Do you consider it cheating for your husband to comment on other girls instagram posts that they are beautiful or he is AMAZED by how they look? he refuses to even comment on my stuff…but he is all over everyone elses…am i over reacting by thinking this is a form of cheating? i am about to explode on him because i am tired of not feeling good enough
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Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Is it cheating for your husband to compliment other girls on social media?
Cheating no highly disrespectful and a red flag yes!
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I don’t think it’s a form of cheating but if it bothers you then definitely bring it up to him
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No!! He is just a PIG
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I’m of the mind that if you classify it as cheating and he continues to do it despite your feelings, then yes it’s 100% disrespectful and gross!
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Only you know your boundaries…if your uncomfortable with it then it’s not okay…talk to him , tell him how you feel…every relationship has different boundaries of what’s okay and what’s not…if he isn’t putting in that same effort in complimenting you then that is a problem.
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My husband did that one time and I talked to him about it and told him if u don’t stop I will leave I don’t talorate that kinda of stuff because it’s disrespectful to me
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It’s just plain RUDE!!
Imo no not cheating, but a step towards it. Disrespectful as hell and it would go or I would.
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It’s a disrespect to your marriage. Unacceptable
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No it’s not cheating but it his very disgusting and disrespectful
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Cheating is relative to the terms set within each individual relationship.
But it does seem disrespectful AF that he can comment on others and not your after you’ve expressed youd like him to do so
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I don’t consider it cheating but it’s absolutely disrespectful and I’d be pissed
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You start doing it and see how he changes his mind
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It’s not a matter of what WE think its what YOU think. If this is something you aren’t ok with then you need to make sure a boundary has been set. Once set and crossed then yes absolutely. It’s about respecting each other and whatever dynamic you have. Everyone will have a difference in opinions on this (as they should). Again it’s a matter of having a conversation and setting boundaries that work for all parties and sticking to them.
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I suppose in this day and age it’s considered “micro cheating” but it’s dependant on the boundaries you have in place in your relationship. Either way it’s highly disrespectful and definitely flirting so I would consider it a form of cheating.
Express how it hurts your feelings, if he cares for you he won’t do stuff to hurt you or jeopardise the relationship.
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He sounds disgusting. You can do better I promise.
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I’d consider this cheating. Straying away and giving your attention to someone other than your partner (who deserves that attention and not some random girl) is cheating. Why does he need to tell women they look amazing or beautiful? Just shows he’s looking around and trying to get their attention. I’d say it’s definitely cheating.
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Not cheating at alll. Are the comments tasteful??? Nothing wrong with saying someone else looks good.
I say my guy friends look handsome so beautiful is the same in my book. And amazing is for everyone. Especially if they had a body transformation
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It’s disrespectful and rude!
I would talk to him about it because it could lead to more than calling them beautiful or liking their picture. My husband did that and after awhile he got into cheating sites and cheating apps and it’s lasted almost 6 years finally I told him a month ago that if he don’t stop I’m leaving
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Definitely cheating! I wouldnt be happy if my husband did that either
Totally f’d up!! If he can’t respect you, leave him!
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some women do.
i find it can be disrespectful depending on what is said & how.
No its not cheating but it is very disrespectful. He isn’t the one hun. Run away. You need someone who only looks at you and speaks like that to you and you alone
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My partner did this. I told him it absolutely was not okay with me and it was disrespectful. He hasn’t done it since. It’s okay to have boundaries
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Nope but it’s definitely not a cool thing to do. Regardless of what your husband is going to find other people attractive just like you will find other attractive. Why does it make it cheating?? Seems silly to me
Do I think him commenting is considered cheating? No, but it’s not something he really should be doing and might be signaling that he is actually cheating.
I wouldn’t say it’s cheating but it’s definitely disrespectful.
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Not cheating but absolutely disrespectful.
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It’s definitely very disrespectful and will most likely lead to cheating as soon as he compliments the right one
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It’s not cheating but it sure would make me feel some type of way… especially if I didn’t receive any compliments like that. I would’ve already opened my big mouth and got to the bottom of it. We know we all look in some way but to openly say something, that’s just disrespectful.
Girl, run. It’s not cheering but it’s disrespectful
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Sophia Poulos im not even gonna comment lol
Disrespectful to the core!!! The person who gets the most comments is my partner …. If you don’t appreciate the person your with then it’s time for her to walk
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Disrespectful, not cheating. But disrespectful behaviour is as much of a red flag as cheating anyway. Sit him down and talk to him. If he takes your feelings on board and stops the behaviour, great! If he doesn’t, there are bigger problems.
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Not cheating but disrespectful AF, I had this issue but with likes no comments and I told him your going to like females pics but not any of your own woman is a problem and if you think that’s okay it’s a problem, put yourself in my shoes if it were the other way around. It’s disrespectful just like gawking at another woman when I’m present. It’s human nature to look but be respectful.
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Hes the insecure one… and hes disrespectful as fuck… start commenting all over dudes stuff and see how much he enjoys it.
Not cheating but extremely
Extremely disrespectful
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It is not CHEATING. If your uncomfortable with the issue address it. Dont let the green eyed monster get the best of you.
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It’s not cheating, it’s flat out disrespectful…he has no respect for you, or himself.
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I wouldn’t consider it cheating really but it is something to bring up with him. Does he ever say these things to you? If it’s something that makes you feel uncomfortable and you are questioning his feelings towards you, definitely bring it up! Ask him why does he do it? Is he hoping for a reply from them? What does he get out of doing it? He needs to show you some more respect.
Its not cheating, but it is definitely disrespectful to you and your marriage. Talk to him about it and tell him to stop. If he doesn’t, its time to move on because he will not stop, and it will break you. It will break your soul, your self confidence, your self respect, and being broken like that will be harder to get over then a broken marriage.
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Cheating: no
Disrespectful: absolutely
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Sorry, but some men never FEEL the need to change, even if it is discussed!
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I wouldn’t consider it cheating, but it is disrespectful. He can acknowledge a woman is pretty without comments that are disrespectful. If he isn’t commenting on your pictures and only commenting on theirs it is extremely disrespectful.
Start sharing photos of really hot guys talking about how sexy they are and complimenting anything about them…
(No don’t actually do this, it’s petty A F and while it would help me make a point with my exes 9/10, no one should ever need to do this.)
I honestly think you need to confront him and ask straight out why his complimenting those women is more important than how his life partner feels and don’t let that question go until you get an honest answer out of him.
JMO
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Not cheating.
Have you mentioned this to him? Like does he know how you feel? If yes, then it’s straight disrespect
Cheating… No. But if you have talked to him about it and he keeps doing it it is extremely disrespectful and rude
It isn’t cheating but it can eventually lead to cheating. It is extremely disrespectful of him.
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If you don’t like it, you don’t like it!
I wouldn’t even waist my time or energy bringing it up. Ghost his ass.
Ask him why he isn’t putting the effort into you and boosting your self esteem but he is with the other women. Sorry but I wouldn’t allow it. He’d have to get rid of social media.
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Not necessarily cheating (yet) but completely disgusting and disrespectful. This shows his interest beyond your marriage. If he’s capable of doing this for the world to see, it’s untelling what he’s doing privately. Know your worth! There’s noway around it, it’s wrong. To each their own, but I’d be alone before I tolerated that
No that’s disrespectful. Makes others think that he may be available. My boyfriend and I have an agreement that unless it’s a group setting, family, and/or kids that we dont not like pictures of the opposite sex. He’s going beyond even that with his comments.
That is straight up disrespect he should honor you above all women you’re his wife I would kick that guy to the curb
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Not cheating but it’s VERY inappropriate and disrespectful to you.
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That is really disrespectfull towards you and your relationship especially if you don’t like that. How he responds tells you a lot about how much respect he has for you. If you tell him u don’t like it and he continues it’s time to leave.
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He is giving attention that should be only given to you to others. On top of that, you are getting none of that attention. Yes, it is considered cheating to some… Myself included. Even if someone doesn’t consider that cheating, it is still very disrespectful to you.
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It’s not cheating… It’s very disrespectful and I wouldn’t like it at ALL! Tell him how you feel and if he respects you, he will stop… My boyfriend doesn’t have Instagram, he has 0 interest having it…
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Personally, I don’t believe that it is a form of cheating but I do think that it’s incredibly disrespectful and gross. Even if my husband was commenting on my stuff telling me how beautiful I look, I STILL wouldn’t be okay with him speaking to any other female like that. There are just things you don’t do in a relationship and that’s one of them, in my opinion.
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Girl i know the feeling and been with my boyfriend 12 yrs and i am 61 and he is 60 and nothing has changed and i am trying to make enough money to rent me a place . I do work but hope i can afford to be on my own
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Cheating? No.
Rude and disrespectful to his woman? ABSOLUTELY!!
Should it be tolerated and continue? NO!!! NOT AT ALL!!!
He should be ashamed.
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Not cheating, but that sick stomach drop you feel when you see it sure DOES feel like it’s cheating. “Loving” other girls pics as well makes me feel disrespected.
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Cheating,no. Disrespectful to his wife and inappropriate when married. Would he like it if it were reversed??
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Smh how can he feel that’s ok?
If he’s commenting that kinda stuff wth is he messaging them 
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To me no, I tell people they are pretty all the time and so does my wife! Man or woman, especially a friend!
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Not cheating but it is distasteful, disrespectful and rude. He needs manners on how to be a gentleman.
It doesn’t matter what other people think about it because bits only you two in the relationship. If you’re not ok then you can have that discussion with your spouse. Everyone has different things that bother them and if this is yours then you guys set the rules in your relationship. Men are dumb and they really think that comments like that are something impressive-so I wouldn’t care and as long as you don’t have other issues you should be able to get this resolved.
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No that isn’t cheating but it is disrespectful and inconsiderate.
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I don’t know how this feels but I know damn well that under any circumstances whether you feel one hundred percent secure or not, that it’s not ok.
I feel its vary disrespectful and I feel its flirting in a unacceptable way .
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Not cheating but disrespectful af! I wouldn’t put up with it and makes ya kinda wonder just how far he’d really go if given the opportunity 
good luck to you!
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Disrespectful =yes
Cheating =no
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It’s not cheating but you should definitely be upset! Why doesn’t he do that for you?
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The real disaster is these women likely consider it stalking or at the very least creepy for a married man (happily or not) to be interacting on their pic’s, you should post an apology for his behavior everytime he does this till he gets how creepy he’s being
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I’ve come to the determination there’s no concrete definition of “cheating” everyone has their own opinion on what constitutes cheating. For instance, I feel like cheating is intercourse or physical contact whereas my s.o. considers even just talking to a person you’ve been intimate with in the past as cheating.
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Not cheating, but disrespectful. If he can’t be bothered to show public affection for his wife, he sure all he’ll shouldn’t be commenting on other women’s posts about how great they look…
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I wouldn’t consider it cheating. I would feel it could turn into cheating. What if he comments on someone’s and she messages him back. Is he going to continue or stop? I would tell him how you feel and see how he responds
These are the types who are on hook up sites on the low. They got issues.
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You must be very very insecure to consider a compliment as cheating.
The problem is that you are jealous because he doesn’t compliment you or give you any social media attention, if you need him to comment on your pictures to feel any kind of validation I feel very sorry for you because men dose not work that way .
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Your boundaries are your own. I would not tolerate that at all.
Have you told him how you feel before?
Or do you expect him just to read your mind and if he doesn’t, you then get mad?
Cuz is it cheating…for me, no. My man can compliment females online and does. Doesn’t on my pics…but does all the time in person…always trying to get a kiss, a grab of the ass, peek at the boobs etc.
Him thinking another girl is pretty, is no concern of mine. I usually agree!lol
But that’s within MY relationships boundaries that we’ve discussed.
Now if I didn’t like it, communicated that, and he still did it…then we’d have issues .
But I never said anything…I wouldn’t be mad. I’d be sitting him down and explaining how I feel, asking him to plz not do that. Then go from there.
If you’ve brought it up before and he’s still doing it…then go a head and blow. It’s valid then.lol
Not cheating but definitely something he should not be doing. Especially if it makes you uncomfortable.
Nope. Not cheating. But if you feel disrespected… talk about it.
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It’s rude cheating no
Cheating no but I know if my man was doing it I would flip. It’s disrespectful
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It doesn’t matter what we think the only thing that matters is what you think and what your boundaries are.
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I suppose in a Biblical context he could be considered to be cheating. Jesus said that if a man looked at a woman with lust in his heart, he might as well have slept with her. It’s the same thing. In a divorce court where they still use “grounds for divorce”, there has to be actual sexual contact for it to be considered cheating. Whatever the definition, married couples promised to keep themselves only for each other. I suppose that also means first loyalties should also be with the spouse, so making comments about the pleasant appearance of other females, especially if it makes the wife uncomfortable, aren’t called for in a public setting. If he’s got such thoughts, they are best kept to himself.
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I’d consider it cheating.
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Depends what you consider cheating. It is DEFINITELY disrespectful and I would definitely speak up on it and I’d keep an eye on him because if he’s saying that in public but not commenting on you what is he saying in their dms?..js
Next!!! I would be making it a goal to move on.No respect, sounds like he would cheat in a heartbeat, giving the chance.
NO THIS ISNT WHAT YOU CALL CHEATING
If he was on dating apps then yes i would consider it emotional cheating which leads to cheating
But messaging on instagram on how amazing they look when you are married is not cool
but as long as they arent messaging back because thats where trouble starts
But you shouldnt make a big deal of him not liking anything you post he doesnt have too
If you are insecure about how you look go work out at a gym
But has he ever complimented you if so when did he stop
Do you have problems in your marriage and thats why he is looking
Just sit down and be calm about it when you say to him you realky find these women gorgeous and amazing
Guess you don’t find me appealing enough it for you anymore
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Its not cheating but it is a betrayal. It’s actually pretty sickening… he can’t make you feel amazing but he can tell these girls that probably have no interest, that he’s amazed by them? Nah . I’d dip out.
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Not cheating but incredibly disrespectful and hurtful
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Not cheating in my mind. He should complement you but boosting others in my opinion isn’t cheating. I’ve been married 21 years and mine tells the women on his page how beautiful they look all the time. I think nothing if it. They are beautiful in their own rights. Talk to him and be truthful of feelings.
I mean maybe not cheating but EXTREMLY disrespectful. My man doesn’t comment or like anyones pics but mine. I didn’t ask him to, it’s just what he does. It’s like good job God and keep it moving lol.