I need some advice or some help honestly probably a break at this point. My three year old daughter has been having these tantrums that last for about thirty minutes with her consistently yelling one thing on repeat or multiple things on repeat and have now gotten to the point tonight where I have tried to calm her down and she just wants to hit me. Tonight she threw a tantrum because she didn’t want to go to bed or brush her teeth and nothing I said or did could take her out of this tantrum! Tonight she tired herself out and fell asleep but I am so mentally exhausted and out of ideas and things to do. I don’t know what to do! Any moms have experience with these kinds of tantrums or any advice on how to handle them?
Little people have big emotions and they don’t know how to handle them, my 4 year old will also do the same thing she will also throw things at me at that point its time for a time out. When she calms down by herself I talk to her about what made her upset and explain why her behavior was unacceptable. I know this is going to sound bad but sometimes you need to just walk away and not feed into their tantrums let them have their little tissy once they realize oh mommy isn’t giving me that attention they will stop. Once you see her getting to that point try diverting her attention to something else like a butterfly…it’s a grounding technique cross your arms and say look at the butterfly can you do a butterfly then try again with brushing her teeth brush your’s with her sing a song as well as you do it. All we can do is try keep at it momma patience and time it will all be ok you’re doing great!!!
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When my kids throw tantrums I refuse to interact with them except to tell them they need to stop throwing a fit if they want to talk to me. Until they stop I don’t look at them or speak to them. Once they stop then we talk about why the tantrum was thrown and how it’s not the method to get their way. If they threw a tantrum about not wanting to do something they’ll need to complete the task as well.
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My son did the exact same thing when he was little I just let him throw a fit on the floor walked out of the room make sure he was safe for nothing was going to happen just walked out of the room just enough to where he couldn’t see me he would stop crying and then come and follow me and then start and then I would walk away again just a different direction after you give it a couple of times he quit doing it and it was fine
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Leave them to yell and cry it out, I use to give it to my eldest when she did it but now with my youngest I’ll leave her. Only time you should really get involved is if they are at danger of hurting themselves.
With being 3 it’s hard for them to express their emotions so they will have tantrums, maybe it’s because of tiredness too?.
Never play into it. Walk away and ignore it. Start a reward system for good behavior. Make her be a part of creating the chart pick the stickers and small inexpensive rewards. It’s been proven to work it’s called token economy.
My granddaughter tried that yesterday I told her louder can’t hear you it only took a couple minutes but she got the clue that she wasn’t going to get her way. I used it with my daughter when she was 2 so I guess it still works
Putting them in a room alone or letting them just throw a fit and refusing to interact with them is wrong if you haven’t ruled out issues that may be causing it. Talk to your pediatrician. Not wanting to brush teeth and yelling one thing or multiple things repetitively are very common in children with autism.
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She’s over tired. We don’t tolerate tantrum in my house. Toddlers are picked up placed in their rooms and are told to come out when they calm down (even my 8yo) sometimes they finish before I’m 2 steps away. Sometimes they nap but it’s seems to keep them from being frequent and unmanageable.
One thing that should be pointed out is that it’s completely fruitless to try to convince a tired three year old of anything. Try to do teeth right after dinner, maybe even move bedtime earlier. There’s not really a fix for tantrum, try buying some ear plugs to save your sanity.