Poor baby…I think I would try putting a tootsie roll (or her fav) on the sink. Pretty soon she will feel shame anyway…but I know it has to be tough on you… 
…and her!
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Mine is 8 and her pedi said that she does it cause she’s dreaming she already in a bathroom or is in a deep sleep but will outgrow it. We stopped drinks after 7 . Some nights she won’t pee but sometimes she does
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My granddaughter is almost 7 we use pull ups and a med called DDAVP it helps so much
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I’m getting my 9 yo tested after two sets of meds. And I suspect she may have ADHD too.
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Yes go to dr…my daughter was put on medication for wetting the bed. There could be a issue
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Don’t let her drank after a certain time. Set an alarm for her.
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I would get up and take my son to the potty during the night myself
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It could be that the mouth of her bladder stretched. When I was little that’s what they had to do to me and I never wet the bed again
My nephew wet the bed until he was 11 He is not a lazy child by any means of the word. He is not ADHD my child is he didn’t have a overactive bladder just something that he did no explanation for it Be patient have her help you clean up the mess or her clean it up and just know this will pass in time
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I went through this myself and with my son . They tried meds , they didn’t work . He out grew once he hit puberty . They told me if he hadn’t he may have needed more tests and surgery . So … take to doc .
Its usually genetic and its something they outgrow. You can have her checked by her pediatrician, sometimes there is a medical reason but its usually just genetics and an underdeveloped bladder. Find out around what time sue wets and then come in about an hr before and have her get up and go.
My son when young used wet bed all the time. Until one night left my room door open, I could hear him whimpering and moving aroung in his bed. I got up and walked him to the bathroom and made the pee sound and he peed. Did that for about two weeks finally the bed peeing stopped. He by then was getting up on his own to pee.
Make her and doctors appointment hunn let the test her kidney function I took my son he was still wetting the bed lord behold his kidneys wasn’t functioning properly they remove them he had to have a transplant is she a diabetic please get her check or it may be her pancreas hope everything gets better
Could be many reasons. Bladder infection, too small of bladder, something is bothering her, dont give her liquids after 7 at night. Wake her up every so much thru out night.
Is there a movie she wants to see, is there a new toy out that she wants, is there a certain restaurant that she likes to go to? You got to start bargaining mama😆
I have a son who was a Ed wetter also we took him to the urologist and he done a scope and well that fixed the problem
She will grow out of around 12 or 13 that’s when my daughter stopped wetting the bed just get done food waterproof pads that can be washed they work and will save your mattress
Could be numerous of reasons. Is she cold, drinking water before bedtime, scared to get up, having dreams, bladder problems?
Make sure her dr knows maybe a reason
I was a bed wetter and my mom humiliated
Me in every way possible about it and my gram was the only one with the sense to have it looked into I suffered horribly way to long turns out I had kidney issues
We had issue and eliminated anything wth red dye.
My advice take with paper straw ok… just because your 8yr says that she can not be bothered get up to potty at x hour sometimes not all times sometimes means there something happened and this how cover it up. Changes In diet changes at school as bullied or lord forbid being touched in way not right. Now not all times is school. Can be new baby new home or even stress. Kids can act in all sorts ways dealing with stress or changes at home or school. Say new boyfriend looks scarry a child could regress and start peeing bed. Marriage same thing. Kids are sensitive to alot stuff. They hear and see everything and some if told a story can actually have dreams that what ever story was they have a dream of it that feels so real. So take note of everything daily in child life keep on scedule say bedtime 8pm ok come n from school do homework then play til supper once supper done eat then bath teeth and potty and go bed no drinks after 7pm that way child can go bathroom b4 bed…
Limit sugary drinks - one small drink 30 mins prior and go potty before bed - Maybe try an alarm in the night - ask if maybe she is going thru anything like bullying ECT - use a gentle approach - it could be a health issue - id mention to her primary and go from there - good luck
She’s getting to the age for sleep overs. And bed wetting can be very embarrassing.
There’s an old time remedy that you can try.
You take a towel or long cloth and wrap it around the waist and make a knot in the back. This is not be be made tight. When you sleep, you wet the bed when you lay flat on your back, the knot keeps you from laying on your back, which causes you to wake up. Or you could put night time diapers on her.
I wet the bed until six years old but it was because of abandonment issues
My mother left when I was 2 so it could be anything.
Any trauma in her life lately? Moving,divorce,new school? I di
Get some pull ups for her to wear to bed.
My daughter till she was 6, was peeing the bed 3-5 times a week. It ended up being a UTI, then once that went away, it was 1-2 times a week. Took her to the urologist, ended up she had backed bowels that was putting pressure on her bladder. So now she has to take Miralax everyday. And hasn’t peed the bed in months!!
Take her to the doctor and get a urine sample!
I’ve been going through the bedwetting thing with my youngest son for a whole now. He’s 8 and finally had gotten diagnosed with ADHD, I’ve tried to cut him off liquids after dinner, using the bathroom before bedtime and again before I go to bed (I’m a nightowl) but he still has accidents… I’m still learning about kids and adhd in general so maybe this could he a thing that helps regularize a routine.
Some kids dont quit wetting the bed until they are 10. (Natural thing what I hear) Another thing that is possible is that she isn’t fully cleaned out so it is pressing on her bladder ( like a pregnancy for ladies) and she made need to be cleaned out.
My brother was a bed wetter too and nothing helped . The Dr. said his bladder wasn’t growing with him , to make him hold going to pee as long as he could during the day to stretch it . Within 4-5 months he stopped wetting the bed .
I remember when I was younger like 9 year old I wet the bed! Even after I wasn’t allowed to drink 4 hours before bed! Hear it turned out that I was born only with one kidney! Not saying that your daughter that same way but that’s why I did!
cut out all orange juice, and no red dye
My son was a bed wetter for years. I stop giving him drinks with sugar after 6PM only water and he stopped.
Take her to a chiropractor!!! Tell them to help wroth bedwetting. They can do an adjustment that really does help!! Also, my son has overactive bladder. So don’t rule out a medical issue.
There is a medication that the Dr has to write a script you can give it at bed will help with it
U had to wake her up or get waterproof mattress protectot that absolute pee and huggies dry nite bed mate
Main idea is she feel mummy put efforts together with her , also say anything possible hurt her feeling if wet bed. She might have very deep sleep, not easy wake up during the night… Best thing is let her drink more water in day time, drink less before bed . Hope it works .
I am agree with Keri’s set alarm . It will be difficult for you during this time, but surely worth to go on process. You can try alarm on the sleeping hours twice. before bed time ask she go to toilet, 11-12pm again ; then 3 -4 am again… You will tell her : “ Darling , if you don’t bother go to toilet , Mummy is going to help you .We will do it together ! Also another way if you really really don’t want drink much water or liquid before bed, it will make you pee… We will try for a week, if you still wet bed, we will do another week. Ok? “ First 2 -3 days with 2 alarm,you might figure out when she wet her bed, coming days set alarm earlier than that time…
Some bedwetting is genetic. My 9 year old could sleep through a tornado and we have the same issue. Numerous trips to the doctor and a specialist. Her father and grandmother both had this issue.
Make an appointment with her pediatrician…asap
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Bedtime 9pm, we had son stop drinking at 7pm. Helped a lot.
She should probably be checked by a doctor.
It’s time to have a chat with the pediatrician.
Dr to rule out any medical issues🤔
Stress can cause these issues and take to pediatrician as well
Won’t bash I do suggest u go in get her up & get her to go
Malem alarm if they still make it. Helped for our family years ago.
Pull ups at night, waterproof sheets and see if a doctor can do something.
Not bashing. I’ve been through this situation myself with my child when they were younger
I had the same issues with my oldest. Tried incentives, limiting liquids before bed, bathroom trips before bed, tried the alarm, tried the bedtime undies, tried meds for constipation, nothing worked to stop it. Number 1 thing to remember, do NOT punish or shame them for it! According to the specialist, children will typically stop naturally around age 11, when they start going thru puberty. Their bodies catch up to that “feeling” of the urge to go while sleeping (we thought my daughter was too heavy a sleeper, the doctor told us that isnt it. That many heavey sleeping adults Can and Do wake themselves to go!) She DID stop, naturally! I reccomend bedtime undies in the meantime and just be very Patient and Understanding!
I have bad kidneys and a smaller then normal bladder so maybe you should talk to a dr but I do not recommend anyone gives their kid the stop peeing pills they can die from retaining pee in their system and dry drowned
Used something like this. Talk to your pediatrician. But this will wake her up to let her know its time to get up to go bathroom. You may have to get up with her as well to keep up a routine. In mean time matress cover. Pull ups if needed. Stop liquids at a certain time. Usually 2 hours prior to bed. Nobody should be bashing you. Its okay. It can be frustrating and scary.
Try no liquid after 5pm
Take her to the doc to c if there’s something else going on - one of my kids friends was like this and still is at 21 … turns out she can’t feel the urge to pee because of a neurological issue
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Some children do it for a while especially at night night the best thing to do for your daughter is to not let her drink anything past 6 o’clock at night have pull ups on hand. Do not shame her for it. She will more than likely grow out of it. But if it is a serious issue then you could always take her to the doctor I’m pretty sure they have medication for it.
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Maybe a urologist can help. She may actually have a kidney problem that is undiscovered. I know from experience. Its worth a appointment to investigate. Please don’t dehydrate her by with holding liquids it could cause bigger problems
I had a kiddo who was about that age and wetting the bed. The pediatrician gave us info for bed wetting alarms, and they have tons of them in Amazon. My kiddo grew out of it not long after, but it really helped!
Talk to her doctor could be an underlying issue.
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My son said this once around age 7 or 8. Had a wet sheet down for protection but i made him strip his bed and put in machine, when washed put in dryer then make his own bed…if shes doing out of lazyness then make it more hard work for her and make her change her bed herself
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Also if it’s not a neurological issue see if it may be psychological I personally wet the bed till 13 cause I had psychological problems I was riddled with nightmares due to harsh bullying at school amongst other things
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Try Cutting her fluids off at a certain time. Also Have her use the toilet before bed. And wake her up once throughout the night if you have to. Keep pull ups on hand. My daughter did this for a long time as well. We even went as far as having to get a bed wetting alarm. She would sleep right thru it. She eventually just grew out of it. Could also be a sign of something psychological etc. and it wouldnt hurt to review this with her doctor and see what they recommend.
Set alarms for her to get up and go. I know that’s exhausting but then her body will get her used to getting up to go.
With my 4 year old, It was every single night and I had to stop drinks an hour before bed time and made him go pee before he got in bed and since then he hasn’t peed the bed. If he wakes up in the middle of the night for some reason I also make him go before he goes back to sleep. I would start with that and if it still doesn’t work go up on the time to stop drinks. It could also be she’s a deep sleeper maybe and just doesn’t wake up or it’s a dream that causes it 
I have gone threw this with my son and its exhausting! So what i did was i woke him up and personally took him 2 the bathroom every hr …this lated about 6-12 months but hes good now.
Cut out fluids an hour before bedtime and make sure she goes pee before bed.
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We do no drinks 1-1.5 hours before bed and potty right before bed… the only time they have an accident is if I forget to get their last drink before the hour before bed mark.
I would talk to the child’s pediatrician for advice.
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No drinks before bed
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Make her wash the sheets and clean up the mess. Stick to your guns
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Keep the sheets dirty 
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I wouldn’t be to concerned. My son wet the bed til he was about 10. Now he is fine. He finally outgrew it. Some kids just take longer to outgrow that phase. I did the pull up at night to make it easier to clean up. Don’t make it a big deal.
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Cut the fluids after a certain time. Try setting them a alarm for them to get up atleast once through the night to go potty. I did this when I was breast feeding with my son for my step son when I got up to pump I’d always get him up to go potty and he eventually stopped wetting the bed
I would take her to a doctor to rule out a medical issue and then to a therapist if no medical issues are found. Not to say this is the cause but I’ve met older kids who struggle with bed wetting because they process emotions internally and when they go to sleep they are so overwhelmed that they have to let something go and the unconscious easiest thing to release is pee. Once they learn other ways to process they stop bed wetting.
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Following. My son does this and is almost 9. He was fine for years until he got his own room. We put nightlights in, set alarms, got him up, made him do his own laundry (bedding), wear pull ups, monitor drinks, been to the doctor, I mean we’ve tried it all. Any new ideas would be appreciated!
My middle was like this.
And it was because she was constipated.
And even now to this day I know when she’s constipated. Because she’ll wet the bed.
Good luck
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Shaming her by making her wash the sheets as stated above, in my opinion, is a terrible idea. Punishing for this could be very damaging. Everyone else has good advice.
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No drinks before bed, potty before bed, make her start cleaning it up and she may change her thinking about not be bothered to wake up and go. Talk to her doc.
Sometimes it’s really just genetics and it stops at a certain age . You can try stopping fluid at a certain time and set an alarm to get her to go in the middle of the night . But sometimes it just can’t be helped and it’s not the kids fault
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Show her the consequences in a positive way, by making her clean and wash her sheets she will learn that it’s more work to clean up the mess then get up and go to washroom. Also night lights in bathroom and hallway might help.
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Cuz out fluids before 2 hours before bedtime and get night lights incase she is a bit scared to walk to the bathroom
I’d take her to the Dr to make sure it’s not a medical issue if it’s something she’s always done. If it’s something that just started, I’d take her to the Dr or a counselor to make sure it’s not a response to trauma.
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Is she scared of the dark?
It maybe something she just has to outgrow and mature neurologically. Chiropractor helped my grandson.
What does the Dr/Ped say? Does she have a bladder infection, being bullied at school, is everything happy at home??? Could be one of many issues…Frustrating I know…all the very best…
Put her in pull ups. If she wants to act like a baby she gets treated like one
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Cut fluids two hours before bed. But some kids wet the bed until they are older. My sister did until she was 14. She was too sound a sleeper to notice
A friend of mines daughter wet the bed until she was 10. She seriously did it in her sleep. Poor girl would be so embarrassed and upset at herself. Some kids cant control it. Her mom got her night time pull ups. Make sure its something that can be controlled before you punish her.
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My sons doctor said there is a hormone in the brain that eventually kicks in to wake them when they have to go. She recommended a bed wetting alarm but says they usually wake everyone else in the house up before the person wearing it. So she said just ride it out! My son is 9 and still wets the bed. Not every night but maybe once a week now. My opinion is the same as everyone else’s cut fluids 1-2 hours before bed and wake your child up early in the morning to use the bathroom. Eventually their body will be on a schedule and it will become less and less. I don’t punish my son because he cannot help it. Good luck!
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That sounds like it’s out of pure laziness I would wake her up at a certain time every night and get her up and force her to go to the bathroom.I would also consult her pediatrician and have them check her for any sort of medical condition to be sure that there’s nothing wrong. If there’s nothing wrong and it is out of pure laziness I would make her stripper in bed put them in the washing machine and dryer because it’s teaching her a lesson and responsibilities all in one. then I would tell her to go get her own self cleaned up take her dirty clothes put them in the washing machine and when they’re done she’s going to make her own bed. this will teach her a lesson not to take the easy way out because the easy way and return just causes you to have to do more work in the end
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Long as there’s nothing medically wrong I don’t think there’s anything to worry about it this point some kids just don’t wake up enough to get up and go to the bathroom I have a much older nephew that just quit wetting the bed waterproof sheets take it one day at a time more stress you put on her about it the longer it will happen
She likely cannot help it , just have her wear overnight pull-ups for bigger kids. That’s why they exsist. She’s definitely not the only one.
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No drinks about 2 hrs before bed, have he go to the bathroom before bed and talk to her doctor she may need to see an urologist.
Nothing wrong with a little SWAT on the butt
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They outgrow it. Pull ups for now.
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My Dr told me if they get to age 6and are still having frequent accidents they most likely will til puberty and two of them did til exactly then.
My daughter is going through the same at the same age and she is going to sew a urologist to check her kidneys and stuff who ever you are pm and i will show you the resources i have
My 9 yr old daughter has the same issue. Except she doesn’t feel the urge to pee while shes sleeping or it doesn’t wake her up. Her dr. Said it may be a small bladder an to have her hold it for as long as she can durning the ( with in reason) to try to train her bladder to hold it longer. No luck yet but we are not giving up
Oh I’d spank her. But that’s just if it was my kid. But you should make sure there are no underlying issues like emotional or medical issues. But if she told me she just didn’t want to get up and go I would spank her. Maybe she’s scared of the dark? Put a light between her room and the bathroom
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Best advice, don’t give her anything to drink 2 hours before bed time bc some kids don’t grow of it till 10 or 12 years old. Try that n see what happens
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Minimal water after dinner no sodas or juices bathroom right before bed and right at wake up if that doesnt work then it may be a kidney issue
My daughter is 2 and is finally fully potty trained and a few weeks ago she had 3 accidents in one day so I put her in her sisters size 5 diapers (it fit just fine) she had a fit. She told me she was too big for diapers, and was a big girl, and she wants to wear big undies. I kept her in a diaper for about an hour or so and since then she hasn’t purposely had an accident in her undies. That’s just what worked for me.