So I’m a happy mom of 2, and I have been a single mom since the very beginning until I met my fiance four years ago. We have been living together for almost two years now, and he is great with my kids and with me… he treats us well. He is always there for us… my problem is that I recently discovered that I’m pregnant and felt very, very happy about it… my fiance is, however, totally against having a baby now… we are working both long hours and only started new jobs a few months back… I sorted everything at work, so this should be fine, and trying to find solutions to make our life better, but he still wants me to have an abortion and says that he will probably feel that it’s too much for him after a while. I don’t want to ruin my relationship by forcing him to have a child but at the same time feel that I won’t forgive myself or him for forcing me to give up on our child… I am approx five weeks pregnant and totally lost… can you mamas help please?
Sounds like you need to sit down and really think about this. If you abort, you could regret it and end up hating him. Do what you feel is best, not what he feels is best.
Do not allow him to force you to do anything. Your body your choice.
Screw the dude if he’s a jerk that would ask you to do a thing like that just move on with your children and don’t look back!!! You’ll never forgive yourself and you’ll grow to hate him more than likely!!!
Forget the guy keep the baby:smiling_face_with_three_hearts:
Leave him and sue for child support!!! 
Dump him, and don’t look back!!
He says he doesn’t want it. You have three choices. One have an abortion. 2 stay have the child but understand it will create a divide. Three leave and have the baby
Don’t do it!! Many of my friends that had an abortion, totally regret it for the rest of their lives. Its not just about him, its what u want too. I’d never kill a baby
And id leave this dude asap
If you got an abortion because that’s what he wants it would ruin you and your relationship . Your child should come before a man he’ll get over it
What do you want to do? Don’t let him decide for you. In my personal opinion, a child is always a blessing. I can’t imagine abortion as an option. Maybe he will change his mind after the baby is born.
Thats such a hard place to be in… I couldnt imigine… However… I think you both need to sit down and talk… And listen… And be honest… That’s a huge life decision to make…
What do you want? You are carrying part of you and your family and his and his family. For me, I was raised in a family that believes every life is sacred. God’s gift. This baby deserves a chance to live. He sounds selfish and immature. You can always adopt the baby out if you feel you aren’t ready. I pray for you and your baby and yes, even the babies father. I was raised in a family that believes that God always puts an extra potato on the table…prayers for you and your decision
Ugh yeah the man would be gone before my baby would.
If he didn’t want a child, did he do anything to prevent said child?
This is really tough as I can see both views. Unfortunately sounds like your relationship may be forfeit if you have a child but there’s a chance he could come around. Important facts are did you discuss beforehand having kids and was birth control used or were both parties neglectful? At the end of the day you choose whats right for you but sounds like some sacrifices will be made either way.
If you choose a man over your kids, that’s as low as a mother gets.
First of all you don’t let no man tell you to have an abortion if you have this abortion God will not forgive you okay you need to let him go cuz to me you don’t love you or the child a real man will love you and a child not your abortion have the baby and move on okay don’t let no man tell you what to do that’s your child God bless you with that tire and you keep that child drop him like a hot potato and move on
I couldn’t live with myself on the abortion choice, adoption if you dont wanna keep the baby but i dont think id choose him over the baby, so you just gotta do what feels right to you, if you decide to carry the baby just please make sure its loved
You have to make a decision based on what you want. Otherwise you will regret it
Those who are saying just dump him are being unrealistic. He has every right to say he doesn’t want a child just as she does to decide to keep it. Its ultimately her choice but the decision of coparenting should be a co decision.
Any child created is a miracle of life. This is totally your choice to choose what you think you should do.
KEEP THE BABY. FORGET HIM you both knew what you was doing and the things it may lead to. If you. We’re a single mom to begin with you can take on another child
I don’t think that anyone could say anything that would make me kill my unborn child. You already know that you don’t want to. You already know that you will never forgive yourself. What you don’t know is what that man is gonna do 5 years down the road, 2 years, 5 months…or even next week. He might up and be gone tomorrow for all you know. You are both adults. You didn’t force him to help create this child. You both knew the consequences of sex. So how can you even consider allowing HIM to FORCE you to have an abortion? Seriously.
Honestly in my opinion, you will resent him either way eventually. (Either for him even suggesting it or for you going through with abortion) Better to end the relationship now and decide for yourself about the baby. I don’t particularly think there is a wrong answer whether to keep the baby or not but do it for you and your child not for someone else.
I believe he’s scared give him time he’ll adjust to the ides he’s sounds great! Hell come around. Don’t talk about the baby don’t mention anything just keep it going as normal.
Get it in Writing with his signature (maybe notarize it) that he doesn’t want the child and leave him.
Only do want YOU wish to do.
Walk away from this asshole
He got in bed with you and knew the possible outcomes, it is YOUR choice, although might be a hard one because hes against it, but its your baby mama, make the best choice for YOU🖤 It is selfish of him to help you create life, then demand you take it away, I am so sorry your going through this and I hope you feel 100% with the decision you choose💜
Perhaps you should cut him loose! Children come first. Fiancé don’t come with a lifetime guarantee!
:(((Heart breaking . You can’t do just what he wants . He’s worried about finances? Fatherhood? Reasoning why???
If you decide to have the abortion then what if he suddenly decides you’re too much for him? That guilt will tear you apart inside. A real man would never ask you to do this
What you chose is between you and God, 
but if you are feeling you want this baby go for it. Dad will fall in line for his responsibility or he won’t and that’s his fault.
Ask yourself what you want?
Then if what you want is to keep the baby, then keep it.
Over time he may come around and be happy about it and we’ll if not you know he wasn’t meant to be.
You’re already a mum to two you have got this!!
Get present to what you really want and go from there. If you decide to keep it, you must accept that he’s made himself clear so you might lose him. If you decide to have the abortion, it needs to be your choice, otherwise you’ll likely resent him afterwards.
I’ll keep the baby for you until you’re ready to have him home, because I can promise you, once that baby is born his feelings towards the baby will change, please, oh please I’m begging you do NOT abort the baby, could there be something he may not have told you that he might have in his family or so, schizophrenia, hemophiliac? Etc etc, just a thought.
He’s obviously not as great as you thought he was unfortunately. True colors come out in the face of adversity. Very simple conversation: we are pregnant. Get on board 100% or get to Steppin.
Life is a beautiful thing💜
If you are all ready feeling that you couldn’t forgive him or yourself if you didn’t have this baby then I think you have all ready answered your question… And who knows the first time he feels that baby kick or the first time he looks at that beautiful life you both made he may have a change of heart… So I say have the baby if he stays great and if not you will do just fine.
I don’t believe in abortion and feel every child is created for a reason… I would seek counsel with your faiths clergy… Perhaps give up for adoption… Personally, I praying this is just realizing he will have a mini him and it scares him… Prayers your way hon…
He’s asking you to kill your baby. Can you live with yourself if you do go through with an abortion? You said you’re happy. You have to do what is best for you mama
Keep the baby, and if YOU don’t want it then put it up for adoption as there are so many woman out there that can’t have a baby of their own and would love to adopt your baby, but has to be your choice not his!!
I hope you find some serious, positive support - no matter what you choose. Only you cn make the decision. Much love to you.
Abortion is not the answer. If he felt that strongly about not having a child he should have taken the caution to prevent it. The child is not to blame.
Oh hunny this baby is meant to be… Keep the baby… Find a man that will love you and all your babies.
Well that’s something he should’ve thought of before you got pregnant which didn’t happen by yourself and it wasn’t protected sex so now he has to face the outcome from y’all special moments that created that lil bundle of joy if he didn’t want more kids then he can fix that problem medically
He’ll leave either way…
Surprised you two didn’t talk about a child? You been living together for two years playing house now it’s for real. A MAN would accept what he has done and do the right thing, a child will argue and fight until he doesn’t have to deal with it. Watch the behavior, have your child, you made your bed now sleep in it
Whatever you choose to do there is one thing to be sure of
You have to live with the decision forever more so make sure it’s what you want , it must be what YOU want.
He shouldn’t make you feel that way . If he loved you he would support you regardless. I’m sorry but I’d kick him quicker than aborting a baby . You done it before without him or anyone xxxx time to look at what you want not him
Only you can make this decision. I believe eventually he’ll find some excuse to leave either way.
You need to dig deep and do what’s best for you and your kids. Don’t do something you think you couldn’t live with; don’t do something like this for HIM.
You must do whats right for YOU. Follow your heart.
Honestly I feel comments here will only confuse you even more. It’s best to have a chat with a social worker who can also give you on going support whatever you do decide. There is no wrong or right answer. I wish you all the best x
From the sounds of it. The relationship is over… rather you keep the baby or not. If you go through with the abortion you won’t forgive him, if you keep the baby, he will eventually leave.
You choose the baby. Our kids always come first. If you raised your other two when you were single. God will get you through with a third baby. Don’t listen to him. Within inn time he’ll realize.
Unprotected sex leads to pregnancy…if he didn’t want kids then protection should have been discussed and used every time…
Why would you get pregnant intentionally when the man clearly told you he didn’t want a child? Sounds like you’ll be raising it alone
Sounds to me he isnt completely in love with you and doesnt want to be obligated to you or a baby if he should so decide to leave
Boyfriends come and go. They fall out of love. You will have this baby to love forever. If he is willing to do away with this baby he helped create, will he be willing to walk away from you when the going gets rough. Is the baby an excuse? If he means that much to you, have the baby and give her up for adoption to someone who can’t have one. They will be forever grateful.
This is between you and God. Please pray for an answer. He will direct you.
I mean no disrespect but he obviously knows how babies are made and if you already have children than you can get pregnant so why wouldn’t he be more careful? A rubber? Birth Control? Could’ve pulled out?!?!
You already answered your own question.
Give the baby to someone…
Maybe he should of thought of that before he got you pregnant. Have that baby bc murder in the womb is against God. Prayers for you.
Did he say anything before you got pregnant about not wanting a child? I was in a similar situation years ago, but he had 2 kids from a previous relationship. I got pregnant and he told me to give the baby up for adoption or get an abortion. I pretty much told him to kiss my ass and I left him. You need to decide what’s right for you, the baby on the way and your other children. If that was me, I’d choose my baby over that man
You’ll have yourself to live with long after he moves on.
Do what you know YOU need.
You know the answer, this baby is a gift to you.
Have your baby, if he walks so be it sorry just my opinion but the two of you created the baby together very selfish of him to want you to abort. What if you two split down the road anyhow…yea I most definitely choose the baby.
If you don’t want to have an abortion then don’t. If he leaves then let him, that shows you what type of guy he really is.
Keep the baby, get rid of the boyfriend 
Do what is best for you as far as not having any regrets. Dig deep into how you will feel if You had an abortion? Evidently you are a great mom. You already have two. And being single you managed to make it through and I’m sure you will be a wonderful mom to this baby with or without him. Because if you give it up to me, he’s probably going to be very cautious about having sex with you again, and it’s going to change the relationship plus if you have the baby. Or not it doesn’t guarantee. He’s going to stay either way. So kudos to you being a single mom to your other two kids and I’m sure this baby would not be too much of a burden on you.
Leave this guy,the baby is number one,this shows his character and feelings for you,you can do better!!
If you are happy about it then keep the baby. If he wants to leave then fine, you will do just fine w/o him.
It’s not his choice and sounds like an excuse. He can’t force you to do something you don’t want to. If he’s saying you’ll lose him of you keep it well you’ll still lose him if you have an abortion because you’ll end up despising him
Don’t ruin your relationship with yourself. You won’t ever forgive yourself. You will think about this baby till the day you die. Please don’t abort him.
Get rid of him not willing to marry you commitment not willing to take responsibility for his own actions
Cares more about Money
It’s pretty clear who is number 1 in his world as you listed a cohesive threat
As well
He thinks it will be to much for him after a while boo hoo is he a child or an adult what a load of bull is he carrying the baby no can he walk out on you and your kids yes not his other 2 yes at any time he is a 3rd selfish child who has threatened to walk if you don’t kill his child because that will take his quick exit door off him without it costing him dollars in child support
He has made it very clear where both you and his unborn child stand
Do what you feel is right have the baby if you want to you did it before you can do it again if he didn’t want a baby he should’ve been a little bit safer
If he didn’t want kids he should’ve had a vasectomy 
How selfish to want you to choose between him and a gift from God!
That’s a Hell To The Noooo if I’ve ever heard it. He has no right and I don’t believe he loves you. If he did he would love you with HIS child coming into this world. I personally would go on and have that child. If he don’t like it he can go kiss a cows ass.
Any person who demands you kill someone or they leave, was planning to leave…this is SO MUCH like what happened to family and friends in the last 60 years…
The answer is NOT abortion. The answer is NEVER abortion.
If you want the baby; then leave.
If you want your fiancé; then you know what you must do.
It’s a hard decision and I don’t envy you.
No man is worth murdering an innocent human being. Lose the loser and love the child.
You will resent him for it if he makes you choose. If he loves you he will accept your choice.
If be raising this child alone and telling this guy to bounce!
That’s definitely a topic that you need to discuss at the beginning of the relationship when it started to get serious, you are in a very bad position right now because you just have 2 choices, keep the baby or keep your boyfriend.
Dump his ass babys a gift from god
Do what you feel you have to. It is sad all around no child should be born without both parents wanting the baby. If a grown man does not want a child he should use protection. I would it ask for support or get him involved in any way. If you ask for supper the attorney general sets up visitation and I would not trust my child with a man that did not want them.
First of all it’s your choice and yours alone. He may be your fiancé but it sounds like he’s not ready to step up to his own responsibility. Up until now he has been your knight in shining armor. Now he is the father and he’s stepping back saying he isn’t ready, you can’t afford, excuses. You need to think long and hard about what you want it’s your body. I would also take a long hard look at your relationship with him, is he mature enough to enter into a marriage with? Perhaps try couples counseling. My fiancé wanted our child 23 years ago and my husband wasn’t mature enough to handle a baby and a new wife we divorced 11 years later. Do what’s best for you and your children, it’s a choice you are going to live with the rest of your life. Good luck
You have to do what’s right for you and your two other children. It has never been easy balancing work and a baby, but we all have managed to do it…single and couples.
If you two were not planning on having a baby why were you not preventing pregnancy? Should have been a joint decision for your family unit. You have put him into a lifetime obligation that he did not want.
dump him and let him pay child support
I’d choose my child over any man, even if that man was the father.
Maybe he is afraid to become a father.
You’re not “giving up” your child… You sound like you’re giving it up for adoption… No, you created it and now you want us to tell you it’s ok to kill it so you feel better about crushing it’s tiny little skull or burning it to death in the womb. The HELL is wrong with you!!!
it really is only up to the mother who is carrying the child…if he didn’t want to be a father he should have used protection or spoke about it before it’s to late… sounds to me like the mother doesn’t want a abortion… it’s hard to make this choice as i’ve had to do this myself… so the choice is up to the mother but she needs to make that choice… good luck