Two people who work w my husband have said that he’s getting awfully friendly w a co-worker. They have said that they’re always flirting & he’s said that he would have sex w her. This girl has got a family of her own & he & I to share a 14-month-old son. I don’t know who to believe. He says he’s very upset bc he doesn’t know why anyone would say that bc it’s not true. He said why would he ruin his family & she said the same. He says he has to train her; that’s why he’s been around here a lot, which I get. But why are they telling me they’re flirting & he’s made some inappropriate comments about her? I worry bc recently we’ve been having more & more problems & he comes home in a bad mood all the time & now I’m starting to think all of this is true bc he has been acting strange…
Has he ever given you any reason to not trust his word? Like, has he ever told you he’d do something for you and then not? Or has he ever told you he wouldnt do something but then did?
I always say trust your gut.
If trust is lost get to counseling.
his co workers have zero reason to lie to you. they will gain nothing from that lie. trust them and your instinct. he hasnt been his normal self.
If you can’t talk to your HUSBAND about this and trust what he says then why are you with him? Do you even know these people that told you this? How well do you know them? Well enough to take their word over his? Has he ever given you a reason to believe he’d be unfaithful? These are questions that only YOU have the answer to. So if you cant believe your husband, and you dont know if you can believe his co workers, what difference is the opinion of 100s of strangers on FB gonna make? You should be talking more with HIM about this. Not going to strangers for advice.
show up to his work a few times for lunch or to bring in the kiddo. … the look on his face if he’s ever with her being inappropriate will be priceless
Doesn’t sound good I’ve been there
just let it be a pop in don’t tell him
Yeah, I agree with Whitney, I agree with everyone
Follow your gut instinct this is inappropriate for your husband to be even getting these accusations on the job this is sexual harassment and very scary to boot you’ve talked to.him but these accusations keep.coming.i would be tempted to talk to his boss about this but it’s up to u. Maybe go in stay with some relatives to think this out.good luck
I’ve been there too and it doesn’t sound good.
Always always always trust your gut. It’s never wrong.
Trust your gut a womans instincts is always right. Take him lunch show up unexpectedly see for your self
Red flags…follow your gut feeling. Try talking. Try time for you and him. Go see for yourself
Is your husband generally a friendly natured person.?
Just maybe , these other colleagues are perceiving more in his exchanges with this lady than is actually there.
Sounds like how I met my husband. Same exact story. I started as a machinist in the shop he worked for and he was training me. He wasn’t married though and neither of us have any children. Not condoning it at all though. What we did was not the right thing, but it happened. I was the other woman and it was definitely happening. Though I’m not sure his ex knew about it til after they broke up. Moral of the story, trust yourself. Unfortunately, you’re probably right. 
Go to couples therapy.
Happened to me, same thing. They became very flirty, and I trusted him and not my instinct. Turns out, it was happening. Be careful, watch the red flags. The guy I was with same thing, very moody at home etc.
the fact that he says he would sleep with her says it all…ijs…id consider moving on from the relationship or getting couseling…no trust no relationship…
Chill tf out, unless YOU physically see it there probably isn’t anything going on and if they’re not talking outside of work then there’s deff nothing going on
But most likely something is up or coworkers wouldn’t b talking
talk to him , sit down and go over the situation and share how its all making you feel.
Trust your gut on this one
Work yea its happening doesn’t mean he doesn’t want to be with in other words have his cake n eat it.
You know already. NONE of the above is good. I agree with Carmen. Start showing up.
See if his co-workers will secretly record his flirtings with her
Sounds true. Like he said why would the coworkers make up a lie about it. They wouldn’t and didn’t. They told you the truth.
I agree. Chill out. If he has never shown signs of cheating/ flirting with another woman UNTIL you hear from joe blow, then leave it alone.
Where there is smoke…and listen to your gut feeling
Pop in…see his reaction…do his co workers have any reason to say these things? Communication is key
Honey a man will NEVER EVER admit to anything even if he caughts with his drawers on the ground…if your gut is telling you somethings wrong TRUST IT!!! and go from there
Tell that bitch you will break you foot off in her ass and smack the shit out of him.
Tell him keep his attitude at work and not bring it home 
and you can’t control everything what is meant to happen will happen if he knows what he got at home he will not jeopardize it
Well nowadays people think that when you’re nice to somebody you’re flirting but if you truly is flirting and will mess around on you you need to get rid of him. You first need to see how reliable these friends are and do they have underlying intentions.?
Wish my exes co- workers had tipped me off!
Listen 2 the red flags
Maybe nothing serious has happened yet but could. I’d definitely do some detective work.
listen to your intuition, what your gut is telling you. Nip it in the bud if you have too. Than regret later that you did not do anything to stop it.
That’s happened to me so I can relate. In the end it was true. I ended up speaking with his “friend at work” and he told her that we weren’t together. You have to decide if you want to believe your husband. If so…drop it and let it be because nagging him about it is just gonna push him right into her arms. If your gut is telling you otherwise, quietly prepare yourself to leave him.
Why would the co-workers lie to you like that?
Trust your gut my Dear. Good luck🌷
Show up at his work unannounced. Check their reactions. Tell him if he even thinks of doing something to jeopardize your relationship you will make his life a living hell and kick the crap out of her! Check his attitude at the door or he will be checked! Stand up momma!
relationships are based on trust. Unless you have proof of your own tread carefully. Some people are flirts. Its their nature and part of their personality. Talk to him but dont accuse. Do not listen to others unless they have proof something is going on. If it gets worse and you have that gut feeliing talk to both of them.
GO WITH YOUR GUT… THERE’S DEFINITELYYYY something up…
Your intuition will tell you sweetie. Btw: you can go thru his phone history.
And that’s exactly what they all say while the sheets are still warm so I don’t listen to words, I listen to the actions and behavior.
Go with your gut. Why would people make that up… don’t be that dumb chic.
Start thinking like a single mother. Save more money and prepare yourself mentally to be independent . When it hits you, you will be ready to deal with it.
Yes I went threw it my ex worked with shala in laundry…they had a affair wrecked my marriage 21 years…she put cotton balls with her perfume on them…in his car…I found them…go your feeling
Actions speak louder than words, so watch him! If those ppl are real, they will either record it or take pics. So many men have said they would never ruin what they have, only to destroy it completely with their lies and cheating. Females have done the same, so don;t trust that female’s words. Go with your gut!
Guilty 
guy who gives you that line is automatically guilty.
Go with your gut feelings
If he’s doing it he won’t say. If coworkers are telling you why aren’t they telling management. Just because he is flirting doesn’t nesc mean shr is doing so back. If he can’t behave properly he shouldn’t be in a position of authority where he’s already more likely to recieve a harrassment complaint. Drop in at random if you can with a gift, like a lunch for his lunch break later, or balloon or whatever. Bring the babes. Dont make scene if it’s fishy or it could cause you legal issues. Keep I mind the coworkers telling you may be simply jealous of the new hire, or even have a thing for your guy. They’ll do anything to cause a rift if either is the case.
When there’s smoke,there’s fire. Listen to your gut feeling .They don’t lie . I went through it .Some women just can’t help being a home wrecker ,and steal what is yours . A man who truly loves you will not be easily persuaded by temptations.
Go with your gut. It sounds like he is lying. This is already an emotional affair. Ask him if seeing his 14 month old every other weekend is enough for him. Someone else can train her
Its deff true all the signs are there
Im sorry but of hes told you he woild sleep with her then what does tell u
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Ask him what constitutes cheating. Is he aware of emotional cheating?
To me, if I feel an attraction to another man or any chemistry. I distance myself immediately. It’s what I’d expect my husband to do too.
Ask his expectations of you and if you are meeting them. Invest time and energy into your relationship.
Google the things men say when confronted after cheating. If he tries to guilt you or gets mad at you… I’d say he’s guilty as sin…
Coming from personal experience with my husband being a cop and messing with one of the nurses at the jail . If u question it jn your heart then it’s true . The burden wouldn’t be put on your mind if other wise . Also , surprised the coworkers said anything at all . Some of them hide it great and some of them wanna tell u bc that means she could have been flirting with them too and got jealous your husband was flirting with her so they told u . If he told u he would sleep with her chances are thwy already have or are planning . His bad mood is his guilty conscience he may not realize it at this moment but anything done in thw dark comes to light . NOW ITS UP TO YOU HOW YOU WANNA HANDLE IT
Trust your gut! You’ll probably answer your own question.
Flirting is unprofessional. If he is training her, he’s setting himself up for a sexual harrassment situation. Aside from that happy horse shit. Do you trust him? Office rumors tend to get more and more scandalous with each telling.Its too bad we can’t be a fly on the wall. Sit down and talk to him about your concern and fear. Don’t be accusatory! Just talk, is he instantly defensive? Is he hiding something? Trust your intuion but don’t let it side track you. A calm conversation may get you an answer, maybe not the one you hope for. If he is in the verge if physically cheating (sounds like there is all ready an emotional affair going on) tell him he could at least let you know so you can move on. He needs to be man enough to realize he can’t have the whole cake and eat it too.
Pay attention, dear. Observe. Let the things going on flow. And trust your intuition. You know your man more than anyone else, and only you can tell if he’s playing with fire.
Man they not going to tell the truth
If u think he is cheating then he prob. Is.
It’s true! So contact her husband Nd make him aware of the situation as well 
talk to HR just be prepared to go to work if he’s fired. I’d complain to them about HER…let her explain to her hubby why she was fired. Most places don’t allow talk like that. Use it against her.
Sorry if he’s flirting that is a red flag should be kept totally professional there are no jokes where there is smoke there is fire dress really nice find a male friend and just tell him the same thing but nothing’s happening fight Fire with Fire men always want what they can’t have.
Good men can’t be stolen. Help him pack.
Trust your gut feelings. Speaking from experience.
“And she said the same” there you go. They apparently had the conversation before if she told him that.
Just dont mind. Keep cool and think positive. Its not worth .stay beautiful and lovable.iloveu and miss u tine.
Simple, hire a private Investigator for a couple of days and you will have an answer.
Smh… huge NO NO. Scandalous
My ex came at me one day saying “multiple people” i work with told him i was sleeping with a co-worker but wouldnt tell me who just “people you think are your friends”
This happened a few times pretty much in the end i was “sleeping with” all the males i worked with. It got so bad i couldn’t even hold the door for someone at work or i was sleeping with them.
It was emotional abuse.
I was sleeping with no one.
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Be the best wife you can be . If he can’t realize what he has at home than he never had it before with you anyway. Play it cool and see what happens . Don’t jump the gun.
Exactly my story!!! My now ex of 30 yr marriage was getting close to his co-worker after five yrs of suspecting an affair I began to investigate. Found multiple numbers of hers hidden around the house he was always talking about her how funny she is and blah blah blah. Started talking like her (hey you!) I was done with it. Filed for divorce and left! They can have each other both are piece of craps. She knew what it was doing to our marriage and didn’t care! Follow your instincts cause they’re usually spot on!!
Exactly what I went through before I discovered that my then fiance of 17 years was having relations with her and had been for a while. I found texts beck and forth on his phone. When all was said and done he even admitted to taking her son hunting with him for a few times. Trust your gut.
Like everyone is saying trust your gut… we’ve been there, been trusting, been lied too, been gaslighted, been the very last to know… we ignored the red flags…
Ok go back and read the last thing you wrote. Having more problems, comes home in bad mood, acting strange there’s your answer ‘s right there Girly wish you lots of luck 
Its coming from some truth
Hate to say it but when my ex my daughters father starting acting this way after work he was cheating/ dating a coworker. He work till early am and would be with her till it was time to wake our son up for school!
If you have two people telling you the same thing, believe them.
Im sorry but when he starts acting differently that tells u right there hes doing it!!! Im speaking from experience!!
Trust your gut. Personally id go through his phone, social media, everythinggggg. Theres always ways to find out the truth.
I mean maybe it’s just me but I would believe your husband.
See if someone who is telling you this will get some sort of recording of it. Then you have undeniable proof. And if it’s bad enough you can use it as grounds for a divorce.
Sounds like there is truth to it
Don’t fall for it… people love to try and fuck up your happy home. Trust your husband UNLESS YOU feel you need to NOT trust him💁🏼♀️
Well, that means you’re going to have to start doing some digging. Posting and asking people on social media isn’t going to help you. Find out who she is and go talk to her husband. Find time to make your presence known at their work place. Maybe you should make friends with her. Keep your friends close but your enemies closer kind of thing. I mean, if you feel threatened enough to ask others…do something about it. That’s your home and your family. Don’t sit around and just give it away.
I’d follow your gut .
Believe it. I would be showing up at his job and just see how he acts. Not cause a scene or anything but definitely pop up…his reactions would tell you all you need to know
Its definitely possible… this is how affairs happen…
people like to play some shit on others. Seriously. It might just be a friendship or a closeness—doesn’t mean jack unless one of them follows through. Why would people tell you this? What is their motivation? Jealousy or just stirring shit? Because people LOVE to run that gossip mill and make a mountain out of a molehill.
Where theres smoke theres fire…
I’d leave his ass. They wouldn’t make that up.
If u dont have trust you have no relationship! Unfortunately if hes going to cheat nothing you can do will fix that. Knowing what you know are you willing to leave? Most women don’t… good luck
Go with your instinct. & where there is smoke there is fire…
Friendliness is often mistaken for flirting to people who dont no the difference.
If it’s coming from multiple people at his work then I would believe it. I’m sure they wouldn’t all be in on some joke.