Wtf!! Why are you even still with him?
Id never stay with someone 8f we weren’t sleeping in the same bed at night especially that long
This is incredibly strange
I have no words wor this.
Big red flag! I’m not sure of your story but from what you posted,I would be looking for somewhere else to stay
Um, you are roommates and he’s a jerk
I don’t get it. He’s not letting you buy a bed? Why tf do you need his permission?
I have so many questions here… how has this gone on for 5 years? Do you have a bed but don’t use it? What is his reasoning? Like…. What.
Nope, hell naw. Find your way out.
I’m so confused by this 
I’d be leaving this situation and be buying myself a bed!
thats just weird and why have you been doing this for 5 years is my question?! RUN
Wth 5 years and you live together and haven’t slept in the same bed? Is this a made up story because I don’t know anyone that would put up with this
i dont think so … you need to ditch this loser
That’s very bizarre definitely would’ve been gone a very long time ago
Um. U need to leave that man sis.
Some people don’t like sharing a room, but I’m confused on why you can’t have a bed? That part is the strange and not ok part. You shouldn’t have to ask for a bed of all things!
If this is a real post, you need to see yourself out. That is very weird.
That’s because he invites me over… duh
This can’t be real
Not to sound harsh but what the hell are you still doing there ?
Oh hell no…lol leave his arse
This is not normal. This is abuse. Idc who says what.
Leave. Run. Whatever it takes.
So what, we have adult time in the bed and you roll out to the couch? I get it that some couples sleep apart because of snoring, tossing & turning or something like that, but this is… bizarre. Girl, go get you a new place with your baby and make sure to get a really good mattress.
you allow this!
Ummm huh? Like is he afraid that sleeping in the same bed will have another kid automatically? How can you say your in a relationship for 5 years and not sleep in the same room ever? Sorry honey. Your not in a relationship. Your a roommate
What the actual f%*+ did I just read?
You will be given what you accept. Why are you accepting this behavior???
Even animals have beds …and does he have full control of finances for you to have to ask him for a bed?
So you live together? Not sharing a bed would not be a big deal. The deal breaker would not be having 1. However I would been out after a month not 5 years
So MOVE OUT! PROBLEM SOLVED!
There has to be more to the story than what you are stating… he doesn’t allow you to sleep in the bed and you’ve been together 5 years?? He won’t even allow you to purchase a bed to sleep in?? He sounds like he has a few screws loose in his head. Why have you put up with that for so long?? Why do you have to ask him permission to buy a bed?? Somethings not adding up here.
Not husband or BF material. Something wrong with him
Seems like you need to leave if you can’t even buy a bed 5 years to long on a couch smh who cares if you have different kids they should be used to each other and you two being together, have you asked why he don’t like beds lol my question is why are you asking for permission to buy something you need if cps or social services seen this you’d and him will have to explain this to them
This is very normal, I know couples that sleep in separate rooms in separate beds and make their relationship work. But if you’re not comfortable w it leave girl❣
Send him to the dog house, that sorry honey is not normal!!
Sounds like you got you a room mate and not a MAN!!!
I’d be gone in a flash, what makes him think he’s entitled to the bed!
Go get In the bed women if he don’t like it looks like you’ll be getting a new couch set
You should at least have your own bed if you both agree sleeping seperate is best. I’m sorry, a worn out sofa is unacceptable and you deserve better.
Seriously why do I keep seeing such shitty relationships on here 
tell them how it is and if they don’t cooperate show them the door I mean lifes way to short to be putting up and shutting up tell them how it is and say if something doesn’t change then I’m gone no you’re worth I’m happy being single I enjoy the peace n quiet ain’t nobody got time for drama they’re hiding something it seems get it sorted or walk away please
So he’s in a bed and you have to make do with a couch? How did this arrangement even come about in the first place 5 years ago? Get your things together and leave!
I understand some couples are ok with sleeping separately, however you deserve to have a bloody bed to sleep in!!!
This is not healthy. Is he a narcissist? Sociopath? Something isn’t right here. Like others have mentioned, sometimes couples don’t sleep in the SAME bed because of snoring or other reasons. But to not allow you your own bed, to get into a full blown fight about it, and you’re made into the ‘worst person ever’ for asking for one? That’s not okay. That’s control and manipulation. For the sake of you and your child, really evaluate your situation and find somewhere else to live. That is not a relationship. And if he is like that over a bed, what is he like about major life challenges and decisions?
I wish my husband would tell me I couldn’t sleep in my own bed. He’d be in a trash bag so fast 
maybe he pees his bed—and doesn’t want you to find out. I vote you go get your own bed, somewhere else. Bring your kid with you and let him have the whole house to himself. Either way, me sleeping in a way a normal person would accept is mandatory in my world.
This is a person who will steer you in a direction you don’t want your life in cant care for themselves. Little ones? And definitely not good for you. It isn’t even good for your back to not have a proper bed. Don’t wait for this guy. Get you a bed and do better im certain you can!
Why would you stay through that!?
Get in the bed and throw the whole man out. You live under the same roof he can’t not let you sleep in your own bed girl and if he tries pack up you and your baby and let him be alone permanently. There was a reason the first woman booted him out. He has issues 
Me neither…my slate is clean
You need to leave him. Thats not normal.
I know someone like this, he says it’s cause he has reflexes from being In jail but idk
I’m more astonished that u put up with this for 5 years…
You have to give a lil more information for people to understand.is he so selfish? Is a religion reason,maybe he can’t sleep with you till your married? Be a strong person and stand up for yourself
This is all wrong. Run girl Run
You already know it’s time to go. Js
I have a hard time believing some of these questions are real. Why do women accept this behavior and the bare minimum effort on behalf of their partners?
My friend just bought herself a roll away bed she has slept on a couch for years due to her son with special needs
Sounds like he can only sleep alone. He could have ADHD, severe anxiety or other issues where he just can’t sleep in the sane bed. His arguing can be because he knows you won’t understand. It raises his anxiety when you bring it up.
um… clearly this has been over for a long time…
Yeaaa. That’s PTSD. Idk from what obviously because idk him lol But that’s definitely avoiding something that gives him bad memories or flashbacks.
What??? You’re in a relationship with a guy who makes you sleep on the sofa??!! I don’t think so. Get out of there! If he’s not hiding something and shows you the respect you deserve, you shouldn’t be there! I’ll bet you cook and clean for him because he works so hard during the day too dont you, so he never pulls his weight in his home?? Get out!
I’d be finding a new man
Throw that whole boy away. That is no man
OMG get out or just by a bed. I would not ask permission at all.
I’m not going to be in a relationship, let alone my damn house and not be able to sleep in a bed/my bed. Your spouse tells you no? But, why? What are his reasons? Why does this turn into a fight?? I need more to this story there’s not enough reasoning or information to go off of.
Have u actually asked why?? I understand ppls first take on this n their reaction is get rid buttt this guy could suffer with something deep he may have a past u no nothing of he may have flashbacks bad memories mental health issues or even a illness!!!
Before all jumping at this lass to leave him maybe ask the question!!
To the OP instead of asking about a bed etc straight in maybe sit with him calmly n ask him is there a reason to it approach it differently understandingly!!
If there isn’t n he is just a straight up narcissistic prick then fair play bin the whole entire man n don’t look back!!
But sometimes things aren’t always as straight forward!! N men don’t share as easily as women as they see it as weakness!!!
Men suffer too just mainly in silence till its too late!!!
That’s crazy! Get a bed.
How could you let that go on for years…
WHY doesn’t he want to sleep in a bed with you? This is very abnormal behavior. He’s got to have a reason. Do the kids sleep in the bed? Do you live in a 1 bdrm apartment? WHY doesn’t he want to sleep in a bed and WHY does discussing it turn in to a major conflict? He sounds young and very immature.
Ok if he doesn’t want to sleep in a bed ok but why can’t you? Weird.
Then go get a bed🤷🏾♀️ you’re an adult right???
Get a daybed or really nice futon to replace the couch.
Is he Christian? Cause that’s the only logical thing in my mind other than he just doesn’t want to be with you.
So I’m having difficulty understanding this scenario. Does he have a bed, but you sleep on the couch or do you both sleep on the couch? Are the children with you and share a bed? I’ve read this over and it’s still unclear. Are you unemployed and have no money? Because there are plenty of sites that offer up used furniture to the needy.
I NEED CONTEXT!!!
Stand up for yourself
Is there a specific reason? My ex couldn’t sleep in an actual bed & he didn’t want to drop 500+ on one. So the few we just slept together it was on a couch van or just laid in bed with me until I fell asleep.
What?
Most nights I sleep on the couch willingly because my husband snores loudly but to deny you a bed to sleep in? Girl, please go, live your life comfortable to your standards and make it your best, you only get one.
Wtf seriously get the hell out why would you subject yourself tht wat a pig of a man
I have a hard time understanding this. If it is as read why are you still there after 5 years? Who has beds? Why are you on a couch? I am having a hard time understanding this post…
I’m not sure I follow… you’ve been with him for 5years… and you aren’t allowed to sleep in a bed? What kind of relationship is this?
Nope I would have left a long time ago
Ma’am I’m gonna need you to come forward with more of this story…Because I’m utterly CONFUSED. Does he have a bed and you just can’t sleep in it? For 5 years toO…I’m CONFUSED.
What?! Why?! 5 years?! Oh girl. Get out. He doesn’t love you. I’m sorry, but that’s unacceptable…
Dafuq did I just read??
If he doesn’t want to sleep in the same bed then he can find alternate accommodations 
if you make your own money, but yourself a bed. Either way he needs to go. It’s not the relationship you think it is
I can’t even fathom 
how are you allowing this!?
The fact you’re not even sleeping in the same bed says all you need to know
You really have to ask?
How is this even a question? Why are you still there.
Nah go get your bed and a new man while your at it. normal people sleep in beds or where they are comfy. If he controls this much of you already your in for a long life of misery. Get out get a damn bed and get your sleep
I have so many questions 
Why don’t you sleep in bed with him? 5 years and you haven’t left? Wow
Go get you a bed couch girl…makes into a bed at night and couch at day…go get it…get er done…if he starts yelling…tell him to back off…don’t stand down to this small man who sleeps in a bed…yet feels your in the wrong for wanting a bed…
Wtf is this post even. Have a little more self worth and do what you want
Wait what??? No way if I not sleeping in bed with my man unless they medical reason hell no…why would u put yourself through it …you deserve better .just my opinion I would kick him out…
So I’m confused. Do you both sleep on the couch? Do you have your own room for you 2? Can y’all afford a bed? Do you work? If so buy a bed.
I don’t understand how you’ve let this go on so long. Either stand up for yourself or LEAVE. You shouldn’t allow yourself to be treated that way. You have to love and respect yourself FIRST and if you’re allowing him to treat you that way then you don’t. Maybe even seek therapy to figure out the root of these issues.
Ok I know beds are expensive and all. But in my opinion it’s a necessity. You can’t tell me your back isn’t kill you.
Tell your man to stop being a cheap a$$ & both of you invest a nice quality bed!
I don’t understand what’s going on here…
he sleeps in a bed, you sleep on the couch?
For one… WHY?!
Second, you’re an adult, get a bed for yourself, leave him, or do something? Idk I don’t get what’s going on here
This is a New Year!!! Please do for your child and you!!!