ARE YOU ACTUALLY ASKING THIS AS A TWO CHOICE ANSWR
RUN LIKE HELL
GET STRONGER DONT TAKE THE LIES
ONE N DONE
Look at your child
Do you want them to watch you be trested like this for a lifetime
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The worst thing you can do in a horrible relationship is be in that horrible relationship one more day.
Let him go. It wonāt ever stop. This is the voice of experience.
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Yup heās lying. Better leave before you get hurt.
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Too wishy washy!!! Youāll always wonder whst heās doing. I say DUMP THE POS!!!
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Itās like the old saying goes, Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me!
Yea been there done thatā¦ kick him to the curb you and your son deserve better. Heās lying to you
If you dont trust him then itās over. Question is now or later but itās over.
Thats not a man, boo. Thats an opportunist right there. Tell him to scram!
Once the trust is goneā¦so is the relationshipā¦
You already know the answer to your questionā¦
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If you donāt have trust, you donāt have anything.
If you dont trust him then there is no relationship. Honestly, youāve been on and off for three years. Obviously yāall arent working out. You dont need to be together or live together to be a family. You can be civil and coparent. Whatever you tolerate just shows him what he can get away with and he will do more just to show how much he can get away with.
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This whole relationship sounds toxic af
Iāve talked to my ex about my current relationship issues.
To really feel right about this. Just simply ask to see the messages. He will let you see the messages if there was nothing going on except getting advise from this chick. But if he makes excuses and acts weird about showing you the messages then there is your answer.
No if you canāt trust leave and if he does it once itās bound to happen again. Iād focus on you and your little one for awhile
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If you have to ask, you know whatās up!
If you donāt have trust, you donāt have anything.
Heās doing what you allow him to do!! Sad that you are teaching your son this behavior is ok!! Break the damn cycle!!
Run now ,get out, be happy, donāt settle
Yes id be gone never to return
hes going to keep disrespecting you because you keep allowing it by taking him back.
You are being conned by a conman!! Ditch the asswipe!!
You donāt talk to an EX about your relationship problems; you talk to your partner.
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youāll look like a clown if you donāt leave. 
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He cant stay in a monogamous relationship because he is insecure. Stop wasting precious time with some one who isnāt capable of committing. Hecisnt the one to guide your son or set a good example.
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1.Him talking to another female behind your back
2. Talking to a female about your relationship.
Both are cheating sis.
Leave now before you invest anymore time with this idiot. You dont deserve that period m
I didnt read all of the comments but all of the ones i did read i agree with 100% sounds like everyone agrees that it is no good and you deserve better, leave the idiot.
If he can find a girlfriend, you can find a boyfriend too who really loves and cares about your feelings.
Oh see that sounds lile it should be that other chicks problem
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Hell ya you know the answer.
Heās a liar, if sharing your man is cool with you then stay with him.
First! Aināt no man going to go to his ex about OUR problems. Nine her damn business. 2nd. He full of shit. He thought he could do her while your gone. You already know. Leave. Run! Donāt look back
I would tell him peace I am done
He a little boy. Tell him bye
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Has NO business telling anither woman YOUR issues. If he wouldnāt talk to her like that whike right beside you. Then shouldnāt do it period. Iād not focjs on himā¦ But yourself for a while. I woukdnt trust sneaky shit.
Without trust you have nothing
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This is a āno thanksā Better be alone than to have like this at all.
No trust in relationship no point in being together.
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No reason to be toweling anyone your relationship problems. Especially the ex and no reason to say sorry to breaking up. On off relationships usually donāt work out and you know it. Why try to force something that keeps breaking? Thereās different forms of cheating not always physically. Thereās emotionally cheating which is what he did. Loving/trusting someone shouldnāt have to be soo hard. Wouldnāt you want to live in peace and stress free?
Girlllll leave. Youāve already been āon and off for three yearsā - itās only going to get worse.
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I think youāve answered your own question here , if you have no trust you have nothing, end the on/off relationship once and for all , stop wasting your time and heās,move on and concentrate on you and your child
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Goodbye you donāt need that or to be checking up on him !! Youāve got a child ,why be raising another grown inconsiderate untrusting disrespectful one??
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If you even have to remotely check up on him, your relationship is already dead, your just mommy checking in on him nowā¦ why put your child through that crap again and again and againā¦ you know single parents just canāt seem to pull their heads out of their asses for two seconds and realize, shit the crap Iām doing is messing my kid upā¦ you really think its wise to keep that environment around your child? If so well then just sit down and stay hunny. If not then you know your answers, any women that feels the need to double down on a man, YOU ARE PLAYING MOMMY NOT WIFEY!
If you do not have trust, whatās left to hold on to?
This relationship is toxic.
Once a cheater always a cheaterā¦
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My friend,people opinion are nice,but sometimes feel how your instincts tells you,they have your answers with you,n if it was you how could you want to be treated,if youāre in his shoes
Off and on with a child in the mix tells you all you need to know. Some relationships prefer to die a slow death but in the end you get the same result
It would be ideal to be a family, but heās obviously not finished with her, so he shouldnāt be with you. That doesnāt mean heās finished being a father to your son, though.
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He did it, and then when caught, his first thought was to lie about it. What do YOU think you should do? If you are ok with having to pry truth from your partner, youāll stay.
You said it yourself you canāt trust him. If you canāt trust who youāre in a relationship with you shouldnāt be with them. So many red flags.
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Come on sweetie, what does your GUT tell you? Follow itā¦
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You canāt have a relationship with no trust so time to get out.
no trust is no foundation to rebuild. if u canāt trust him then there is no relationship
If you want to be with someone you canāt trust, get used to looking over your shoulder for the rest of your relationship. If you donāt leave, then he will eventually. Heās just waiting for what he feels is something better to come along. You need to realize youāre worth more and walk. Itās always your choice
Give him the boot!!! Not good for youā¦
I would wiggle your fingers and wave ta ta dickhead
Heās bouncing back and forth between the two of youā¦been there done thatā¦kick him to the curb and refuse to take him back.
No trust no relationship!!
No trust wave 
good bye
Why is he so comfortable to talking to his ex about you
He would be out the door if it was my partner !
Yes time to leaveā¦ he really cares about other girl and is with you because of child
You deserve better. He has no respect for you. Move on
Heās talking to his ex and lying to you. I think you already know what you have to do.
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Both as bad as each other why even take him back 
you deserve everything thats happened by doing so only one I feel for is the kid
Trust is the foundation of a good relationship. You canāt find Mr. Right if your busy with Mr. Wrong. For me, Iād rather be alone than lied to and cheated on. And There is a guy out there that will deserve you; just know your worth and what you bring to the table and then donāt be afraid to eat alone.
Heartbreak is never nice, try to put all that love into you and your baby. 
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If he had to lie about it at first, heās definitely hiding something. Whether itās cheating or not, heās hiding something. And expressing your relationship problems with her?! He should not even be talking to her, let alone telling her your issues! What the hell!
Run fast cheats once will always cheat your son doesnt need this in his life
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You just said you donāt trust him at all. Thereās your answer.
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I wouldnāt waste another second of my life with him. Been with my husband 10 years and never has he spoken to another women in an inappropriate way. Never needed a break. Find someone else please.
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Kick to the curb leopard does not change his spots
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You answered your own question
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The whole thing sounds toxic
I agree with you 100%
You dont trust him at all you said. there is a reason.leave him now and save yourself heartache.
You said it there right at the endā¦I donāt trust him, thatās all you need to know.
Of course he is lieing a cheating dog
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You deserve better. You deserve to be happy and not constantly wonder if he is lying or cheating. No excuse for his behavior.
My advice - move on and donāt worry about men for a while. Someone special will find you.
Heās not ready to be a one person guy. He wants to play the field. Nothing you do can make him want to settle down
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You said that you do not trust him. You have your answer. Move on from him. He is not ready for a committed relationship.
I think you already know the answer to your question. Where there is no trust, there is no relationship, and you said yourself you donāt trust himā¦ for most people trust in relationships trust is a hard thing to lose, but even harder to regain once lostā¦ Iāve been in a similar situation (minus the child) and it took me way too long to make that hard decision. Walk away now. Itāll be hard and itāll hurt, but in time youāll find someone who will make you realize you should never have to feel like you do right now.
Leave nowā¦there is not 1 reason for you to be with this manā¦not 1. Stop degrading yourself and letting your son watch. There is right out there!
Get rid of him. He is definitely lying to you and hes not ready to settle down and be with just you. He will cheat on you if he hasnāt already with his ex. Trust your gut, your child doesnāt need to be around that
Go with your gut feeling. You donāt trust him, that right there is enough to not be with someone because you will always have doubts, that is not healthy in any relationship. He can be a father, doesnāt mean you have to be together. After 3 years of off an on relationship I would say its time to move on. Nevertheless, only you know how much you can take and what you can live with. Whatever your choice, so long as it is best for you and your kid.
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The simple fact that heās talking about his relationship problems with you to his ex, for me, would be problematic.
Deep down u know the answer. Act on it! You got it
I think you should try to do counseling. It does help because there is someone there who canāt take sides. I did it and it helps but only if you keep going to it. It helps get the truth out. It only works though if you keep going.
Well you knew what to expect when he decided to start a relationship with someone else stupid move on him but you never know if he actually cheated on you. Itās wrong altogether but I do believe he has a right to say sorry to her but you donāt know her so who knows what happens. Itās one thing if they met up In public but behind your back and on private is only calling cheating out 
That couldāve been done over the phone/text message. Waiting until you go out of town to invite her over- doesnāt seem likelyš©
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Leave he will never change ,but he still your child father so l think he would want to keep in touch but if its safe to still have contact with his father ā¦good bye
Your family and your feelings is a game to him, he doesnāt care. If he did he would not be sneaking around and trying to hide the fact hes talking to her. Leave and leave fast the longer youāre with him the more damage thereāll be
Heās keeping his options openā¦ telling her you have problems is telling her wonāt be long till heās back with herā¦ why apologise now ā¦ itās hard to be on ur own but itās even harder not to trust who ur with. Horrible situation for u. Good luck
Girl run! ive he wanted to be a family with the both of you he would never leave ,
One he hasnāt any business talking to his ex about his relationship with you, and two especially when youāre out of town. Thereās a reason why youāre on/off with him. Iād kick his butt to the curb. If you donāt trust him, the relationship is doomed, cuz without trust, thereās no relationship.
Iād be leavingā¦if he didnāt have anything to hide he wouldnāt have lied
Nope. Exās are exās and thatās it. No reason to keep in contact with an ex when you are in another relationship unless there are children involved. And he was deceitful. Goodbye.
If you canāt trust him, whatās the point of staying in the relationship?