What do you think his chances are with any of them? Slim and none and none has a huge lead. Stop worrying about nothing.
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Decide what you can live with.
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them girls don’t want him
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You are overreacting. It’s social media. Not real life. You are both allowed to look at other people anyway. Looking isn’t cheating.
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I wouldnt like it either. There should be boundaries in every relationship and if that’s yours then it should be respected
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Be honest with him. Holding back will make you sit there and overthink. Tell him you’re feeling insecure and let him know you need reassurances. It’s social media and while it is literally just watching people on the internet, if it’s bothering you now, it’s going to fester and ruin things. You’ll lose everything you guys have worked for if you’re not honest about how you feel
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My boyfriend would like and follow other females, I told him how I felt and out of RESPECT for me he stopped and hasn’t done anything since. If you bring it up to him and it causes a huge issue, leave. He clearly doesn’t respect how you feel and never will
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I follow lesbians, men, women, of all colors and shapes. doesn’t mean anything. if you don’t trust your partner you’ve got bigger relationship issues than tiktok.
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Im a married man i dont follow females nor do i have a ticktock its always the ugly women who say let um watch porn let um go to strip clubs lol haha
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If there is trust in the relationship & you worked out the jelousy, you should not have to worry who he’s following. Do you trust him? If not, then get out.
Lol it’s tiktok I follow pure sexy men and many other things .
It all comes down to communicate and being open and honest with eachother. If something bothers you, its not wrong to communicate that. Just have a conversation and see how it goes. He may not realize that it bothers you. No 1 relationship is the same, don’t compare yours to others.
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It’s ok and healthy to voice how you feel. Expressing your feelings in a calm and respectful manner shouldn’t ruin anything.
If you hold it in & let it eat at you and build up, you may end up snapping & arguing about it rather than having a discussion.
If he flips out over you expressing your feelings in a mature manner, then he’s the problem.
I have had this issue in the past. Sometimes it bothers me sometimes it doesn’t. When I’m having a day where it bothers me I just mention to him that at this point it makes me feel insecure and without hesitation he will ask me which profiles and go unfollow them. If you respect each other and each other’s feelings you won’t have a problem removing obstacles from your relationship. It’s not like you are asking him to stop being actual friends with someone or to not follow someone he has been friends with in real life for years.
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Not telling the truth to congress ain’t that just lying to the American people
A sign of insecurity perhaps. It’s better to have the conversation whilst you’re single than wait until you’re married?
Nah just follow some firefighters or sexy kilted man pages and ogle openly. Same game ,no shame.
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My husband and I have been married 10 years next month. We have a rule, you can look at the menu as long as you don’t order.
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If your relationship is really good and you solved the jealousy then why would this bother you?
Sounds like things may not be as good as you think if you are still having these reactions. Not judging but definitely pointing out that this is a continuous process.
Those feelings are showing you how you feel about yourself. You should be able to communicate your feelings to your spouse but you have to realize you feel jealous because internally you don’t feel so great about yourself. Practice more self love and acceptance of yourself.
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Had a real old lady talk to me one day. We were at the VA hospital, my dad was get surgery on is eyes and she just came off the elevator. She made a comment about a dr. that walked by, I said aren’t you married? She said" honey , I’m just window shopping, I never try anything on." I laughed and she said " why buy something new, you’ll just have to spend the time and effort breaking it in. The old one at home is comfortable and just the way I like it."
Gotta love old people.
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Guys are visual creatures. It’s natural for them to look. It’s the touching that’s a no-no. The way I word it in my head when the green eyed monster wants to take over, is that I may not look like that but I put it down the way he likes and that’s what matters.
Honestly, those girls that he’s following probably don’t even notice that he follows them or sees their videos because they’ll have so many views/followers/likes.
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If they were ugly would you care? Are you placing your insecurities on them?
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It’s looking which is normal. If he’s not out trying to mess with other females then there is no reason to be so insecure. It sounds like you need to work on yourself and your trust issues or you are never gonna do well in any relationship
Ok no no no you do NOT have to be ok with this at all why would he need to be following any female??
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you sound young and jealous…girl, its natural to look…youike looking at guys, so…
guys are always going to look. you have to be secure in your relationship.
Always trust your gut!! and tell him how you feel . I feel like that’s disrespectful 
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You have to build healthy boundaries that fit for both of you. Also, in my opinion you should be able to talk through anything with your significant no matter what it may be - it’s best to talk about things before they sit there and eat away at you, that could affect your relationship.
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If it were me I would talk to him and tell him how it makes me feel. If he doesn’t care about your feelings enough to stop maybe he isn’t the man you need. Or if you want to stay with him give him a taste of his own medicine…start following some sexy hunks yourself. If he doesn’t like it then maybe y’all can come to an agreement.
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I think it’s crazy how many people think that this is ridiculous and say things like “men like to look”
No, have a conversation with him about it and if he doesn’t change find a more mature man that doesn’t “look” elsewhere.
I would have a problem with it too but luckily I have an incredible husband who has never made me feel uncomfortable this way as he is perfectly happy with our relationship and makes me feel like I am enough for him without any other girls in the background.
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I’m guessing the two of you are super young because this sounds so immature lol.
You really need to work on your insecurities. If your partner just looking at photos of other women whom he’s never met and will most likely never meet bothers you, then you need to chill out.
If this jealousy stems from him having been unfaithful in the past, just leave the relationship. There’s no point continuing a relationship you don’t feel safe and comfortable in, it’s just wasting yours and his time.
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Don’t let social media get to you. We’re humans. We all look at some point. As long as he’s not flirting with other women and trying to get with them then I wouldn’t worry about it. Besides you just said you both look, you both have a great relationship, you both care about each other. Please don’t let jealousy ruin your relationship. Especially if he’s not a cheater and cares deeply about you. He’s human. He’s not gonna turn away every single time a woman pops up on the screen.
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I think a healthy relationship something like this in minute and should bother you. If they’re is pass things that have happens like cheating etc I can see why it does.
I follow hot guys on tiktok and my husband likes to watch the good looking girls that pop up on FB etc neither of us care. Coz we know all it is, is simple watching a video of a random person. We trust the other wouldn’t contact or anything more then that.
I think your over reacting to me, but that’s without knowing your whole relationship. If it rest bothers you, then just mention it makes you feel bad, and could he please cut back on following them. If your relationship is as good as you say it is now he should listen.
Inundating your media feed with attractive people of the opposite sex is a good way to desensitize yourself to your partner.
The paradox of choice and comparison can kill romantic attraction.
If him following those pages is more important to him than your feelings, then there’s another problem entirely.
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I wonder if all these “my perfect husband” ladies know their man definitely looks and watches porn too 
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I rather him follow sexy girls on tik tok than follow sexy girls in public if that makes sense. He isn’t dead, and neither are you. Dont let that bother you, which may take time , but you will grow tremendously as a person and your self esteem will be so much higher. Dont hold yourself beneath another women. Dont let other women intimidate you. People in this world will see you how you think he is seeing other women on tiktok.
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If i was you i would be open going forward, but at the same time hes looking but not touching x good luck
I’d talk to him about it… if it’s bothering you that much and if he really loves you he’ll stop following you out of respect
You need to talk to him and lay out boundaries (if he’s willing). A conversation like that will let you know where he stands when it comes to sexualizing other women. If he respects you and apologizes y’all should be able to easily set out boundaries. If he fights you about it or points towards insecurities or it becomes an argument… there’s your answer. I’m also assuming you’re talking about the women on Tik Tok that are practically naked and advertising for only fans or something. If these are just regular women that happen to be pretty… that’s something you need to work on.
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Split up. Go on separate ways, you’ll find what’s really into you two… Then go back to each other if you think you deserve another chance. Because I think you guys has only love not great love… 
Wow, the gaslighting in this thread…
If partners care about their significant others, they would stop behaviours that are hurtful. If they don’t care, they would just tell their s.o. they shouldn’t feel hurt.
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. Does he follow men to or just pretty women? Nothing to be Jealous about if he is just friends.
What’s the big deal? As long as he’s not messaging them it’s completely harmless. Men like to look…simple as that.
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If it’s a permanent relationship you DONT folow other girls.
If its a brief fling, shack up, house share…fine.
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The boyfriend should dump you. Getting jealous over a girl on Tiktok? Do you get jealous when he watches porn too?
You’re not overreacting but it sounds as tho the jealousy issue isn’t actually solved. Just be straight up and tell him how it makes you feel.
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Depends on what videos the girls make. Theres some awesome interesting content made by people who happen to be attractive and then theres shitty bikini boob bouncing dance videos.
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Have you ever watched the movie Magic Mike?
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Yes you’re overreacting but if it bothers you so much then tell him. Clearly it wasn’t talked out and fixed, if it was fixed you wouldn’t have an issue with it.
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I still have the chairs from the dining room, at the Grand. They are as solid as ever. Mom had them at our counter forever.
What’s the next step? He can’t follow a beautiful celebrity on Instagram? He can’t watch beautiful women in films? He has to avert his eyes if a high fashion magazine is on the news stand? If they’re incredibly popular on the platform, it’s highly unlikely they’ll give some drooling man the time of day to respond to him and build up any meaningful connection.
There’s nothing wrong with appreciating someone’s beauty. If he’s just looking, I see nothing wrong. The problems come if he starts to message them OR if he starts to push you to be like them - whether that’s through changing your appearance, wardbrobe, or personality.
It’s also worth mentioning that if you follow any men that you’ve thought of as beautiful or good-looking on your own platforms, you’re being hypocritical - even if the reasoning is, “Well, I don’t follow Ryan Reynolds because he’s good-looking, I follow him because he’s a good actor.”, because apparently that doesn’t matter to you, just their physical appearance, right?
People can be sexy and funny, and maybe that’s why he’s following these girls - you never said, “Oh, I’ve seen him follow four sexy women who just dance” or “I’ve seen him follow four sexy women who never seem to be wearing more than a bra and panties” - you’ve provided no context of the word “sexy” which also means “visually appealing” as well as “sexually exciting”. Just because they’re good-looking doesn’t mean their content is inherently intended to be sexual - there’s so much content on TikTok that there are, undoubtedly, going to be beautiful girls making excellent comedy or educational videos.
If the only impact it is having on your relationship is that it’s making you jealous or insecure, then the problem is on your end. If you love and trust him, but the fact that he follows these women is eating away at you then the “problem” you “fixed” is still there. And it may not even be fixed on your boyfriend’s side because you “don’t follow guys” - avoidance is NOT A CURE. It’s not fair to expect anyone to stop consuming content just because it contains a beautiful person - there are billions of beautiful people in the world.
Everyone can benefit from individual therapy, and couples therapy isn’t just for the married.
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I hope the person on here is on Facebook because the link wasn’t allowing me to create an account. But you should totally say something but to explain how you feel and not to demand for him to do differently. You should be more than allowed to follow other attractive people cause at the end of the day, that doesn’t mean you relationship is destined for failure, just means you have trust and faith in each other that you and your partner can enjoy eye candy without being so weak that you need to act on it. And if it truly still bothers you or it bothers your partner, then maybe you two should separate and work on yourselves. Jealously is deeply rooted with your own personal self image, you cant force anyone to change how YOU feel.
Have you seen the TikTok videos these girls are doing? It might just be him following the type of TikTok they are making not necessarily the people making it. 
I think it is disrespectful to do that when he is with you.
drop his ass . no bs no emotional hostage shit. time to grow up and leave . lots of men woudl treasure ya and not look at others
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First question: How old are you two?
Tell him how it makes you feel.
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If he isnt pursuing these women, I’d leave it alone
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You’re not overreacting.
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That’s not Jealousy- that’s called him respecting you.
Don’t let him flip that on you.
Not cool for him to do - or viceversa
If you’re of the age that you’re still playing on TikTok, you might be too young for a serious relationship.
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So, does he personally know these tic tokers? Are they in your locality? Do you know them? Then what is the big deal? It sounds kinda immature that you would be jealous or hurt about his once in a while attention to someone he will never ever meet.
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If you’re secure in your relationship then this shouldn’t be an issue to talk about.
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Yeah insecurity is a relationship killer …men and women cheat for different reasons …men will cheat if they can and women do it for a few reasons financial gain genetic gain and because you aren’t treating them right …a group of Italian scientists did a human study with couples and singles… and when the male was gone for 2 or more days he would blow 2-3 times more sperm when he got back …there’s 3 types of sperm …one kills foreign sperm …one wiggles and gets in the way … last one goes to pregnante egg …it’s like a football game … So if she had sex in the 2 days he was away he would blow lots more than regular to kill sperm …
Throw the whole boyfriend out and get a pet frog instead 
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Just because he follows them doesn’t mean he plans to do anything and its doubtful the girls are even interested
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Do you not enjoy watching attractive men in videos? Im guessing you are one of those women who have issues with men watching porn and will make them say they don’t even though they will anyways. You’re either going to have to let it go or end the relationship. You already agreed that you wouldn’t let jealousy ruin your relationship.
Well since he is only following attractive women…
Stop being so PETTY. GROW UP.
Tic toc it off your shelf
Sounds immature as hell
If he is in a committed relationship then he should not be following these girls.Seems like a boy who can’t grow up.I would not tolerate that for a minute. Tell him if he needs that or wants that then that’s fine but he should be single
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Is he making inappropriate comments or just following them? If you trust him, this wouldn’t be an issue. This sounds like a you problem.
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I have been married to my husband for 22 years we have a very strong relationship and would never cheat on each other he looks at other women it does not bother me because I know it means nothing
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Nothing wrong with him doing that all it’s like he is meeting ect man & women do it I been with my husband for 21 years he has no problems we me liking other mans pages ect or having man on my friends nothing wrong with it it sounds like you ha e got very bad jealousy problems need get that sorted or you won’t be able stick with anyone jealously gets you no where but heart ache
I mean honestly? Get over it. His following of people on Tik Tok is a mindless effort to support other users I can almost guarantee it. It is just what ya do. Frankly sounds like you didn’t fix it as well as you think because you cannot handle him following women that you consider sexy.
If you don’t have a problem living with that sort of thing,go for it. But 99% of the time, it doesn’t change and could get worse
It doesn’t sound like you “used to be jealous”, it sound like you still are…
If your blokes on tik tok then he has some serious issues as its for kids…and any adult that uses it needs mental help
Maybe both of you need to stay off of all social media
You need to leave and stop being dumb.
Omg how old are you 12 
, maybe you should just get rid of all social media then ur problem will be fixed. If u honestly want to destroy ur relationship over follows I think there is more to it
Keep playing whiteyy18 over and over and over again
Personally it’s one thing to LOOK but if he’s liking and commenting then that’s another IMO
Just saw this video and reminded me of your post.
Highly recommend giving it a listen.
He is disrespecting you.
Get your hot *ss on TikTok n find yourself some followers!!!
It’s TikTok ffs. Who cares
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TIK TOK is stupid garbage and if that makes you jealous then maybe there’s more to the relationship then just him…IMHO
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yes, definitely overreacting
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My husband i both do social media but when we first got together I was very insecure coming from a bad relationship where I found my ex with 5 women. My husband understood and was very reasonable. Anything that made me feel nervous or insecure he stopped because he wanted me to trust him so we built that trust foundation. Now being married he finds no interest in other women because he just isn’t the guy who has wandering eyes from me. The only thing I have an issue with is his friend that is a woman. She is married but calls my husband when they fight at 2am (or other odd hours). I told him how I felt, he agreed it was inappropriate and told her not to call at those hours. I say talk about and let him know. If he loves you he may be more understanding.
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Jealousy eats away at you if you let it. I personally think you are overreacting, but that’s not something strangers on the internet can decide for you. It would not bother me who my husband followed on social media, because I trust him and know he loves me, and vice versa. No girl on Tik Tok can hurt our marriage. Good luck! I hope you find a way to feel better about this, one way or the other.