Do whatever you think is best for you. If you decide to terminate the pregnancy, I probably wouldn’t tell him. There’s no need too. If you decide to continue the pregnancy then I would tell him. It seems like you already know he won’t be involved but at least you can your part of telling him so he’s aware that he’s going to have a child in the world. Whenever you go to your OB appointment, they’ll talk to you about your options and give you advice/pamphlets, etc. Its a big decision & commitment (as you already know) so think about it, & don’t let anyone pressure you on what to do. It’s your body, your choice, your right. Good luck xx
You make the best decision for YOURSELF and YOUR 6YO CHILD. Period. Don’t have any regrets. You made the choice to leave before knowing you were pregnant. Don’t let the fact that your pregnant change your mind.
I have 2 children. And I made the choice to not have 3. I’m in no way saying that it was an easy experience. But I can also say that in no way can I see myself handling another child. It wouldn’t be fair to the children I already have. You make the best choice for yourself that you can.
I would take the baby in a heartbeat, please consider all options. I don’t know you but you can pm me to talk if you need someone to talk to.
I definitely would not tell him. Abort or adopt. I feel like it would be too much on you otherwise. I definitely wouldn’t do something I didn’t want too
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. I'm pregnant and broken up with the dad, what should I do?
Do what you gotta do girl!!! It’s a personal decision and definitely a hard one but do what’s best for you and your daughter
I, personally, think you should tell him and at least give him a chance to be a father. He may not be “ready” yet but a child definitely matures a person.
Do what’s best for you
Dont tell him. Why confuse things. Do what u need to do
Do what’s best for you and the child you already have here to care for.
Tell him and do what’s best for you. Babies are a blessing!
He has just as much right as the father to this child to make that decision as you do he needs to know that he has a child on the way and you should make a decision together
Screw the father, move to a state where you can get state help, and girl raise your babies on your own and move on!!!
You never he may step up
Your body, your choice! Take your time and figure out what you want to do. You are not together anymore so i don’t think he needs to know unless you keep the baby or put it up for adoption.
It’s your own personal decision. And a hard one but do what is best for you
Nobody can make the decision except for you. You have to do what you truly feel is best.
I am currently pregnant, not expected not wanted, and my husband and I are going through a divorce. I considered every option I have and I personally chose to keep it and take the consequences that may come with it.
If it was me, I’d do what’s best for me and not worry about anyone else.
Since the relationship ended, I personally wouldn’t say a word.
As bad as I hate to say it he does have the right to know. It wouldn’t be right to put the baby up for adoption only to have him show up later and disturb the baby’s life or the adoptive parent’s. He needs to have the opportunity to decide if he wants the baby or agrees to give it up.
He has a right to know
So your pregnant abortion isn’t the answer. So u find a new bf and the same thing happens another abortion just not right. Abortion isn’t the answer.
If he says yes, he wants a kid and then disappears midway, will you resent the kid, even though you chose to let him make the decision?
He definitely has a right to know!
We just found out my husband has a 20 year old and we missed out on everything,he could have been a great father to her but because the mother was selfish he missed out.
Other then that you should honestly do what’s best for you,sounds like you already made up your mind so why ask a complete stranger for advice.
Your body, your choice. Period.
If you plan on getting an abortion, then no don’t tell him… if you choose to keep or put the baby up for adoption then yes tell him… you have to do whats best for you
I would tell him at least and let him know… Sometimes a person can mature and sometimes not… But it wouldn’t be fair if ya didn’t tell him whether he wants it or not
Its not fair to that child to be conceived and not have a chance. I understand it was an accident but gi e this baby to a couple that can’t have children.
Please consider adoption. There are so many who would love to have a child and can’t.
I can’t have children, so i’d love to adopt! Adoption is the best answer!
I wish I could have a baby please don’t aboard the baby because of him
Give it to someone else who will love an care for it. Don’t kill an innocent baby for ur bad choices.
Tell him and do what’s best for YOU. Don’t complicate yourself.
I was in a similar situation, my daughter is now 2. I was single my entire pregnancy and got lucky enough to find a man who wants to be her dad. We started dating when she was a month old, and she calls him daddy. Her sperm donor told me I needed to abort. I couldn’t do that. It’s not something I believe in. I love her so much and she brings joy to me everyday. It was a struggle for sure, but I wouldn’t change it for the world. I also have a some who was 5 when she was born.
That being said, only you can decide what is best for you. Good luck mama
If you don’t want to have this baby this is your choice no one else’s! I definitely would not tell the ex it would only complicate things .
You have options Abortion is probably the best unless you can carry a baby 9 months and give it up for adoption
I think you should do what you feel is best for you and your daughter! Ending a relatively new relationship only 3 months in, where you clearly saw red flags to bring you to that decision.
It sounds like you know what you need to do…
I say don’t tell him and do what you feel is in the best interest for your daughter and yourself in the long run…if you arent ready to bring another baby up…it wouldn’t be fair to any of you involved including a baby 
Don’t listen to people saying abortion isn’t an answer. If it’s not theirs that’s fine. But if that is what you choose to do you are okay to choose that. If you know that you are not able to properly care for both children and you are not mentally ready for pregnancy abortion is okay.
I would tell him and let him make the decision either way you will not be disappointed. Let him decide what he wants to do never make a decision for someone else it might be a blessing at least you will know where he stands .
That’s his child too whenever its said and done
If he has a physique like a Greek god and and has a high iq then cloning his dna through you would be a good idea . He has already shown you he is selfish and fails in the compassion department . Use tour head not your heart for this one
if yall didnt want kids, why have sex unprotected
I agree that it is your body and your choice, but it is not only your child. I feel that you should let him know, and tell him your thoughts on it. Listen to his thoughts, and agree on the decision. He may not have wanted children if it were being planned, but now that their is a baby it could change things. Although the baby is in your body it is 50% his. How would you want it handled if you were in his situation?
Personally if you think of going through abortion I would not tell him. It would be pointless… I’m pro Choice so you have to do what’s best for you.
Your body, your choice
Sounds like neither of you are ready for it. And it’s gonna be stressful for you and the baby and the other child in the long run … idk if u believe in abortion but that’s what I would do. Take the pill and never tell him then u are both aliviated of what sounds like a future headache
Abortion is murder 
Please reconsider
I became pregnant with my son. Found out after the ex and I broke up. I was confused and not financially in situation to take care of another child. However, and this was my decision because I felt it was best for me and my unborn child, I told the father. He never brought up Abortion although he was in a new relationship. His mother was the one who wanted it. As the father, I felt he had every right to know and it opened up communication. Today I have a great son that is loved by two families. I could not imagine ever ending the pregnancy. I had already had one Abortion when I was 17. I needed to take responsibility and I’m glad I did. Do what feels right.
I have two step children, and love them greatly, however I have never been able to have my own biological children. It’s so hard, but I would take your baby in a heartbeat, to ease your pain, and anyone else’s. Its hard being a single parent, and its hard raising a baby without a support system or help of any kind! This baby needs a family, as much as a good family needs it. Its your decision and Noone else’s, but please please consider adoption! 
Your body your choice. At the end of the day you are the only one who can make this decision.
Your choice entirely! You do what you think is right.
If I was in your shoes, I wouldnt tell him and I’d get an abortion, but that’s just me.
Your boby,your choice. Nobody’s business what you do,but make sure you can live with your decision.
(Covering your ears) shhhhhh don’t listen to everyone. What is your gut telling you? If you are questioning if you should then your gut is wanting you to have a conversation with him. If your gut is telling you not to tell him, you will be the strong bad ass mamma you are and do what is best for you and yours. You are stronger than what you are giving yourself credit for! If you need me, I am here for you.
Me personally I would tell u to tell him at least give him a chance to know if you don’t want the baby please I encourage you to look into adoption everyone opinion is different and I never judge anyone because they’re opinions are different but I don’t agree with abortions unless it’s really necessary but abortion is punishing a baby who didn’t ask to be made but god works in wonderful ways so congratulations life is so hard I am a mother to 3 boys and support system limited to a few everyone is different but it’s both of u choice not just ones choice I hope everything works out for you all praying for you 
You don’t need to tell him , especially if he can’t communicate you don’t wanna spend the next 18 years trying to co parent with someone , and it’s your body you know as much as anyone how hard being a single mom is . If you aren’t ready to commit don’t feel ashamed In not going through with it , sending positive vibes your way 
You answering your own questions,reread what you wrot girl.What do you really want,is the answer. Dosent matter what others suggest. Good luck
I personally don’t agree with abortion BUT that doesn’t mean what I believe is what you should believe. It is his child too though so I would say talk with him about it, maybe this will change things and you guys can work it out if you’re both willing to do so. You do what you feel is best for YOU!
Ive learned that when it comes to society, you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t. So I would just figure out how YOU want to handle the situation, not anyone else.
Do whatever it is that YOU can manage and live with. You’re the one that’s going to be dealing with this long term depending on what you decide. Don’t let a bunch of strangers talk you into caring for a child you cannot afford or do not want. None of them are going to be helping you care for that child. Do what makes you happy whatever that may be.
And if you know he’s not going to be helpful and just stress you further, it’s best he not know if your choosing an abortion.
Your body your choice.
I know what you’re going through is so hard. You need to make the decision that’s best for you. Only you know what is best for you.
Abortion is your decision alone but adoption you have to get the father involved.
This is your body, this is your life. Ultimately if you choose to keep this child - most will fall on your shoulders. As you know by already having one.
Do what YOU think is best.
Regardless of how any of us here in comments feel. Or how the father feels.
You have my support no matter what
Don’t tell him anything. Make the decision you feel is best for you. You’re the one that has to live your life. If he’s not ready and you’re not ready then make the choice for yourself
Do what you feel best abort or adoption and if u do abort no reason to tell him. I feel itd be a messy situation
If you have an abortion you have no reason to tell him whatsoever it’s done it’s over but if you decide to keep the child you have a responsibility to tell him he has a child.
There’s a lot of ppl who wants kids and can’t I would consider putting it up for adoption
Ill adopt it.problem solved.
I’m sorry… No disrespect towards the mom… But I don’t understand how yall are in a 3 month relationship and have sex! Do you like even know that person you share such an intimate thing with??? 3 months??? Damn man… Something is so wrong with today’s society. Sleeping with each and every person you date like it’s no big deal. People scare me to be honest!
I would tell him either way, only because it is his baby still. Yes, you’re body your choice and I am pro choice, but it also takes two to tango.
You don’t need to tell him, and you don’t need a reason to end the pregnancy either. It’s your body, your life, and your choice. You do what’s right for you.
If u are going to have an abortion then I believe it would be a waste of time to tell him. He might also accuse u of getting pregnant to entrap him. I would ask u to think long and hard on abortion though. There are so many of us here who can’t have children. Some have illnesses that caused them to become infertile. I’m a cancer survivor. I was devastated to know I couldn’t have children after. But I accepted it. There are some who are just born infertile. But like me would love to have the opportunity to have a baby and raise them to their full potential. So please think about adoption.
You need to do what’s best for you and not worry about him
Crack on and give ur kids the best life. Your children are blessings 
You don’t need a man…
Whatever u decide is up to u dont let anyone else tell u otherwise, your body no1 else’s… sometimes timing isn’t on ur side. Do what u feel best x
So she’s not asking weather or not to give up the child she’s asking weather or not to tell the father before doing so. It’s funny on how everyone is focusing on the word abortion instead of answering the question.
U don’t need to tell him anything ur relationship has ended u already know he’s not ready it’s not going to change anything so u dont see y u need to tell him these no point really. If if down the line y think u will regret not telling him them u should tell him. You know what’s best u know whats going through ur head u know what kinda of man he is and what kind of relationship u had know one else does. 
Honestly. This is a hard decision, but you have several choices, and I’m sure will make the right one for you… As for telling him or not, I feel like you should. Not because you’re expecting anything from him, but so you can clear that part of the air for yourself. It may make the decision easier for you. Best wishes.
You’ll be the one stuck with the child no matter what. Do what you want to do and keep it to yourself. Ppl will guilt trip Yu into keeping an unwanted pregnancy and be completely fucking ghost when the baby is born. Do not bring a child into this world just to have it struggle along with Yu. Don’t. There is no shame in choosing yourself and your daughter. Don’t tell him. Choose you!! Choose your daughter!!! A baby will do no good at all for you! It will delay all your success and make it that much harder to give your daughter a better life. Yu will be making three people suffer. Don’t be scared. Choose Yu and your daughter. Btw I would love if Yu messaged me and allowed me to share my story with yu… my reasoning and experience… Yu don’t realize how much it sets Yu back until it’s too late . When you have a team of support it’s different. When your alone, you end up ruining those kids life before they even start.
There are so many women out there who can’t conceive and would love to have your baby. No pressure. Just letting you know there’s no shortage of women who would love your child as their own.
I get where everyone saying please don’t abort is coming from, I myself don’t look lightly on abortion BUT unless it’s you in the situation no one else has any room to talk. Unless your the woman going through it, carrying the baby, ready to face such a hardship alone (which can be soul crushing, I’m going through just that right now and as excited as I am to meet my little prince I’m also scared and find myself heartbroken with the situation ) then please just give her the advise she is seeking.
As much as he should be informed, if you’ve 100% already made up your mind to not go through with it I wouldn’t tell him tbh. It will only complicate an already complicated situation and will only add to the hurt. Just make sure that whatever you do, it’s a decision you can live with💕 Do what you feel is best for you and the little one your already caring for. I hope it works out for you hun
If you Carry it its inside ur body not his body. he is just a sperm donor
Do what’s u (not him) is best.
Always tell him. In the end though, keeping the baby is up to you.
Lol “ all the people saying I’ll adopt the baby” be the same ones outside of abortion clinics but still have yet to adopt ALL the millions of kids already in foster care! What a fantasy to live in!
Tell him but make the decision that is best for you not him. This effects you more then him
Please think of adoption
Since when did a fingernail page become Ask the Forum about every effing life problem??? I mean really! WTF!!!
If ur not ready to go through with the pregnancy then dont its ur choice dont let anyone try to guilt u into something thts not right for u. Him being ready or not is irrelevant the only thing tht matters is if ur ready and all u dumbasses saying adoption or ill adopted them stfu. Adoption is a solution for parenthood not pregnancy and birth and its a shitty solution at tht she said she didnt wanna go through with the pregnancy and noone owes u a child
Girl…I was literally in the same situation as you 4 yrs ago and she is the best thing to have ever happened to me and my kids. The father came around a yr ago and is an amazing daddy now. You never know how things will end up but I feel ike everything happens for a reason hope this helps
The current political climate is so hostile towards women, don’t give him any ammunition against you. This is between you and your healthcare provider and he doesn’t have to be privy to your decision.
I don’t want to fight with anyone…but i’m sure it will happen. Because everyone has a different opinion and I understand that
…but if you have good genes, like strong…and you don’t want the baby…because you are in hard times…maybe you could find someone…who would pay you for your baby…i mean…its technically the same as adoption…only you delete the middle man and you get the money…and they could help pay for things while you are pregnant…and then your baby can still have a life…
If you were on the fence on whether you should keep it I would have said to talk to him to help you decide, but since you already know you aren’t keeping it I wouldn’t complicate things by telling him.
U don’t need to tell him , if u dont want the baby and u have made ur mind up all that’s gonna do is start a fight if he doesn’t see it the way u do and if its what u are gonna do then no need for conversation
Put the baby up for adoption there are a lot of people out there that want kids and can’t have them
I feel like if it were me. The father does deserve to know . Bc its two people that create a baby not one
I wouldn’t even involve him. Just keep it to yourself and do what it best for you and your daughters life. I completely understand the place you are. Ive been here myself.
You need to tell him
Don’t tell him ,abort and MoveOn.
First off even tho ur on pills or shots getting pregnant shouldn’t be a surprise if it is u don’t need another baby…they are not fool proof If u don’t wanna do again give the baby up for adoption … u don’t wanna tell the dad that’s makes u a horrible person …u have to atleast give him a chance to be there…
He has the right to know. Just like everyone is saying you have a choice to keep, adopt or abort the baby. Just think twice about the consequences next time you have sex so u dont have to murder another baby if you choose abortion.
Many deserving couples would love to have this baby! Think adoption
Just have the baby and move on. Otherwise he will make it hell