I got married a couple months ago and i already regret it…after the honey moon things were great now all we do is fight and argue over dumb things and i no longer want to do this…help
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I got married and regret it: Advice?
Wish I had the right words to say,it’s only been two months.hope thing’s take a change for the better.Good luck
This is why you wait til the 5yr mark of being together
Marriage counseling or divorce
Get an Annulment… and move on with your life
Don’t live in constant regret…. Trust me not worth it ￼
Not a clue what to do, I believe you need to plead your case to the queen and hope they allow a divorce, hopefully the marriage qasnt consummated or your stuck till death do you part
P.s: stup!d questions get stup!d answers but maybe put some thought Into your actions in the future tho
This is normal though …marriage is hard. You got married because you love each other. Love isn’t all rainbows and butterflies…it is waking everyday and choosing each other every day.
How long did you date?
Obviously you were doing this prior to getting married , why did you think things would change.
Divorce. I wish I would’ve followed my gut.
Divorce the sooner the better. Do no go into debt.
Its part of marriage. Its not easy it takes work and patience. Do what you want. Its about giving to the marriage and person whom you chose to walk down the aisle with and spend your life together. It is hard work! Ive been with my husband for 25 yrs it’s very challenging but we are in love and choose to work on it even with all the challenges. Good luck!
Marriage isn’t all rainbows and butterflies. If you’re wanting to flee after a little bit of a struggle, you might as well go. People deserve better than a spouse that wants to leave at the first sign of trouble.
I think you need to re-read your vows. Get some counseling. Sometimes marriage is hard!
You already tapped out, annulment, both of you will be better off.
OMG, 2 months and you are talking divorce…
How old are you two???
Get into therapy NOW.
Get into therapy, both individually and couples ASAP.
You need help.
It takes time to adjust to living with another person.
He has quirks, foibles, and annoying habits.
AND guess what? So do you.
Maybe more annoying and worse than your spouse.
Get into therapy.
Fix yourself first.
Then maybe, just maybe you will be a fit marriage partner someday.
Sheeeeeeeeesh… what idiocy.
Marriage counseling or leave
Marriage is HARD. It is not butterflies and rainbows. Why did you marry in the first place if you were not prepared for it?
Marriage is work. Put in the work, it’ll get better. Change your outlook and attitude.
Marriage is super hard, you gotta sit down with him and talk to him, that’s what I do with my husband, we been married for 5 years and it’s still not easy but we wake up everyday and love each other more, but marriage there is always gonna be ups and downs
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Maybe try marriage counseling? Marriage is not easy by any means you have to work at it. Don’t give up so fast.
Try and imagine two scenarios- one where you remain together, even with disagreements, and one where you separate. If it doesn’t bother you to think of the future without him, get the divorce now.
The best marriage advice I ever received “when you two fight remember, it’s you and him against the problem… not you against him” Good luck!
Marriage is not easy. There will always be disagreements and rough spots. The first year is always hard because of the changes and learning about each other. Marriage is all about compromise. Its sad that you’ve only been married a few months and are already ready to give up! If you love your husband, go to counseling, learn new ways to settle disagreements so y’all aren’t fighting all the time. You have to wake up every morning and choose to love your husband through the good and the bad. I just don’t understand how you give up after a couple months?!
Remember life in general is full of ups and downs, is this person who you want to get over these hurdles with?
Decide to fight for your marriage and work through the storms together, or see if you can get an annulment.
Marriage is hard work but so worth it
Thats normal! You aren’t always going to agree on everything & will argue over petty things especially if you are around eachother 24-7! As long as there is no cheating or abuse happening then I see no reason to divorce unless he is treating you bad. Marriage is supposed to be a lifetime commitment. Through sickness & health.
& this is why I’m never getting married. What I get a different last name & health insurance whoopdeeduckingdoo
P.s please dont buy into “marriage is hard” bs that’s being fed on here cuz its NOT when it’s with the right person
Is it too late for an annulment if not I would do it
Marriage is not like you see in the movies. You will have your ups & downs.
Ist year is the hardest
This is why it’s extremely important to actually be with someone for YEARS before doing anything major, especially having children, getting married etc
Ya ya for some it works out, so sally who got married after knowing her husband for 17 days and now they’ve been married for 74 years…
But for most, it doesn’t work out. Don’t take the chance.
For better or worse eh
Go get it annulled if you’re unhappy. Things get hard when married.
You literally signed a contract. Things get hard and you want to quit? Lol! This is apart of why the world is the way it is. No one has grit anymore. Fix it, counseling, conversations, romance.
If you’re feeling like this after a couple of months, he isn’t the one for you. Walk away now before you have kids.
Marriage and staying married is the absolute hardest thing you will ever do. The first 3 years were the absolute hardest because no matter how well you know them you are learning to love the good, the bad and the ugly about a stranger. But, if you love the person you will do what it takes, forgive, improve, challenge and live with whatever makes them them…both of you have to want to make it work and it will-going on 30 years of mistakes, miracles and love here
Try counseling…if that doesn’t work then go asap before having kids…I argued with my ex for 24 years. I’m happy I had my kids…but arguing all the time is no marriage…
Give it time, same thing happened to us. They say the first year is the hardest and I agree. Even though it’s really just a paper, for some reason everything changes your mindset and it’s having to adjust and figure things out again in a way. If things were great before you got married, give it time. If you really feel like you made a mistake, try for an annulment or divorce I guess
Marriage is work and commitment sometimes it’s 50/50 but sometimes it’s 80/ 20 if your not willing to compromise and communicate it won’t work talk to each other calmly and discuss why you arguing .
Marriage is not always a BED OF ROSES…
It’s alott of work , it contains Good an Bad…
When the Bad comes along it’s all
about Maturity and how u handle it with proper Communication
& Patience , suggestion at times maybe counseling …
How long did you date?
So are they just petty arguments, or are you guys having misunderstandings? Maybe have a sit down and lay it all out. If you still feel like this was a mistake ask him how he feels about separation, and then give your peace of why you are considering it
Go to church snd bring God in your home
Made your bed. Lay in it or get out of it
Adulting is hard. Grow up
I’m sorry to hear that. That’s kinda why my hubby and I lived together for a bit before getting married. To get to know each other. Maybe see a couples therapist
Marriage isn’t always sunshine,rainbows, and unicorns. Yes, you will have good days and you will have bad days. Marriages take work and understanding you have to remember that’s your person, the one you wanted to spend the rest of your life with the person that stole your heart , your ride or die , your you and them against the world. There will be great days and there will be days that are bad. Maybe your husband is going through something anf they are aggravated when your partner is being a douche canoe or whatever the situation that’s when you stand tough for them . You aren’t always going to see them on their good days but they need to know that you will stand strong for them whenever they are a bit off and having a hard time. Communication is key there talk to them and see what’s wrong. Let them know I got you no matter what . If you can’t handle what you are going through and don’t want to work at it then by all means get a divorce or an annulment. But don’t throw in the towel just because the honeymoon phase is over remember why you love them and all the good days. Remember that that is your person.
He’s not the one sis. Walk away and start fresh. Nothing wrong with walking away from the wrong one.
Wow. There is a whole lot of quit in everyone in here.
Marriage is work but it’s not meant to be difficult and an everyday struggle. Try counselling or part ways before someone gets pregnant lol
File for annulment! If you’re not happy leave! Lifes too short to be miserable
Marriage shouldn’t be the goal. A good relationship with commitment and chemistry should. How long have you known each other? A relationship isn’t much work at all if you truly have the chemistry, love, and are compatible. It’s only really much work when you don’t and force it.
No shame in divorce. Best thing I ever did for myself. I thank the universe everyday that I had the courage to leave. Life is way too short to stay somewhere where you’re unhappy.
Hubby and I have been together for over 20yrs, communication, trust and honesty are whats needed but also we still have stupid fights because your an individuals first, then your a team, compromises are needed and sometimes certain topics are a no go zone so you have to agree to disagree, just because your having arguments don’t mean you throw in the towel, try counseling if you need but don’t just give up when things are hard because unfortunately life it’s self is hard. Give your all untill you have exhausted all avenues first.
Wish you all the best
Sounds like you jumped too quick. Marriages don’t fix crappy relationships.
There will be arguments throughout your marriage. You both need to sit down and communicate your feelings without bickering. Compromise on things. Meet each other in the middle. Your marriage won’t work if you don’t try to make it work.
How long have you know him I dated my boyfriend for 15 years living together 2 years getting married in 2 months
I went thru something similar right b4 I was 2 walk down the aisle my dad asked me if I really wanted 2 do this & I really didn’t want 2 but I did because so much had been done 4 it & I didn’t want 2 let ne 1 down. …yrs later I’m divorced & happier then ever…just follow ur girl & do what’s best 4 u but do it soon so u don’t regret ne thing
There’s such thing as a annulment. That’s what it’s for…mistakes. The paperwork is put straight through, there is no waiting period, your previous name is restored and legally the record disappears like the marriage never happened…no muss no fuss. If you wait, after one year you’ll have to go through a full fledged divorce and that record of the marriage and divorce will always be there. You have to have a valid accepted excuse for the court to grant the annulment though or they will make you divorce. It is less expensive if you both agree to it too. But keep the valid reason in mind and simply changing your mind doesn’t qualify. Look up the family law in your state. Rules vary.
You can try marriage counseling but it will only work if you both WANT to work on your relationship and be married to each other. If that isn’t the case, don’t waste your time, get an annulment.
Been there…it’s a bummer.
Run while it’s not too tied up
People do get divorced less than a year married
Marriage isn’t something u just jump into… An u dont just get married an that’s it… U have to remember u both said I do so u both need to become one an communication is key!! Y’all are not mind readers… What God has put together let no man separate!! Praying for prosperity and growth!! God bless u!
Why did you get married in the first place? Love, convenience, children together? If there is already domestic abuse, I would suggest leaving since it will not get better. If it was for love, please don’t give up so fast. Revisit your why? Marriage is give and take and often has some rough spots.
5 love languages, Fireproof movie, the Love Dare, counceling
This is why ya don’t get married lol
did they live together prior to getting married. People that don’t often run into all sorts of issues because they don’t know what it’s like to live with their partner or how to share or compromise with their own space, etc.
Or they both had expectations for ‘marriage’ that either don’t align or don’t fit the reality of their situation.
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It’s hard learning to live with someone. If you give up this easily, don’t bother marrying again. It won’t be any easier with anyone else.
Is there an outside stressor or was this your relationship pre-wedded bliss?
Marriage isn’t for the weak. The first year is hard.
I have found after the wedding and honeymoon there is always a down time
Give your marriage a chance
You’re supposed to have arguments and disagreements. Also just bc you’re having difficulties together doesn’t mean you should just throw in the towel. Go to couples counseling so you can learn how to communicate with each other better. Marriage is not all sunshine and happy days. You’re going to have storms. The question is are you willing to weather those storms with your partner. This could all stem from not living together before getting married and now you’re learning mannerisms that you didn’t know about each other before. ( just covering the bases bc you don’t say anything much ) or this could stem from being in previous marriages/ relationships and now that you’re in a more affirmative commitment to each other you both are guarded against each other and it’s just now coming out bc either you or both of you feel as if your space has been invading and you’re not handling it gracefully as you should. There’s so many factors as to why things may seem off now. You need to put down the harsh words and say hey what are we doing to each other to your spouse. An maybe you need to take the initiative to realize hey this is some petty crap we are arguing over I’m going to take a step back an say wait less take a deep breath and talk about this in a rational manner and not as a screaming match.
Go now don’t waste time.grow up and try again
I’m glad I didn’t leave my wife I love her 12 years later couldn’t stand her at first lol
Jfc what, did you think marriage was a picnic? It takes work. And I guaran-fuckin-tee you that you’re just as much part of the problem & arguing “in sickness & in health” doesn’t mean stay thru abuse, but it DOES mean you don’t run the first time it gets hard! If you already regret it this hard then you never should have married in the first place, you weren’t ready. You should stay single and work on you
Then get a divorce or annulment
Maybe you guys need to see counseling or put the work in to work through issues. Why does everyone give up so quickly
The first year is I hear the worst
If you want to leave well leave,if you want to give it a chance stay for a couple of months and see
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Get out now. Go be happy.
The first year we got married all we did was argue but after that year we been good ever since it gets better it adjustment and understanding and communicating
Try and focus on what it was that brought you to marrying him in the first place., He’s the same person., You have things I’m sure that he’s became aware of that may irritate him also…it’s all about getting past the small imperfections and focusing on the good… when something bothers you, ask yourself, does it really even matter? My first husband,I didn’t date long enough before walking down the isle.,his mask fell off right after wards…I Left quickly so as not to get physically hurt…if that’s the case leave asap, other wise I’d say give it a diligent chance …best wishes
You are getting to know each other. You don’t cook like his mom. He doesn’t ask like prince charming. You both have to communicate. If you’re ready to quit after a month or 2. You was not ready.
Is your last name kardasian…
Then leave, before having a family even if you have kids,they shouldn’t be your Reason to stay!!!
My marriage gets better every year. Good luck to you and whatever you choose.
Marriage isn’t easy. It takes work. It has ebbs and flows. I’ve been with my husband for almost 22 years, but married for 14. Our relationship is constantly evolving. Sometimes for the better, sometimes for the worse. The point is, we communicate and work together to fix the issues. It gets even more complicated when you add children. Communication is key.
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Don’t give up yet. Learn to communicate. Marriage like roses have thorns
Marriage counseling 1st, then, both decide future path. He may be feeling the same as you. Communication is very important.
Get an annulment
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that was a stupid thing to do. i been single 14 yrs it is ok