Y’all… someone please educate me… where in the AF did this “it’s okay” mentality come from? I do NOT get it. Your man is LUSTING after other women! That. Is. Not. Okay. Nor is it okay for women to do. When you are in a relationship- THAT PERSON needs to be your focus 
The grass is greener where you water it. 
Porn, Instagram pics, google images- doesn’t matter where he (or she) is looking- if it ain’t you, it ain’t okay. 
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He can look all he wants…then finish the job himself because he wont be sleeping with me
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There’s a lot of insecure women commenting on this thread…Jesus…there’s literally nothing wrong with looking. It’s no different then watching a movie with half naked people in it 
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Yuri V. Martinez how would you feel?
If he was sorry he would stop doing it
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Thats not right to subscribe to them especially since they can just search and find very easily. He isn’t showing he respects u or ur feelings when he says that. Yes its normal to look but subscribing is a whole new level. I feel if it wasn’t there before u it shouldn’t be there during u. Also if it bothers u he should stop and talk to u about it til u get where hes coming from.
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My husband can’t comprehend what jealously feels like cuz he has none. He wouldn’t care if I had one favorite man I followed for porn apparently. He knows I wouldn’t do anything in real life. He had no clue how I’d feel about the OnlyFans subscription I saw in his phone last month. Idk man. Lots of talking to see why he does this and if he knows it hurts you but keeps behaving that way……I’d leave. You need to feel like his number one! You deserve it.
I say start looking at different 
pics and see if he still feels the same way. He doesn’t care so why not. 
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Men have eyes 
looking is nothing I pretty sure you look at hot guys when you see them. You don’t walk with your head down
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Instagram chicks are not to be worried about.
It just means he loves the beauty of a woman in which you have every characteristic feature of.
Men appreciate gods gift to man. Don’t be jealous he loves you.
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Oh you’re not overreacting, it just gets worse if you allow this behaviour. For example my ex would screen shot sexy pics to toss off too whilst sitting right flip’n next to me on the couch, he’d comment on girls pics telling them they are the most beautiful girl in the world and that he loves them. He’d save pics of chicks he’s friends with and then download them to his computer. We broke up and then I found out I was pregnant and after him knowing we were expecting a baby he was trying to hook up with 2 of his ex girlfriends. Absolute pig of a man!!
Social media has made it way too easy for people to be disrespectful partners, it’s bloody sickening and I will never open my heart to another person after being hurt by him. What ever happened to good old fashioned love and respect!
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Ok from someone who has been there it leads to other things especially cause there are so despicable women out there enticing men for money. Do not be shocked if it gets them in trouble with the law too cause a lot of underage young girls get on these snaps or men getting them to lead men on. I know men and women this has happened to so warn him it could be a set up and then he’s screwed for life. It embarrassed me when my ex did it years ago but I had evidence in divorce
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I feel the same way if he’s with u he dont need to be looking at other women’s buttons or them at all that’s just disrespectful
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The fact that you have to fight your husband to have respect for you tho
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I think it’s a guy thing in general 
I’m use to it but some people take it to another level like only fans or something that’s crossing a line I feel like because their local chicks it’s not like porn where you never meet the person these are people in your town or people you work with ect 
not cool
There’s no way I’d put up with that crap.
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There’s a HUGE difference between noticing other attractive people and actively searching out women to fantasize over…
If you don’t have an open sort of relationship, and your partner is CONSTANTLY looking at and sexualizing others, it’s time to have a conversation about the commitment you have to one another 
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He’s not sorry. Sorry would be a change in behavior. Who cares you think he’s a womanizer or not? He doesn’t care about your feelings.
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What … you don’t think he looks when he’s outside the home ? Like he never sees a pretty lady and look? 
imo mine can look all he wants as long as there is no acting on it .
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I don’t feel like you are overreacting. People have eyes ans they are going to look, but looking at something that just happens to cross your path is one thing. Actively seeking it out is another. Plus he’s pretty much told you straight out that he isn’t going to change and doesn’t gaf how you feel.
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Why is he only looking at half naked women, when thier are fully naked women. Your right thier is something wrong with him
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This is the page I was talking about earlier Valorie Thombley
I feel the same way as him. I really don’t care what my husband looks at, he is committed to me. He is a man, he didn’t lose interest in all females just because he chose me. Look but don’t touch is how we are.
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Your feelings are valid, period. That doesn’t mean he’s a horrible person for looking at butts. You could ask him not to do it in front of you, that’s kinda rude. If he’s using that to get off INSTEAD of trying to engage in sexual activity with you then he might have a problem and you should get therapy. Only you can decide what you are willing to deal with. Just because some of us are ok with our partners watching porn, or watching it with them doesn’t mean it’s every persons cup of tea, or that we are right and you are wrong.
Also, stop looking to him for validation! YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH, the only person you have to be good enough for is yourself.
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I look at half-naked women on mine, and I’m not even gay/bi.
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My bf jokes with me at looking at girls on the streets. On social media. He tells me he can look. But he can’t touch. And does it in front of me. Just cuz he likes the way I am with him. He knows he love me. And ya he knows that the chicks he sees won’t look at him the way he would like. (cuz he’s a chubs.). Hell joke with me about these muscular men out there. And how I would date one. So we joke around with each other.
What could be wrong?
Many of us see men with spectacular bodies on the Internet and that is not why we are unfaithful, he could see it without him noticing, I think you are too controlling and that is not healthy.
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Who comes up with these stupid questions 
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Sorry you’re going through that and you’re not overreacting.
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It is disrespectful!!! And he does not care about your feelings. And i would be telling him if thats what you want get out and don’t come back.
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If there is something bothering you making you feel insecure and not loved, he should do whatever it takes to make you no feel that way. He’s literally saying I’m sorry that me looking at half baked girls makes you feel like I don’t love you but I’m not going to stop doing it… That’s blatant disrespect.
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If he knows it bothers you, and still does it anyway, then that is where most of the problem lies. Knowing it bothers you you he should be making an effort change his behavior. Knowing you are hurting and he is still continuing is not love…
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I feel like it’s very disrespectful and if a person is completely in love with someone that they are with they are not going to have the urge to be looking at other women but nowadays things are a lot different. I would definitely not be okay with this
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You need to decide for yourself if this is something you’re okay with your partner doing or not. If not that’s perfectly fine, but you should end the relationship if he won’t stop. First, not everyone looks (in that way) so don’t let people sit here and try and convince you that everyone does; sure I’ll notice a person is there but I genuinely do not register if they’re “attractive” or not and I don’t ogle. There are men out there that are the same way. Some people genuinely only have eyes for each other. Your feelings are valid and the fact that he knows how you feel and won’t stop is a huge issue. To me it shows he lacks respect for you. I’ve had exes do that and it’s not something I’m comfortable with either. I don’t look at any males or females like that if I’m in a committed relationship because my partner is the only one I want to look at and also I find it disrespectful. I’d want a partner that is on the same page as me in regards to that. It took a while, but I found a man that feels the same way as I do and doesn’t look at anybody else. Don’t let anybody invalidate your feelings; you’re allowed to feel how you feel and want a partner that shares the same mindset
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If it’s not that big of a deal, he would stop once he found out it hurts you. No, he doesn’t respect you. Your feelings are valid. If my H refused to stop after I expressed that it hurt me, I’d leave. I don’t tolerate disrespect. When he tells me something I do bothers him, I immediately stop. I expect the same energy.
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I feel the same way sometimes. But at the same time when I see those women he looks at.
I look to. And goddam they look good I don’t blame him for looking cus here I am looking too
But I also, i feel. To him they’re more objectified and just hot items to speculate at. Which is also sad!@!@
I feel like how dare I be offended when I too think these women are hot af.
I’m me , not them.
And it’s very unlikely anyone of them would give my guy a chance hahah
Did you ever think about maybe sending him pictures then? I mean if he wants to look at butts then send him some pictures!!!
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EVERYBODY LOOKS iys human nature, hell me and my husband look together lol:joy:
our rule is ‘look but dont touch’
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There’s looking and then there’s “looking”! Of course everyone looks. She said he is “constantly” doing it. What he is doing is the equivalent of subscribing to Playboy and then sitting in your living room and flipping through it right in front of you day and night. Or one girl commented she goes with her other half to strip clubs and pays for dances…now imagine him wanting to go every.single.day. morning, noon and night. I’m sure she would get sick of that pretty quickly! That’s what this guy is doing and damn right it’s disrespectful. Paying for pictures and liking them is the same as paying a prostitute to walk around in front of him half naked all day. Sorry…not sorry. I’m pretty sure some of you open minded ladies would draw the line well before any of those scenarios. It sounds to me like he’s addicted and can’t stop. Suggest counselling and if he won’t go, go yourself. Take care of you first 
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Start your own snapchat or Instagram and get a bunch of men to follow you. When he gets mad say they’re just looking no ones touching me just like you look at those others girls… he truly wouldn’t care if you were looking at other men but if other men were looking at you maybe he’d see your point…
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I send the pics and vids of the half naked women to my husband…
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Start looking at half dressed Man
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That’s a bit much, I can see a guy checking out a beautiful woman if they walk by ect, that’s human nature, he’s on another level ! It’s totally out of line, he’s got an obsession with it
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Subscribing on Snapchat is cheating to me and trashy
He is okay if you did it but that doesn’t mean you have to feel the same
You’re entitled to your emotions
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It’s inappropriate and he obviously doesn’t care if he hurts you. Sorry to say.
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hate to tell you this but usually the ones on snap chat make you pay money to have them on your friends list because they’re on there for “merchandise”
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My soon to be ex boyfriend dies the same thing!! We go out he’s checking every woman in site! Makes me sick it’s embarrassing and down right hurtful. He told me all guys do it blah blah. On his phone looking at half naked girls all the time. I expressed my feelings he won’t stop. So I’m done with him! Lots of women put up with it. And it only leads to worse behavior! Screw that not for me. It went on so long I’m no longer attracted to him whatsoever!!! Demand respect
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It’s tye internet now sadly. Really no nerd to pay for sites these young broads post almost naked pics all day for free sadly. It’s tge cool thing to do. You can’t scroll more than 2 seconds without seeing a ass or books pic.
He has no respect for you mine did it a few times years ago.But I put my foot down.
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Send him pictures of yourself.
Or hell go get the fancy boudiour photos done.
You will take your power back and it will help you feel incredibly sexy.
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It’s not bad to look he’s not actually going to be with them they are just attractive pictures. That being said it doesn’t take any attractiveness away from you and you should not compare yourself to other people you hold your own beauty 
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If it hurts you then he should stop if he had any respect for you
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No babe if something is bothering you you should let him know
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Walk around half naked. If he complains say I thought this is what u like and I wanted to spice it up . Don’t complain these babies of ours don’t listen. Use actions it’s louder. He will unsubscribe and be more mindful. Make sure to take some cute Snapchat pics
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Lmao could be worse could be looking at other men lol know sombody that happned to
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Personally all about communication for me and my man he has a couple girls on is snap like that we talk about boundaries looking no responding and telling him why it really hurts your feeling I’ve learned by talking it’s usually deeper then it just makes me feel like I’m not enough.and not letting him get off with you can two if that’s not what your into then why would you. tell him what you want your extra that you need and if you don’t think you can make it work and he can’t stop a relationship is all about respect but you have to talk to him and let him know men really are clueless.
Your husband shouldn’t be on these sites period! People wonder why divorce rates are so high! Internet!
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Relationships are about communication and boundaries. If they can’t be met. There will be issues. Even if they are personal issues. He should respect it. If not give him a taste of his own meds and he can be in your shoes. Big tattooed beard sexy men 
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Cant be civil and respectful. Get petty lmao
But seriously. Whatever makes you feel better at this point and communication isn’t working.
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It’s obvious he is less interested in you where physical needs are. He wouldn’t behave in this fashion if he respected your mental and emotional peace. Act wisely. Talk to a Counsellor before you take any decision. Cheers and Take care
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Fuck this toxic ass shit.
I would start taking videos of my ass and send them via Snapchat, right in front of him!
I would make an only fans account and make money off of men looking at me in the same way he was looking at them!
I am a “get even” kind of woman.
Not saying it’s right, but I’ll be damned if some slick man thinks he’s going to look at some other ass cheeks.
For instance, my kids’ dad (my ex) and I walked into a country bar and I went to the bathroom. When I came out, he was gone. I started walking around and realized that the country bar led into a strip club.
I walked in and saw him front and center watching this girl flick her clit on stage, completely naked.
I lost my shit.
I took off my shirt and walked around the strip club. He then realized more men were watching me than her.
I know I left with more money stuffed down my bra and pants than she did for flicking her clit AND I got free drinks all night!
Get even baby girl 
Men always say “those are your insecurities, that is your side of the street to keep clean” until they find themselves jealous and in the same scenario!
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He sounds sick to me.
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Sit down and look at them together!
Point out a few you like, and ask him to do the same.
Get some ideas from it, and have fun.
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If it’s hurting you and he really loves you then he wouldn’t want you to feel that way. He should respect how you feel and get rid of the app.
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Definitely check out some Men pics while he is around and watch his reaction. He says he wouldn’t care so do it! Maybe he will see how it feels.
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Continue wearing vi tenge & maternity dresses & leave yo body look like a deformed hippo, kaili ebo marriage material.
Download some butts.
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If he’s truly sorry that it hurts you even though you have told him your feelings about it and he still does not care about how you feel, that should tell you something…I would ask him to go to counseling to get both of your feelings out in the open…I’m sure if you have children you would not want them to see this…and I’m sure he wouldn’t want them to either…it sounds like he spends a lot of time on his phone…maybe he should find a new hobby that takes him away from it…encourage him to participate in something outside of looking at his phone…keeping busy going camping, hiking, have friends over more often for dinner, or go out more often where he cannot use the phone…
The fact that he doesn’t care is a red flag .Its really sad. It’s like he is saying I don’t really care if you cheat as long as you are home at the end of the day I will overlook everything. I wouldn’t trust someone who doesn’t give a stuff about how I feel.
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TLDR; it’s entirely up to you and him in the relationship. You’ve expressed that it bothers you and he expressed he doesn’t mind if you do anything like that. See if there’s a common ground or if there’s something that you and him both would feel okay with (even if that means not doing any of that).
I used to feel like this but on a worse scale. It’s different for every relationship. For him to say “I don’t care what you do I know you’re coming home to me at night” used to flip me off so bad! But then when I met my husband, I realized how much freedom I actually had and how much trust he put in me.
My ex used to constantly say he wanted a threesome and even planned one without me. I was so hurt I ran out saying “have fun f*+&$ng another girl!”. My ex after that would ask me CONSTANTLY if I thought that girl was cute or that girl was cute (I’m bisexual) not 20 minutes after complaining that I didn’t give him enough attention (I couldn’t even use the bathroom alone). My husband now actually let me take my time in healing with traumas and showed me some cosplay Instagram people he follows when I would mention I want to do something like that. A lot of them are skimpy. At first it bothered me but I never felt any less love or attention or gratitude or anything from him. If anything, I feel like it brought him and I closer when we talk about things like that.
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Your feelings are valid. Honestly, the most concerning thing I see about thus scenario isn’t hum looking at other women (although a red flag) the biggest issue I see is him continuing to do something that you’ve voiced bothers you several times. While some people aren’t bothered by that, doesn’t mean you are over reacting if it bothers you. I always advise that establishing certain boundaries early in a relationship is important. A discussion needs to be made between the both of you. If he continues to dismiss your concerns or isn’t willing to work through this issue with you, then he’s not willing to be I’m an actual relationship also important to consider. If he is willing to do this in front of you what’s he willing to do behind your back?
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You need to stop over reacting; all MEN Do it. Just like us woman as long as he pleases you that’s all you need to think of. The minute he stops pleasing you hes done ; just like us woman. Facts
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Sadly it he’s alive he’s going to look. Personally I don’t mind it was long as there is no verbal comment that goes along with it. I don’t feel disrespected, but we talked about it. Not sure if you want to be told to leave him but if he’s not unfaithful and just looking … Well it’s your decision.
Mine says the same thing. It doesn’t bother me anymore because he comes home to me at the end of the day. At the end of the day, all that matters is if you trust him.
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DON’T LET THAT MAN TELL YOU HOW TO FEEL! omg i cant freaking stand when men say “i come home to you at the end of the day so it shouldnt bother you” like they’re some freakin prize we should be grateful to be able to take care of while they grovel at other womens photos and flirt with other women who dont do shit for them🙄
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You have every right to feel hurt and upset. But it’s all about what boundaries you have set within your relationship. Some people are okay with it and some aren’t. We don’t allow things like that in my marriage.
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Some people are ok with that and some aren’t. The bottom line is, you expressed to him it hurts you and makes you feel insecure. As your husband it should be done and dead right then and there bc that is YOUR boundary. To continue knowing how it makes you feel is disrespectful. I personally feel that when you are with someone committed, you would never want to be responsible for creating their insecurity. Respect and love always. Good luck 
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It is a matter of respect for you and your relationship. You have expressed that it bothers you. He has expressed that he has no respect for your feelings or how it may affect the relationship. It could be something else but this subject is demeaning and personal. If you don’t have children…run don’t walk away.
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He’s not cheating. He’s saying as long as you’re not cheating he doesn’t care if you look. There’s nothing really wrong with it. I think it’s more about your confidence in yourself… Men are visual. Just because He’s looking doesn’t mean he doesn’t want you anymore. With kids the sex goes downhill.
Have comfort in knowing and also awkwardness, if he is going to cheat he will do so. There is literally nothing you can do about it. But you did make a commitment and promise to one another period. I felt similar during pregnancy and after my son was born, still a little even. I decided to LOVE MYSELF in any case. So I started working out, and I think I’m hot and there is zero competition. I squashed my insecurities for most days. You do the same. I promise you will start feeling power with your own self.
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When I was in a relationship with my dude we would check out girls butts in public together
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My first question is how do you know he’s looking at these images? Is this something he told you OR are you going through the history on his phone looking for things to validate your non-trust? I am by no means judging, been there done that. Those weren’t the relationships for me. There was a reason I didn’t trust them. With that said most men look, if you ask him not to unfortunately he’ll probably just hide it better.
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It would bother me as well, start checking out hot guys and see how he feels🤷🏼♀️ guys always freak out when roles are reversed. I’m kind of joking but you never know….
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He needs to stop. Whether he understands it or not, it bothers you a lot. He should have respect for your feelings no matter his opinion on it.
You feel how u feel. Maybe concentrate on finding things u like to look at since it’s not an issue for him. I’d be bothered that he’s not listening to you though. He’s choosing himself over your very valid feelings.
I know exactly how you feel. In the beginning of my relationship he did the same thing. Always looking at pictures of girls and lots of porn. I eventually told him how I felt. It bothered me. I felt like he didn’t want me. And how he would feel if I masturbaded instead of going to him for sex. He didn’t completely stop looking at pictures or stopped watching porn. Because I like to watch it myself every once in a while. But but he is watching less and he unfollowed and deleted a lot of those profiles. We only have Facebook. We have access to each others accounts phone etc. But we trust each other. I told my hubby there has to be a limit. I told him how I felt and he said he wouldn’t do it so much. And I believe him. Because if I see different I can do that too. But once that mentality comes in the picture then honestly why even be with that person. If you already talked to him about it he really should compromise and care how you feel negative towards anything!
Looking isn’t a problem but subscribing definitely is.
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I guess it just depends on the person. I don’t think you should feel like you are over reacting… if you are not okay with it then that’s okay to feel that way. Things like that are a touchy subject. In my relationship I would be okay with it as long as my boyfriend didn’t actually know the girl and isn’t messaging her. But just because I don’t mind doesn’t mean that you should feel that same way. I definitely don’t think that it is because he is not attracted to you…. I am sure that he is. To be honest I feel like a majority of males watch anon girls nude with or without their SO knowing. I don’t believe that it means they love their woman less….
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I think if your looking at something to be upset about your gonna find it…and I think that’s over controlling on your part. He looks, he has eyes…I mean it’s human nature.
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It seems as if you both have different expectations in that area. I think it would be worth the deeper conversation about each others personal sexuality. Some people are a lot more modest and prefer to keep all levels of intimacy between themselves and their partner. Completely okay. And some people aren’t that modest and are more open to sex/sexuality and that’s okay too. But it will be a negative impact on your relationship if there is not a compromise. Unless your husband is disrespectful, treats you poorly, is giving you solid legitimate reasons to feel as if he’s not wanting to be intimate with you then it’s a high possibility you’re overthinking it and your insecurities aren’t helping.
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It wouldn’t bother me, as long as they don’t actually talk.
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It’s pretty normal for people to look at others… same sex or opposite sex… try not to feel bad… he may be looking at them… but hopefully not talking to them!
How would he feel if you started looking at men like that?
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It is actually a form of cheating. Married means forsake all others.
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Buy a couple pairs of boy cut panties and send him pictures of you
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You need to upload LOTS of pics of hot guys, let him catch you looking at them at various times, then when he gets mad, agree to stop if he does.
That is such a dumb question…talk to him about it …not others that don’t have a degree just opinions
You have all the right to be upset and hurt but blasting ur personal life and him on social media is low. And this should stay between you two and not the whole world u and him. That’s plain disrespectful and ur over here talking about how he’s being disrespectful looking at half naked woman but ur blasting him on social media where everyone can see ur personal business not cool. In theses days u can’t even go online without seeing a woman wear stuff inappropriate or looking half naked online it seems like u have problems with urself and over reacting. Theses days u can’t even go out in public without seeing woman in tight clothes or barley any at all maybe u should rethink before u blast ur husband on social media where it never goes away maybe instead of blaming him maybe u should see what u can do to change it he’s a grown ass man and can decide what he looks at on his phone he pays for if your not paying his phone bill it’s not up to you what he looks at as long as he isn’t messing around with other females let it go. You keep blasting him etc that’s just going to push him away and mostly make him want to leave because ur blasting him online to random strangers.
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One’s feelings are always valid. He can’t tell you how to feel. Yes you can be upset. My husband watches porn - it bothers me - he does it anyway. Makes me feel like shit and lose confidence. So you aren’t alone in this feelings. It shouldn’t be about what it is - it should be the fact that it bothers you and it should be enough for him to stop and that is pretty telling. So focus more on there’s something he does that’s upsetting and he needs to correct it
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Married to a model(would never step out on my wife) and I still look, it’s how we are made, men are more visual woman are more mental.
(I don’t mean that how it sounds) example men like porn, woman like to read romantic novels
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