Is It Safe to Have Sex 3 Weeks Postpartum (C-Section)?

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QUESTION:

"Has anyone had sex before the 6-week mark after a C-section? I feel healed and was going to use a condom, but my husband is well-endowed and does reach my cervix.

It’s been three weeks since my section, and I’m feeling good but in need of some loving. Longest three weeks ever."

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“I mean the doctor who studied medicine for years says to wait until 6 to 8 weeks… I’m pretty sure he/she knows more than any mom on Facebook. Js.”

“Everyone heals different but the reason they say to wait 6-8 weeks is because there’s a literal gaping wound in your uterus where the placenta was attached. It needs time to heal.”

“Girl chill. You’ve got a gaping wound inside of you. Do you want an infection?? Cuz that’s how you get an infection. All these girls saying ‘oh I didn’t wait, and I was fine’ well, you were LUCKY. I know someone who got an infection from this and was violently and brutally ill. Not worth the risk, IMO.”

“Listen to your doctor. Jesus. I had a c-sections and 1st took 5 weeks and 2and took 4 weeks. For godsakes. These women aren’t doctors. Your OB is. Every woman’s body is different. Do what your OB says.”

“Sure if you want an internal infection. I’ve had 3 c sections. Wait till your doctor clears you. You have an open wound on the inside.”

“You need to wait. There’s a 6 week waiting period to let your body heal for a reason. You have a massive wound healing in your uterus from your placenta. Even if you feel fine, it’s not worth the risk.”

“There is a huge wound inside of you that needs time to heal. Also, you are extremely fertile. There are other things you can do right now. Wait.”

“There’s a reason that they say 6 to 8 weeks. You just had major abdominal surgery. It would be a big risk.”

“Even though you may feel okay, the very blood-rich area of your uterus where the placenta was attached has not healed yet. Having sex before your doctor clears you could cause bacteria to be introduced to an extremely vulnerable area.”

“You have a dinner-plate-sized wound where your placenta used to be… regardless how well you feel, you risk infection. I wouldn’t chance that.”

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I’d wait if I were you

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Everyone heals different but the reason they say to wait 6-8 weeks is because there’s a literal gaping wound in your uterus where the placenta was attached. It needs time to heal

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I would wait personally.

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I say everyone is different and heals different so if you think you’re ready then go for it mama! Just take it easy.

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Lol you need to wait. I promise once you start going lol it doesn’t feel as good. And hurts after. Even waited 6 weeks. I mean was worth it but scar sfill hurts.

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So, its your body and you know it best. However, even if you feel healed, the opening to your uterus isn’t closed all the way and having sex can result in an infection in your uterus. Also, pressure on your incision could cause it to reopen. I would proceed very carefully and optimally speak to your doctor before hand.

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Wait. Better safe. Just play 🤷🏽.

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Yep both times, i survived.

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I personally would wait. Even 6 weeks after my c-sections it was painful. You can cause a lot of damage if you have sex too soon. Fool around, oral sex, ect but no penetration.

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Follow your drs advice. Especially since you’re post surgery. Better safe than sorry. Hate to get gruesome by I imagine the uterus also contracts with orgasm and you have a surgery wound trying to heal there. Ask the Dr and have them explain why or why not ok earlier than they recommend.

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I would just wait it out …

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I would definitely wait.

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Sure if you want an internal infection. I’ve had 3 c sections. Wait till your doctor clears you. You have an open wound on the inside.

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Even though you may feel okay, the very blood rich area of your uterus where the placenta was attached has not healed yet. Having sex before your doctor clears you could cause bacteria to be introduced to an extremely vulnerable area.

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Uuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuum just listen to your Dr. There’s other things you can do with out actually having sex!!! :tipping_hand_woman:t3:

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Don’t. You risk infection. Just masturbate

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I had a c section and I waited 2 months after having my son.

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Just wait…its JUST sex.youll have plenty after the 6 weeks

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Be responsible and waitn he should be thinking of your health and well being first

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As much as it sucks wait it out momma better safe then sorry

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I am not Dr. however I believe they have reason to wait. Not sure 3 more weeks is that big of a deal

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I think you’re gonna be ok with no sex for 3 more weeks it’s not going to kill you. Focus on that baby

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I never waited the 6 weeks lol

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Yes shit I was horny lmao

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I had 3 c sections I would wait honestly

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There is a HUGE hole in your uterus, that sometimes isnt even healed at 6 weeks. Having sex could cause you life threatening injuries

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I did with my first. Doc said it was ok

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If you’re in your feels this early, it’s not You it’s him. Start making the escape plan now.

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There is a reason they say minimum of 6 weeks.

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I did at 4 weeks BUT I was cleared by my doctor first. They schedule my post csection delivery checkup at 4 weeks and I waited until I got the ok from that.

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5wks n 10 months apart :joy::sob:

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You risk infection an hemorrhaging. Wait till your release from your doctor.

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U sure can. My oldest 2 daughters are 10 months apart.

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I never waited and I was fine :woman_shrugging:

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Just use condoms and make sure hubby understands to take it easy. I’ve never waited 5 weeks and had vaginal births, condoms cover the infection risk

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Apparently my daughter didn’t wait. Her girls are 10 months apart.

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Listen to your doctor. Jesus. I had a c-sections and 1st took 5 weeks and 2and took 4 weeks. For godsakes. These women aren’t doctors. Your OB is. Every womans body is different. Do what your OB says.

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I don’t recommend it!

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Just, why even ask…

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I didn’t wait the full 6 weeks either. Go get it girl lol.

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I gave birth vaginally and had sex after 2 weeks . I was cleared by my doctor first . It did hurt like hell

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Maybe Doggy Style would suit you @ 3 weeks :joy: Both entrances :see_no_evil::speak_no_evil: Be easier on your stomach & you shouldn’t bust any stitches :laughing::ok_hand:

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No. You cant. And you know that. Literally EVERY doctor tells you to wait 6-8 weeks repeatedly. :woman_facepalming:

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:loudspeaker:Zero stars!! Would not recommend!!:loudspeaker:

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I waited 5 and 6 weeks after vaginal births with my kids. We just did other things until then lol

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Listen to your doctor. There are risks that are not worth it.

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Yeah … I’m in the same boat. 4th child but first C-section… I’m 3 weeks out and the dr said no when I asked if I can have sex with my hubs… :pleading_face:

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There’s a reason we’re told to wait. It’s a huge health risk. You essentially have a huge open wound in your body after giving birth. It takes about 6 weeks for that to heal. Having sex before then, puts you at risk of infection.

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Can you? Yes…should you? No, your body isint healed yet. Let your vagina rest.

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Sure my 3 kids are 7 months apart because my twins came 10 weeks early…do NOT recommend :rofl:

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Infection is a very serious thing ur cervix is still open and ur not completely healed!!

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You have a dinner-plate-sized wound where your placenta used to be… regardless how well you feel, you risk infection. I wouldn’t chance that.

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I waited like 10 weeks and it was still unpleasant.

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I had sex 3 weeks post partum. But I also delivered natural so idk when it comes to a csection. But I healed well and no pain for me(:

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Girl chill. You’ve got a gaping wound inside of you. Do you want an infection?? Cuz that’s how you get an infection. :face_with_raised_eyebrow: all these girls saying “oh I didn’t wait, and I was fine” well, you were LUCKY. I know someone who got an infection from this and was violently and brutally ill. Not worth the risk, imo. :woman_shrugging:

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I waited until after 4 weeks with my doctors OK

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With the first three we waited about 2 weeks. The fourth it was 6 weeks my body just couldn’t take it. Listen to your doctor best advice I can give

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I thought because of a c-section I didn’t have to worry about the whole 6 weeks…I admitted to my dr that I had sex 2 weeks later and he said go for it

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I had c-sections and didn’t wait. Throughly enjoyed myself and so did my man. :woman_shrugging:t3:

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We did it at about 3 weeks too. I felt fine so if you feel up to go for it. Just dont go crazy.

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I had 3 c sections… waited 7 weeks 5 weeks and 2.5 weeks… no recommending nor not advising… I truely believe its each and every woman is different. Has different risk or reason for length of waiting.

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I did. It was very sore and hurt at first. I’m 10 months post c-section and sometimes sex still hurts my scar but you know your body the best. I also had my doctors okay with rules of doing it and to listen to my body.

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Talk to your doctor but if you feel heeled and fine go do it. But I do advise protection. Cuz you are very fertile after having a baby.

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It’s a no :sweat_smile: unless you want your wound open and risk an infection :sweat_smile: please listen to your doctor.

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I’d speak to your doctor before going to try, you could seriously hurt yourself…
I was cleared for sex again almost 3 weeks pp but I did have natural and tears were healed I know nothing about c sec healing. Please speak to your doc first

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Yeah just listen to your body

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You need to wait. There’s a 6 week waiting period to let your body heal for a reason. You have a massive wound healing in your uterus from your placenta. Even if you feel fine, it’s not worth the risk.

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I have and was fine, but I don’t reccommend it. natural delivery though.

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With my first c section we waited until I was 4 weeks post partum and my OB said to just use condoms and not to force anything. If it hurts stop. No rough sex, take it easy.

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Can you? Yes. Should you? NOOOO

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I’ve delivered vaginally but waited till 4-5 (and got cleared that early) weeks just because it’s tender still. You can do other things to get you off but if he’s well endowed it may hurt, go in and get checked out. And make sure healing is going well. You may feel fine but it may still be tender and not healed 100% also might hurt like hell.

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I’m cringing just thinking of doing that at 3 weeks PP. :confounded:

I had to get drunk at 7 weeks just to make myself :rofl:

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Ouch!! Omg I could not even walk standing straight up for almost a month after my c-section. I was way to sore for months!! Stomach was still numb after 5 months

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I did at 4 weeks. Everything was fine, but again, I don’t recommend it either. Doctors know best. 6 weeks is best!

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Plus your ovulating after birth for weeks that’s a good way to get Irish twins

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No. For fuck sake people, why even go to an OBGYN if you’re not gonna listen to their PROFESSIONAL advice?

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Don’t do it. Take it from a person who did it at the 3 weeks mark :sob:

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That’s how infections happen. Also your insides are not ok. Csections take a long time to heal internally.

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I wouldnt. Not 3 weeks. And you feel healed but you deff are NOT!! Youll regret it after. But if you feel like you can then go get it girl. Lol

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You had a c-section I wouldn’t. I’ve had three of them and didn’t have sex until my stitches where gone and was healed. All set with fucking that up

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3 weeks pp gave me two 11 months apart! :joy::joy:

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Yes and my son and daughter are 1 month apart!

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I did at 5 weeks and it was the most painful sex Ive ever had. I waited untl 8 weeks to try again.

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I didnt wait and got pregnant again lol

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I don’t care how bad I want sex. I’m not going to try orgasm with internal stitches still holding my guts together. WITH an incompletely healed wound from my placenta. Oof. Y’all are wild. :joy:

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If you need to get off just twiddle your clittle till the doc okays intercourse

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Sure if you wanna risk infection and another pregnancy :rofl:

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Girl WAIT!!! High risk of infection is mainly why u should wait

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Pornhub. Problem solved. :woman_shrugging:t4:

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Definitely wait. They aren’t making up the complications it can cause

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I waited 6 days…:rofl: I was perfectly fine but my csection was very smooth with no pain afterwards. Obviously its best to listen to your dr tho, for your own health and safety.

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Yeah no way, chill the FK out and let your body heal like its meant to…

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You can… but you risk infection and another pregnancy. My mom and my aunt are 9 months and 13 days apart.

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I had sex 12 days post partum :woman_shrugging:

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My son is almost 3 weeks old and we’ve been having sex for about 2 weeks.

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I got pregnant again, so be careful!!

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There is huge wound inside of you that needs time to heal. Also you are extremely fertile. There are other things you can do right now. Wait.

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I know it feel like forever but wait it out! There’s other ways to be intimate without doing the deed!