My ex’s cousin has a child with a man I’ve been talking to … we both like each other but I feel like its wrong because we both have children to our exs.
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. Is wrong to date an ex's cousin's baby daddy?
If you have to ask, then you already have the answer.
How do you ex a cousin?
Your exes are cousins. Not the baby daddy nor your ex. But if you’re asking you’re looking for any reason not to date him.
For some reason I understand it; then when I read the last sentence I’m confused.
If you’re both two single consenting adults you don’t need anyone’s permission to date.
However, there’s consequences to every action and if you’re ready to handle angry ex cousin and possible angry step children for the rest of your life then more power to your small town union.
There are SOOO many men out there. WHYY WHYY WHYY would you even pursue this man.
Keeping it in the family:grimacing:
It’s kind on a RULE. You just don’t.
Ex’s cousins baby daddy
I say go for it 🤷
Not your cousin baby daddy
Yes it wrong lmfao and you already know it
Sounds like unnecessary family drama.
was the cousin your friend?
I wouldn’t. That’s gotta be confusing for the kids.
I was accused for so long screwing my ex cousin husband that I finally did after we divorced our kids are cousins realistically it could never be a relationship I don’t really regret it but like someone else said unnecessary drama back away
Are there no other men there? Idk but maybe try avoiding future drama.
Ex cousin so no longer cousins?
Well the fact that you even needed to ask people this question… Yeah… Lol
Go for it… but expect shit 2 hit the fan… if you think itl work and all the drama won’t break yous then crack on yous are adults x
Messy as fuuuuuuukkkkk
I would not. I personally think that’s gross. Yes it’s your ex’s baby daddy but still think it’s gross.
Well, that’s one way to cause needless family drama.
Yes it’s wrong stupid
There are worse things that could happen. My ex husband started screwing his former stepsister who looks like a meth eaten lot lizard a couple of years ago. I actually really get a kick out of it. It’s no one’s business other than yours but personally I wouldn’t because I hate drama and that’s all I can see coming from it.
You in danger girl lol
Sounds you got kids with this ex… That means your talking to your kids’ cousin not just your ex’s cousin baby daddy
It’s only messed up if your ex starts screwing the other girl:joy:
I don’t understand why anyone would really care? You have no moral obligation to your ex’s cousin.
The fact that there’s kids involved that are second cousins will make shit weird. That will make their kid your kids step sibling cousin. That’s the part you should care about.
and I have family members that are sister cousins. It fucks the kids up. I’ve seen first hand.
It’s like the brother of the best friend of the cousin of my coworkers Daddy. So far unrelated that it shouldn’t matter.
Just do you… f what people think
Don’t get in the middle of there karmic drama. It would make it so much worse
That just sounds messy.
You answered your own question feels wrong
My boyfriend is the ex to a friend I used to have
I mean clear it with her first. People assume the worse because you use the word baby daddy. I mean sometimes relationships don’t work. I dated a friends ex husband. (I asked her first so did he and she was ok with it and thrilled for us. We didn’t work out in the end. But that was for our reasons)
Your exes cousin’s baby daddy?
Why would it be a problem to date someone in your exes family? I guess if it feels wrong you probably just shouldn’t, but I don’t see the issue
Just sounds complicated
Your kids would be cousins-brother/sister cousins! NO. Just no.
And if you’ve ever hung in a setting with them while they were still together this just makes for super awkwardness.
I mean what, did you two like each other that entire time then?! Fishy for sure:-1:t5: no bueno
Lifes too short to care. Youre all adults. Do it!
It’s fucked up honestly
My mom dated my dad’s brother, my dad has a child with my cousins mom. Its all fucked but whatever floats your boat
Sounds like a Jerry Springer question to me
I wouldn’t because it could be a lot of drama but it’s not technically wrong
Absolutely no, so many other men, why would you want leftovers? And you may be a part of her he really wants back!
NO find someone else nothing good will come of this sorry
If they still come to family gatherings I would say definitely do not get with him…
And if you have to ask the question you already know it’s wrong, not being mean I’m just saying think before you act on this. god speed
You answered your own question. You are in the situation and you feel like its wrong. Why are you looking for advice if you already feel your answer. You don’t need advice from outsiders, if your gut is already telling you it feels wrong.
You must be desperate
Family drama starting in 3….2……1……
As long as y’all aren’t related idgaf who you date
Absolutely no home smashing. People appal me. Omg what a mess People are.
I mean, sure ok… but don’t have kids together, now THAT would be awkward
You NEVER date exes of your friends or family.
Even though you wouldnt technically be crossing the fence into “bro-code violation” territory you might want to think about perception, just cause its legal in all the states outside of Appalachia doesnt mean its a good move
I’m thinking you can do whatever you want. You’re going to anyway
On the next episode of Jerry Springer lol
So it’s you Ex baby daddy’s cousin’s baby daddy! Yeah?
There’s no relation there except that the kids are 2nd cousins…
You have a child together and ancestry.com would be having a melt down!
I couldn’t be bothered…if it already feels wrong, it probably is x
Is it worth hurting your cousin to be happy
The fact that you said to “be nice” is a strong indication that you know it’s wrong too. Some people are completely off limits. Find someone else. Why would you deliberately chose to hurt another woman and her children like that let alone family? Just know if you chose to continue, because it is 100% a selfish choice, you will deserve any backlash that comes your way.
Maybe they mean their cousin’s ex
If you assets worried about how your ex’s cousin would feel ask her if it works be ok.
Speak to your cousin about and see how she feels
That’s a bit of a stretch lol do you girl. Date who you want.
I mean not wrong necessarily but definitely messy. When u can avoid certain drama it’s best to.
That’s a double negative sword because while on one end your exes cousins baby daddy is no relation to your exes family or you their child is your child’s cousin so still family to your child; on the other end you would be hurting your exes cousin. So I wouldn’t do it. It’s weird and wrong. If you do go that route I would make sure that your exes cousin is okay with it first and that there’s gonna be no hard feelings or drama.
You are the only one who can make yourself happy. You can’t depend on another person to do that for you. I say you only travel through this life once and the fewer regrets you have the happier you will be. But, at the same time, if you don’t take chances, what does it matter. After all, it is not death that hurts us so, but rather, the thorns and claws of living. I married my wife’s uncle’s brother’s daughter and we made it 50 years so far! You’ll never know if you don’t try.
No don’t do that lmao
How would you feel if your cousin started dating yours?
If it feels wrong bet it turns out wrong
You mean you are talking to the man your cousin had a baby with. The fact that you said “be nice” indicates you know you are in the wrong. There’s so many other men out there and you picked your cousins bd?
Wtf. Yes. It’s not like he was just a boyfriend.
If you feel it’s wrong. Why question if it’s good to do so. You know it’s wrong at so many levels. Go with your conscience and don’t do it. You will hurt your family and your cousins kids too.
Uhm you guys could never have kids then because they would be related, ew.
Seriously? Just date him
So her baby daddy’s cousin’s baby daddy? The kids make it messy but I don’t see a problem otherwise. There is no blood relationship between 2 consenting adults. Maybe ask for the exs blessing if your worried about drama. Depending on the person even asking might cause drama but not as bad if you went behind their backs.
That’s confusing…but I can’t throw stones. I dated my husband’s 2nd cousin for 3yr toxic long yrs before I had enough. But no children involved thank goodness
It’s not like he’s blood related to your ex yall are adults
my opinion would be if you have to question it then it is wrong!! if you felt it was right then you wouldn’t be asking!!
don’t worry what people would think!! if it feels right!!
Any kids you have with him would be second cousin siblings. Heck, the kids y’all got already are second cousins. Does your cousin know? Do you think family events are going to be ok in the future if you proceed the relationship? Is it worth it to potentially be excluded family events, as not everyone will agree with it? That’s a whole mess I wouldn’t want to be a part of, but that’s just me…
So your kids can have the same baby daddy as your cousins? Fun at family events.
Just never date anyone one of your friends exes family’s exes find yourself own date not anyone’s ex
Damn it must be a small town…
What in the Alabama trailer park?
It sounds like you’re not over your ex. Personally, I’d find someone that has no ties to my ex, especially not a member of his family. You’re asking for trouble or drama. Also, if you’re asking this question, then you already know that you shouldn’t be doing this. Best of luck to you and your child!
If it feels wrong then it is wrong. Too many people in this world, you don’t need to have ex’s, family or friends leftovers.
No sweetie not at all. Not if your grimey af and it runs in your blood. On the other hand you are different not loyal to your family.
Lady if you have to ask you know it’s wrong
If you have to ask…it’s wrong. You don’t do that to family!
you just said you feel like its wrong .
its your life . so if YOU feel like its wrong , then stop
And if y’all have kids your kids are gonna have sibling cousins
Don’t date your cousins trash🤷🤦
Never date anyone who’s fathered a child with your bloodline
Huh?..an ex’s, cuz, baby daddy…is he family??.
You honestly already know the answer it just a struggle in your heart and mind do the rite thing for you
This the dumbest question I read on my news feed tf of course it’s wrong she has a kid by him and is your cousin look at the picture dummy you swear are you dumb or dumb dumb
It’s the cousin of the person’s ex not the poster’s cousin. Basically they are saying that the guy they’re interested in is the father of the ex’s cousin’s child.
Your ex’s cousin? What’s that got to do with you? Go for it lol Here’s people thinking it’s your cousins ex