My ex and I have been breaking up for a short time. We have a three-year-old daughter. I would like to give him something for Father’s day from his daughter. Not sure if I should or not. I don’t want to cross any weird boundaries as we are in a pretty nasty custody battle. Does anyone have any ideas of what to get or do?
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Not the same situation but I am the bonus mother to an amaZing little 4 year old. On Mother’s Day, I bought her mother a present and did a little art craft with her to give to her mother. And on Father’s Day, her mom gave my boyfriend a small present and gift card for him and I to go out to dinner. All four of us (including the moms boyfriend) have an amazing relationship and all get along even in times when we don’t want to. We al try our best for our daughter.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Is it weird to get my ex something for Father's Day?
Did he get you something for mother’s day?
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If you guys are in a “nasty custody battle” I wouldn’t get him anything. I’d let his daughter tell him Happy Father’s Day and leave it at that. If things were different, I’d say go for it.
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I let my kids get something for their father from them, but I obviously buy it
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No move on when she get older let her deside
Have her make him something
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Me and my daughters dad have been broken up but we always get her dad something. If you want to then do it .
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Sounds great. Take your daughter to pick something out for him.
Being the bigger person is hard. Treat others how you want to be treated. Harder than just saying it but good on you momma!!
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What happened on mother’s day? Follow suit.
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I think it’s a wonderful thing to do. You are putting aside yalls differences to do for your children’s sake.
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Get a card and have your daughter sign it and give it to him. Nasty custody battle or not. Still her dad and it would look good on you that you encourage a relationship with him. Unless there are reasons he shouldn’t be around her and he’s a terrible person
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Yes! Even if he didn’t get you anything, even if there is a custody battle, even if you hate him the answer is still yes. Its up to you to show your daughter how to treat others
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Yes, it shows your daughter what a good person you are, and she will follow suit. Good for you for even wanting to…
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Absolutely hate my x, has destroyed my life physically and emotionally he would never get me anything in mothers day but I always get him somthing very small and cheap with card just for my kids sake
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Don’t listen to these chicks talking about “what did he get you for mother’s day”. That is completely beyond the point and says what kind of women they are- tit for tat.
If you want to get him something, then you do you girl. 
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Of course! I have always had my children do something for him. Definitely good to show your child how to be a good person. You are doing it for her, not him.
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Yes you get him something from her!
Yes. Take your girl to pick him out something. It’s not always gonna be nasty. Train your daughter to be a queen! And petty isn’t in a queens vocabulary! Show your daughter young that mama doesn’t hate daddy . Things just don’t work out… (speaking all from experience) , you got this mama.
Have ur daughter make him a card or a craft. I wouldn’t buy anything. Handmade is best!
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I think that’s awesome. Good for you!!
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You should help her pick out something for him.
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Mine make crafts each year 
I own a daycare and my younger 2 do the crafts
It’s only weird if you make it weird. My daughters dad and I have been split since 2018 and we still buy each other gifts. Mother’s Day just went and he got me perfume! I’m also in another relationship and we all get along and also have had a baby to my new partner 
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Help your daughter make him something. Handprint crafts are great!
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Nothing wrong about teaching your child the joy of giving. They will continue what you teach when they are able to gift themselves.
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Yes! I would. It’s not from you it’s from your girl and she may be upset not getting him something especially as she gets older. I don’t think it’s weird I think it’s part of responsible and healthy co-parenting. - same as birthday/Christmas etc. until she has her own money to buy them it’s down to you x
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My littluns dad doesn’t get me anything but I still get for him as me and my eldest dad buy for each other and I dont want to treat the kids different:)
Yes always let your child pick something out for her\his dad for Fathers Day Christmas Birthdays. Despite your feelings or custody battles. Its important for your child to make things as normal as possible.
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Yes! When your daughter is older she will appreciate what you did given the circumstances you are in! It will show her that no matter what her parents are going though that the effort was still made on her behalf! It will also shape her to be a good person when she is older! There Is so much behind little things like this! I still get something for my sons father, I really don’t want to spend money on him but it is not for me, it’s for my son! If it will make my son happy to give his father something on occasions like this then I’ll do whatever I have to! He never does the same for me and that’s ok, my son will understand one day!
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Go simple, buy him some tshirts or something like that and a card signed from your daughter. Coming from the step mama, my fiancé loves getting Father’s Day gifts from his 5 year old even though he knows his ex bought them
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I would. But his girlfriend is an idiot and has a huge mouth so she probably would have something to say no matter what so I’d rather not. It’s sad that she’s causing more issues than need be.
Do it and do it every year. Your daughter will thank you for letting her love her dad. You are setting a great example. Wish more mom’s and dad’s could get past the bitterness for the sake of their children.
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Maybe take your daughter shopping for him that way she picks it out incase he gets weird about you getting something. Handmade card is always nice .
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If you are “in a nasty custody battle” I would ask my attorney first… but under any other circumstances I would say do it, giving and appreciating the other parent is healthy for your children
My ex always bought me something from my girls
No its not weird, its from his kid…
That’s very sweet and thoughtful
Yes! I had my husband even make his ex wife something for Mother’s Day (they have a 6yr old together) it’s showing the kids good co-parenting and how to also put the children first. Makes the kids feel good giving their other parents something. My daughter also gets her dad something ever since he’s been back in her life, and she loves it, even got her step mom stuff for Mother’s Day and we have had a rocky relationship.
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My husband and I take his son to pick something out for his mother every gift giving event
Help her make something for him, do like a canvas with foot prints and hand prints or something. Its not from you, its from her
Could always make a homemade gift with her or let her make a video about Daddy or something like that
Definitely…just make from your daughter… doesn’t have to be big…just because you are separated doesn’t mean you can’t get along for child…makes everything easier for next 15-18 years
Yes, she is still his daughter and her father.
I would… you could always have her make him something. Then it is truly from her!!
Thats really sweet! Definitely do that
Gift is from your daughter not you. Something small
I get gifts for my daughter to give her father every year for Father’s Day and his birthday! It makes the kids happy to be able to give their parents gifts
I gave my child’s father one. I have two different fathers for my kids and it’s father’s day so yes they both get a gift.
Yup do it. If he didn’t acknowledge it don’t do it again.
Keep proof. Also for court.
A picture of her or them together is always nice!
might add fuel to the fire…
Not at all. Your child should see that you can have a decent relationship with her father. The two of you are her primary example of how she will grow up so put all differences aside and just get along!!!
I think it will be great for your daughter. And it shows good co parenting on your part, which is amazing for your baby girl!
I would do an at home craft from her to him for Fathers Day.
That isnt weird at all
Have her make him something with crafts
Instead of buying him something that looks like u put thought into it make something craft wise from her . Like a hand print picture of some sort or an easy craft so he who knows who the effort came from
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I have recently split with my fiance and it is important to me that we co parent really well for our children so I will still encourage and help my kids give their dad something for fathers day as it is just as special for them as it is for us parents!
No weird- healthy coparenting and teaching your daughter to be a respectful person even when things don’t work out the way you thought.
It is from your daughter not you, if he is still in her life and a great Dad then let her help pick something at a store.
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I get something for my daughters to give their dad on fathers day, his birthday, and Christmas. Its makes my kids happy and at the end of the day that’s all that matters.
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I have ALWAYS gotten my ex a gift from our children for Fathers Day.
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I do it for my little ones day…can’t stand him don’t like him but it’s not about me…I want my child to have something to give him and also on Christmas as well…he doesn’t return the favor but that’s on him and my son will see that
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That’s awesome!! Very mature and diplomatic.
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I usually take my son to the dollar store and let him pick something out for his dad. One year he picked out a $1 plate 
he was SO sure his dad was going to LOVE it! Sadly it never gets acknowledged but it’s something my kiddo enjoys doing.
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Maybe do a craft or something she really wants to give him. I think that’s perfectly OK. Good for kids to see you get along.
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My mom always got stuff for my dad for fathers day even when they got divorced but they also had a good co parenting relationship…me & my brother are grown now an my mom just told me she got my dad something for fathers day…its not weird but if u guys are going through a nasty custody battle he might not accept it but if he dont accept it then hes a tool cuz the gift should be from his child. Have her do a craft of some sort or u can get him a coffee cup with pictures of him & her on it. My mom had us make a shirt with our foot prints on it when we were little
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I would do a handmade gift from your daughter! That’s what I used to do with my son (he’s 8 now and not into crafts lol).
Praying your custody battle ends smoothly! 
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Nothing wrong with that.
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My kids are 16. I still get them something for THEM to give to their dad for Father’s Day. We have been broken up for 14 years. But it’s from them. Not me =)
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I cannot stand my 1st daughters father, but because she wants to get him something for that day I let her…its not about him or myself getting along, it’s her dad so I do it to make her happy.
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My ex husband didn’t get me anything for Mother’s Day… that shows what type of man he is… I took my 4 kids out and they each picked him out something for Father’s Day . I saw the heartbreak in my kids eyes when they came back from their dads on Mother’s Day apologizing they didn’t get me anything, and I couldn’t do the same for them.
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Yes! Do it and do it for your daughter! I was married 12 years toxic divorce… she didn’t know my struggles with him and she is who matters! I do a lot of things for him because of her and ONLY her! But it has made our relationship so much better!
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Of course you should. It’s not about you and him, it’s about the kids you share together. Not weird at all.
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Not weird, if it feels weird just put your daughters name on it
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Not wierd. Very mature
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Have her make him a card, just because the two of you sre on the outs doesnt change the fact that hes still her father.
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At the end of the day its from your daughter so no not weird… just let her choose it so it makes it more from her and if hes a great dad then yes he stil deserves his gift from his daughter
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Talk to your daughter and tell her about father’s day in 3 year old terms just as any other holiday day and see what she can come up w within reason.
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I want to give my daughters dad a black eye. But I’ll refrain from that gift and just give him nothing he doesn’t ever take her to get me anything for Mother’s Day, so fuck that
The adult thing to do is purchase a card and make him a collage of pictures of your child in a frame or something that has her hand prints
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My ex and I are in the same situation and I’m also pregnant with our 2nd. Planning to let me 3 year old pick out something cheap for him as a gift from her. He didn’t get me anything for mother’s day from her but its cool lol im by far the better person
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Absolutely go for it! Maturity and teaching your children to be better! Love it!
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Let her draw him a picture
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Very mature, especially to do it from your daughter 
No matter how our relationship is, my ex and I always get the other something for Mother’s Day/Father’s Day. Even birthdays. And thank each other for being a good parent to our kids when we sign the card. I don’t think you’d cross any boundaries
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You should its your child’s father
Its not about you 2 its about the child my ex gets me things for my kids to give to me for my birthday
Get him the equivalent of what he got you for mother’s day…that shouldn’t be weird.
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My ex and I get each other something for each other’s birthdays and mother’s/ Father’s Day and we’ve been separated a year and a half and we have a 19 month old together. He gets me gift cards and I get him something “from my son to his dad”
Absolutely not just because your marriage or relationship didn’t work out doesn’t mean that you still can’t show your children how to be a great parent a great person because relationship doesn’t work out doesn’t mean you have to hate that person kudos do you mom
Every Mother’s Day Father’s Day the other parents birthday Christmas I always buy something for my stepchildren to give to their other parent And I also buy something for my ex husband that my children pick out that is for him. And because we all CO parent very well the same as in return for the other parents that are involved in the children’s lives they also buy me gifts and my new husband
don’t spend any money on gifts of course! Help your child make a card with drawings, or give him a nice picture of child
I think it’s a kind gesture and more people should do this. Even though he is your ex, he is still the father of your child and should be respected. Get some arts and crafts and make something fun with your child, he will cherish it.
We always craft, handmade gifts are the best
I would, it’s not from you anyways, it’s from your daughter technically. It’s nice your still thinking of him tho. It’s hard for a lot of people.