I think my nephew may have developmental delays: Thoughts?

I think my nephew might have some developmental delays…I just don’t want to say anything to my brother until I get some feedback other than google. My nephew is one and a half years old, and he will not respond to his name. Not only his name but any type of call Like hey, Mr. or monkey, etc.…He is not very cuddly or affectionate, except if it is my brother, he has cuddled with me a couple of times but only to sleep. He loves closing doors almost obsessively. If one is open, he HAS to shut it. He doesn’t babble, and he doesn’t say any words. He doesn’t point or bring us anything to show like, look what I have, dad. He doesn’t react to anything, really not hand clapping or banging. I’ve never seen him jump over a loud noise even. I don’t know. It just seems like there is something there, but I have no idea what avenue to go down. I’m thinking maybe mild autism, or he can’t hear? He doesn’t care for any of us except his dad. My daughter tries so hard to play with him and talk to him, but he will just Squirm away or bat her hand away. Usually, babies love her. If his dad goes to the bathroom, even he freaks out at the door until he comes out, I try, but I can’t really comfort him. He just arches his back and wants down. I just can’t put my finger on it…has anyone experienced anything like this, or what could I maybe do to test him for signs or clues?

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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I think my nephew may have developmental delays: Thoughts?

Mind your business. Let his mother and father handle it. :heart:

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Sounds either Deaf… or Autistic

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I would let their pediatrician talk to them.

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Yes my son does this except he is cuddly and he has mild autism he has to flush the toilet for us, close doors for us and open them everyday.

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I’d get his hearing checked

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I would take in for a developmental evaluation

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Their pediatrician will voice concerns, my sons did when he was around two. Put in referrals and went from there.

Apraxia is something to google though. It doesn’t effect many kids, but it still happens. My son was diagnosed with it as well as high functioning ASD. Apraxia isn’t talked about as much as it should be. I had no idea about it until the diagnosis.

The spectrum is extremely huge.

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Hearing most likely. Prayers for this little fellow.

That’s definitely something the parents should be worried about, not anyone else,if someone came to me and said one of my children seemed developmentally delayed, i would get offended :woman_shrugging:t2:

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Hearing would be my first concern. But thats coming from a mom with 2 babies who do the same. My oldest has mild to.moderate hearing loss and my 2nd wont talk either. We talk to both every day interact every day and nothing. They have their own timelines too.

Just voice your concerns to the parents. Hopefully they will agree and keep an eye. It’s up to them to talk to their pediatrician. And find one that listens and wants to help. At this age I’m not sure what options are available. I can relate to you though. It’s so hard to love them so much and not be able to just jump right in and fix everything.

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Autism Inclusivity is a great group if you want to understand autism more.

But parents need to rule out hearing issues as well.

Maybe he is just introverted and doesn’t trust anyone other than his dad. Or he could have separation anxiety when his dad leaves the room.

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My daughter has always wanted the doors closed also. Every door all the time. And she didn’t babble either but at 2.5 speaks complete sentences while others her age still babble. So none of that sounds outrageous. I’d let their ped handle it and stay out of it. All kids are different.

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Sounds like my autistic son.

I have a son with developmental delays. His is a direct result of not being able to hear. I kept taking him to his pediatrician with no help. They sent us for a hearing test and 2 seconds in said he could hear. I took him to an ENT and they tested him and said he couldn’t. Literally within hours of PE tubes, my son was a different child. Unfortunately, he was 4 before he passed a hearing test. He is delayed, but catching up now. Depending on how close you are is how you should handle this.

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You should be able to bring your concerns up to your brother without it being an issue.
If the child is on the spectrum or there is an issue it’s best to catch it early on.
If he gets offended then that’s ridiculous because you’re worried about your nephew, not ridiculing his parenting.

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Sounds like he may not be able to hear correctly. Or possibly autism . You may want to talk to your brother . And let him know your concerns. Cause it sounds like he needs his ears checked and a evaluation. Early intervention is best . My daughter has a language delay . and got it checked into early on .

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Speak to it Doctor prayers for you and your family :pray::pray::pray:

I have a 15 month old that’s pretty much the same way besides she won’t cuddle with anyone including me and her father she’s currently n occupational therapy and speech therapy. I’d definitely talk to him about taking to get hearing test and bringing these things up to the doctors and they should be able to do a recommendation as to where to have a evaluation done by therapist to get him into the right programs to help

Definitely needs to be taken in for an evaluation. Sounds very much like Autism as my 20yo son acted very similarly at that age and was diagnosed at 3 with ASD.

May want to get his hearing checked. Sounds more along that line

Mind your business? My son has a speech delay and I’d laugh in my sisters face if she tried to tell me something was “wrong” with my kid? If you noticed your brother sure as hell has and if you have a kid then you know how many check ups and developmental evals babies have the first few years.

If your brother isn’t talking to you about it there is probably a reason

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The earlier the child is diagnosed and starts interventions the better. No matter what the cause is.

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I’d have ur brother get ur nephew’s hearing checked and then have him speak with the pediatrician about the other signs that are being mentioned.

Receptive speech delay would be not understanding when you talk to him. Expressive speech delay would be him not talking. Maybe start with bringing up those. Could also be autism but start the conversation without autism and see how it goes.

Speaking as a parent who has a deaf child… I would bring something up casually about newborn hearing screening and ask if they got that done and what the results were maybe say you know someone who had it done recently and their child failed and they had to follow up with an audiologist … Speak up he is family and It’s ur job to help! More damage can be done if you don’t speak up about ur concerns… you need to act quickly when it comes to hearing loss!! There is so many services to help even at any early age. How frustrating and sad for the child they have no way to communicate and nobody understands them… speak up don’t worry about stepping on someone toes when it come to helping a helpless child

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Could be autistic or deaf. His Pediatrician should by now be aware of a problem. I would be careful how I approched this sensitive subject. Some parents are in denial. Perhaps ask if he has had an ear infection or had his hearing checked.

Definitely sounds like an autistic individual but it’s okay to discuss your concerns with your family and see if the individual should get tests to be sure for 100%

Hes very little and I’m dont know how much time you actually spend with him. My daughter was very odd at that age it’s just not very unusual. Do you have children?

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I don’t know where you’re from, but in the uk we’ve obviously been in lockdown. So children are delayed and attached to their parents. Because that’s all they’ve known. Could it just be that?

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I have 2 Autistic sons. Start with a hearing test and see if his Dad will make an appointment with his Dr for a referral for ASD screening. The wait is long in some states…and usually they test for hearing before referring for ASD testing.

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Maybe suggest, gently, a hearing test. That should be ruled out. Then an early intervention evaluation.

Sounds like it may be autism… Is he the only child?

Kind of sounds like autism.

I was deaf until I was 3, the tubes in my ears never fully formed, I wouldn’t let anyone touch me other than my mother…I would check his hearing!! I have no delays now, some words I still mess up and I stutter from time to time but other than that I’m perfectly normal!!

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Give the child time …don’t jump to conclusions that there must be something wrong with him .

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I would think he has a problem with hearing. You also did not mention a mother in this picture. May have a problem bonding with female’s if it has only been his father as the care giver. So many people are quick to label children as Autism or ADHD. Some children have delays in area’s. He needs to have a hearing test done then go from there.

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Autism… I’d definitely say something

Could be a hearing issue. My oldest son was like that. As soon as we put tubes in he was completely different. I have a 3 year old who is developmentally delayed. His however is not a hearing issue. His speech is delayed and his understanding. Just bring it up to him. Won’t hurt anything.

Have his hearing checked

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All my children did all of this and there is nothing wrong with them just let the child do it on its own every child is diffent

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Honestly I am against some of these comments. Nothing can be really diagnosed until they’re the age of two or older and It sounds more like separation anxiety. I feel like so many kids are different. I’ve had so many friends with kids who weren’t talking at that age but then started later on. If hearing was a concern, they do that early on for testing. Does he pull at his Ears? It could be an infection? I wouldn’t make the jump to Autism right away

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He needs to be assessed sounds like ASD

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Too young to tell. He may just not like you lol my kids are so codependent and not around others enough that they refuse to talk or look at anyone until 3-4. Boys are also less advanced from personal experience. Could also be a hearing issue. Boys are more prone to needing hearing aids in my family.

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All bc a child doesn’t do something at a certain age doesn’t mean it’s autism. Maybe he has problems hearing or maybe he’s attached to his dad!! Geez people!! They won’t even test for autism until a child is 5. Going threw it now with my 5 yr old son.

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My son did not talk until he was nearly 5 my mother asked if I was worried! No I was not! One day he just started talking. He is very intelligent and has a photographic memory. My young grandson would watch the dryer obsessively! He’s 21 now very together loving and sweet. Your nephew is way too young to make the kind of assumptions you are making….

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Sounds like autism and also trouble hearing. I wouldn’t wait seeing they have programs to help kids with different developmental delays at young ages.

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Sounds like autism…my brother inlaw has it…sounds like the same thing he always favored his mom over his dad never liked to b touched either

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Sounds just like my boy. He’s two and doesmost of these things that you just named. I am his person. He had testing done and he was diagnosed with early childhood development delay . . SO IT MAY NOT BE AUTISM . I know its a sensitive subject because I have had people in my life try to bring it up and I don’t want to hear it . It’s hard because his father is in denial. I would be careful how you decide to bring it up it could be considered offense to some people. Good luck and Im sorry you have to go through this

Mind yo damn business

This to me sounds like a hearing and speech issue. Better to get him seen by early intervention and an ENT specialist than to assume it’s autism so early on

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sounds alit like my son. he was diagnosed with Autism at 3. was hard to accept when my aunt suggested it but best thing that ever happened to us because early intervention leads to success. my son just Graduated high school .

That’s pretty normal for his age. Boys are generally less social than girls. It could be a lack of playful interaction at home or wherever he is most of the day. His doctors should’ve already done a hearing and vision test along with a developmental questionnaire.

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I’m going with a hearing problem. My daughter had fluid building up in her ears l… I thought she was just ignoring me… until she failed a hearing test. Once rubes were put in, she thankfully got her hearing back.

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Early intervention, mention something to primary pediatrician. Rule out Hearing test

Needs to see an ENT doc to have hearing checked. My son got checked at one. He is delayed and if your nephew is seeing a doc regularly they usually have the parent fill out a questionnaire to see how the child is developing. It’s so important for parents to be truthful on these so that the doc can refer them to specialists to be checked. My son started therapy at 1 because he is speech delayed. First specialist he saw was an ENT to make sure he wasn’t deaf. My son was diagnosed at 3 with a rare condition that causes speech delay.

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You might consider looking into your local Early childhood Intervention program. They can offer a free developmental evaluation to see if he has delays and would qualify for services. Based on your description, I would ask for a speech pathologist and occupational therapist. Even if he does not have a diagnosis, offering early intervention can help him meet milestones and help his quality of life! I hate to hear ‘just wait’ when there are some fantastic programs that can help him thrive!

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He may have water in his ears my son never spoke until we put tubes in his ears

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Yessss! I’ve experienced this with my own child! He didn’t respond unless he visually saw something that scared him. No talking no crying, nothing. Then the hearing tests came back and it all made sense! 1.5 years with hearing aids and he’s a different child.

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yeah sounds like hearing issues if he can’t clearly hear then that could be causing a big issue. I would mention that he might need his hearing checked because he isnt reacting. Make sure you approach your brother with love about it though . Telling someone you think their baby is “broken” is a sensitive road to trek on.

https://www.psycom.net/child-autism-test

Next time you are around him try to come up behind him and clap your hands loud see if he responds. If he doesn’t react it could be hearing.

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Please have his hearing checked. I babysat a little boy who had severe hearing loss an they did not pick up on it till he was around 3…

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He might not be able to hear

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Its hard to accept that something is different about your child and that’s where you come in you must say something I’ve been here you won’t regret it…are his fingers always in motion like he’s rolling something that’s not there that’s a key sign…delay in many areas…try disturbing the pattern of toys and watch the reaction…good luck.

I would first do a hearing evaluation. No speech whatsoever at 18m is time for intervention.

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Could evaluate through early intervention

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How often do you actually see him?

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These are all questions they ask during your well visits. If he’s not hitting his milestones then his pediatrician will catch this.

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My daughter was like that at that age. Professionals were trying to convince me that she was autistic but I didn’t believe it and told them to give her time. She was fine and turned 360 around age 3. Also she had so much fluid in her ears that she literally couldn’t hear anything lower than a drum sound.

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Maybe a hearing problem?

Well maybe he is just attached to dad. Babies and toddlers go through separation anxiety. I would suggest getting his hearing checked because if he can’t hear then he can’t talk. Where is mom?

Sounds like auditory processing delay… which fits hand in hand with autism. All of these “quirks” you mention are spot on for autism. If you feel comfortable enough to talk to your brother about it, I would suggest seeing a neurologist first. Tread lightly… it could be something he notices but ignores because it’s unfamiliar territory. Early intervention is key! Way to recognize the signs! :clap:t3::clap:t3::clap:t3::clap:t3::clap:t3:

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I would suggest getting his hearing checked first

This literally sounds perfectly normal for a toddler that age. They don’t all develop at the same pace, and with doors being shut, their people just like adults and have preferences. Or he watched someone do it and now he likes to do it too. My daughter didn’t talk til she was 2 or respond to her name barely. It’s not your kid I wouldn’t say anything unless you want to argue and go looking for drama

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It sounds like autism from the part of the post I read.

Check his hearing! This is common in children that are hard of hearing or have gone deaf!

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It could be a hearing problem. If you’re concerned talk to your brother about it. His pediatrician should be noticing these issues.

Well doesn’t he see a dr regularly for them to notice these things.

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I would just suggest having an honest conversation and asking your brother just to contact a dr for a general opinion on his milestones. Your brother seems content so maybe he is letting it go for now. Either way open communication with your village is so healthy! When he is ready, even if its 3 years from now, just be there and love on him and that baby. :heartpulse:

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That’s none of your business

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Are you with him 24/7??? My kids were the same way with my family and people they didn’t know. Completely different when they were with us.

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My son was like this he’s now 4… his tonsils a d adenoids were so big it was pushing on the nerve in your head that allows you to listen he literally couldn’t hear anything but muffled sounds no matter how we talked he was about 1.5 when I noticed he wasn’t advancing any longer had his taken out when he was 2.5 and got him in early intervention through our school to get him caught up where he needs to be

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Get his hearing checked.

Need to get his hearing checked!

I agree with you, either hearing is off. Or autistic

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My son had basically all the exact same issues at 18 months and he qualified for early intervention services. His sister is on the spectrum. I haven’t had him evaluated yet because I want to see how it all develops (he’s not even 27 months yet). His hearing is fine, though.

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Boys don’t like to talk till their ready! My step son didn’t start till age 3… Now hes 11 n don’t shut up lol

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Drs do an autism screening at 2 yr check up

Sounds like he might have some sort of autism, tell dad.

That seems like a perfectly normal toddler. He was probably only a few months old when everything shut down and is very attached to his parents. I suggest letting the pediatrician suggest anything he needs from hearing or anything otherwise. Definitely none of your business. You don’t seem concerned only nosey.

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Get him to a pediatrician so you can him evaluated. Always better safe than waiting when you could help him get assistance right away.

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He’s literally a year and a half old… All these behaviours are pretty normal.
Suggest having his hearing checked but otherwise I see nothing wrong
Edit to add: no one in the comments should be providing a diagnosis or diagnoses.

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Tell your brother to have his hearing checked, it sounds to me like a hearing problem.

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He needs a hearing test!

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They do check ups at 18 months old and 24 months old. They do check for autism at 24 months old. All kids develop at different stages.

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He could just be shy, sometimes kids won’t talk to anyone except their main care giver. Do you have kids yourself?