i would go back to that otver place with my tail in between my legs and tell them you made a horrible decision and see what they say…but make sure they know youll need maternity leave before they hire you back and you leave this place
While on maternity leave look for a new job
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I think this is illegal
Leave aside…if you are miserable there is no point in staying.
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Even if you choose to leave your job after maternity leave, I would still file a complaint with the department of labor in your state. He absolutely violated FMLA and will do that again to someone else.
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Legally he can not replace you for 6 months !! And your fmla does not last that long so again he has to have same job waiting for you !!
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Find a new company?.. to… work for?
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That’s definitely illegal. You are guaranteed your same position with the same pay when you return from maternity leave…
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FMLA only goes into play for certain businesses that meet certain criteria and employees that have been on the job for Like a year (or so many hours). Most small businesses are not subject to FMLA and if you are in a work at will state unfortunately nothing you can do legally and I’d look for another job. There are tons of work from home positions that start around $15/hr. Job Cartel posts them a the time a d has helped tons of ppl I know land great positions.
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Know your rights and let HIM know that you know your rights. And then stand up to him.
If you’re worried he will let you go anyway then you have nothing to lose regardless. So you might as well at least let him know that you aren’t an idiot or a doormat. Good luck.
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I would be finding a new job while I was out on maternity leave
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Look for a new job well on maternity leave
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Take maternity leave and find a new better job before it ends. Then tell him you’re not coming back at the last couple weeks of leave. No more detail than that.
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Your strength is your job competence. Many people work from home. Start looking immediately and as soon as you find something, leave. Life is too short to work for someone who treats you like this. Congratulations on your new baby!
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When I was on maternity leave with my daughter I got pregnant with my son. I was already 2.5 months when I returned to work. My boss at the company I had been with years knew we planned on having our two kids back to back. She refused to give me my full time hours back and had me working only every other weekend. Because I was pregnant I couldn’t get another job…no one would hire me. So I had to work for 7 weeks after my son was born to earn enough hours to go back on maternity leave. I never returned to that company and I do not regret that choice. What she did was highly illegal and against labor laws. I could have brought it to court but I just wanted to move on. I found work right away when I was ready to go back. If you are not able to find work easily…I highly recommend going after this company. If you can find work easily…move on…you are better off anyway.
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I can’t believe you went back that doesn’t sound like he appreciated you or cared about you he did it once and he can do it again
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Girl go on maternity leave take your 6-12 weeks and find a different job and don’t go back. You deserve sooooo much better.
You know you’re worth more. You don’t deserve that. And you should have reported him considering going out on the FMLA gaurentees your job back without any issues
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Take your leave. You can always find another job. Promise!
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Sounds like you need a new job regardless of pregnancy or maternity leave. Your boss sounds like an asshole.
Since the pandemic there are others more work at home jobs. Not dure what your type of work is but I would just have my baby and then start looking for other options while I was off. If i found dome take it if not go on back there and keep looking for something better. I do know in the state where i worked they were required to keep you a job but it did not mean they had to hold the job you were currently working…got to say most of the time they would hold your job
My job did that to me. Took my 4 day week and cut it to 2. I was a single mother and so my only option was to leave. Good thing was, I had already been talking to a new employer closer to home during my maternity leave.
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Definitely file no matter how long ago it happened. & i would take your maternity leave & when you are ready to go back to work find a better job. There are some fast food places starting people at 15 an hour im sure you could find a job simian the field you are now with better pay and a boss who will treat you like a person.
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After u have this baby find a better job…you don’t have to take that
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It sounds like you just need to leave this job regardless…
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Get away from there you can do better ,don’t even let I’m treat you like that
I would take me leave then find another job, don’t go back to that guy.
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Go on maternity leave, and search for a new job. I would not plan to go back there.
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That job will replace you in a week. Your kids can’t 
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Honey, you are now, were, and always have been more important than a shitty job. If you arent being treated like you matter, then to them, you dont. And no one deserves to be somewhere they dont matter. He knows your value or he wouldnt have asked you back. There are too many people out their looking for jobs to stick to one person. He is taking advantage of you, and making you feel like you owe him, when the truth is the other way around. Sit down with him and honestly tell him your feelings, and offer him the options:. 1.) I take maternity leave, come back with my full job and the pay raise you promised me or 2.) I’m out and you find someone else.
You are in the perfect position to find a new job that fits your schedule and routine. The whole world has completely changed! Its available now more than ever. You CAN do it.
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I’d take your maternity leave & start looking for another job after 4-5 weeks.
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Depends is it paid maternity leave? If so take it and wait til it’s up but be looking for other jobs then up and leave, no warning. That’s what I’d do. Then if he tries asking for you to come back tell him where he can stick it
I would find a new job
The Labor Board loves boss’s like you’ll have, I assume all states have them !
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What everyone else said. Take your leave, find a new job(start looking now) and when he contacts you at the new job, just hang up. You are not responsible for his company. You are responsible for your own happiness. Good luck!
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Take the family leave and look for another job while you are on it. I would go take with HR and file even though it was from b4 & tell them you are worried about the same situation happening again.
Does your current employer have 40 or fewer employees? Laws on maternity leave may not apply, but definitely research if he violated the law when you weren’t able to return to the same or a similar position/s.
Take your maternity leave and while out look for a job that suits you much better. This guy has no respect for you and it is time to cut ties with him.
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I suggest you make a decision…as to whether you want to raise a family or be a have a career…Why must your employer be victim to your chosen lifestyle. Be either a responsible employee or a responsible parent. Your boss deserves your attention…so do the children you choose to bring into YOUR world. I mean this criticism constructively…
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You’re already miserable- it’s time to go! He sounds awful to work for. I know money is money but your mental health and happiness is worth SO MUCH more.
Take your leave and return to work at end of leave if there is a problem file against him but already have feelers out for a new job. Dont let him have upper hand. Paid babysitters for 3 kids you need a good paying job be prepared
I would get out of there and run a fast as I could. I would file a case on him and sit back and care for your babies and work for somebody else and lower the stress. Your children will only be little once love them alot.
I would take leave…then leave. Spend more time with your babies. You will never regret it. Look for a different position. What he is doing is wrong.
Take your leave but don’t go back to him find a job elsewhere the guy has no respect and no way is he worth it good luck with new baby xx
What he did is illegal!! Look up your rights and stand up for yourself! You are entitled to leave. Educate yourself. He is SO wrong what he did!
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Leave when you have the baby, if not before. You don’t need to work for someone like that, to many people are hiring. Good luck.
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First of all young lady know your WORTH. get some self esteem or you most certainly will pass that to your children second know your WORTH in the work place stand up for yourself or no one else will if your unhappy in your current job find another no one is holding a gun to your head yes times are tough but you got to.lean into it and be tougher do it for the future of your family.if your happy aren’t your children going to thrive and be happier you can do this
Personally if it were me. I would be sending out resumes right now. Everyone has job openings. Even with being up front with new employer telling them you are pregnant a lot will hire you now.
Has he done this to other women who took maternity leave? Also, were the 2 part-time jobs without benefits like a full time job would be?
second of all…maternaty leave…that should be for men to take time for their wives having babies…its not just a stopping off point…its the special time that a new chld is brought into this world…yet you worry about your boss while you have beautiful children…the heck with the boss…
Ditch this lousy job. Plan your move to Canada where parental leave is paid for a year and can also be split with your spouse. Employer has to keep your position for you. Socialist democracy.
EEOC that’s why they are there. It’s free. Contact them the day you go out on maternity leave about your last pregnancy
FMLA protects from things like that. Very illegal what he did.
Document everything ever day then turn him into EOE. Equal opportunity employment. Watch HIS squirm.
You said you are in NY? Depends on how many employees he had then. Call a lawyer, free consultation
I don’t think we can tell you what to do. You need to do what you think is right for you.
Go on leave and find a better job. You don’t need to be treated unfairly
Girl you need a new job. And you need to file against him.
Take your leave. While youre on it start looking for a better place. Alot of places now will let you work from home. A good place to look is a case manager for acess long term care.
Document everything and get a lawyer. What he’s doing is illegal.
Take your maternity leave and start looking for another job. My opinion
Go and get a new job and don’t go back
Its a state job so youll have a great retirement
Move along sweetie why stay in misery.
Based on your narrative, sue his ass.if your facts are right,he may have violated laws
Take your leave and look for a better job. You are only used as much as you allow yourself to be. You deserve better, go and find it.
Lots of jobs available. Get out.
You need to go to the labor board and file a complaint.
#HerSay
I don’t know the rules in your state but look up the rules and check the policy at your place of employment
Do not allow this bully to interfere in your private life. He sounds like a creep to work for. Perhaps it is time to find another job,
There is NO EXCUSE FOR HIS BAD BEHAVIOR
Thisnis why we have a labour board . Use it
What your passed boss did was illegal. You should have sued
They are not supposed to be able to replace your job when you are on leave till after 6 months
Be thankful for a job you can work half at home. I would talk to him tell him your needing time off for the baby and how does he want you to do that. Have a friend listen to his respond so you have a witness.
Look for new job when your out
first of all…and this is just me…i had 5 kids…i did need to work as my husband sometimes didnt have a job or had a low paying job. well, i decided i didnt want to miss my children growing up. so i owned it up to my husband. he needed to make enough money for us to live. to eat and have a house and car…i decided i didnt need a lot of things in my house and my kids didnt need a bunch of fancy stuff. people who make more money often buy at second hand shops…or trade…i did this for many years. i worked off and on but nothing permanent…and nothing that would take me away from my kids.as time went on my husband progressed and my kids got older and we had enough money to live. so i chose not to live in luxury and stay home with my kids…i found those to be the happiest of times…if you are a single mother …why are you having so many kids being a single mother. this isnt right for you or for them. im thinking though that you have a spouse …let him work and you take car eof the home and the kids…
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