Unfortunately, it will never change. No matter how much you want it to. Move on for the sake of yourself and your child.
No dear. Run away. People don’t change. I give you credit fir leaving when you did. I know it’s hard. But please do not sacrifice your life again. Sounds like he’s nit affectionate to your child either. You will be miserable. He will control you again. It will get worse and worse. Keep your distance. Get help from family and friends or even an agency if you need to. Call 211. They can give you phone numbers to places that will help
You. Love yourself and your child. You have an important purpose in life. Go out there and be yourself. Love your child and show him a great life full of hope and positivity. Peace and prayers to you .
For 9-10 months this man emotional abused you, locked you up in a room and cut contact with your family…Then you see the light and get out…now your hanging with him and his old ways are coming back out…SHOULD YOU STAY??? HELL NO!!! RUN and don’t ever look back!!! Go put his ass on support and record all evidence of him yelling at a baby, then get supervised visits, otherwise you and your son may end up in a situation that you can’t return from. And if he hurts your son, you will be just as guilty because you know he’s crazy!!! Not to be mean/rude BUT please wake up…Realize you deserve so so much more, you’re a badass beautiful woman!!! You’ll find a man that treats you like a princess, that man will also except your son.
KNOW YOUR WORTH!!!
What is to be conflicted about? The man is a jerk and you can’t change him a skunk does not change his colors. That would be nice but speaking from experience it doesn’t happen. You deserve better. Get out there and look for it
HE WILL NEVER CHANGE! DO NOT GET BACK WITH HIM!! Never fall in love with possibilities or potential! That man has already shown you who he is!! You cannot and will not change him! Take your baby and RUN!!! And if you can’t trust yourself to not go back then I would stay with a trusted family member or friend to help you stay away from him and keep him away from you and the baby!
You’re not in love. You’re a victim of domestic violence. You’ve been gaslighted. Run!
Re read everything u just wrote and imagine someone explaining that situation to you. Your first reaction I hope would be - lady , get the fuck out of there! because it’s one thing for u to cop abuse if u decide to allow that kind of behaviour from a grown ass man but your child shouldn’t grow up that way and feeling that’s a normal way to be treated and possibly when ur baby’s grown end up in an abusive relationship like that because that’s what they’re used to.
Get yourself and your child away from him ASAP. Men like that don’t change.
I would leave, your son and you don’t deserve a life like that. Maybe down the line, you’ll meet a nice man who will love your son, love you and treat you how your suppose to be treated!
Dont do it…if you are already seeing the same pattern then you have your answer
Leave that’s abuse do not go back to that
Leave that pos and don’t look back
Gurlllll if you don’t run far far far away from this POS he’s gonna ruin your life!!! Go live your life block his number and move on. He’s no good.
Put a restraning order against him . You and your baby deserve to live peaceful and happy life . Your responsibility to protect your baby . your well being . dont give him the power to manipulate you. Seek help for you and your baby . from experience i went thru something similar . as soon as you can get out of that relationship. Theres nothing more important then your child.
My advice is to go back and read this post as if it were someone else. What advice would you give another person? I think you know the answer. Any male that treats you and especially a TODDLER for crying like that isn’t a man at all!
Run like hell people do not change
Ewwwww. He is no example for your son.
Your responsibility now is to be the best mama ever. RESPECT your son, if you cant yourself.
Ewwwww rid yourself of that lowlife sperm donor xxx
Just walk away! If not for yourself for the child. He obviously doesn’t love you nor is he mature enough for a real (good/healthy) relationship. Marriage will not change him. Why would you even be questioning yourself? I’m a firm believer in “fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me!”
Run and keep running!!!
He won’t change. He is already showing signs of old behavior and it will continue to escalate.
They will not change! Do not go back to this bully, do not let him around your baby unless you are forced to. You are worth better than this!
From experience people like that don’t change. They are good for a while but it doesn’t last and over time usually gets much worse.
Run as fast as you can
Do not go back to that. You and your child deserve sooo much better. He doesnt sound like hes going to change at all. The fact that he yells at you and your child is a sure fire indicator that hes not good. X
Hes not gona change and ur baby doesnt deserve to be part of that!
Nope, nope nope. DDDOONN’TT go back. I PROMISE YOU it will NOT get better.
Run as fast as you can. He isn’t worth your time or energy.
Run!
Run fast!
File for child support and custody and run!
That man is NOT GOING TO CHANGE. If you leave him for good, he’ll try to weaponize your child either through court or physical mental child abuse.
Put your child before a man! Especially a abusive one!
If it were me I’d run and never look back. There are good men out there. Men that will respect you and treat you like a queen.
Please get counseling so you can see this horrible relationship for what it was: serious abuse. Learn to value yourself enough to stand up for yourself and your child and break the cycle of abuse. That baby is counting on you to keep him safe.
Also talk to a lawyer about sole custody (all types of custody), his relinquishing his rights (you give up child support but gain control), or making sure sperm donor only has supervised custody, preferably at a courthouse.
BTW, congrats for extricating yourself from that nightmare & realize he doesn’t love you at all, he’s just using you. I’m sorry. There are better days ahead.
Dont go back! Think about this if it was bad for you would you want your child around that?! No. Not a healthy relationship and you know that.
Sounds like my ex… he wont change. For your sons sake dont go back!
Don’t waste your time. Move on and find someone who appreciates you and deserves you
Run , don’t look back. He will make your life miserable and worse than that make your poor child’s life miserable
If you have to ask someone else on something you already know I feel bad for the baby.
IT WILL NEVER CHANGE. The quicker you force yourself to understand that, the better. Maybe seek counseling for yourself. It does wonders. From what you stated, hes an abusive man. You’ve already seen the red flags clear as day. Dont subject yourself or your child to that once again. You already danced with the devil and now youre playing with the fire.
A proper narcissist. Keep walking honey.
So what’s the question? Should you get back together with a fuck up who will never change? And do you prefer to spend the rest of your life attempting to change him? The answer is fuck no! Go take care of u and that kid. That man deserves zero of your time and effort.
RUN RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN WITH YOUR SON AND NEVER EVER LOOK BACK YOU DESERVE BETTER,Sweetheart love is an action not a word nothing he he has done for you or your child has been love. Keeping you in a small room is imprisonment not love,keeping you from your friends and family is not love. My prayer for you and your sweet baby is a good life with people who truly LOVE you.
Things won’t change I can promise you that now. His behaviour is abusive.
What is wrong with you he is not worthy of your love
Get rid of him and regain control of your life he will never change
Throw the whole man away
Fuck no. Anyone that treats you like that especially when you’re carrying his child should not get a second chance. You did the right thing getting out, you deserve to have a life and to feel good about yourself. This story sounds like mine and one of my biggest regret was to have the strength to leave earlier. I tried two times with mine, he was only a “changed man” for about a week and then got WORSE then it was before. It sucks Trust me, but you do not want your child to think it’s okay to treat people like that. Do it for your child.
Move on and never look back! You and your son deserve so much more:)
You’re FIRST priority is the Saftey and well being of the child, this man has demonstrated in EVERY way how he TRULY feels about you and the child , Ask yourself this, Do I want my child growing up to BELIEVE this is what LOVE is seeing Mommy cry all the time?
If your not running yet dam well should be. You know better than to ask he wants to see baby fine .but you know he’s not changing
Run far far away, he’s not going to change!
Dont make Any excuses for him…things will only get worse…
Have you lost your mind letting anyone treat you like that, so you left him and your thinking about going back to that. Have you lost your mind?
He won’t ever change. Going back is putting yourself in danger. Maybe not physically yet. But devastating emotion consequences will follow. Trauma from witnessing and experiencing constant intense emotional turmoil will also negatively effect your child.
You need to love you and your child more than any man or woman
Run like hell far away! Do it for your baby or he will end up with a dead Mother and father in jail!
Trust your gut…when in doubt follow your head not your heart.
I agree get as far away as possible . He has already showed you who he is. Then you gave him another shot just to be showed the same results. Live a happy life without him. Just because you love him doesnt mean you are meant to be together
You are a victim of domestic violence. His verbal and emotional abuse is making you vulnerable for further victimization. The reasons that gave you the strength to pack up and leave him is the same strength you need to maintain to stay out of his life. If you love him, love him from a distance, because the problem is an abuser can’t love you back. Stay away!!! And, please DO NOT marry him. You will make yourself a victim of a lifetime of control!! I hope you find peace and happiness from someone who can love and treat you with respect!!
That’s abuse. You should research the cycle of violence in a conjugal setting - this is exactly what you’re living. Run run run. Don’t wait until it worsens or starts getting physical.
Leave. The piece of garbage will never change, we’ve dealt with it for 16 yrs.
You won’t leave a toxic situation unless U really want to there is nothing we can do regardless of what we advise. Read your post again and try to read it from an outsider perspective. Then ask urself if that was a post from someone else what would you advise? ?
He will NEVER change. Leave and do what’s right for your child and yourself don’t look back no matter what he tells you.
Sweetie I can see it now he is not going to change. Oh they will be good and nice for a little while and go right back to the way he was believe me I know I had been in that same situation as you were, I feared for my life but when he made our son watch him beat me that was the straw that broke the camel’s back. I never went back to him or that kind of life. Think of yourself and your baby but watch your back get a restraining order and go to Child Services to get child support because it is not cheap to raise a child. Please I beg of you don’t go back to him
Don’t go back, you will regret it, move forward there is someone out there who will treat you and your child good, you don’t need this. Do you want to worry if he is ever alone with your son if he starts hitting him for small stuff cause he seems like the type who would, do you and yourself a favour and work on yourself and taking care of your baby, he is now the priority not your abusif ex
He will never change!
Hes an abuser. I know, I’ve worked with them. Go back and I guarantee you it will turn into physical abuse. I am not kidding. If you go back, yoy are putting yourself and your child in danger.
Dont waste your love on some asshole like this. Stay away from him for good! It is for the best for your baby and yourself!!!
Leave for your sons sake if you can’t come terms that he’s bad for you realize he’s bad for your son
Run. Run far away. He will never change. I’ve lived that life.
Please please please leave!!! He will NOT change! I promise you that! He is toxic for you and the baby
Run and dont look back. Abusive people will say and do anything to get you back. But once youre back the cycle starts all over again.
Believe me honey. He will NEVER change. For the sake of your life & your baby Go. This is not love. You are being brainwashed to think you aren’t worth anything. I am a survivor. Please. xoxoxo
Nothing will change unfortunately. You can love him and not be together. There is also a difference to love him and be in love with him. Do what you need to to protect your little one.
Things won’t change. He’s already broken promises he made, new promises won’t matter.
He’ll never change! He’s probably a narcissist, he’s abusive and obviously very controlling. He’s not with you because of love, people like that only love control. You and your baby will be much better off being as far away from him as you can possibly get. Move on, protect yourself and your baby, and never look back!
You must leave. He’s showing you signs he isn’t ready to change.
You already know what your doing, he’ll never change, stay with him if you want a life of misery or leave and make a new lifegood luck
No, no, no, no, no!! You deserve 100000% better than this!
He’s a narcissist. Sis you can’t change him & he’s never going to be who you want him to be. Do not marry him. Stay away from him. File for child support & stay single until the right man comes along.
First let’s be real if you don’t love the way he treats you and your child you don’t love him! You love the idea of what COULD be or should be (the perfect lil family every little girl dreams of). Now face reality and realize you are never going to get it with him. There is someone out there who will treat you and your child right but you will never find them clinging on to a “dream”. It’s never going to happen with this guy because that’s not who he is. Leave. Have a good co-parenting relationship and nothing more. Heal your wounds and raise your child. Someone will come along and be right for you. I’ve been here before and leaving was the best decision I ever made!
Do NOT go back to him for any reason ! He has all of the traits of an abuser . He is a control freak ! I promise I know of what I speak ! Please don’t go around him at all ! Visit your family whenever you can and as much as you can . Please trust my advice on this one !
Run with your child…do not look back…I was where you are many years ago…believe me it won’t get better…
Oh Girl, run the hell the other way NOW
Run for your life. Jesus Christ. You and your baby deserve a life of love and happiness. He wants control. That’s so unhealthy. Life is too short to be anything other happy and healthy. It’s going to be so hard but do it for yourself and that beaut baby.
Leave and don’t look back protect your child!! If he is yelling at him as a baby he could hurt or kill him. All it takes is one time him becoming frustrated and grabbing your son in anger!!
Please don’t go back.
Run for your life… I had a similar situation and they don’t change. Dont be afraid to be a single mom. When you less expect it, a good man will arrive to your life that will love you and your son as his.
You only love him still because his the only one you are seeing. Let go! Let him go so you can meet the man you deserve and one who can treat you like a woman of his heart.
When it comes to your child, why would you want that for him? For someone to yell at him because he cries! It irritates me that women are so quick to ask if they should go back when the guy is also yelling at the child! You don’t think be could snap one day and hurt that baby? like use your brain!
Is this really a question? hes not changing baby, stay the fuck away, please.
You know the answer my god look at the way he treated you while pregnant and letting his friends down you girl stay the hell away
He will never change. Dont subject you or your son to that kind of abuse. No person deserves that, man or woman.
They do NOT change! He is an abuser! Get the hell away from him and get a lawyer!
It will never change…
RUN!!! And never go back. The dude has a personality disorder. Won’t change
He won’t ever change. coming from a relationship like that personally he never will
RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN, people like that NEVER change and in all honesty it will only get worse if you marry this douchebag. I would seriously cut all physical ties with him, get legal full custody of your child and put his ass on child support and arrange for supervised visits between him and your child.
He only wants to marry you because he wants more control. You are just as bad if you stay. If you leave than be done with it. Your son will disrespect you and his wife on day if thats what he sees his dad doing it and mom taking it.
Don’t. Go. Back! Trust me your child will pay the price. I’ve been there.
Reading half way through this I really dont understand why you’re conflicted. I would run so far away if he could treat you like that while you were pregnant, it will only get worse. Sis do NOT marry that man
What is there to love? You don’t know the difference in love and lust. Dump him.
A man like that hates himself and hides behind passing the buck . Unfortunately you have no choice but to go the opposite direction. Because over time if you don’t he is going to physically abused you and your child.