Men are visual creatures and like variety. Him watching porn or looking at others is no merit on you what so ever. Nor does it mean he finds you less attractive or them more so. It’s simply fantasy.
It’s literally no different than the millions of women who flocked to buy 50 shades and flick their beans mercilessly. Only its mentally stimulating versus visually.
Watch it with him my hubby use to watch porn all time well now he doesn’t as much because we watch it together do I get a joy out of it no but if he likes to watch it the. We will do it together and he loves that we watch it together honestly
This should have been talked about before marriage. If he hid this side of him. Leave. I refuse to be with any man that does this. You sound like you are not okay. It’s not healthy. Leave him. Find peace.
I don’t think it’s disrespectful. It’s just a man thing. I can’t say much tho since I watch porn as well…
girl tbh i think let it go they’re porn stars he’s never gonna meet them or have sex with them in real life as of the he’s doing it in person that’s a trust issue u have within him and being insecure probably from him looking at porn but i think guys are guys they’re gonna look at porn regardless and ur just creating a problem or argument that doesn’t need to be created i personally don’t care if my bf looks at it i know what he looks at and like i said they’re porn stars it’s not like he’s having sex with them
My opinion, I think it’s ok to watch porn but if he has pictures of other women just on his phone I wouldn’t like that. He just seems kinda disrespectful though.
Download see what happens
Men’s minds are wired different. Men can see 1,000 boobs in their life and a new pair is in front of them and they’ll act like it’s the first time. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love your nor doesn’t find you attractive. He asked you to be the one, take that as a sign. Best of luck
I don’t mind my man watching porn but him watching a naked video/ naked picture of girl touching herself is a NO NO to me. 
I wouldn’t stress too much. I’m pretty sure its just a man thing.
Girl it’s nothing you can do about that, that’s normal
Now if you’ve told him that it really bothers you, and he doesn’t at least tone it down then it’s disrespectful of your feelings
Thank you!!! I’m going through similar situation, he calls me dramatic and crazy🤷🏻♀️
I think it’s disrespectful and honestly it’s an addiction most men have. Hard habit to break. I would just voice your feelings to him like above and be honest. Communication is the best thing in every relationship.
This is not “just a man thing” this is betrayal. Seek a porn addiction therapist possibly? Betrayal trauma is where you could start doing reading💕
These comments did not pass the vibe check.
You are obviously uncomfortable with it and past the point of it being talked through.
Honestly if he wouldn’t stop and splitting up is out of the question then I would do it too.
It sucks but sometimes if you can’t beat them, join them.
Not you trippin on porn 
sounds real prudish
Was he doing this in the beginning of your relationship? There’s lots of holes in this post.
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Yes it is disrespectful if you’ve told him multiple times that you don’t like it.
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It’s not just a “man thing” because my fiancé who I’ve been with 4 years does not watch porn or look at naked girls, I’ve even been curious and looked through his history on his phone with his permission, nothing. If porn has ever been watched it’s been together.
And last but not least, if I were you, I’d cut the sex off for a week or two and see his reaction. If he loves porn so much then he must not need you right? Maybe he has a weird porn addiction. Dude sounds like a jack ass and I wouldn’t be able to deal. Just know that there’s nothing wrong with you simply because he’s being an idiot.
Watch it with him and play
Dudes need sex, eat, sleep. The majority of guys or all guys idk look at porn. If he’s talkin to other chicks that’s a different story.
Im sorry you’re going through this. I unfortately know this fight all know well. Its very disrespectful to you and your relationship
Dump him. I can relate. He do not respect you nor his marriage. Move forward like I’m about to
My husband said why would he need that if he’s got the real thing and loves only me.im glad I wouldn’t want a husband doing that.
Porn is a black hole. Next he will want a 3 some. Its not healthy its an insult to ur marrage.
To each his own so don’t come for me … Bern married 11 years together 14 he’s been into porn sense I met him . he doesn’t watch it all day I am fine with it … Try watching it with him … Point out some hot chicks and see if things he wishes to try yr comfy with … End of the day no diligent then my romance novels on Kendal only I have only pics my imagination sends me …its not real he can’t have sex with them only you …guys are guys he wants watch porn cool gets him hot for you …why get jealous start fight bent out of shape over fantasy world …besides he’s still rocking the sheets with you …you have nothing to worry about
Sounds grim! How would he react if you behaved the same way?
The randy lil fella obviously doesn’t only have eyes for you and sounds like he’s jacking off here, there and everywhere!
Sounds like he’s got a huge appetite which he can’t satisfy 
hmm! Only you can make the decisions, if you are not happy, move onwards and upwards. X
Good luck, they will hide it from you and lie. They know it bothers you cuz they over do it. But they don’t care, if they don’t tone it down. Then it’s an issue.
What guys don’t seem to realize is that all those girls are getting paid to be the way they are in a porn movie pic etc… it’s all acting . It could bother some girls because that’s how they expect us to act in bed, and maybe it’s not for everyone to be acting and do all that drama over some dick
Since you’ve brought it up to him and is something that bothers you, yes it is disrespectful because he obviously doesn’t give a shit of how you feel about the situation.
Watch it with him… if force him to stop it will lead to other things…
Men are visual creatures. They get off on what they see.
Porn stars are fantasy.
Something they can look at but never touch!
Looking at potential partners is engrained in all of our DNA and will notice / look no matter what we say.
It doesn’t bother me.
But if it bothers you then maybe state it’s a hard no. However I can tell you that he won’t stop. So maybe you’ll just get more hurt.
Porn is natural unfortunately! Was he looking before y’all got married?
Ohh no!!! Looking is one thing which I find very upsetting n not necessary as most of that pron shit is fake anyway. I would think a guy would want a REAL NATURAL woman. But to b saving porn pics on his phone is so much more not acceptable!!! If that’s what he’s into then idk y bother having a wife n shit
To me it’s not disrespectful. But if it is to you, it is. I watch porn myself, so does my fiance. Sometimes it’s just easier to take care of business ourselves.
It doesn’t matter if someone else thinks it’s ok or not ok. What matters is you don’t think it’s ok and he isn’t respecting that. I would just question if it’s worth ending the relationship over if he doesn’t change it.
Nothing wrong with porn as long as you’re on the same page. You clearly don’t like it, makes you feel uncomfortable, and that’s a valid feeling. I feel that it’s disrespectful too, women are seen as an object, not as a person. Talk to him and have an open conversation about your feelings. If he doesn’t respect that, I wouldn’t be with someone who doesn’t respect how I feel.
“I try my hardest to make sure we have sex enough” kinda makes it sound like it’s a chore for you…big red flag. Y’all should seek professional help. Especially for your own sanity.
I wouldn’t tell you to just deal with it bcuz a lot of men likes to watch porn, obviously it makes you uncomfortable and you already voiced how you feel about it. I think pornography leads to other shyt and not necessary cheating. I’m thinking more on a worse level like sexual abuse and behavior. If I were you, I’ll speak on it one more time and let him know that you mean what you say and if he still shows no concern about your feelings then show him in actions that you will not tolerate him being addicted to porn while married to you. My son’s father loved porn and it never bothered me that he watches it bcuz I see no threat in that made up extra bs. But it also lead to us having 3somes and some more pretty wild ish. Idk.
You’re being insecure and need to let it go. I literally watch porn alone with a vibrator when my husband works out of town lol. I’m sure he would not freak out about it since I’m not out here cheating.
Don’t listen to the nonsense that it’s natural, it’s ok, and all guys do it, this has very little to do with the porn itself. Take the porn out of the scenario all together… Did you express to him that something bothered you? Did he make any attempts to remedy the situation? That’s what you need to address. The porn is obviously a factor because it bothers you, but start with the big issue, then work on the details.
Sounds like an insecurity issue, honestly.
porn works both way too, I had a relationship where he always watched porn I didn’t get it and hated it. but then I found porn for me and what I enjoy doesn’t matter what relationship I’m in I will still watch it, I dont see it as disrespectful just another way to release yourself xx
He is disrespecting you. Porn is not good. You are not being jealous at all. It’s a horrible thing for him to tell his wife to send nudes so he won’t look at others… you may have to put your foot down. The more you put up with it the more he’ll do it. But there may come a time you’ll may have to make a decision if doesn’t stop. Stop sex to see what his reaction would be. I did this saw my fiance’s true colors come through and it flushed him out of my life… my doing that wasn’t because of porn it was because of cheating which I had suspicions… to me it’s sad that you feel like you have to give him sex. It should be completely natural. It’s almost like you are begging him to love you by using sex. Porn gives a false reality to sex. I have not watched anymore porn and kept my celibate since my ex left over a year ago. I use to be just like you… But for other reasons.
Wow can’t believe some comments on here tbh condoning him disrespecting his wife after she’s told him she’s not happy about it. Marriage is a two way thing, and porn can effect women mentally. If she isn’t happy with it, then he should stop concentrate on his wife, save pics off her not some stranger!.. I’d be fuming myself tbh, porn isn’t for every one and some don’t like thought there man looking elsewhere regardless it being fake!
Dont be bothered too much. Guys watch porn. Guys look at naked women.
Doesnt have anything to do with you.
Try to work on your trust issues. I know its hard but watching stuff or making out with someone else isnt the same and thats probably why ypur husband doesnt see any problem 
Its not your job to control his sexuality completely. He can have his own too
There’s nothing wrong w looking at porn. It’s totally normal and u will find that all guys, and probably most women, look at porn so I don’t advise leaving for it. It doesn’t mean ur not enuf for him. As long as he’s not choosing porn over u and u have a healthy sex life there’s nothing wrong w it at all. Have u really never watched porn?! Watch it together!
Get over that shit. Lol watch it with him. 
Grow up and get over it, thats just what they do its really not an issue they are human and are allowed to find other humans attractive you dont own them and their feelings but doesnt mean they dont want to be with you… you will drive him away being like that and thats all that will happen
You obviously don’t trust him as you wouldn’t be checking his phone.
Porn is like movies. That’s all lol. I know plenty of women who watch it while in relationships. You’re kidding yourself if you think only men do it. Just because you don’t. I bet you watch movies with sex scenes. And fantasise about others. Everyone does it.
Idk what today’s Society things is normal and ok about this but if porn is in the picture u both have to agree on it… and if not the other person should be not doing it… it’s not a “mans thing”and if u stated to him multiple times that u don’t like him watching it and it makes u feel uncomfortable then I would just leave because a relationship isn’t just based on sex… and he doesn’t respect u enough to stop and appreciate the woman he has in front of him then he’s not worth it…
I’d never look at anyone let alone porn as my Mrs is more than enough sexy for me. I don’t find Nobody attractive only my Mrs amd certainly wouldn’t want sex woth anyone else.
I got my moves from porn loll
Start watching Porn yourself…its fucking awesome!.. Or start watching it together… yeah its not realistic…and thats the point…
Just start watching it with him, boom problem solved lol…
I don’t know what the history is, but if you’ve voiced why it hurts you and he keeps it up and doesn’t listen, it’s disrespectful. Every relationship has different boundaries and rules, so if that’s one y’all both agreed to or is needed to make one half feel secure, it’s not too much. Don’t listen to others saying it’s not a big deal, Especially if the understanding doesn’t go both ways.
Let it go or watch it with him 
I’m the same…don’t like it and don’t go for it…it doesn’t matter how silly the request if the person who is supposed to love you can’t respect you especially knowing how it makes you feel
Him watching porn has nothing to do with you. As a woman, a wife, a partner.
This is on him. I’m not saying porn is bad. It’s not. I don’t think it’s cheating either. BUT if you’ve asked him to respect you and and you’re feelings on it and he doesn’t that’s also on him as well.
I don’t mind porn. It’s not my thing. I only ask that it’s not shoved in my face. I don’t want to turn the corner and see you watching boobs flapping on your phone. Do it in private.
Download sexy guys on your phone. What’s good for the goose is good for the gander!!! And if you don’t want your naked sexy pics shared with the world if you ever break up quit sending them.
Well it depends on the boundary you both set in the relationship. I honestly would never be okay with that and when I’m not okay with something my partner respects it. He should definitely respect you boundary. If not do the same and see what he feels and don’t send more pics of you.
Nothing wrong with not wanting your man to look at porn, everyone has they’re own standards, I think it’s disrespectful of him, especially after you voiced your feelings. A lot of people will see it differently, and that’s okay too, everyone has a right to they’re feelings and opinions. Good luck
I dont personally think its a problem if you trust him
I had an ex that was the same way. He ended up becoming addicted to it and couldn’t get off without it. So that left me feeling like I was never enough, and I wasn’t. We ended up breaking up over it after 3 years. It only gets worse. Prepare yourself now if u stay.
There’s nothing wrong with it if you’re okay with it. However, you have voiced your opinion about it and he still thinks it’s okay, which is NOT okay. It’s extremely disrespectful.
You do what’s right for you. Don’t let people judge you for what you decide to do.
That’s actually very disrespectful regardless of what everybody else is saying. Everybody’s relationship is different because it is their own. I wouldn’t be comfortable with it, and what he said was disrespectful however you want to look at it. It doesn’t sound like you are comfortable and okay with it either, which then makes it disrespectful.
Why is it on her to be more sexy because he’s watching porn? He’s a pig for watching it and I wouldn’t even allow that shit in my house but that’s me
To answer your question simply, yes he is being very disrespectful. Some couples don’t mind, some do. I understand it both ways. The problem is once you’ve told him how you feel about it and he continues to do it, there’s the disrespect. If he says he won’t watch it anymore or look at it again but does it anyway, that breeds your mistrust and self confidence spirals. He should absolutely be more considerate of your feelings. I’m huge in physicality in my relationship and I can totally relate. Good luck. 
i feel you soooo much lol
Kimberly VanDevander so true of words. 15 years…it took over the intimacy. doesn’t get better only worst…but every man is different
Mmm yeah I would haha.
I can relate to your situation and yes, it’s disrespectful because he knows how you feel about it…yet, he keeps on doing it. My bi*chy side would go ahead and download pics of hot naked guys 
If it hurts you and makes you feel disrespected, and he truly cares about you, he wouldn’t even consider doing it. Period.
ask him not to save pictures and not do it around you. men will be men took me a long time to get over it myself. and honestly i don’t care anymore. you’ll only make yourself mad and it’s really not about you, he obv wants to be with you. these girls are just fantasies of what he’ll never get.
They’re all f****** pigs
…ANYTHINGS POSSIBLE!!! It could be as simple as wanting a 3-way with more than one woman or If he doesn’t care if you’ve got men all over your phone maybe he’s bi-curious or into men too???…
Porn is cheating …what they are thinking in their head is what they are doing … because its virtual does NOT make it any different then if it was in person.
Very disrespectful and disturbing.
You are obviously having feelings of insecurity, doubt and unease and his knowing that and continuing his cringeworthy addiction really sounds like trouble to me.
I’ve known a few marriages that have ended because the man and his creepy porn addiction.
I would demand couples therapy or you’ll continue to keep trying, shaming yourself and it will never be enough for him.
You’ll grow more insecure as you try to keep up with what he’s looking at and you’ll hate yourself for it.
I feel for you.
Good luck girl.
Spirit of lust…theyl figure it out in the end…just another addition.
All men watch porn even women watch porn
Let me just say this for one the problem is NOT you what people need to realize porn is an ADDICTION to most men he has a problem to where he don’t know how to stop hope that helps a bit
It can actually turn into a compulsive addiction. Many women/men don’t understand that.
Compulsive users experience lower sexual satisfaction and dysfunction and higher sexual compulsiveness and avoidance.
This person in particular is pretty stupid.
What are romance books. Might not be pictures. Sure do provide a lot of details.
Leave him. Not sure what else would suit you. Porn may or may not become an addiction for him down the line but he surely enjoys it now. If you don’t plan on leaving him then I suggest you watch some porn in your spare time and do some of the things you watched on him. You may make sure that you’re having sex with him regularly but who says that it is the kind of sex that gets him completely off?
Look, it has nothing to do with you. He doesn’t think less of you because of that.
I think that having pics like that on his phone is immature, but watching porn is usually normal as long as he’s not addicted.
It’s not his need for anyone else, it’s just his need for inspiration and fantasy.
He’s open with you about the subject and that is good.
If roles were reversed, if you were watching porn, would he need be jealous? No.
This is probably more of a self confidence issue for you. Work on that. And remember, most people need a good sex life with themselves as well as a sex life with their partner.
He needs psychological help
Just because it CAN turn into an addiction, doesn’t mean it will.
Do you drink alcohol? If your partner said you couldnt drink alcohol ever again as he didn’t like the way you got a bit louder, would you stop completely and never do it again? Or if he said you need to stop as you might get addicted? If that was the question, everyone would be saying no, he’s being controlling. Most things we do for pleasure can result in addiction if we aren’t careful, so you can’t use that (unless it genuinely looks like he can’t reach an orgasm without it, then you have an issue) Telling him to stop completely just because you don’t like something he does is also not fair. If it was the other way round we would be telling her to stop letting him be so controlling.
Maybe reach a compromise? He can look when you are not there, but he doesn’t save it to his phone. He can look but not have it saved? Maybe share some time to watch it together so you can see what he’s actually watching? Or maybe he just never got out of the teenage years where it’s the go to thing when they are bored. Either way, you can’t go round demanding he stops looking at something just because you don’t like it. If it was the other way round we would be hollering that it’s abusive and red flags. You need to figure a compromise 
Ther are 2 types of men … Those tha look at porn … and those who lie about it …
I think its ok as long as he leaves it what it is a (SEXUAL FANTASY) and not try to make it a reality
Why is everyone saying he’s addicted? That is ridiculous 
none of you know well enough to make that judgement. Everyone watches porn, it isn’t cheating I think you’re being way over the top but at the end of the day if you dont like it so much that youre sending dirty pics and making sure you’re ready and pretty and having sex all the time just so he won’t watch it then he either needs to listen to you and try to understand or you need to choose. Him watching it or him not at all
I would rather my man look at porn then be out there cheating on me.
My partner watches porn on the rare occasion, so what. Yeah and on the odd occasion he will check out some random chicks butt when he is out but generally he tells me about it. He will come home and be like there was the chick at the servo with this really nice fat arse that clapped as she walked. My man doesn’t have time to cheat between work and 4 kids we barely have time alone together 
but I don’t blame him for appreciating a nice butt when he sees one. I don’t feel the need to look but he’ll if I see a really attractive guy of course im going to appreciate it for a whole 2 seconds doesn’t mean we are cheating.
My partner used to have photos on his phone of naked/nearly naked chick’s on his phone some of them I even sent him. watch some porn with him?
Men are different creatures, they are visual. I have spoken to enough men regarding this, and they all say the same thing. All men, still enjoy looking at porn, all men masturbate no matter how much, or how many ways they have sex with someone they love. It has nothing to do with wanting to be unfaithful. It’s probably something they learn when they are single. I wouldn’t worry about it, it’s a normal thing for them.
Let him watch and don’t worry about it. That’s only fantasies, you are his real thing.
Men like porn , so do women , not line they are running off with them , same as they check out women in the street , don’t say you have never walked past a hot guy and thought oh he’s good looking , not like you are going to pounce on him , we are all human
Look up “OTHELLO” syndrome. Sound like what you might have. Guys look that’s a normal part of life, why don’t y’all watch it together and make it fun? Maybe if you try to watch it together y’all can have a good time and maybe he won’t need to keep anything on his phone. Women are beautiful, I’m not les, but we are more to look at them men, men are just hairy and kinda gross lol
it’s porn… he’s a man…