Hun when my man don’t make it through i ask him what’s wrong. Usually It’s im tired wich is true for him. Cause I have body issues too so just communicate with each other.
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He needs to get his heart checked out ED is often the first sign of underlying cardiac issues I hope this helps
Sometimes ED just happens 
unless it happens everytime, I wouldn’t be concerned.
You’ve already said you have body image issues, so I think you’re just pushing your insecurities onto him when you shouldn’t be.
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Maybe try being an adult and just talk to him. You dont know whats going on with him. Also get some therapy for yourself.
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Honestly if it where the weight he’d probably make excuses up to not even be intimate. A lot of men have ed issues and medication for it is super accessible I’d just voice your concern and see what is going on
you need to talk to him. The problem could have nothing to do with you.
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If he can’t love you with a little bit of weight… how will he if you guys ever have kids? You’re perfect the way you are and someone out there already knows this. It’s time to let him go.
Or make him talk to a dr and see if it’s a real problem and not based on you at all.
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Seems like something you’d want to discuss with your partner.
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It could be a problem with him…js… communicate with him…but my ex when he was on certain drugs it effected his ability to get hard…my current if he is stressed or when he wrecked and was put on muscle relaxers it prevented his stuff from getting hard … just talk with him…he maybe under stress or something…it may have absolutely nothing to do with you…it took awhile for me to know stress caused it for my SO in the beginning but going on 7 years I know if he isn’t interested or can’t perform he is usually stressed or really tired…I took it personally for along time and thought it was me but it wasn’t… communication is key
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What’s his age? Most likely is ED
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I’m sure he’s probably freaking out inside himself wondering what’s happening to him. I doubt 15 pounds added on a super skinny person looks like much at all and I highly doubt he is grossed out by it. This is on you , you’re grossed out and need to work on you and that perspective you have of yourself. He needs to work on him and see a doctor for his ED. You took some heavy baggage into a new relationship without healing first, now you’re seeing the effects of it came through into your new relationship. Best case scenario you take a break to work on you and see if this relationship is really worth it in a few months or is it more a rebound convenience thing. Maybe you love eachother but not in love and that’s OK to admit to. It’s only 4 months
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15lbs? That ain’t it. Something else is up.
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Something else is up… any only 4 months!?? Yall should be screwing like rabbits! Lol 15lbs isn’t alot at all… Something else going on
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Hey, it’s performance anxiety. It’s not you it really is him. Just keep trying and don’t sit there awkward that makes it worse just talk to each other. If it happens suddenly it’s usually psychological. However it wouldn’t hurt to suggest a visit to get his heart checked.
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It’s prolly not you hes a man they have different stress then we do but however i know after I lost a ton of weight I went from 175 to 108 I now weight 114 and I havent been this small since 15, I’m 32 so with that I have loose skin and my boobs went from an D to now B I bought lingerie to help my body image sham so in other words try that it might help you to see how pretty you really are cause now it doest bother me to be naked,
You’ve only known him 4 months and already intimate? That’s way too soon to actually fall in love with you after just 4 months, probably just infatuated with you. 15 pounds ain’t that much, if he can’t keep it up it could be other reasons like tired, medications, alcohol, or he’s not really in love with you. If it really is your weight then he’s not the guy for you. If he actually loves you, he’d want to love you intimately no matter how much you gain or how skinny you are.
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It doesn’t seem like there’s anything wrong with you but more with him. Not in a bad way but he may have something going on physically or mentally that’s causing that. My husband has that problem sometimes as well where he can’t keep it up. The first time it ever happened I felt like you did so disgusting and asking myself what’s wrong with me? I had to find the nerve to communicate with him and ask him what was going on. It turns out he was depressed and so much more going on mentally that causes him to lose it. There are times where it still happens because he’s stressed, sick, high blood pressure, etc. and I’ve learned it isn’t me it’s him dealing with things. It’s completely normal. You need to talk to him and don’t make it all about you ask him what is going on because there definitely is something going on as to why he can’t keep it up that doesn’t have to do with you at all.
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Did you talk to him about it? Sudden life changes can cause it, stress, lack of confidence in himself, long term relationship syndrome, etc.
I didn’t skim all comments, but has he been checked for diabetes or does he have diabetes? If so sugars can really do alot of damage and affects more than pancreas… there are many other causes definitely, but in my experience with my kids dad,… it was him being diabetic and not taking care of his sugars.
you have only been with him for 4 months, maybe its time, just to be on your own & deal with everything, then find the right guy. Plus, if he is under 40 & can’t keep it up, he has a problem
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Maybe he has a medical reason he’s unaware of.
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15lbs wouldn’t be enough to change his attraction to you
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I had an ex boyfriend tell me one time if you loved me you would lose the belly…He turned out to be the biggest piece of shit on the planet…If they only see your weight they are there for the wrong reasons in the first place…
…maybe your insecurities are making him insecure? I mean, you said that it’s causing “problems” and in my experience, people don’t necessarily want to be intimate when they’re stressed out and arguing. It may have nothing to do with the 15 lbs and more to do with you questioning his attraction towards you. Just a thought; could totally be off base here.
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If he’s saying it’s not you tell him to get some penis pills.
Why do u think it’s ur fault? Maybe he just has some ed issues. He should go 2 a Dr n get checked.
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If it bothers you diet but not as in don’t eat just eat more good stuff leave out the bad have a cheat day and walk more . Don’t forget the whole worlds depressed due to covid it maybe other issues that’s bothering him . Find out . For one yrs we’re attracted via looks but personality determines the fit . If you fit fast forward 20 yrs age gets us all if it bothers him ditch him and do you 
Think of something else to get him going…? There’s plenty of solutions to every problem there is on the market…have fun trying them out? Talk to him… Be open and honest about it… Seek a solution together…
If he doesn’t want to do that then maybe he’s not the one x
Tell him to go get some viagra or they even have things at the gas station you can take to help I don’t think it’s you he may be stressed or have low stamina maybe try waiting for a few weeks without any sex or go get some sexy lingerie from Victoria secret or get drunk has to give lol anyways good luck girl but I’m sure your beautiful love yourself go get a tan and get your nails done or whatever makes you feel good honey
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I’m going to be real here. 15lb weight gain on a 5’7 body is not the same as 15lb weight gain on a 5’0 body. Since we don’t know your height we can’t really say if its nothing or if its something. Everyone saying he has ED or some kind of medical diagnosis, we don’t know him, therefore that excuse is BS. It is possible that emotionally he still loves you but physically he’s not as attracted to you. That’s not to say that it’s your problem, its not. it’s still his problem. It’s not his fault, but it is his issue to deal with. And if your weight is determining whether or not he finds you physically attractive then move on.
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Could be anything even down to him having a beer…
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Be careful. You are a step away from anorexia. Seek counseling and medical intervention
A 4 month relationship and your feeling insecure walk away work onbeing happy with yourself before trying for seriouse relationship and find someone who loves you no matter what size you are
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If he is having trouble sustaining an erection he should definitely go talk to a doctor about it because that is not normal and probably 100% has nothing to do with your slight weight gain
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Honey, this sounds like his problem, not yours. And I mean it may be medical and nothing to do with his attraction to you. He needs to figure it out, this is not on you
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Maybe he needs to see a doctor or is doing drugs
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Your insecurities might be projecting to him. If you can feel the awkwardness he obviously can. Now I think you should start working on yourself. You don’t necessarily need the gym. Just at home workouts help. Wake up 2-3hrs before you go to work. You’d be surprised what a huge difference in your mood you feel on you workout in the morning! Start looking at the beautiful things you see both physically & qualities. Accept your flaws… no one’s perfect. If you don’t start loving yourself you will never be able to accept the love from your partner. Best of luck❤️
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15 pounds is nothing. I’m sure it isn’t you. There are many drugs that cause this issue with men. But I would definitely just sit him down and talk about it. He may need to see a doctor. Good luck!
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What he doesn’t like, another man will love. Dont let no man make u feel like you’re not good enough.
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Is he doing drugs? Something you should look into. Ive never known a man to get soft from looks. Most men will stick it in a bowl of soup if its still warm lol. Usually its a prostate or drug problem
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He sounds like a shallow person.
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You haven’t mentioned if he’s older, has health issues, lots of stress, etc. does he drink a lot? there’s so many things that are more likely to affect him before having a stomach. The more stress about it home feels the less likely things are going to go smoothly. Take some time and don’t make sex apart of the equation for a bit. Just really get to know this person.
15 lb weight gain doesn’t turn off a REAL man. What happens if you get pregnant and gain 40 lbs? He isn’t the one.
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He needs to see a physician and find out if this is a medical issue. If he does drugs, drinks excessively or has urinary issues this can all be a problem when it comes to ED. Don’t automatically assume it’s you 
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He may need a doctor my husband’s gets like that. And I feel awful and I voice it to him. It can be stress or anything. It’s not you though.
You are beautiful at any weight!!!
Have him get his prostate checked. My husband had a similar issue and he went to to doctor and his prostate was swollen. A round of antibiotics later and all was well in the world.
It’s a him problem. Not you. Can’t keep it up. Maybe needs testosterone. I went thru this with mine, i was so upset thought it was b c of me but turns out turning 31 he needed to go a doctor. He tried nugenix it’s a expensive scam lol
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Could be low testosterone? Erectile dysfunction? Just because you didn’t have this issue before doesn’t mean it didn’t develop as time went on. Maybe its stress, lack of sleep?
If a guy loves you it won’t matter if you’re 80 lbs or 800 pounds. There may just be something wrong with him down there he should ask his dr
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I have always had horrible body image issues. I’ve been stick thin and I’ve been super thick. Depends on my stress level really. I did therapy, self-help books, allllll the things. I was always super shy in the bedroom and hated being on top while shirtless. I always turned myself off because of my insecurities, which turned my partner off as well. Even the “dream body” girls look in the mirror and see flaws. My little secret that works wonders for me, (that I will never admit to anyone out loud…ever!) I close my eyes and put myself in my own fantasy world and pretend I’m a sexy porn star with 100% confidence, and no hesitation to please my man. It might be unhealthy or crazy but…it freaking works! I don’t get lost in the fantasy where it gets in the way of my reality…just in the moment. Confidence is the sexiest thing to see…ever. Now, do not get me wrong…curvy girls are sexy and beautiful, just as much as slimmer girls. Every body is beautiful…but sometimes we don’t see it or feel it within so…when all else fails…pretend your a porn star. I don’t do it with my partner’s knowledge, so it’s nothing like that…just…my little secret. 
Oh man, I never answer these, but this spoke to me. So, when I met my husband I weighed 108 pounds, then fast forward 3 years and I weighed 190! We had some intimacy problems and honestly, it was ALL IN MY HEAD. It was me causing the issue because he still thought I was beautiful, but I didn’t think I was. I lost a lot of weight because it made me feel better, and my husband supported me the whole way, but I had to sit down and have an honest conversation with him about this exact situation. Please sit down and talk to him. Communication really helps.
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It could be erectile dysfunction… Ask him about how he’s feeling. It probably doesn’t have anything to do with you
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It may not be an issue with you at all. Also, you should ask him if it’s an issue.
Get lingerie where it covers your belly. See of he’s able to perform. Then you’ll know for sure.
That is his problem, not yours.
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I’m thinking maybe gay or maybe anger he can’t exspress worried of germs or has another person on his mind A bad experience he’s had you better have him go to a shrink
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Please talk to him and let him know how you feel, he sounds like a good guy. There may be some other reason he’s having issues
There could be a lot of stuff that is going to cause that it happen with me and my husband and I felt like it was me but it wasn’t with the pain he was having in his back plus the stress of a miscarriage. The lost of his job do to covid it all built up we hang in there and worked past it we have a beautiful daughter bc we didn’t give up on each other everything been great when thing started to look up for us again. Just hang in there and don’t give up on each other if yall truly love one another
This is why you give yourself enough time to heal from last relationship. Could just be he is stressed it happens. Ask him straight out. Might be him
It could be many other things. He could be having problems keeping it hard due to something medical and some drugs have that effect on men also. I’d sit down talk to him and see what he is thinking.