He loves my two boys and me. But. He was crazy sexually active before we got together. I’m I guess you say mediocre when it comes to that stuff due to my past and self-confidence. I know I can do more, but I am so tired working a 40hr job and side jobs on the weekends and two boys plus keeping up with the house… how do you guys find time for this. To be a bomb in the bedroom. I recently tried anal because he was so about it… it hasn’t happened a lot and j feel like I’m just not good enough for him. Mind you, we have sex maybe twice a week if not less… but he seems to think that everything takes presidents over our relationship… which to me isn’t true I’m just keeping life moving. Like upping our credit buying a housekeeping a job starting a business… but I feel like I’m not good enough…
I get where your coming from. I have 1 boy with a full time job and trying to keep my home clean. But I realized that there is nothing wrong with giving yourself a little “me time”. And if the sex is good… You won’t second question yourself. The guy im with is all about sex too and at first i wasn’t. I was actually getting offended by it but the more im with him, the more i desire him and im okay with it. If you are not enjoying sex then you need to find what you like. Start discovering your own body. Communicate with him. Sex is not about just the man getting off. You are allowed to enjoy it too. Give yourself a break.
Unfortunately this is not uncommon…
Right now your exhausted, young and not confident…at 40 you will want to be yippie Skippy and he will want to sit on couch…
Find time girl…he knows what you look like and loves you…
Maybe morning…set alarm for extra couple time…your kids will grow…you will have more time…
I don’t try to be the bomb in the bedroom every time, just every once in a while. Quickies the rest of the time. If your man knows what you like and you know what he likes, you can both get what you need in a few minutes. Surely you can find 10 minutes (if that) in your day.
Tell him he can make it or manageable.or have fun.playing alone.
Everything else comes before your relationship…so…your relationship is just sex? I feel like the working, taking care of home and children all has to do with your relationship. If you’re too exhausted for sex because of everything else you have going on then feel free to ask him for some assistance. If he isnt willing to help you so you can relax and have time to enjoy intimacy too then there isnt a point to having it. And if that’s all the relationship is then I would consider finding something “more”. Remember you have needs and desires too, also if you do not want to or feel comfortable doing something in the bedroom please dont force yourself just to feel like you’re enough or to please him. You deserve comfort and to enjoy it too.
You don’t need to do new things to try and make time… if you don’t feel comfortable, then don’t… he seems to love you definitely let him know how you feel… my husband and I barely have time as well… we’ll do love touches and stuff… but if I feel tired and he wants to and I don’t I’ll let him know and he understands… finding time is difficult but don’t give up
Let him watch porn to get off. Maybe you can help him. Give him BJ’s. Hopefully he will be happy with that. Also make sure hes active and him not being lazy throughout the day. That way sex isnt a priority. But I’ll tell ya. Sex is very important to a lot of people.
Take a personal or PTO once a month for just you and him. Go to the adult store and/watch
some porn together. Spice things up sometimes and have him hot with anticipation.
Totally agree with @jeana schanzer.
My ex was non stop sex addict mind u I have 3 kids went to school at home
So my attention wasnt always completely on him n unfortunately that lead to him cheating. But I’d say maybe talk with him.
Communication is key
I hope all goes well 
If he thinks youre not good enough cut him loose
Does he even work? Why are you working 40 hours and side jobs on the weekends and taking Care of the house and kids??? What’s he doing that he still has so much energy left every day?
Why must the woman always accommodate the man??? Why isn’t he contributing more to the household? WHY are YOU expected to do do do do do for him & house, when he isn’t doing hardly anything? Because if he was, you wouldn’t be doing doing doing it all. If he wants more sex, then he needs to help with the cooking & cleaning & childcare
You have to cut things back just so that you can have time for sex with him. Better yet, get him to do some chores to free you to have time and energy for sex. Say, “oh honey, can you help me vacuum so that we can have time for sex?”
There more you have sex the more you’ll want it making you make time 
same as if you don’t have sex often you won’t want it as much. No need to be extreme just get your orgasm on it’ll be good for you and can make you feel more confident in the bedroom.
He sounds like a jerk and selfish player
Does he contribute? Does he work, help clean the house, help take care of the kids? If the answer is no then he can go f*** himself. If he does do these things either stop complaining and make time or stop wasting his.
He sounds selfish is he helping you at all??
How can you not have time for sex?. Sex is great. If you feel you are not good then ask your man what he wants you to do. Practice makes perfect, dont do anything that makes you feel uncomfortable.
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i’m sad you don’t feel good enough mama, sounds like you’re working your ass off & being a bomb ass mother & wife at home! maybe tell him how you feel, how he makes you feel
Sounds like you need to sit down and have a serious talk with your S/O and tell him how your feeling
Possibly your suffering from depression and that could be the problem, also could be a simple hormone imbalance. Get in to see a doctor and have some routine tests done.
Sometimes our lives consume us…and sometimes we HAVE to MAKE the time for each other…take off work one day and spend the day together
We were doing it 10 plus times a week but now I’m so far along I cant do it maybe once or twice and I do hear about it and feel bad I cant , but I’m 22 days away from having her I just cant shes so low down. Some just have a high sex drive nothing wrong with it . That doesn’t mean u aren’t good enough becuz u are. There are things to help if u wanted to bump it up in the room . But most men as they age slow down. Being tired from everything your doing is ok. But it’s best to always talk to him about it.
Before I got pregnant my husband and I were doing it all the time dY and night and several times a days everyday
… once I got pregnant I had complications in the beginning and was told not to have sex… well after that passed we were doing it all the time due to hormones intensifying again… since I’ve had my son my husband is lucky if he gets it 1 a week or a few times. a month,we have a 9month old and after dealing with him all day and everything I’m just too drained to do anything,plus my body isnt the same since having our son I used to be able to do alot during sex,now everything hurts my back and my knees lol… I feel you momma just talk to him and let him know how you feel
Remember you’re always harder on yourself than anyone else. Any kind of intimacy is good for your relationship! My husband (of 16 years) and I are both recovering addicts and we both take medicine that makes our sex drives very low, but we cuddle every chance we get and we feel very much in love.
I was 22 and my husband was 40 we’d have sex about 9 times a day everyday and we both worked 
but that was just us and now 3 kids later things have changed a lot, best advice is to sit down and have a serious talk about what’s on your mind and how you’re feeling about things with your partner so he can understand what’s going on and hopefully resolve this issue. 
Most men need sex to feel loved while most women need to feel loved before we even think about sex, that being said you work more than fill time, does he spend equal time working? Does he help equally around the house? If not ask him for more help. Split up housework, if you’re boys are able to reach into the sink and the controls on the washer and dryer they are any to help work household chores. Make sure your guy understands you love him but you are tired and need more help there has to be give and take. Also maybe you should consider giving up some of your side jobs, yes good credit is important but time with your man is also important.
I’ve have been married for 12 yrs we have 2 kids. We have sex maybe 2 times a week sometimes we go a week without it. In summer when the kids are out of school it could feel like forever. And unfortunately the pint up sexual frustration comes through and so we send the kids off to friends house or to visit my parents. It sucks but it’s kinda life with kids and jobs.
Talk to him bout all this . Let him know how you feel hun … hope it works out
Well, put it this way. If you are exhausted with the amount of responsibility you have and are struggling to keep everything together, what does he do to help lighten your work load? Let me tell you something I’ve learned. If one partner is in charge of everything and is the person who does the lion’s share of the workload is warn out, it isn’t good for anyone. This person is too tired to give what the relationship needs in order to stay healthy. Now if the workload is shared equally, both people in the partnership have more time and energy to give more to the relationship. This, in my opinion, is the number one reason that couples can’t seem to make it work.
You all lucky lol I’m lucky if it happens once a month. We have a six month old and he works overnights 5 days a week 
Stop! Sounds like your doing a hell’uva lot…of course your exhausted. Have a talk with your man, maybe he could be more help all you have been handling. 2x awk should be satisfying enough after all there’s more to a relationship than sex.
We are our own worst critic, don’t worry about being “a bomb” in the bedroom do whatever makes you feel comfortable and sexy. As far as feeling stress from all the responsibility I get it for I’m a mom of three and work full time, with that being said you do have to make time for each other. Once a week my SO and I make time for each other whether it be sitting down and playing games or staying up late to watch a movie. It’s important to make time for each other not just about sex. Sex is the easy part but it doesn’t make women feel loved and appreciated. Definitely talk to your significant other and try to make time for each other, cook his favorite dinner, put on a movie, but he should also be helping you feel like you’re good enough. If you cook he does dishes, after all you are a team it’s not every man for himself
I am at school 5 days a week, have 2 todlers age 3 and 1, run errands, check on my grandmother daily, take care of the house, and do homework at night after kids fall asleep. My hubby is home on weekends and expect sex. I just want time to myself but he can’t even watch kids for 2 hours without falling asleep on them so I don’t get a break and he wonders why I am too tired to have sex but it is life. Good luck hun!
Ok, your being to hard on yourself. You said so yourself you have self confidence issues so your very probably better in bed then you think.
I can’t really comment on weather 2 times a week is enough for him. Its different for everyone and its different at different times of our lives. The only way to know that is to just ask him and take his word for it.
But, like you do alot so if your just to tired for more than twice a week then your just to tired. Its understandable.
But if you really want some bedroom tricks to spice things up and bring your game up… I’ll be happy to drop some
You have been used to working hard and long hours before him to provide for you and your boys. Which is hard enough. Now there is another person to care for and look after. Which you deserve. But even though you love this man, if he makes you do sexual things to please him but you not comfortable with you shouldnt do it, next time he will want a three some…then swing…I know someone that is in a marraige like that and let me tell you, you will never be good enough for him then sexually. Its not sex, its making love if it doesnt feel right dont do it.
Me and my bf have sex every night. I am a single mom of two and work and go to school and take care if my kids 7 days a week. One with autism and ADHD and the other one with ADHD. I love him and sex with him. So I find time to even when I an tired.
2x a week seems perfectly normal for someone with 2 kids and who works FT…
My ex-fiancee made me feel like i didnt do enough for him sexually. To the point he would pick at me about it, make sarcastic remarks, which then lead to him accusing me of cheating because i wasnt all over him all the time, which made us fight. I left him. Sex is not all that matters. My new boyfriend never makes me feel that way. He is content just spending time with me, if we do we do if we dont we dont. It is not a huge deal.
Talk to him about how overwhelmed and exhausted you are with all you do. That maybe if he helps out more, you could be in the mood more.
Get a good man in your life
Stop being used
If 2 times a week isn’t good enough for him with as hard as you work, he needs to go
Girl that is not depression. That is exhaustion. You are doing everything to make your lives better.
Try smoking a little weed or eating some edibles together at night after kids have gone to bed to relax and bond together … it really does work and becoming more connected mentally will 100 percent help the physical attraction !
OMG! You are doing too much and are too exhausted. Tell hubs if he wants more sex he has to take some stuff off your plate so you have the energy for intimacy.
HE has to take care of the kids & housework or pay for sitters/maid service and/or get another job so you don’t have to work two jobs.
Also get counseling to figure out why you feel less than. You are perfect just the way you are.
Get yourself some lingerie for you to feel sexy. I know we aren’t always happy with our bodies and life takes over time. I didn’t date my ex we settled into a routine that didn’t have time for us. I’ve not been successful with love but my sister’s been married for 20 years and her and her hubby still date each other. They just adopted 2 girls so life’s changing but the dating hasn’t stopped. The love for each other is strong
Uhm my concern is that your doing all this stuff because you’re so scared of losing this sexual guy - if he leaves so what? Did you have anal sex and you liked it too? Or are you going to keep upping the ante because you think that’s what he wants or he’s going to cheat or leave? You are not going to be happy doing that and if you live your life afraid he’s going to be unhappy you aren’t happy at all. If he’s not complaining about things it’s possible he’s actually OK with things. You need to be ok with things too and realize that if he’s that asshole guy who’s going to cheat it won’t matter that you didn’t do the dirtiest nastiest stuff or weren’t the hottest person in the world. Cheaters are going to cheat because they have a problem and it will have nothing to do with you. Honestly you have to talk to him about where he’s at and be realistic about what it is you want. You should be happy with your partner not fearful and you shouldn’t need him to happy to be happy. You have kids and you are your own person.
2 times a week? Wow! Usually i dont even have sex 2 times a month 
Wow two times week that would be great 15 years no sex I am 75
May I say this . Honestly I understand you have confidence issues but why should you feel you not good enough . Is he not acknowledging you . Appreciation comes in this . I mean you do so much and anal . Yep you feel you not good enough . I think you are trying and should really give yourself some credit. Your man owes you some appreciation aswell . . .
You are totally exhausted! I worked 40 hours picked my son up from child care, came home, changed clothes took care of my son, cooked dinner. Then cleanup. Cleaned, the apt/home, made lunch for my husband. Our son was colic so I was up at night too. Sex? Hell no. He sat there. Course he expects me to be all lovey dovey. I had found out he had been going elsewhere for several years. So any spark was gone. You are doing so much and have 2 great boys, tell him if he helps more you will have more time for him. You need help around the house. You are a hardworking awesome Lady and Mom.