle and work hard to give her everything than deal with a guy who treated me like garbage.
You are valuable! God paid a price for you. Your body is a temple. No means no! He clearly has issues. Don’t let his issues be yours. I’ve been married 3 times because I knew my value and I left and I was a single mother of two no job no degree no income! I survived
Woman to Woman, leave his ass, it only gets worse
Been there, done that, girl leave, itll never get better and if he really loved you, you would be enough for him
I’m in an open relationship however both parties must agree on threesomes and outside partners so even from my stand point what he’s doing is not ok
You’re first mistake was saying no and not meaning it. I don’t care how many times a man asks me to do threesomes. The answer is no the first time and it’s going to be no the 100th time. Tell him no, mean it and stsrt figuring out how to start over with you and your kid.
Lift up in prayers Get out text if u need to tslk
Get that child out that house away from that pervert! Like seriously!
So this may be just me he’s probably already sleeping with others behind you’re back that’s to start with. So what I would do just to be vindictive and a bitch is sleep with one of the dudes that u found most attractive right around the time he’s about to be home let him catch u and than kick his ass to the curb and get up on your feet and be the mom u need to be. Or the more mature way would be is step your foot down and be strong and tell him to fuck off
No one should force you to do anything you aren’t comfortable with. This is abuse, wether you see it or not, he is controlling and you need to get out asap
Absolutely no one cam change your situation, but you. You are the one in control and can say no. By stay6and doing whatever he wants. You are damaging your daughter more and more every day. By leaving you will give her hope and most importantly, power.
THis is tough:bangbang:
I’m
Sorry
I know how it is to be dependent on a man it leaves u stuck like a mofo
But listen
Go to school📚
Get a education and get out
Go online classes if need be
He doesn’t need to know what ur really up toOoO
Just say what ever needs to be said
Go to school While taking care of ur daughter
Get a quick education like 12-16 month program !!! Apply for financial aid etc
And GET OUT
I know it’s easier said then done but ur not happy so that should be incentive enough he’s making u feel pimped out that psychologically damages you quick and what he’s doing is lowering ur self esteem etc and this will Prohibit you from ever thinking U can get out !!!
I think it’s a beautiful thing u adopted
You sound like a really smart and wonderful person
Good luck Girl !!!
The only way you’d make your daughters life harder than it needs to be is. by showing her how unhappy you are by staying where you are…kids pick up on that. If there is a will there’s a way. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Don’t let your child be exposed to that crap in that situation. Get out of there
Do you have family that can help you? If not where are you??? Somebody needs to get you some help!
Get rid of him now!! And whatever u do don’t leave that baby alone with him he is a sick dick!!!
So you’d rather stay with him and teach your daughter that the way he treats you is how women should be treated, instead of showing her that you can be a happy, independant woman? I see this too much, staying together because of the kids. I was a product of that. I begged my mom to leave my dad for ten years (age 7-17). When she finally did, she told me she only stayed because of me. I resent this because I would have preferred a happy mom that wasn’t being abused…
You need to leave now! And, regain your self respect. A man will treat you how you let them treat you. Get your own place, raise your baby yourself & get him & all ppl who make you feel inadequate out of your life! Is it easy? no! Will you be able to do it? You can do what you set ur mind to.
Is it with like his guy friends or with like his friends that are girls? Cuz if it’s guys I’d definitely be asking if he is gay. That could be his reasoning, but that doesn’t make it right. My fiancé knows that no means no. He struggled with me not being all that interested in sex, and finally figured out that I’m not gonna do it just cuz he wants to. I have a right to say no because it’s my choice. Just like this is your choice. Stand your ground or leave.
Stay with family, get a job, get out.
Lots of men do this (threesomes, porn, etc) because they feel insecure in their relationship.
Whether they even realize it or not, it’s a deep rooted trauma in some way that they need to heal from.
Either its sexual, or emotional, or even something from way way back when they were a child, something isn’t right and they feed into self sabatoge behaviors, like having another man/ woman in their relationship, feeling like they need to take things to another level.
They aren’t ascending on their own energy level, but instead trying to make the sex more intense in some way.
If you both can look into inner healing/ sexual healing together I feel it would be beneficial.
But, it if he recognizes your feelings and validates them.
If he’s not willing to see your side and work on your relationship together, without involving other people in the bedroom, then figure out how to leave and find your happiness again.
A marriage is between 2 people. You said You’re vows. Those should not be broken. That gold ring. Should be a sign… No man should do this. As hard as it might be. You & ur beautiful child need to get away. As soon as possible. You deserve better…Ur child deserves better. He is a horrible person . To even think about that… Get way . Soon. ((Hugs)) I get it. I am married to a selfish man too… If it not about him. Then there is a problem. Now he does not do. What urs is asking of you. But still he does not think about the kids or me at all…I am a grandmother Raising two beautiful grandchildren since they was born. And now r teenagers. So as soon. As they r grown.& out on their own. I am gone… and I say I am raising them. Cuz He other then work. Don’t do nothing for them or me. Unless it about him…
Hunny your sweet daughter will sense that you’re unhappy. If that happens, & you still continue to stay, she’s going to think that’s how it’s supposed to be. That this evening s the norm & this is just how moms & dads work. I know it is so hard but you have to think of you & your baby & I really don’t think staying where you’re unhappy is the best choice! I wish you & that sweet baby the best of luck & will keep you all tucked in my prayers!
You aren’t doing your daughter any favours by staying. Money can always be made. A childhood you only have once.
Leave, find a shelter for abused women and children and start over.
Leave him! Period your child isn’t going to be happy if you’re miserable!
Get out of that relationship
Get out now. There is help out there
No means no and if he doesn’t respect that, you need to go and take your daughter with you. You have more to offer her than you think and you will make it work.
Take your baby and don’t walk RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN. I am sorry but things will not get better. Think of your daughter, you may not have lots to give her but a safe place to live and love go a long ways.
Be straight with him tell him youre NOT going to do … If he keeps trying tell him ok" ill do it if you are taking some of the dick too"… See how he feels about one of his friends dicks inside him he dont want it you aint doin it cause you dont want it either…
Wow how misrable and a blow to ones selfesteem. Its obviously he doesn’t respect you because he’s doing what he wants without a thought or care. My best advice is seek help from family when he is at work leave so there’s no crazy confrontation to cause more damage. Give yourself a week with no contact then just offer him to see his daughter a cold fast clean break would be better. Because you seem like you want him to change so anything he says will convince you to stay. It will be better to move on his need for this and his selfish demeanor wont change. I’m sorry I’ve been where you are and it took me years to get over the self esteem issues this caused me.
Why is everyone telling her to take her baby and run? Yes I agree this relationship is toxic and being unhappy is not an option but what did he do to the baby? Wow people. He has rights to his child. Selfish. Wow.
He doesn’t love you. You need to either put him in his fkn place or pack up and leave.
If you don’t enjoy that don’t do it ! Don’t just have a threesome to make him happy. You always have choices. If your not happy in your marriage leave him. It will get better when you take the 1st step and make yourself happy
Why is it all ways the man? I was is a longterm relationship with a woman, she was truly bi, and always wanting to bring women home, y’all always act like it’s the man…WRONG women are just as bad.
No means no, that could be considered rape… I would let him and his friends know that as well.
Take back your answer and make it clear that you never wanted it in the first place…
Do NOT do it. Your husband just wants a reason to stick his dick in another female. If he ca t respect you enough to leave other women out of your sexual lives, you need to leave. There are so many nasty people out there with STDs why would he even want to risk that.
Do not do this if it feels wrong to you. You can do this on your own with your daughter and staying will effect her in negative ways as she will see the abuse and yes this is abuse. No one should ever be pushed into doing things with their bodies that they feel aren’t right. Find your strength and take your daughter and run. Go to a shelter and they can give you loads of help to get you in your feet and way from him.
PUT HIS ASS OUT, he can live with his hoes. He is not gonna change EVER. YOU ARENT DOING ANY FAVORS TO YOUR DAUGHTER BY STAYING WITH HIM. This is not rocket science. You know what you need to do. Do you have a back bone or just be a victim
Being a single mom is scary but you can do it. I was a single mom and it sucked but it’d do able. If you have family to help that is great if not go through your state and get help. They help with childcare, and much more. People addicted to sex need to be willing to get help like any other. But no means no! I have seen so many marriages end over the partner wanting a threesome and then it leads to the cheating and hiding shit. You don’t want to and if he keeps pressuring you to do so then his mind is elsewhere and you need to do what is best for you and your child. Get a job now and either get a babysitter, family or the state to help and then save to get away. I wish you the best and if you need to vent or talk feel free to message. Prayers for you
tell him to f##k him self you are woth more than that belive in your self
Run. As fast as you can
Say no. And stick to it. If he chooses to walk away that’s on him not you. Just because you were ok with it in the past doesn’t mean you have to continue. You have a voice. Use it.
A man is not a man if he still wants more women then just the one he has. A child should not be put through that. Your a better person and doesn’t need that in your life. May God always be with you.
Go! He’s selfish and cold hearted.
Your daughters life will be harder if you’re unhappy staying with him than if you were to leave. You said you wanted to do threesomes, but you can always retract your “yes”. I don’t like jumping right too the "leave him"s, but I would leave if I were you
I was in this situation but I conceived my kids with my ex of you’re really uncomfortable with threesomes eventually you will put your foot down have you tried telling him on your terms if you say no it’s no just giving you ideas.
You 2 married each other and vowed to only have sex with each other. You didnt marry each other and john and frank and russel and cindy.
There is help out there. You just need to know where it is. If you truly don’t want to be in that situation anymore get in touch with a woman’s shelter. If you don’t know which direction to go for help you can also make an excuse to have an appointment with a doctor… tell them you aren’t in a safe relationship but don’t know how to get out. They can get you in touch with the resources you need. He doesn’t love you. If he did he wouldn’t pressure you into things you don’t feel comfortable with. If you need someone to talk to you can message me. You now have to be an example for your daughter… Everything I do or situation I go through I ask myself how I would want my daughters to handle it. What advice would I give them. That needs to be how you handle this situation. I wish the best.
He’s narcissistic. Run.
File for a divorce, after you leave him. You don’t belong in his life. Take your child and go. She or he deserve better and you do too. God has a plan for you already. That is a zero tolerance situation. 
. Being stuck in a marriage or relationship like that is poison, you are precious and deserve a better life. Praying for your blessings and strength. 
You are truly sleeping with the enemy. Please pray for strength honey.
Why do women consistently ask for advice when their first sentence is “he treats me bad”? Why would you allow that type of behavior?
His narcissism is tearing you down.
Of course you have everything to offer your daughter.
Let’s start with 1/2 of everything,and move right on through to teaching your daughter to be a strong courageous woman.
It doesn’t matter what you “agreed” to.
It does matter who you are today.
For yourself and for your daughter.
Perspective is Everything!
Go to a shelter. You can say NO! You’re not a slave. Take your daughter and run.
Leave him ,trust in the LORD he ill take care of you and your daughter, Later and when your daughter grow up you will be so ashamed of your past, been there done that we ended divorcing too,sadly i trusted my second husband i told him about my passed for 17 years he kept throwing it in my face every time we had an argument ,he is out of my life now.
So is it a male or female he invites in??? And, yeah you agreed to be a part of it, you were, and you realized you don’t like it SO TELL HIM! Tell him do not want to participate and tell him exactly why. He should respect your feelings on this. If he doesn’t, want then you have a problem and you need to figure out if you can stay or not. Questions… why does he want threesome? Do you have sex at all just the 2 of you? Have you considered counseling with him?
I only read half and girl… Throw the whole man away.
Well you agreed with it so to really throw a loop and get him to stop tell him the 3rd person needs to be a guy. He might stop asking then
You’re not at a loss, more like a crossroads. You know what you need, but you’re delaying the decision. You said it yourself: your husband treats you badly. What advice would you give to another if in this situation? I’m sorry you’re facing something so difficult.
tell him you don’t want a threesome anymore. You have the right to say no after you said yes. And if he can’t accept it then, go. Girl if he gets mad at you for not wanting to sleep with other people with him then take your child and run. Run far and fast. Your child is better off with you even if you can’t offer her anything. You can build a better life for y’all from the ground up. Anything is better than being with a man who doesn’t care or respect you.