What would you do if you found a condom in your boyfriends car? We have been together for 3 years, and we do not use them. I was cleaning out his car when I found it under his seat. I am trying not to jump to conclusions because I do trust him. But at the same time, why is it there? Should I even talk to him about it or just move on?
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Ya def talk about it because Iād be loosing my shit too we donāt use condoms so wtf why does he have it . But donāt go all cray until you talk lol
If itās used, heās cheating, if itās wrapped there could totally be reasonable explanations.
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Whatās the eco.date on it?
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Is it used? Ask him calmly. I would guess cheating, but you canāt know unless you talk to him.
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Ask him definitely x
How can everyone jump to the conclusion of cheating lol god knows how long he probably had the car before her lol
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Is it used or still sealed in the wrapper?
Just dump his ass if he is cheating heāll lie anyways just say bye bye!
When does it expire?
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Just ask. You will know when he answers, if he is lying or telling the truth.
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Me and my husband hasnāt used one in 11 yrsā¦ (only been together for 12) and he still has one from that many years ago. (Yes it needs to be tossed just havenāt got around to it. Itās in the bedroom drawer)
I would jump to conclusions, it could be oldā¦
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Several plausible explanations, does he ever have guy friends in the car? If so and itās an in the wrapper condom could have fallen out of a pocket, not every guy cheats,not every guy is faithful, not every woman is a prude, not every woman is a man stealing whore, good lord cheating isnāt always the answer, like others have said expiration dates matter, if itās used yikes, but if itās new it could be a precaution, you may want to have condoms on hand in the case of utiās or yeast infections
Leave it on his seat so that he has to start the convo 
either way you gotta talk to him, bottling it up inside is the worse you could do to yourself.
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Donāt ask him. Hell probably tell you he gave a lift to his friend who dropped it.
I would ask, if youāve been together 3 years you know if heās not being honest
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First check the expiration date and if its not expired COMMUNICATE how you feel and ask all questions you need you deserve that much. Never ājust move onā then you are going to have lingered feelings.
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They all have an expiration date ! Check that out before you jump to conclusions. Could of expired in '97 
Look at the expiration date. That eill explain a lot.
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If you guys have a good relationship then dont feel upset with asking if he gets upset (like overly upset, yelling why are you going through his car ect.) Then from my personal experience it means he is hiding something be up front and ask otherwise you will sit and beat your brains out until you are so mad and cant see straight that you might become hostile
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Leave it on the floor mat and get in the car with him and pretend u seeing it the first time.
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Put it in the driverās seat. If he explains on his own, ur goodš
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Heās cheating do some more research before telling him you found it
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Depends how often you check his car
Like have you ever looked under the seats before?
Cause if you did and never stumbled upon it in the 3 years you have all been together then definitely a red flag
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He will only lie. Start watching and looking very closely at everything
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Check the expiration date before you freak out lol
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Is it used? Cause he couldve gave a buddy a ride and it fell out of their walletš¤·āāļø he may not even know its there
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First. Have u cleaned car before and it wasnāt there?
If not Check if expired.
Then if it still has life. Attack mode.
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I look under my mans seats all the time
We got small kids so Iām digging for toys and food they dropped
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Check the date. Thatāll tell you how long itād been there.
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Is it used? What is the expiration date? Thatāll tell you a lot. If that fails, just ask him.
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Wait a second, do not ask him about it. This fairly easy. Count the condoms. After sometime like a month or something count them again. If thereās less. Heās actively cheating. If you have more patience wait longer.
Then youāll know if it was a one time fling, or if theyāre older. Yatty ya. But to know if heās actively cheating is better than confronting him without any evidence besides you found condoms in the car that could mean nothing.
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I donāt understand why you wouldnāt straight out question him about it. This is someone you have been with for three years, you have sex with and share your life with, you should be able to discuss anything and everything with him.
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Ask be strait forward just be calm and blunt
Exp I found a condom in your car when I was cleaning it do you know weāre it came from and then go from there
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Check the expiration date. If itās newā¦well then you know
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Check the expiration date on the wrapper and go from there
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I meanā¦ who REALLY cleans under their seats all the time. I know I havent touched under mine in YEARS. Be calm, and ask him about it.
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You wont confront him bc you already know the truth. So are you going to stay or go?
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Trust your gut feeling.
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do you guys have kids ā¦ have you asked him about it ā¦ sometimes their reaction says it all ā¦
I have actually had a similar situation lol. Me & my SO had been together about 2 years & dont use condoms either. I had been cleaning his car & found a condom under some trash & whatnot on the back floor board. It was open but not used, like no nastiness on it. I confronted him & he said one of his friends was trying to do that condom out the window thing where it inflates.
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Heās cheating on u sorry
Pfft says it all come on a condom? If you donāt use them together why does he need one in his car he is cheating
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Poke a few holes in it and soak it in hot pepper juice put it back, if he comes home with his dick on fire then you know. Problem solved
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Weird questionā¦whatās the expiry date on it? Or was it a loose used condom?
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Oh I would definitely bring it up. As a matter of fact, I would have put some gloves on, put it in a zip lock bag and left it right on his pillow to see. 
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They have expiration dates on the packageā¦
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Iād check it to see expiry date if not expired I would put it back and take a picture of it and I would check daily to seem when it disappears! If it does then you know ā¦ and you can confront him and show him the picture when his ass tryās to lie or say your delusional. And boom heās fucked. Lol but if expired I would through it at him and ask why thereās a condom in the car lol and hopefully he aināt using them expired 
Leave it thereā¦ see if it grows legs.
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Communication is key!!!
I would just ask him about it. Otherwise itāll probably be in the back of your mind, wondering about it.
Karate chop him in the throat
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How old is it? Does he ever have single friends in the car? I would just ask and make him know you were cleaning it out and it was under the seat. No big deal
When does/did it expire? That can tell you if itās new or older. Few months ago I found a condom in one of my husbands jackets in the closet. Weāve been married 15 years, have 3 kids. The expiry on the condom? 2008. Also find out if any friends use his car, siblings even or coworkers.
Look at expiration date
Ignore everyone straight out telling you heās cheating. Donāt make assumptions.
Talk to him. Thatās the only way to know for sure what is going on. Thatās what makes a marriage workā¦ communication.
If he is cheating? Itās up to you how to handle that. But there could be plenty of other reasons for it to be there. So donāt just jump to conclusions.
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Maybe heās a very posh wanket
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You were cleaning a manās car?
Cleaning under the seat?
Nah, you were searching his car.
Why?
And please, we cant give advise with half the story.
Were you searching?
Used or unused?
Expiration date?
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I have a whole bag of them and Iām single havenāt had sex in like 2 yearsā¦ They were free š¤·
Haahaha lol you have a good
Boy friend. Donāt you think
How did you not go confront him immediately? I canāt sit on that kind of stuff.
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Iād stock the hell out of them for likeā¦a week without him knowing lol
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Sometimes we so stupid we donāt want to see itā¦
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Did you check the expiration date?
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We would definitely have a conversation.
I woulda lost my shit the minute I found them! But he woulda lied. Caught MI e on a dating site once n he not only lied 2 me about it but refused 2 speak 2 me for 3 days cuz he got caught!! Keep ur eyes n ears open uāll find out what u need 2 know.
No conversation necessaryā¦ just 
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Ask him. Chances are they belong to a friend or the condoms are his & heāll lie & say they belong to his friend 
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God look at these comments, no wonder dudes think weāre all psychos SMH
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I would be single. Period
Think if not you somebody else wake up
Check the expiration date, might be old.
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Man you can tell half you females have been done wrong by a man, as have I but even like this id take the chance to fight about it over just packing his shit and telling him bye. 
come on, he could have had a buddy in the vehicle and it fell out of their wallet, it could be a number of things other than him cheating. Iād straight ask him about it, and go from there. Youāve been together 3 years, you know when heās lying. Open yourself up to the possibility that he may be lying or that itās a simple mistake.
No save it for him later
I think you should just talk to him about it. No point it jumping to conclusions and assuming the worst. Since yāall have been together for a while, you should be able to pick up on wether heās lying or noy
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Honestly just COMMUNICATE. If it worries you talk to him. All he can do it communicate back. Whether itās nothing or not a couple should always communicate. I was in multiple toxic relationships but now that Iām not Iāve had to learn itās okay to just ask a question and he will answer.
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Just talk too him. Dont come at him angry or jumping the gun but just talk too him about why the condom was there.
Youāll know by looking at the expiration date. If itās expired or close to the expiration date then itās probably old. I just looked and most are good for 3-5 years. Do the math and a figure out your answer yourself. Also if it looks old af and worn thatāll tell you too. 3 years is a long time to be under a seat in a car so it should look old and nasty especially if his car is dirty enough to need cleaned out
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Yeah we would have a sit down and if I didnt like what I heard he would be walking!
Go with your gut. Thereās more to it and you need to listen to what you already know.
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This happened to me and my hubby. My 9 year old actually pulled it out while we were headed to the store and was like whatās this. We looked at each other ready to throw down then realized and simultaneously said Ethan. Who is his brother and sometimes borrows my car. Then we went and both yelled at him about what is/isnt allowed in the backseat where my babies sit and praised him for being smart and safe at the same time lol.
Guilty sleeping around
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Check the expiration date and if itās current? Move on.
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F the expiration date thats nonsense if you never use them with him in 3 years then i know you already no the answer. Id walk away fast umfaithful jerk.
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Have he even had that car 3 years because its probably new
Iāve seen the inside of some peopleās cars. If thatās his style I wouldnāt get too excited.
Do you have condoms? No, because you said you and him donāt use them. Why does he have them? You have intuition, and most of time, it doesnāt lie.
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Honestly I know how often I clean my car. Did you check the expiration date. It could realistically be from before you got together lol
Girl you dont use protection. He has ko need for them. Why does he have it?!
Why the fuck are you cleaning out his car???
Obviously you donāt trust him or you wouldnāt be asking advice from strangers
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Why not just ask him
Ok not saying he or didnāt but every time I take my daughter or take her to take her son to the doctor they have big jars of free condoms she takes a handful every time somehow thereās always some left in my damn car
Drop something on purpose while youāre both in there. Go to retrieve said dropped item and pull the condom out like whats this !
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Check the expiration date on it. Boom
Take a pic of it and leave it there. Check back next week
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If itās there then he is using them
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Bright side, if heās cheating at least heās using protection.
Iād confront. Could actually have a reasonable answer. Iād pass it to him out of the blue and gauge his reaction as he answers. Could be malicious and he would stumble over an answer, or deny. Could be a friend passed it to him jokingly saying ānobabiesā lol. Iāve seen my male friends pass them around at get togethers and give them to my husband too even if we donāt use them. At a wedding for example one of the groomsmen brought a box and gave 2 to every other groomsmen. I am 100% confident in his answer when I found them.
Iād probably look at the expiration date first. If it doesnāt expire soon or isnāt already expired. Then I would know he bought that recently or at least not very long ago and if that is the case, I would confront him on it and wouldnāt loosen up what so ever until I have an explanation. At that point itās up to you to decide if you would want to stay in the relationship or not.
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