I agree with everyone else. I would take her Ipad and I wouldn’t give it back until her attitude changes
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Ground and take things away my son hates when I ignore him and tell him go to his room because momma don’t play and I don’t answer to anyone who talks at me and not to me. Honestly though girl take that iPad and make her work for it. We have a fun rule in my house. I got tired of the iPad and ps4 and how acting went when told no or the get it for me. I took them both he’s does chores he’s 5. his chores are feed the dogs which he loves and keeping his room cleaned. He gets 14$ for the dogs every 2 weeks. A $1 a night and a dollar for keeping his room clean everyday it is. (Not cleaning it) When he wants to play the tablet or the ps4 it’s 50 cents. This way as well he also plays less he likes taking his money and buying what he wants with it not spending it on screen time. Then it’s a bonus because you can be cool mom every now and again and let them play free of charge when they haven’t in a while😊 stay strong momma you got this💚
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Obviously you gave in to this type of behavior her whole life. I’ll be damned my kids talk to me like that! Forget the whole remain calm, tell her once, or ignore them game. And before anyone gets butt hurt, NO I don’t beat my kids all the time. They barely get a tap, but that’s cuz they learned early, I will beat your ass if you wanna act like an ass 
My niece acts like that towards my sister and I look at my sister like she’s a different kind of species when she gets up and gives in. If you don’t knock that little girl upside the head with some common sense. She comes to my house and she’s a different kid. It’s all how you approach her. Show her you’re the boss and there’s consequences other wise.
Going thru something similar with my 4.5 year old. I know it’s not the same as a 7 year old, but just wanted to put that out there so you know you’re never alone. It’s difficult. But ultimately, I’m glad you didn’t cave because I have found with my son, caving worsens everything.
well there’s your problem 7year olds don’t need iPad or smart devices with the internet. she’s spoiled. my mom would have said fine you don’t get to have it and would have taken it away.
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Do you always jump to her demands? If you do most of the time, she will continue and expect to be served… she has become an entitled little brat. In order to stop the cycle you will have to grow a pair of balls and say NO. She will hate you for a bit but eventually get over it. Also take the electronics away when she is disrespecting you and explain to her why and demand an apology when she is ready for her behavior to change. You will have to be consistent.
Don’t argue with her. Tell her no and that’s the end of the discussion. If she continues don’t acknowledge it. If you give her a reaction or what she wants you’re reinforcing that the behavior works.
Once you said no and the disrespect began, I would’ve said, “ok. I got it” and would’ve gone in and taken it.
“No” is a complete sentence.
You are letting her be disrespectful and act like she is, so that’s what you’re going to get.
If you allow her to act this way, it will continue.
You teach people how to treat you.
No IPad after that exchange. Sorry, next time her entitlement attitude will be adjusted appropriately if she’s not given the item she demanded.
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Kids need rules. Take things away,and therapy if you can’t get control. Better to do this now while she is young.Good luck
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Why are you letting your 7 year old child argue with you? … you’re the authority and let it show and now … before she get ls out of hand.
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Don’t argue with her. Say, “I gave you my answer,” as many times as you need to. And don’t engage as much as possible. If she’s being nasty to you, don’t do what she’s asking, but when she’s behaving nicely, go above and beyond.
Why was she allowed to have her ipad at that point? I’d go get it alright, to out it up because they’d be grounded from it.
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Structured consistency is key. Limited tech time, phone, TV, iPad, etc. She gets tech time for good behavior, it shouldn’t be a babysitter or something she just has all the time. If her behavior isn’t acceptable she doesn’t get these things. She’s old enough to understand the boundaries you set. You’re the Patent, She’s the Child, Remind her of that.
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When my 3 year old great grandson acts up, I will take the table away,I will explain to him way it was taken away, then when he ask for it back I will ask him why ,he doesn’t have it ,and him being only three ,he understands the consequences of his actions, he will say because I didn’t listen, and I will say correct. He will say I will be good if I can have it back and for me this works ,most of the time.if he don’t listen no tablet, plain and simple.
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Be firm and consistent but also ensure your attitude isn’t challenging either. They rise to the tone they receive
take the iPad away and don’t give it back until she changes her behavior and shows some manners
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No iPad and don’t argue with a child. Your answer “No” stands.
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Take the iPad from her until the behavior changes.
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She would never use the iPad again
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Put some base in your voice
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it’s all about dat base:notes:)
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Discipline. You say no, she can continue to argue all she wants. If it got past the point of back talk (escalating to yelling or verbally abusive behavior), take the iPad and explain respectful and kind children get luxuries.
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Your daughter may be ADHD. My granddaughter is and I have the same issues. I have her in therapy for her anger and I can’t say it is all that helpful.
Say NO and if she keeps it up get the ipad and keep. Tell her she can get it back once she changes her attitude. 
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Do not give in to that entitled behavior! That’s the culprit. Put her in the corner & keep that iPad away!!
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Yea. My daughter would have never ever gotten away with speaking to me like that… I’m old school. I believe in spankings… not only would the iPad been taking away. But she would have got a swat to go along with it.
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Is she autistic? It could be. Maybe not.My cousin had this same problem… They found out she was autistic. Maybe Just maybe. Wouldn’t hurt to get that checked out.
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Take the iPad away, any other entertainment she likes and set a time limit as to how long she goes without her things until her attitude changes. Each outburst/attitude/argument/eye roll adds one more day to no electronics/toys. I have a 5 year old daughter who is getting this way. Shared custody (boat I’m currently in) doesn’t make disciplining any easier 
hang in there mama! You’re doing an excellent job! Hugs 
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Take her iPad away and don’t give into her or give her anything but start grounding her for her behavior
That would have been the end of the iPad for mine. Take her prized possessions away when she acts up and she has to earn them back. Chores behavior etc but if she acts up away the go again and it would take more to earn it back
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First take it away , then when she gets it back put it in charger and request that she politely asks if SHE can get it from the charger, if she argues tell her no not untill she can ask nicely stick to it. Tell her as long as her behavior is good she can have it , at the first sign of her rudeness take it away and give a time frame till she can try again. If she talks rude at other times have her go to her room and she can only get out when She writes a better way to talk to you , such as please or thank you . Dont give in till she understands she must do things differently to get better results. I think at her age writing it out is better then reg time out because time out they just want you to let them out , with writing it out she has control over when she gets out and must think of the reason she is in while writing it out .
I woulda said “fine now you definitely don’t get the iPad at all”
If she treats you that way & still gets it, she will continue to do so.
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That I pad would be taken away for along time.
I experienced this with my daughter at a much younger age. She was around 4 and used it on for shorts amount of time maybe twice a week. Once I saw her becoming demanding while playing on it, she quickly lost her privileges to it. To this day, she doesn’t get electronics and she is 8 years old. She finds other things to do with her time. Work books, crafts, reading, etc. Don’t be afraid to parent her. Take that device and dont look back. You will deal with pushback for a bit, but it’s well worth it! And don’t give it back because she’s acting better. Just find other ways to keep her growing mind busy. You’ve got this, mama!
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The second she spoke to me like that, She wouldn’t have that ipad…period!!! I would sit her down calmly and tell her that was THE LAST time she speaks to you like that! Her room would be empty by the time I was done! I’d also get a chore chart since she is 7, she is more than capable of helping. Then she would have rewards at the end of the week depending on her behaviors and chore completions
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A seven year old doesn’t have an attitude for no reason. What is your attitude like towards her? Are you always saying no to simple stuff like getting her iPad? Does she live in a combative house hold? Like give some context.
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And everyone saying “I wouldn’t accept that!” Or “take her iPad away” are the same people in 20 years who come in here asking “why won’t be children visit Me?” Do better
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Nip it in the butt now! Do not give into her demands I would have told her she wasn’t getting the iPad now that she acted a fool and disrespectful. Start implementing some solid discipline and stick to it and stay consistent no matter how hard she screams etc! Get her into some counseling and have her evaluated by a behavioral specialist. Good luck and I hope everything gets better!
My 8yo son can be like this a lot and daily, but out of my 4 kids he also is usually the sweetest, and has more empathy than the other 3 combined. My son was also diagnosed with ADHD and ODD (Oppositional Defiant Disorder- A disorder in a child marked by defiant and disobedient behavior to authority figures) I’m just now learning about ODD but maybe that’s what’s going on with your daughter? 
iPad needed to be taken away, and she should be spoken to about her behavior and I’d ask her what she thinks her punishment should be when she’s disrespectful…… and if the behavior continues even after she’s punished then start taking things away and make her earn them back by having good behavior!
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Please try this book. Helps a lot, basically teaches you how to communicate so she understands at her age level and helps her learn.
It was a game change for us when my daughter lost her ggf
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Sounds like an undisciplined child
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What you need is a belt and her bare ass. I promise a few times and that’ll do the trick 
my daughter was the same way and it only took a few times and her whole attitude changed. It broke my heart doing it but sometimes you just have to. And a lot of people might say it’s mean but it’s not. You’ve got to put her back in a kids place. Show her who is the adult. But also make sure and show her lots of love.
I am struggling with my 6 year old like that. She lost her dad in a bike accident last year and her step dad walked away from her. We moved houses and schools. I got more stressed and shouty. I’ve put myself in a parenting class now to help me do better with her. But it’s very hard. I think kids are getting cheekier and yes I would have been smacked if I’d have done that as a kid. I’ve got the whole brain child book so I’m going to read that. But I hear you… and don’t feel so bad. I think we all have bad times and parenting isn’t so easy for many of us xxx
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Good firm smack across her legs might do the trick. Dont put up with it
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Punish her. Take it away from her! Until she learns. Show her who the boss in the house is. She is not the boss. Start to discipline her now! It’ll get worse if you let it go. No tv, no iPad, no going out to play, etc. every time she gets sassy- take away a privilege. Make her do chores- oh yes, she will learn quickly! Believe me.
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Lol sounds like my daughter . It’s the stage
Well first of all, that iPad would’ve been taken away so there’d be no worries on who was getting it lol.
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Sit her down and explain the rules and discipline that goes with each infraction. Follow thru. Don’t talk to her just discipline. But first I would take all the special things and put them away before I had the talk with her. God bless y’all
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This can actually be anxiety. Take her in for some counseling, she’s probably just have not a hard time with something she doesn’t know how to talk about.
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Because you as the parent have always allowed such behavior. My 8years old daughter knows better.
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I would have popped her in her mouth. That is clearly disrespectful. I have two strong willed girls. My now 17 year old is in honors classes and helps with cooking and cleaning. I disciplined her when she was younger so I wouldn’t have to discipline her now. I just speak to her and she confides in me. That relationship would not have happened if she had not been taught right from wrong at a young age. It will only get worse.
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Sounds like a power struggle between the two of you. My 5 year old girl tries the same thing, you need to end it as soon as it starts or you’ll be going back and forth for hours. Be stern and clear. Also, if she’s anything like mine, you gotta keep your cool. The more upset you get the more they wanna push your buttons.
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Her iPad should have been taken away immediately for speaking to me that way. And then she’d be grounded. She needs to be punished (grounded) for being disrespectful. If you let her get away with it, the worse it will get
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Really sorry you are going through this. I would suggest, “clearly and calmly- stating. I’m sorry I will not be spoke to this way and walk off.” I would take away things that are luxuries (phones, tablets, tv’s, game systems and even bedroom doors). I would explain that speaking to others this way gets nothing and until she can fully grasps that you will continue to walk away and keep things she enjoys. You are not her slave, maid or personal assistant.
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She woudlnt have the I pad period done with that. Those things are a privilege
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Sounds like the ipad shpuld have been gotten by you and taken away until she learns how to behave.
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Say of course sweetheart. Go immediately to said iPad and remove it!!! Explain when she learns to behave, she can have it back for an hour a day… expect tears and screams, calmly say, oh dear, thats the entire day it’s now unavailable. Continue with this for all her outbursts. You got this Mamma 
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Well stop arguing with her like she’s your peer… say no. If she persists- you DO get her iPad except you put it up and tell her if she talks like that again she won’t have it back for a week, for now it’s a day.
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First thing you do is take away her electronics for speaking that way.
I took the tablet out of my daughters life completely. I bought her a switch and she has 3 games on my phone. When I actually sat down and saw all the games, ads and just junk she was seeing I was mind blown… I explained games are fun but you have to live life. Learn and use your imagination. There is really crappy stuff on the internet almost scary even the so called kids stuff. It was definitely an eye opener for me…
It’s even possible your daughter shouldn’t GET the iPad when she speaks to her parents that way. There needs to be lines and boundaries that if she crosses she gets swift, certain and stern consequences for. Good luck!
Take the I pad n tell her to check her attitude.
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First off sounds like you need to take that ipad away second don’t let her walk on you like that it’ll just get worse spank that butt and she’ll learn
I would have went and grabbed the Ipad and told her that she is not helpless, you are not her maid and until she can learn some damn manners she wont be getting the ipad! Then when she throws a fit you whip her butt and ground her from everything she likes. She thinks she controls you and it sounds like you probably let her.
Take away all of her things she likes after she has gone a week without disrespecting you then she can have 1 item back the next time she disrespects you take it away again
Oops. Time to hulk smash that iPad into the nearest body of water
She’s a person, and has emotions too. How about taking her, just her and you out to a coffee shop. Have a conversation with her. Ask if anything is wrong and how you can help. After asking and validating her feelings, talk about other things such as limits on iPad, etc.
Take to the Dr. explain how she acts might need medication for adhd
My 7.5 yr old is the the same way hello mr attitude, backchats, hates doing everything, just take whatever she loves like iPad I assume and tell her she won’t be getting it back until she starts treating you nicer. 8 going on 18
My 6yo daughter is the same!! Thank you for asking the question, this is helping me also 
You’re enabling her, instead of setting boundaries you’re arguing with her. When she’s bad you’re still letting her have her iPad etc unfortunately her behavior is on you because of you as a parent not putting your foot down and letting her know who the parent actually is. Until you set those in place and don’t stray from them she will get worse. It’s all up to you.
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Rule 1…dont give into her… Rule 2…you do nothing until you get a please or a thank you, rule 3…when she is naughty you do nothing for her until she says sorry and you give her a cuddle and rule 4 you take things off her when she is naughty don’t reward her with bad behaviour it will take a while but she will get the message it’s about respect
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I wouldn’t let her have it at all until she can respect you as her mother. She needs discipline when she acts that way, without it she won’t ever stop.
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I would take that damn iPad away and anything else. No way I’ll be talked to by my child like that without consequences. An if I’m being honest my kid woulda got their ass spanked for talking to me that way period
OMG… Sounds exactly like my 7yo daughter. 
The first time she raised her voice at me, she would have been slapped. No, it isn’t child abuse, it’s called discipline. Learn it, love it, live it!
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If my kids talked to me like that they won’t get to use electronics and they will be grounded.
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Sounds like u need too beat her ass, then after things have calmed down sit her down and explain what type of behavior you expect from her from now on! Tell her I love her and ground her from the iPad! For the rest of the day 
I only say you’re gonna have to beat that ass cuz it has gone unchecked for so long, hopefully one good ass whooping is all it takes to straighten that behavior out,…an not literally “beat” people 
come on now “spare the rod spoil the child” 
I’d start by pulling all electronics from her
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As soon as she copped that attitude with me she would have gotten one warning and then she would have lost her tablet for a day. After she got it back if she did it again she would have one warning and then lost it for two days.
And so on and so forth.
You tell her what the consequences of the behavior will be in the warning and if she doesn’t change the behavior you follow through. The consequence should always be appropriate for the wrong doing and you must ALWAYS follow through. Consistency is the key here.
She will buck it at first but she will learn quickly that you will follow through with the consequences if she doesn’t behave appropriately.
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I’d slap her mouth for talking like that obviously she knows she can get away with everything
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Why are you arguing with her ? Your triggering her to retaliate more and believe me I know your frustrated but honestly if she can’t talk to you civil take the iPad off her tell her what she did wrong and say nothing else
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here’s the real problem… when you allow a child from day dot to talk and do what they want in other words rule the roost because you think its cute 
what you don’t understand is that behavior becomes normal as they get older, so when they start answering back kicking and screaming your like Oh no what should I do? Hello, your the reason shes the way she is But hey do what everyone else does take her to the doctors that way your have an excuse for her behavior Lmao
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Sounds like she wants your attention
Hey Mom…when did you abdicate being a parent? This should have been nipped in the bud four years ago. Step up your game.
I can tell you this she wouldn’t have been allowed that damn iPad for a while. You need to draw boundaries. If they are crossed she loses that iPad.
Most children need one sometimes 2 good ass who opens to straighten up and realize they are not in charge!! (Attack me if you want.) but we all know it’s true.
If she has attitude with you the way you explained then…. Take her iPad from her until she can show you some respect.
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Tell her straight away that her tone is unacceptable.
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She is learning to be either a bully or a control freak.
And that is potentially serious. She will have no friends eventually.
Maybe something like ‘your iPad. You get it’ and walk away calmly.
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Take the IPAD!!! Let her earn the time on it!!!
Talk to your kids like shit and they will parrot it back to you, be nice and set an example. You can be the boss of the house and still be kind and loving.
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Consequences. Disrespect = loss of privileges such as ipads and TV.
I have an almost 7 year old daughter who is fiery and passionate as well. She’s learned the hard way that poor behaviour and disrespect towards anyone results in a loss of privileges.
Yes this means some times my husband and I are inconvenienced by having to get up early on weekends instead of getting that extra hour or two sleep in, but that is what being a parent is about.
We have very clear family expectations and we are consistent with consequences
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I would have prohibited use of said iPad as a consequence for her behavior. Shit, my children aren’t even allowed to use electronics without permission in the first place.
Take her iPad and privileges away immediately when she talks to you like that!
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Looks like mom has not kept up with correcting her
Your the mom, she your child. Who’s in charge? Your writing, not her for help. There your answer.
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And that boys and girls was the moment that mom SHOULD have owned a new iPad.
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I feel for you sweetheart . I’m 63 and I’ve raised 4 of my own and 3 grandchildren .
The kindest thing I can say to you is WELL DONE for seeking help . It isn’t easy raising kids today . Stand your ground set up some boundaries with her and if she crosses them take that iPad . She can scream all she likes you walk away go make a cuppa sit out side if need be but don’t give in . It’s not to late start today .
And well done xoxo
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