Call the cops… There’s a couple of unsupervised kids out here, idk where they belong 
Look I get it I’m the hood mom. All the kids know they can come over for a plate or a drink or use the potty. My kids range from almost 14 to just turned 8 and my littlest thinks she’s the little momma so I get all ages. We had our issues with “naughty” kids (I don’t want to say bad kids bc I don’t think kids are by by choice it’s just how they’re raised and it isn’t their fault). With that being said, I had to lay down the law. In my yard or with my kids there will be no fighting, bickering, bullying, none of that non sense. But I’ve had to be a bitch about it. My house is and always will be a safe space and it seems like you have similar intentions that are being taken advantage of. If you need, call the police. I’d start with the management at your complex first. This sounds like intimidation and that’s not ok. Props to you for putting up with all the bs but if you’ve had enough then you’ve had enough. Sounds like it’s starting to affect your kids and enough IS enough. And good job looking out for the other babies when their own parents won’t!
She shouldn’t have to take her kids elsewhere, seeing her got her own yard.
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Move or don’t use your yard. Privacy fence could work also.
All I know is if other kids took my kids toys and the mother threatened violence because I told them to stop, I’d fuck that woman up. Watch your mouth with me and with my kids. I’m not kidding.
First put up fencing and a sign that there is no trespassing… if kids still come in then tell the kids directly that they just can’t come to your property or they will be in trouble. If parents have a problem with that then tell the parents if kids can’t follow rules then police will be notified. Sucks to be “that neighbor” but I’ve been in a similar situation before and it gave me more peace of mind to be “that neighbor” then always worried and have your kids stressed about being in their own home… also notify (in writing and keep your own copy get it signed or initiated if possible by an employee to show you gave it to them)your complex of the situation and that if it continues you will be calling police just so your complex can’t say that your causing trouble and it backs you up for any other complaint you may have with the complex
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I must be a wimp. I would enjoy seeing my kids playing in my yard- wait for the unsupervised and bullies to show up- then make a big show of loading up in the car with some toys, gathering your kids to go to the nearest park. Bye- going to play at the park…
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A lot of apartments dont allow fencing to be put up…
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Sad put up fence! Or some of kind of boundaries for other kids!
Definitely call the police and let them know about the harassment. Also tell your landlord. Maybe even look into moving if possible. Some people are just nuts.
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I have the same problem in my complex. I tell them no…and to play with their own toys. …or to at least ask if they can play. The only problem with that is our toys end up at another building…
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You need to make reports
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Also keep a log, record when you can
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Y’all some stupid people.
This woman lives in an apartment complex. She is fortunate that she has a piece of yard that is designated to her apartment.
Does this mean that she can install a fence? NO. It’s not her property. Yet, so many of you said to “put up a fence”.
Y’all said to put in cameras. Ugh!
When you rent, if you install anything that requires a hole, screw, or nail, it is considered permanently attached. When you leave, it stays. Not only that, she could lose her deposit also. And if not approved in writing, she could face eviction.
People, quit giving bad advice!
Best advice was call the cops. Tell them there are underage kids unsupervised in your yard and you aren’t sure who their parents are or where the live and you need to leave but, you are afraid to because with no adult they could get injured. Then while the cops are on the way, contact management and let them know the police are on the way and why.
This will at least get it on record. It may scare the parents into keeping their kids home. And if the parents retaliate, management and police will have on record the neglect report.
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Next time all of those kids are outside playing in your yard unsupervised, anonymously call the cops on their parents!
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That or take all of the toys to your car or inside your house while your kids aren’t outside playing. And when they are outside playing with them and the kids come over starting to take their stuff, tell them “NO, these are our toys. You don’t just take whatever you want. That’s not how it works over here.”
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I’d put a fan outside and keep spraying fart spray into the yard.
I’d move and until then keep toys inside
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this 10000000% also could file a harassment, destruction of property, theft, and for the mom threatening your kids, a child abuse police report. Also call the office manager of the apt complex.
Best advice was call the cops. Tell them there are underage kids unsupervised in your yard and you aren’t sure who their parents are or where the live and you need to leave but, you are afraid to because with no adult they could get injured. Then while the cops are on the way, contact management and let them know the police are on the way and why.
This will at least get it on record. It may scare the parents into keeping their kids home. And if the parents retaliate, management and police will have on record the neglect report.
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Call the police for sure. And let them know you’re doing so. Then follow through. When they learn they can’t bully you without consequences, they’ll stop.
Limit the toys that are outside, allow YOUR children 1-2 toys at a time. When random kids show up, call the police and say you don’t know where they live or belong too. It’s not your job to keep an eye out on other peoples kid’s.
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Take your kids toys AWAY tell the other kids and parents that sharing is NOT taking what u want. And put your foot down n don’t watch their kids THEY R THEIR KIDS not yours u are NOT responsible for them. N if it where me I’d tell the kids “go get yr mum n I’ll show u how the hospital shares it’s thread for stitches” but thts me
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I’m petty so I’d put all toys away and just take my child to a park .
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Grow some balls don’t let them bully you are your kids don’t let their kids come over take their toys or play with them you are they protection
Call the cops and keep detailed logs of everything!
IF you can move far, far away. Call police and make a report on mother and kids. Call them on her every time they bully yall.
Get a restraining order on her and her kids. Next time she threatens you or I would see if I could move to another apartment explain to management that your scared for your family’s safety
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You can’t play with the toys unless your parent is with you.
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People like that will never change. Honestly I’d start looking for a different place to live… good luck!
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Depends on ages but you can report unsupervised kids to police or cps. Not only that, make sure you tell them they aren’t welcome in your yard, then it is trespassing and any toys you have keep put up unless your kids are playing with them. Tell the other kids they are not allowed to play with the toys. If their parent threaten you, call police.
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I would not call the police at this point, they have a job to do & it isn’t running interference for something like this. Make reports to the complex’s office people & if they know how to do their job, they’ll keep a record of such reports & possibly handle this individual. It might be an inconvenience, but I’d also put all my kids’ toys away somewhere so they aren’t out & only bring out what they want to play with. As for the kids, I’d ignore them & not feed into it. If they come over & you feel like you’re having to supervise them, take your kids inside until they leave.
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I know it sucks but just keep them babies inside with their toys or go to a park or for a walk just yourselves!! Too much stress & anxiety
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Tell the apartment manager if it’s that bad. Stand your ground
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Do you have a fence at all
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Go to the Apartment Community Housing Manager explain what is going on and demand something be done.
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Call the police and tell the apartment manager or her landlord about the Intimidation and bullying by her and her encouraging her children to bully your kids. No matter what she says stand your ground, keep records of what happens so it can be shown to the relevant people because Intimidation and bullying behaviour is illegal.
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If the adult is threatening violence i would talk to the landlord about getting a camera and filea restraining order against the parent for you and your children it could actually make them have to move if it continues or get cps involved since children are involved and them being on your car that is your property i would report every time they trespass on your property and threaten you or your children. It is the polices job to handle things like this despite what other people think this is important we should not live in fear of our neighbors. And im sure the apartment complex has rules about living there as well. So start reporting it as well to the apartment manager and do it in writing via email etc and keep copies.
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Call law inforcement
When you go inside toys go with you. When her kids go outside you & your baby’s go in. Put your foot down.
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I understand and its hard to take your kids toys from another child… At first you feel bad but you have to do it just say can I have it back thats what I do with my son’s toys
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Have you considered an order of protection? Get a attorney consultation
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I used to take my son’s toys when we go out and take it back when done… if other child comes for it tell them No and take toy and your child inside and close the door… OR buy a cheap toy from a thrift store and offer it to the other kids when they come for your children’s toy. Say no not this toy but here is one you can play with… bring it out every time…
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Punch the heads off them all 
ah no I hate bullying lads I’ve had to sort it put more than once with my son
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Are u able to fence the garden of if so i would do that and of any kids come in say their not aloud put a, stop to them being aloud in your yard you dont have to let them in and if they take a toy get it back of them and ask them to not touch your kids toys and stop watching other peoples kids keep them away from ur yard and ignore wat their doing its not ur job to watch them i wouod also try take your kids out if u drive take their toys and go somewere else with out door space for few, weeks and see if it calms everythinng down they will eventully get the message i would def try shutting ur garden of with fencing and gate if u can and if they continue to come in call the police everytime its ur space their not aloud to jist come in and if the parents keep getting petty keep a, diary and get an order on them so their not aloud to talk to you ect will eventully back of and stick up for ur self they wouldnt like it if it was other way around tell them its not ur job to watch their kids and that thats ur kids toys and its not for others to play with syand up for ur self they may just leave u alone then if not do wat i said above sounds awful for you
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Lady, fuck those kids. If they’re parents don’t want to be involved with their kids - fuck them. They’re not your kids. Call your apartment complex manager or call the cops, and report unsupervised little butt holes running amok in your neighborhood.
Any adult who bullies my kids is going to get bullied by me im afraid!! No tolerance for bullies, the only way they stop is a taste of their own medicine 
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Ik people won’t agree with me but I’d whoop her a** or get someone else to. Sounds like that’s what she truly needs and I’m a giver. Some people need to be dealt with in ways they understand… Or move.
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I am tired of being the community babysitter and my kids being bullied: Advice?
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Wow, I am so sorry your are your kids are dealing with monster mom and her monster brats, I would not allow her children play with my children either, God don’t like ugly, which I would tell her, Oh I am such an ass, so glad I don’t live there, sometimes my mouth runs faster then brain, and I can’t control it. lol My children are all grown now, I had my share of irate parents. and cops, Well good luck honey
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I don’t really know how you can fix this, but I do know that you sound like a lovely person. Bullies are everywhere, it is terrible that this woman is raising her kids to be just like her. The kids don’t know any better. Stand with your head high, and know that your kids are just like you. 
If you have time take your your kids to a park close by. Don’t leave your.toys out and when she sees your kids not out playing she should get the hint. I know kids love to play outside but make fun games such as cards, board games and other activities inside to avoid the Bullies.
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Set your boundaries let them be known dont let these neighbors bully you or your kids … Say something speak up , tell them brats to go home
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Put up a boundary fence and a sign that says private property , no trespassing. Get a Pittbull dog or a shepherd, a lot of ppl are afraid of them, they r barkers but sweet angels when raised right. Are used to have the same thing when I had license daycare from Home, all the other mothers would take advantage of the fact that I put the pool the sliding board the Playhouse and all the toys cars ride ons etc,But it became very annoying that I got stuck watching everybody so I feel ya
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It’s real simple when my kids were younger the kids would come over from all around the neighborhood and want to play I got stuck watching them all day long I finally got smart said go get your mommy she can come and watch you they were go home get mommy and of course mommy did never want to come
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As for the babysitting part, I’d start making out babysitting bills and sending them to the parents of these kids. If they expect you to watch them, then they should also expect to pay you for it. Give them a bill, they’ll get the hint. If the kid’s toys aren’t actually big yard toys, take them inside. Your kids can just take out what they are going to play with when they go out, but bring everything back in after they’re done. If any of these mothers approach you, record them. If they threaten you, then you can get a restraining order on them so they have to stay away from you and your kids. Sometimes you have to fight petty with petty.
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I lived in a government housing unit and the parents there were exactly the same. Hell sometimes the other kids would come over and say "Mom said we could eat at your house tonight ". I would send them on their way and nope not here. When you live in community such as this one was, the housing authorities said that we didn’t have on our own yard, that the kids could play anywhere they wanted. I was never so happy when I was able to move from there.
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For years I lived in a trailer park where this was the case. I agree limit what toys come out, if your kids aren’t playing with the toys, they get put back up. But as far as the adult bullies sadly if they dont see a problem with how they or the kids act nothing you do is likely to change that. We had to lock almost everything up. We couldn’t even have a small inflatable pool bc little toddlers would be let our thier houses without anyone watching them and we were afraid one day we would find a baby dead. Too many crackheads in that area. Anyway- good luck! We finally moved away.
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Move, call 911 for the treats keep a record of everything and if you have to get an attorney and sue
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So sorry I have no answer. This behavior is what causes cities to be war zones instead of communities.
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The best very best thing you can do for yourself and your children is to move, it’s the only way to be out of this situation I promise you I know.! Moving will give you and your children a new lease on life you will be so much happier this I can promise you. You say, you can’t move! Well that’s the only solution…
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My heart goes out to you dear. Yes raising kids in that environment is rouge. I raised 10 experienced all kinds of situations. Just be strong for you kids and be a good and positive example for them. It’s going to be hard but you can do it till you’re able to move to a better neighborhood.
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I would keep my kids in with the toys. Go somewhere else to a park to play when outside. Plus try to move !!! No way to live !
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Your children can play on their own.you can create space in your house.friends are for school and at home let them play alone.it worked for me.in my area they don’t know my children they only see them when we are driving out
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Unfortunately I have no advice. Sometimes you get stuck with the worst neighbours ever and you can’t get rid of them. They just get worse and they don’t stop. When you see them take your kids inside. That’s all you can do
There is nothing you can do to improve other people’s behavior. If you have your own yard you could keep the outdoor toys in your own yard and lock the gate. Guests are by invitation only. You control which kids come into your yard to play. If it’s at all possible, moving to another home would be ideal. Nobody wants to live cheek by jowl with a bullying adult.
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I would let the apartment complex know what’s going on. Go into detail what’s going on.
If that fails call the law.
And go into detail about the situation.
Bullying is wrong and you shouldn’t have to deal with that.
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This reminds me of a story my best friend told.
She just started going inside when the other kids showed up.
Sadly …a young child got hit by a car and died
It is still a big regret today that she didn’t call child protective services.
So my advice is…make that call …it could save a child’s life.
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I hate to think what these bully kids will be like as adults. Not a good picture.
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1st, report to the Manager and have them document it. 2nd, contact the police and see what can be done legally, and do it. 3rd, go inside to play EVERYTIME they show up. Oh,and take the toys with you.
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Call the police, let them tell the kids and parents to back off. If it is a private yard put up a little garden fencing.
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Apart of me wants to break and toss the toys in front of the neighbors kids and have new toys inside for her kids I know it’s wrong butt it’s the vengeful part of me to tell the neighbors kids it’s all their’s have fun while they see her kids play with new toys I know it dosen’t help but the neighbors kids will get the message and if she has to babysit get the $80 up front or slam the door in their faces take it or leave it I don’t deal with bullies have no patience but try for a peaceful solution and if the neighbors is violent then it dosen’t matter what you do let her hit you then you can call the cops and charge her for assault
When your lease is up I’d move. There are better communities. Not all are like this. Sounds dysfunctional
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Document every incident via journaling it, video &/or recording. Then get a restraining order for harassment & notify the apartment complex. Look for another place to live. Try to limit your kids outside fun by taking them to local FREE parks or events. Stand up to the adult. Some never grow up.
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Wow that’s a pickle. Similar situation here, but no violence threatened. Tell them they have to play with respect or tell them to scram. My street might think I’m kind of rude, but no one is going to break my shit and piss on my kid at my house. Homie don’t play that. Scumdirt parents are raising these kids to have 0 respect and everyone gets a trophy. Nope.
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I don’t mind when it’s one or two kiddos and everybody gets along. But if they’re my family’s toys, snacks, juice boxes, etc., and it’s my yard, the kids need to ask first and be polite. Sitting out there watching 10 other kids though? No f’n way. Not unless you’re paying me to babysit for you and you sent your kid by my place with a bag of their own toys and snacks. LOL. If we live in apartment complexes, we likely pay expensive rents. We can’t afford to replace broken/lost toys and give all of our food away.
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Wow that’s difficult. I would reach out to the other parent for some boundaries or guidelines. Something seems to have gone to far allowing these kids to act like this. I would also invest in whistles. When they hear it time to go. It’s your space
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I delt with this kinda crap for many years. I just moved man because apartment managers or owners could care less
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Tell the kids to go home. If they bring their mom back, call the police. File charges for trespassing, damages, and the threats. Then, turn the police report into the manager of the apartments.
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Stay with your kids when the other kids show up send them home. Tell them they are not allowed to play with your kids. Other Parent shows up call police.
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I’m adding an option. What is the age difference between your kids and nasty mommy’s kids? If they are the same or close why not talk to yours about standing up for themselves. Imagine how great they would feel about themselves if they could stand up to these bullies and others as they grow.
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That’s so unfair to you or all the kids whose parents evidently don’t care about raising their own kids. Put up a huge poster or put notes in their mailboxes. God forbid kids get hurt and the nervy, lazy parents point a finger at you. So many people shouldn’t have kids. Sorry you have to deal with this.
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I would contact the other adults in the community and see if it is annoying to the whole community then if it is make up a petition about those one or two problem families and then go to the landlord or rental company and have them contact the tenant and inform them that it is not acceptable that way no one tenant would be marked as the bad person of the tattle tale
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This sounds like a nightmare street to live in! Is moving home an option to a house with a private garden? You shouldn’t have to babysit other people’s kids 
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I feel sorry that you have had to deal with this. Unfortunately, there isn’t any answer to stop it except to move. That’s the only answer when it’s this out if control.
I would have a chat with the Community Police for advice on the best way to deal with the situation. They are trained in methods of diplomacy and if the neighbour poses a real threat you don’t want to rock the boat too much either.
Tell the kids to go home. If they don’t go home put a note in the parents mailbox. If they will go home give them a note to take to their mommy saying that if the children are going to play in the yard then you must be there to help supervise them and they need to bring their own toys. Sometimes people can be very dense and maybe she didn’t even think of those things. Just don’t put up with them. If they refuse to leave take your children and toys inside. And do this every time they come down until they stop coming
I would suggest you organise a meeting with all parents to try and resolve these issues in a civilised way.
Tell the parents when your kids can have company and dont b scared if they dont like it its ok!! They should b able to play in yard bye themselves
So sorry you and your children are experiencing this. Stay strong, mama. You are setting a wonderful example for your children.
So you need to tell the children to go home, tell the threatening parents to watch her children or you will report her, if it doesn’t work then talk to landlord and police, really don’t put up with, there’s being nice , then there’s being used
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She is very needy for attention, but she is going about it in all the wrong way. Why not try to get her to join you while you are watching your children, it may be difficult .
Call social service for child endangerment. If they don’t act call the police. Bet their Mother will step up once her check is threatened. Record everything.
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Do get into a fight, don’t get mad enought to hit anyone, u will be the one to go to jail, just call the police and make a report of what is going on, and ask cops to have a talk with parents of these other kids. Keep calling cops if that is what it takes, but don’t hit anyone they will put the blame on u.maybe for a while u can take your kids to a park for a while, till the cops charge these other parents.we had a problem with bullies , grandson got bullied.
First talk to complex manager if that doesnt work go to police. Is it s fenced yard? Put up no trespassing signs. Have u talked to other parents who feel like u do?
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I’ve been in similar situations in the past. I learned to set rules…and you need to enforce. I highly suggest speaking to the moms personally, explaining nicely but firmly…how you cannot permit that type of behaviour around your children or on your property. Stand your ground…but do it respectfully and with great kindness.
How old are your kids and the other kids? Do they go to the same school? Maybe get the school involved and have them teach kids about sharing and not to be a bully, For now leave your kids toys in your apartment. Maybe the other kids cannot afford to buy toys. It’s your own yard and your kid’s toys. If any of them get hurt you may be liable. Have an apartment community gathering/circle to discuss these issues.
Tell other kids to go to their own yard, unless you have time to sit outside with them.
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You or someone you hire take kids and toys outside when your donetake your toys back with you. The you guys read or paint or inside games till time to go back out. Do not leave your toys out.
I would have to hear both sides cuz sometimes the one complaining is the problem. Take the adults out the situation and the kids play just fine. Usually I watch out for other folks kids just because that’s what neighborhood folks do. From now on let them stare that’s not a crime either, you might be teaching them something without knowing it ijs
Start videoing all of this. Go and get a restraining order with proof.
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