Leave him alone if he doesn’t want to talk to you. Sounds like he doesn’t.
You gotta get your anxiety checked you asap before trying to get in a relationship… You talked for 2 days only and you’re freaking out that he’s busy… but yea umm I think buddies got a girlfriend…
Yeah he’s obviously not interested. Just leave him alone Move on and find someone else that is interested in you, and that won’t blow you off! It doesn’t really matter if you wait a few days to text him. Him saying “I need space” is his way of saying “leave me alone, I’m not interested in you” … If you keep trying to contact him it’s only going to make you look desperate.
Quit messaging him. That makes people uncomfortable if they don’t want to talk. If he is into you and you keep texting him when he isn’t responding it will make him not into you. Just leave it alone. It’s called playing hard to get.
Not being rude but being clingy is such a turn off , js 🤷
Quit harassing the guy, he isn’t interested. I would seek therapy before it gets any more out of control.
When someone indicates they don’t care, believe them. I’d unfriend him on all social media and move on. When he texts you when he’s bored 3 weeks from now, don’t respond.
Hes clearly not into you. Hes showed you that. You’re to emotionally attached. Worry about yourself. Get yourself better. You cant expect someone to just be into you. Nobody likes a clingy girl. Especially when you’ve only been talking for two days.
Because I have anxiety and a whole array of other issues. I choose to live alone and i remain single. I focus on my kid’s and family. This is the best way my mental health is amazing. Because I have all the feelings that you’re feeling and at times I cannot control those emotions when I get into a physical relationship with a man. Borderline personality disorder is the causation. I like to stay by myself. Check into it this it could be your problem.
He’s not into you girl
He should be more direct about how he feels, but it sounds like unfortunately this is his “nice” way of letting you know he isn’t interested. His intention is probably to be nice, but there are definitely ways for him to be better about letting you know.
Please get therapy- you come off as extremely needy and attention seeking and guys RUN from that
Well if he said he is busy you need to respect that and him.
He DEFINITELY has a gf. Sorry to break it to you
Y’all talked for 2 days… not texting him for less than 24 hours is not giving him space. He’s not into you.
I know it sounds mean but I’m saying what I would want someone to say to me if I were in your place. I have bad anxiety too and used to obsess over guys that I had hung out with like once.
Move on. If he wants to talk to you, he will. Trust me.
Leave him alone. Take a hint. Maybe he is busy and will get back to you. Maybe he needs space and you are not giving it to him. You are making yourself seem to needy.
I live with depression and anxiety every day of my life.
First, sorry you are going through this.
Second, sometimes we need to try and step back…yes, I know it is extremely hard, and reevaluate the situation. You just started talking, so maybe he needs a little space for a moment to see you for your worth. Let him be the one to text you next…I know how hard that can be…truly I do. Next, try to work on relaxing and loving yourself, where you are at right now. Start with saying a positive affirmation about yourself every day. Find something you enjoy that helps take your mind off of wanting to text him…color, read, go for a walk, exercise…so many different things you can choose from. Start with loving yourself first. There will be days you will fail miserably…it’s ok. Pick yourself up…dust yourself off and start over.
Tell yourself that you love yourself and begin there. Self love needs to come before we expect someone else to love us. Lastly, as hard as it might be, you might have to realize that, he decided he doesn’t want to be part of your life. Some people can’t handle our lives. Let’s be honest, there are days we don’t want to deal with our lives…the anxiety, depression, etc. He may have decided it was more than he wanted, and if he did, then he wasn’t the one for you anyway. Keep your head up. Keep working on you. You will find what you are searching for.
He’s just not into you. Don’t turn that into anxiety. Nothing you can do about it. Move on
Sometimes “busy” just means that person needs a break. Especially from someone they’ve just talked to for a few days. Anxiety or not you need to leave him be. Let him reach out when he’s ready. If he doesn’t then you know he’s not interested.
I agree that it sounds like you’re not mentally ready to start a relationship anyhow. In a very new relationship you may not even speak everyday.
Get some help for your anxiety. Not a good idea to want to go into a relationship while your depressed and anxious. Also, leave the guy alone now if he wants to contact you he will, which he clearly doesn’t. Let it go.
I think the advice is in the post. Him texting you saying “give me space”, “stop texting him” is all the advice you need.
You don’t need our advice. He’s gonna block you in 5, 4, 3, 2…
He’s not into and just tryin to be nice about it. You sound really needy and desperate for attention. Maybe you should get some therapy
He has a gf… That’s my thoughts
He has a girlfriend and was fighting with her and now he cool with her so stop talking to you
Every relationship is different, a lot different. Sometimes you see/text them every day and others you see them once a week or every other week and text them once in a while in between that. My current one we didnt text in the beginning, we actually put the phones down and saw each other. It was at his place but we did stuff together.
Ummm you’re acting stage 5 “if you’re old enough for that “ but leave him alone he’s either not interested or is feeling like you are smothering him I’m sure
If your anxiety is really that bad, and trust me I’ve been there, you need to get on medication. Talk to your doctor and find a solution. But leave him be if he doesn’t want to talk you can’t force him
The way I see it if hes busy or whatever you need to respect that. If he says hes busy but posts on social media and everything hes obviously lying to you and he isnt worth your time honey. I get you like him but if a man is interested in you/likes you/loves you then he will make time for you and will tell you what’s going on
Take the hint and be ok with it there are five billion other people in the world. You’ll find another I promise. Work on yourself and make your own peace don’t expect your happiness to be with others
Leave the poor man alone. Yall talked for 2 days. If you’re freaking out this bad over him saying hes busy and you guys havent even talked about dating, I can just imagine how it would be if you were actually dating. You need to see a therapist and possibly get some meds for your anxiety and depression. Help yourself before you try to get into any relationship.
Here are 3 memes I remember seeing before. But on a real note. Hun, its only been 2 days. I mean I get you’ve known him for years. But you’ve only been doing this for two days. Maybe he is feeling its moving to fast. Just slow up, give him space. If he is interested he will contact you.
The more you push someone the quicker you will drive them away. Maybe get some counseling and work on yourself
Everyone is bashing her
…but have y’all ever heard of a man leading a woman on? I mean idk i wasnt there…but it could be he acted like he liked her and then ghosted her…seems like that is the new thing " boys" do nowadays…
Let it go the right one is out there for you
Read the book “why men love bitches” and DO YOU GIRL!
I have severe anxiety not over this kind of stuff thankfully. He has ghosted you, redirect your mind and move on.
Um this is the border line pshyco clingy thats probably pushing him away… Im a female and when dudes would do it id literally stop all contact.
As adults, we dont talk everyday. I wouldn’t expect some guy I was just talking to. To want to talk 24/7. You’re probably seeming too clingy and he wants some space.
I had 2 male friends for decades (50 years) One quit corresponding due to his live in GF and another did for 4 years cause I didn’t call him back on the designated day I later found out. Then he wanted to again. I have known him for 50 years. He was also married and going behind his wife’s back, cut him off myself after that. You are obsessed with the guy, and really you don’t know him that well just the idea of ‘what this guy could be in your life’ and it isn’t healthy. He isn’t interested in you. It will hurt worse if he blocks you. 2 days of corresponding Hon, he has moved on. I am not sure what kind of answer you are looking for.
Just be direct and ask if he wants you to stop talking to to him
Sounds like you’re being too clingy and him saying he’s busy and not wanting to talk might mean he has a gf he didn’t tell you about.
Are these questions for real?? I cant do anything but roll my eyes when i read them lately!
Leave him alone now! Before you kill all chances!
Listen your a smart girl. It is his loss not yours. Right now you have some impotant things to work on yourself. Start therapy talk to someone that can help you handle your anxiety and depression. No one can make that better but you. Love yourself enough to get the help you need. Don’t see other people as a means to make you better or worse. Just concentrate on you and let this guy stay busy. Move on to the only person that can make things right yourself. Good luck and God bless.
Aw girl I used to be there. In high school up until I met my now husband at age 20, I was always dating someone. Never ever spent time single. I was obsessed and would get my heart broken constantly. I look back and wish I had worked on myself, went to college a few years sooner than I did, and just spent time figuring out how to love myself and make myself okay. Never got that… growing up was rough in my mom’s house. She tried but I think it didn’t help and I get bad anxiety all the time, I clean like a mad woman to help the anxiety. Idk your situation, but honestly just from what you wrote it sounds like he may not be as interested anymore? It is going to be hard and you don’t wanna hear that you need to step back and give him space, but if you don’t he will label you as a clingy, crazy woman. I got called that a lot and look back and cringe. Give him space, and if he does like you or anything is there, message him in a few days and if you get nothing again, just move on.
I was always so down in the dumps, suicidal at times and when I got rejected it made it worse. But I am SO happy with where I am today. Married to a great man with a sweet baby girl, and a career I love. I truly believe everything happens for a reason. If it doesn’t work out with this guy, which it sounds like it may not, then move on. I guarantee there is someone better out there. So hard when you’ve been there, done that, felt the hurt before, and want to save someone else from heartache… but you will ultimately do what you want to do, despite advice.
I guess I wonder what advice you’re looking for too. You don’t wanna be told to back off, or to stop texting him, but realistically that’s what everyone is gonna tell you.
He wants his space give it to him permanently and then move on
Maybe he feels you’re too clingy that usually turns guys off. Or maybe he found someone else he’s more into. I wouldn’t ask him why as some others are suggesting-his answer will probably damage you because of your mental health issues. Get some help for your depression and anxiety and move on, that’s all you can do. Find a good therapist to talk to instead and fix yourself before finding a guy. You can’t force someone to talk to you.
Leave him alone. Intentional or not, you’re going to come across as desperate and that’s a huge turn off. I can almost guarantee you will push him away that way. Give him a day or 2 and text him again and just be like “hey, hope all is good” or “how have you been”. If he doesn’t respond, hang it up
Probably home with his wife/girl friend.
Get some medication and counseling
I have severe anxiety and my first piece of advice is quit using it as a crutch. If you can identify it and it bothers you, quit talking about it and fix it. I speak to a therapist about self help techniques and how to recognize triggers. I also take medications to help. It took a while to get them right, but my life is SO different with them. As for the guy - he is showing his true colors, is that how you want to live your life?
Respect his wishes. Respect yourself. Don’t beg. Back off a bit and i bet you get the answer you need.
If he isn’t your boyfriend I would move on. If you scare him away by overly texting and basically stalking him on social media he isn’t going to want to talk to you. I think he’s playing you and probably had a gf
Ok… As a women who suffers from really bad anxiety you need to find someone who will be there for you and wants to understand your anxiety… Be with somebody that give you peace… My husband now can tell when im having anxiety and will help as much as possible (it helps) This guy just seems to me he dont care there are decent people out there. Good luck…please dont spend to much time with the wrong people
Anxiety or not, if you only spoke for two days and now he’s not responding there’s some reason behind it and you should move on. If he wanted to talk to you, he would. Wouldn’t you rather find someone who wants to talk to you just as much as you’re wanting to talk to them?
Quite texting him. If hes likes you he will text you.
Stop texting, calling, snap chat, etc. I would see a councilor as that may help with anxiety and boundary issues.
Get some therapy and deal with yourself and move on. Dude just isn’t into you I don’t know how much clearer he can be
You’re gonna have to learn to control yourself a bit. It’s hard, but you need to. He might have a girlfriend, or maybe he really is busy, or maybe he just doesn’t want to talk to you. Either way, you need to respect his space, regardless of your anxiety. He won’t be the last guy that changes his mind…
Sounds to me like you scared him away, pump the brakes sister pump the brakes geeeeezzzz.
Move on… see a therapist for your anxiety and insecurity. Stop texting him, snap chatting, and stalking his FB page. Slow your roll, respect his space… if he isn’t responding to you, take it as a clear message that he isn’t interested. Also learn from this and try not to be so “persistent” with the next guy you meet.
Sounds to me like there is more to this. Like perhaps you guys slept together maybe and now he isn’t talking to you. That’s why it is getting to your anxiety so much. If I’m wrong and I simply did just chat for two days than u just need to find a way to move on and to better deal with your anxiety because he simply isn’t into you and u should never chase anyone. When the right one you will be perfect for. Maybe try cbd oil. As someone who gets crippling anxiety it does wonders. The tincture or oil works best. Good luck girl
He will text you back if he wants to talk to you. You trying to communicate to him every way possible and stalking him on social media only makes you look desperate and he probably sees that.
I dont think he is interested. I would move on.
Sounds like he doesn’t like you. I know you didn’t want to hear “give him space,” but girl i’d say put an entire universe in between you two tbh. I have depression and anxiety too and my advise is that you should be with someone who is your peace and safe place, not someone who makes your anxiety worse. That’s so unhealthy.
I know you said u don’t want to hear “give him some space” bc it makes ur anxiety worse but would u rather people lie to u and sugar coat it?! He’s not interested. If a man wants to talk to u he will. He will make the time. Sounds like u came off super clingy. It’s been 2 days! Move on and next time calm down.
He is just not into you, he is running away from you
I’d say move on from this one while you only “like” him. At least y’all weren’t dating when he did this. Just let him go, either he’s actually busy or he just isn’t interested anymore and that’s okay. Be glad that he is being this way early on. You’ll find someone better best of luck to you! Also maybe go see a mental health specialist and talk to her/him about your anxiety and depression and they will help you will both!
You don’t need this guy:clap:t2:!!! You need you!!! He’s causing you stress. Stop chasing him. He’s not pursuing you. You need to be confident and keep your head high (or at least fake it until you have that confidence) and the right guy will see your confidence as beautiful and he will be the one concerned when you don’t text him back. You have so much more than you realize. Someday a guy is going to do everything possible to be around all that wonderfulness. But you got to let him chance you.
Leave him alone and go see a doctor. I’d block you if I were him. Sheesh!
Leave him alone
You’re anxiety and depression are not his problems
There are plenty reasons why someone wouldn’t want to talk one on one with someone else
I take breaks from people for days or even weeks at a time due to my own depression yet still spend a ridiculous amount of time Facebooking everyday lol
The fact that he has responded and said he doesn’t want to talk and you keep pestering him is just going to ruin whatever chances you still might have
Honestly your anxiety is gonna ruin ANYTHING that you have going between you. You need to shut that shit down right away. You have to learn to control that anxiety because it will and always does chase people away.
Maybe just maybe he is busy you know like he said. Even if he does like you he doesn’t have to talk to you all the time and honestly if you do give him space it might just make him want to talk more
Half the time I do not w ant to text or talk to people, yet im on fb. …posting and commenting. It’s my “mindless downtime”. You need to seek a doctor’s help for your insecurities, before you can full commit to a relationship of any kind. I’m not trying to be rude, just a straight shooter
He has a gf…or he is just not into you. Either way…ignore him back. Ur gonna have to stop msging him…it will get annoying and creepy.
Maybe he’s just not into you or has a girlfriend.
You seem to have more then anxiety, perhaps low self esteem. I’d advise seeking some kid of counseling.
Fallback… Dont be clingy. Ur maybe scaring him off.
Calm down, back off and give him some space. If you keep texting him every few hours then you’re going to do more harm. Put your phone down and tell the voices in your head to be quiet cause if you don’t respect what he said then it’s going to push him away for good.
He’s probably seeing someone else, or he’s just not that interested. Give him space
Maybe he’s actually busy. And the down time he had he chooses to not text people. Geesh
Honestly it sounds like he’s not interested and the more you text the more he’s gonna back away
I get it. I personally would give him a few days, then send one last text that says something like, Hey, just wanted to say hello. If you get a free minute, hit me up! If you dont hear from him in a day or two, let it go.
Maybe hes not that into you,
Whether he is or not dont be so pushy and clingy. No one likes to be around them sorta people…
people have lives and friends other than one person.
Might help if you go see someone for your anxiety
If you’re dating, start dating or at least communicating with other people. Dont let him be your focus. If he taps back in and you still want to communicate with him, still dont make him your focus. Dont put all your eggs in one shaky basket
Leave the poor man alone, jfc. I have anxiety as well but that’s not an excuse to get all Moody. You can’t control the situation which is why it’s driving you nuts. Go see a doctor and give that man a break.
Grow up. I have anxiety as well and this has nothing to do with anxiety, this is an attention problem. You need other healthier things to focus on. I’m no doctor but your mental health should be your priority right now, not some boy that clearly wants space. He shouldn’t have to explain himself any further. Leave. Him. Be.
Anxiety or depression isn’t your problem with this, you’re shooting for attention. You’ve known each other a couple years but have only been talking more frequently for two days. Maybe now that he knows you better, he’s not that into you. But texting him every couple hours is excessive and you’re pushing him away. You’re causing your own anxiety. I have anxiety pretty bad myself and even I can see that what you’re doing is bothering the guy. That’s a huge turn off to a guy to constantly bug him when he’s not responding and then stalking his moves on Facebook. Go to a dr. And get your anxiety and depression under control, so you can pursue a relationship in a normal way instead of bombarding a guy with texts and then freaking out when he doesn’t respond.￼
Leave him alone, he’s obviously not interested.
Men make time for who they want. It’s no anxiety it’s denial. There’s a man who will move mountains for you out there. Stop delaying his entrance in your life obsessing over something you’re not even enjoying
Have value in yourself, if he’s not in to you find someone who is.
Doesn’t sound like he’s that into you. I honestly wouldn’t waste my time worrying.
He is probably seeing someone and doesnt want them to see… Move on.
You need to get over it an let it go
I have anxiety and depression too. but if the two of your aren’t together as a couple, he doesn’t have a reason to reply. yes, I get y’all are friends and you have a big crush on, but that doesn’t mean he feels the same about you. don’t keep messaging him, that’ll push him away more then anything. that’s being clingy, a lot of people don’t like that, try to wait, read a book your really into and try to not think about it, message him in two days and see what happens. if he replys that he’s still to busy, he’s probably with someone, married (not saying he is) or wants you just as a friend.
Sorry… he’s just not into you! He prob picked up on the feels and is putting distance there hoping it will go away, it’s his way of trying not to hurt you!
Maybe he is, uncomfortable with you messaging and snapping him when he said hes busy. I’d crack the shits too if someone was over crowding me.
But I have anxiety too and I totally get it, I have to hold back sometimes, from overmessaging because Im the same.
Just leave him for now. Let him be. It’s hard i know but if you bombard him you’ll make it worse and hell think you’re a stalker lol
Dump his ass now! He has someone else! Probably and most likely a scammer! No good to start with, they just want money, not sex or love!
I can’t stand clingy people. Don’t do that.
Be straight up with him and ask him to be straight up with you, communication is key and guys appreciate honesty and being allowed to be honest themselves. As much as we would like them to be, they are not mind-readers, you gotta spell it out for them.