Personally I would feel guilty therefor my guts telling me inappropriate. So I wouldn’t do it and to answer you Becky I wouldn’t feel comfortable if other way around.
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Lol a hard no for me
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Kinda selfish of him to leave you alone with the toddler and go off and enjoy himself. You should be in that hot tub he could have looked after the toddler, or do it together. I guess would he have liked it if you would be in the hot tub alone drinking with another man late while he’s with the toddler. I think not. So do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Just my opinion. Don’t put yourself into situations. Happens fast.
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I don’t see the issue at all and wouldn’t have a problem with it. He’s allowed friends and to talk to anyone he wants, I trust him completely so wouldn’t bat an eyelid.
The point is you don’t feel it’s appropriate and seem upset about being left with the toddler, which is understandable.
Talk with your husband and let him know it’s bothered you and go from there. He may be unaware you have any issue with it. No one can make you feel better about it but him and communication is key.
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I dont see a problem with it, they didnt do anything xx
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I don’t have a husband but I wouldn’t have gave him a chance 1st start I would have divided right on him let him know I play no games.He sure would have known I been there
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If they went out of their way to be alone I’d say not appropriate but they got in with multiple people, the others just left. If you trust him why would this even be an issue? I wouldn’t care personally. Has he been untrustworthy before? Has she given you a reason to think she’s after your man?
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You could have joined him in the hot tub after his parents went inside or after the toddler went to sleep but leave the door open some to hear the child if you didn’t have a baby monitor with you
If you feel you can’t trust your spouse to take his wedding vows seriously, you probably shouldn’t be married in the first place. There is nothing wrong with spouses having friends that are of the opposite sex, but there should always be that expectation of trust and fidelity.
Yes. It’s inappropriate.
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Yeah I don’t see a problem with it but I also have trust that nothing is going to happen.
There’s some missing context here… Were they out there together for an hour + by themselves? How was their body language? What was their topic of conversation? Over an hour is inappropriate. And if it was hours, he didn’t check on his wife and child, even once, that are staying in a cabin? Or ask if you’d like a break? I’d definitely want to know what the engaging conversation was all about.
Always remember, what’s good for him, should be good for you as well. Should of hung with her BF or husband, but it appears you’re free to do so from here on out in hot tubs. Discuss your boundaries and come to an agreement with your husband.
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Divorce that disrespectful 
how could you just sit inside and pout about it the minute everybody else got out is the minute I would’ve went outside and told my husband to get out and then would have questioned his loyalty ever since my husband would’ve got out the minute that I had to get out or couldn’t join them That’s called respect
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Eh I would be a bit uncomfortable just because I don’t know the other woman, but if it’s your man you’re worried about then y’all need to build trust.
But yeah I feel like it’s kinda inappropriate
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You don’t trust your hubands
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I would have put my kid to sleep and joined them !!
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It seems that it just happened, not like the planned it that way. I trust my husband so I wouldn’t be worried about it.
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Nothing wrong with it personally. It’s trust. We take it in turns to stay with the kids
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I wouldn’t have liked it
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Yea that would definitely bother me.
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I would be more irritated he didn’t check on me or his child than him in a hot tub drinking.
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he should have got out .for repeast of his wife
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He’s married to you with a toddler. She’s in a relationship. Did her boyfriend think it was a big deal? If they were just talking then yes, you’re making this a way bigger deal then it needs to be lol.
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I think its inappropriate because of the respect factor. Being a wife and mother is hard and your dealing with new emotions. he should know you enough to know if it would hurt you and respect that. I would talk to him and set boundaries yall are both comfortable with
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Yes he should have got out when everyone else did!
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It wouldn’t bother me at all. Unless they were snuggling up in there or something lol.
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I personally don’t like it, I always tell my husband to put me in his shoes and that stops him from doing stuff. What if it was you and a man all night drinking in a hot tube how would he feel.
All of you saying “just trust issues”…um
No, you can trust your partner and have boundaries still in place! Most of you are just nieve and talking nonsense!
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I wouldn’t have liked that
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Trust is IMPORTANT but so is RESPECT. You safeguard your relationship. Women nowadays will have you feeling insecure for being upset by that when in reality temptation is real and we DON’T put ourselves into positions to even have to question or doubt anything. People try really hard to put self doubt like it makes you untrusting and you need to work on your self. Nope, honey your husband should have 100% brought his ass inside that cabin when everyone else left. But that’s just my opinion and we all have different opinions the only thing that counts here is how it makes you feel! You do whatever you think is right but to be honest that was disrespectful asf!
Surely you didn’t have to stay inside with the toddler all night. Probably could have put child to bed and joined the adults. Sounds like because you had to tend to child you are upset that you were not 
included. I would have felt alone until baby went to bed.
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Very and I would be extremely upset. I have to stay in with kid and he gets to have all the fun? Nope!
I’d be pissed… but that’s not to say there’s necessarily anything wrong with it.
Was your child up until after midnight? Why didn’t you put the kid to bed and then go join them?
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Seems like a lot of insecurity.
He’s married to you with a child. Shes in a relationship. They just talked. If you were sad that he dodnt check on you guys yea I could see being a bit sad but as far as it being ‘inappropriate’ to have a conversation with another human, no.
If it was the other way around would he have been okay with it in my opinion I know mine wouldn’t but then again I left his cheating ass so it all depends on trust but I know I would have been upset for sure
I’d have put the baby to bed and come back out 
sometimes you’re not ready for bed like everyone else and it’s nice to not sit up alone. As long as conversation stayed appropriate and hands stayed to themselves, I don’t see the issue
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If the woman wanted to stay in then he should have let you get in and he watch the toddler. I would definitely be mad cause it is not appropriate. Do you even know this woman?
Well I don’t think they would only be talking coz they could have come out and talked for a while but they should have come out when rest of the gang came out of that hot tub
I don’t buy this story
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Personally I wouldn’t care if they were drinking and talking but get outta the damn hot tub and continue chatting and drinking! It’s not about trust it’s about respect period!
I would be mad too 
For myself, I’d be mad. He should have got out. Makes him look bad and u need to open ur eyes. Matter of fact Y didn’t he split the time with u
He could have went and kept the child while u relaxed for awhile.
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Instead of being mad and posting it on Facebook… you should of acted in the moment and went out there and told your husband to get the f#%* out of the hot tub and help me with the kids. 
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Yes inappropriate. Everyone commenting about her parenting when that’s what was asked. Lmao. Your husband should have gotten his ass out. Your not being “ insecure” You’re being territorial there’s a difference.
If was the opposite way: and the wife staying with another male. Would it bother?
If you are all in a trip together is expect that sometimes you won’t be all together.
Also instead of complaining on Facebook she could
A- get back in the hot tub
B- set expectations before going
C- talk to him about you no being comfortable with that
I trust my partner 100% but being in til after midnight would have bothered me. It would have been ok if he was in a little longer but definitely not after midnight not because of trust just out of respect and being with me and the kids
Personally I’d be pissed that my husband thought it was cool to chill in a hot tub until after midnight while I wrangle our child alone. Like I’m putting myself in that situation and that’s why I’d be mad. I would’ve probably marched out there and been like okay my turn… Lol.
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I think it is really based off of your relationship. Some relationships don’t have those boundaries, some do.
My relationship: my boyfriend would have never been in the hot tub without me. If I stay inside with children, he would stay inside with me until it was children’s bedtime, then we would have gone to the hot tub together.
Maybe you should talk to your husband about the respect you need from him in your marriage.
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No, if they were just talking who cares
The next time that this happens, put the kid to bed and then join them in the hot tub. Make a point of sitting very close to your husband so that the point gets across that he’s yours.
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Your husband should know boundaries when everyone else got out he should have also out of respect for you and he should have checked on you and the baby and given you some time to spend in the hot tub to relax I am sure you could use a break…that would be a red flag for me 
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Get out of the damn hot tub 
Next time sit in the hot tub with the other guy and make ur husband take care of the kids. If he gets mad then he’s a hypocrite
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Definitely inappropriate
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Isn’t she his step mum?!
I mean would it be different if they were around the campfire? It just so happened they were in a hot tub… you all went on a trip together 
. I think my husband would know that I wouldn’t like that and would have gotten out but…
I would be more mad that I got stuck in the house with the kids and didn’t get to enjoy any hot tub time.
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It will vary from relationship to relationship. For me I personally wouldn’t be okay with that though
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Nah how do you know why the hell was he in a bath with another woman alone. Nah he cheated
I’d hope he’s not given you a reason to be concerned, because ordinarily there shouldn’t be any problem with his situation.
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very inappropriate and he should have been with you and your child not drinking half naked with another woman
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It’s all about trust. I trust my husband. He can sit in a hot tub, go to a bar, etc. I would never tell him to not be around the opposite sex.
I’d only be pissed that he didn’t tag me in and take his turn with the kid.
Why? People are allowed to talk…
Inappropriate! When everyone else got out he should have to.
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Anything that even suggests being inappropriate with married people should not be done.
I think it’s inappropriate that he was okay with sitting around drinking while you took care of the baby by yourself.
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Stetson Smith here’s the page 
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I don’t know why she didn’t get to enjoy the hot tub-he could have had his chance and then gotten out to stay with the kid and given her a chance in the tub.
Moms always lose out. 
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Just drown him and get it over with. He’s got cheatin on his mind and God knows what’s on hers.
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I would’ve went out there and got his ass out. Tf
Why do you have to care for the child while he gets off free? Bye.
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Honestly, depends on the marriage and relationship. I trust my husband. He is very social. And on many occasions, I end up going to bed before him and he hangs out with friends, or even friend’s wives. I have full trust in him. How much do you trust him is the question. I’ve never had any reason to doubt my husband is just being a friend.
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I am wondering what he said to you about being out there so long when he did get out and come inside.
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If you trust him then you shouldn’t have any concerns unless he has given you a reason to feel this type of way then maybe its a problem . All women are different in my own opinion if it was my husband i wouldn’t see anything wrong because of the trust we do have with another. I feel if you cant trust the man your sharing your life with gotta question yourself also. Honesty, Trust and Communication is key. I hope everything when it works out for you and your family.
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Hold up so here’s the thing. All of you woman on here saying bye and hes got cheating on hes mind dont fucken get it… sometimes people talk to people and if there on vacation that shits a way different story ??? So in your prospective if a man even talks to a woman hes cheating you’ll are the reason man can’t fucken stand females and the good ones choose to be single … the only part I agree on is they should of took turns also. Another deal is if the woman was talking to a man the whole night not a God damn word that was bad would be said… this is why the world’s fucked up with relationships … this bullshit right now
I would’ve gone out there and drug his butt back in the house. If he didn’t get out when everyone else did I would’ve made him. Its inappropriate and disrespectful at the same time.
Honestly the part that is inappropriate to me is that he was cool with just sitting around drinking while you took care of your child by yourself.
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I don’t think it’s a big deal. However if you wanted to rejoin he should have taken turns watching toddler.
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No him socializing and talking to a guest in a hot tub wasn’t inappropriate but staying there for a long time without giving you a break and getting to socialize and relax was uncaring and insensitive.
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I think he should have dismissed him self as he’d expect you to do the same!
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No lol in this instance I doubt he was messing around.
No. People (married or single) are allowed to associate with other people (married or single).
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If a man is honorable and is a fateful individual and you trust him . Then it’s fine, but it sounds like you do not trust him in this situation. It is then up to you to put a stop to it and let him know just how you feel.
Don’t ask these people out here , your dam mind will start wondering in all directions and you will fuck up your relationship with him.
Now if he gives you some lame excuse to stay .
That’s another story .
Sometimes my hubbs is tooo drunk to get out gracefully and will wait everyone else out
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No. I always go to bed before my husband. He can hang out and socialize I trust him not to do something that will cause us any hard feelings
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I wouldn’t mind my husband doing it, i love him but more than that i trust him… i know how it is, being the one left out because you have to take care of the kids. My ex was like that, you should have rejoin after the kids went to sleep. Or asked him to switch for a while… but i do not think it was inappropriate, but he should have given you a break though.
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Totally ok and if you have to worry it’s not worth it
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I think it depends on the relationship and your trust with one another but if also depends on the situation. In this scenario, No, this is not appropriate. Where was this women’s husband? Lol… I know most men would not be okay with their wife hanging out and drinking in a hot tub alone with another man half the night either, This seems like something is off here though.
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He shud have helped with the toddler why is it always the mom to take care of the child she shud have gotten some down time too !
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It’s inappropriate for sure. He should have left with you. That would be the correct etiquette to this situation. I would have a little talk with him.
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Those are boundaries you need to set with your partner. I personally wouldn’t care, because I know my mate. I have a friend who knows her man is flirty, so she would say hell no.
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I mean… No I don’t find it wrong or inappropriate…but I trust my husband.
Plus her husband or other half was there… And he wasn’t worried either… Like he got out and left her there.
I have male friends that I talk to and that I hang out with… With or without my husband.
I mean your toddler went to bed at some point you should have gone to join and I’m sure you would have seen it was just people hanging out and talking and you could have joined in on the conversation
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If nothing happened between them then nothing inappropriate about it. Would you be upset if it was another man?
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In this circumstance no, but I’d still be pissed inside lol
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Turn the temp up in the hot tub and boil them alive
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No. If there’s never been a reason to not trust him, it’s just 2 people chilling in the hot tub
A little off topic but I think it’s inappropriate that the mother always has to “stay in” and watch the kids while the father gets to enjoy adult time.
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Absolutely! Totally inappropriate
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No they were all drinking and talking what I would not like is if I had to stay in the cabin with the toddler. That’s the only thing I wouldn’t like
You know he probably peed a few times in the hot brew of human skin and toe lint. If they were drinking and he doesn’t have a history of impropriety then they were probably just getting their drink on. There are those few rare times when a man and woman can chill.
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