My fiance and I recently told my kids from my previous marriage that we are getting married. They are all excited and want to be supportive. My daughter quickly asked can I call her mom? (My fiance) We both said that’s your choice if you want to. So she’s been calling her mom from that day on. When she went home the ex heard about it and through a fit. Telling her that’s not your mom you don’t call her that. Even making her cry by saying you can just call me by my name and call her mom from now on… She says the child is confused and we need to figure out another name just not mom cuz she’s not. The kids came back and we talked about it. They are not confused and even another of them wants to say it now, so we said it’s your choice again if you want. But when they go home they can’t talk about it cuz they’ll get yelled at. How do I go about this… Talk with my ex tell her to deal with it cuz this is what the kids want? That she’s just being petty and taking it personal. I don’t want arguments or kids stuck in the middle cuz of dumb stuff. But they care enough to say mom to my fiance so what’s the harm?
The mom is making things about herself & she needs to stop. It probably just hurts her feelings but she needs to realize how great it is that want to call her mom. That means they love your fiancé, respect her and are comfortable with her. I would let the kids decide, if the mom brings it up I would just tell her that you told them that they could choose what to call her, & that’s their response. You shouldn’t have to think of another nickname to call her just because she’s insecure. That’s their mom, that won’t ever change but she should be happy the kids feel so comfortable with your fiancée to call her mom
Thank you Shay…I have just been sick to my stomach thinking about this and wondering if I have just been over reacting. But yeah that’s what we told the kids it’s your choice no pressure.
Yeah I bet… as a mom I see where she’s coming from, but she just needs to take a deep breath and relax because it really is a great thing your kids love your fiancé that much. Not a lot of people have the same kind of situation