I have found redirecting my little ones attention works well I find him doing it less often. He thinks its a game saying no is like go for him lol
Most definitely have your little one screened for developmental delays. My child began doing the exact same thing around that age and soon after we discovered aside from his severe learning disability he is also autistic. Don’t beat yourself up about the situation you may be young and you may be a first time parent and you may be single and you may be inexperienced with infants and toddlers BUT YOU ARE NOT A BAD PARENT… you are not a bad person and you definitely are not alone… my child was not able to be screened for anything at 14months however he was monitored closely and at age 2 (preschool aged) he was allowed to be properly screened. I wish you the best and remember you are that babies mommy and you are already on the right track by being honest and open about the situation at hand.
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My 2 yr old grandson does the same thing when he gets mad or told no and don’t get his way. We have learned to ignore his reaction when he does hit his head and after a couple of times doing he will come up to us and give hugs in his way of saying sorry. And if ignoring doesn’t help he gets sat down on the couch beside us and and spank his rear Everytime he trys to bite or pinch cause we r using our arm as a seatbelt so he can’t through his head around. We have taken him to several different doctors and they all say the same thing it is a fit throughing attitude because he don’t get want he wants. Your more than welcome to message and we can talk more. My daughter is young and a single mother of 2.
It’s just a stage. He is testing you and seeing what he can do to get a reaction from you.
I would not bite, hit, or scratch him. If you don’t want him to do it you don’t do it to him. I would set up a time out child’s chair in and area with no entertainment. Explain to him and show him if you act you out you are going into time out chair. Put a timer on the time he has to sit. Explain when the bell dings on the timer you can go play. You most probably will have to stay with him the first few times to get him use to it.
Also reward good behavior. Make a chart of things he can do good. Share or play with others, things he will understand and give him stickers for good job. If he gets so many stickers he can get different rewards.
If it doesn’t work you many need to just talk to your dr. See if there is possibly of a issue.
Make sure he’s not in any pain and hitting you is trying to get your attention to help him.
Things are always the same, as he grows he is just testing to see and learn what is right and wrong! It just takes time and it goes by fast so enjoy each day. Give lots of hugs and kisses and remember you are doing a good job.
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Have him screened for developmental delays. Also, when he does these behaviors, you need to move him to his room. Alone. Shut the door and tell him he can come out when he can play nice. He may tear up his things (don’t replace them right away) and he may hit himself. But I promise it won’t be hard enough to do lasting damage. If he finds that the behavior does not get a reaction from you except being by himself in his room, he will stop. But you have to do it every time he does the behaviors.
My mother in law said that my husband did this when he was a baby, so she got on the floor and threw a fit just like him, she had to do it a few times but he finally quit… I did this as well because my own son did the same thing, I got on the floor and did the same and he quit doing it too lol… just remember to follow through and don’t give in to what he wants… you dont have to hit your head on the floor or whatnot like he does, just put your hands where your head will land and hollar like your throwing a fit… until this quits happening just get a helmet for him, but do not give in to what he wants
Sounds like my son and he’s autistic. They can’t diagnose hardly anything until 3 years old but I would switch doctors and express your concerns and seek behavioral therapy like now. They can also teach you coping mechanisms to deal with his tantrums and melt downs.
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Oh no sorry to hear y’all are having a tough time. I always say terrible 2’s start at 1 and don’t end until 4 or 5 years old. I have a cousin who used to hit his head as a toddler and thankfully he is a healthy fully functioning adult today no developmental issues and no autism. Idk what causes this but definitely take him to the doctor ASAP just to make sure it isn’t something mentally wrong. My own kids used to bite, one day for both of them I bit back and it worked they never tried it again!
I used to give in and give my daughter attention when she would do stuff like that. I finally said enough and said go for it and walked away. She eventually realized that I wasn’t giving in and stopped hitting her head on the ground and everything else.
Alot of advice. 1st off tou doing much better than alot moms would be doing rt about now. 2nd not all acting out means he or she has delayed issues or mental issues. 3 if you worried then go see a specialist pediatrician that deals with kids with stubbron streaks they can let you know what to do. My son has asburgers and is a functional atusium. When he gets mad he cant speak he shuts down and then gets real real mad and yells cries. He went through years of therapy with counsler who understood his issues and taught him how do this or that. Number 4 a child will test you if you give them attention even negative attention from hitting self on wall ect they start to associates with hey mom will give me snack if I do this. So try ignoring child not like ignore outside while child inside. Just tell child look I will not talk to you while doing that then start counting 1…2…3… u won’t like when hit 4 then still does it at 4 pick him up put n chair make sit there for say if kid 5yrs child sits up to 5 minutes. Alot time kids do it cause they think it’s funny but they soon realise that negative behavior equals time out. Give kid few chores to do like pick up toys b4 bed. Make star chart my kids loved it. We did for month and at end month who ever had most stars for doing their chores got couple bucks the older got didnt work lol. If the new pediatric dr days all clear then start playing around diffrent things til find 1 works. It is hard at times but have faith talk fam and friends abt their kids and compare ect. If kid continues hit head start ignoring walk out room and stay til stops. Soon will. Kids are hard headed but they also can give themself a concussion. So watch it also if makes since… lol but deff try different things til find 1 works. Always with kids get 2nd or 3rd opion on behavior issues cause could be a imbalance of the fluid in brain or ear issues… there some medical reasons but 80% them just kids being kids. Keep head up and try to smile kids pick up on negative vibes from parents an they will push u past breaking point…
To cure biting I bit back worked well she stopped scratching and biting. As for hitting there head some deeper issues there seek medical help
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I’m sorry but I’m old school nana of eight grandchildren, two daughters, sometimes they just need a old fashioning talking to! What about your mother what’s she say? But I’m sorry I believe in spankings! My girls got them, they showed us respect, no child should hit bite or knock things from a grow ups hands! Maybe somethings going on you don’t know about, does he have a sitter while u work, does he go to day care! How does he act with other children his age??? Something is bothering him!
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Watch his food intake as well. But dont give into his tantrums. His wanting attention if nothing medical is wrong… if attention then he needs to learn that is the wrong way to get it.
Check teeth and ears and nose.
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Spank his but and say you don’t hit mom
A dr told me if she hit it hard enough she would stop she did