It sounds like he’s basically using you to be a maid. You don’t even get basic affection like a hug or kiss. Everyone deserves more then what he’s giving, even the dog makes him mad but he forgives him quicker then you. I would leave girl. He doesn’t even give you the bare minimum & you deserve way more then that. Please love yourself and just leave… don’t get stuck in a marriage with this guy.
I believe this may not be the right relationship for you. It seems like the dynamic is pretty toxic and bad for your mental health.
I would consider finding a new partner that treats you better!
Leave him baby before it gets any deeper !!
Time to leave!! I’m sure this isn’t a life you want. Think outside the box, it’s harder to leave when you’re pregnant, or married. I’d leave! You deserve better!!
Your boyfriend is using you. You’re not his maid! You don’t live there, stop doing wifey shit for him.
Sounds like you’re not getting any of the benefits or mutual respect you deserve from a relationship. Stop and think, what is this relationship doing for YOU? Sounds like nothing to me, so my answer would be to cut your losses. He’s bringing you down.
Its time to get out!.. Go now before u won’t go… theirs someone out there that’ll treat u better
Um this sounds miserable. Please don’t go back…
Run!!! That sounds absolutely terrible! You know you deserve better than that and you should find it!
Every dog in the world deserves love and affection!! If you don’t like the situation leave! And I hope and pray your not mistreating those babies because of your jealousy! Go find someone else
Honey, get out. If he says he’s better when your not there then don’t ever be there. He is using you. Not loving you.
This whole page to be some social experiment right?
I thought he was a boyfriend, you are an awesome maid.
Hun you’re not his girlfriend you’re paying to be his maid. Time to cut your losses and move on. The dogs aren’t the issue. He is.
Time to get out there is better out there and if you stay because you love him good luck in this life
Scoot on home and stay there!!!
Sounds like he is just using you for your money and cleaning why are you even there ? A real relationship is not like this I honestly would just break up with his ass and use your money on yourself and enjoy not being a slave to someone who clearly doesnt care about you
I can’t even believe this is a serious post
He is using you. Please leave.
I wonder what the age gap is…
What exactly are you getting out of this relationship? Besides used and abused, I mean.
What are you getting out of this relationship? It seems like you can clean, pay all the bills, and be by yourself and prolly a lot happier. I would really evaluate this relationship and see if it’s worth staying in. TBH it seems like he’s just taking advantage of you. Hugs!
I don’t think you being the asshole is the problem here…I just read an entire list of red flags one right after another. I would leave and never look back. You guys don’t live together full time yet and this is the way he acts already, it will get worse. He is already using control tactics on you, you give him every single penny you have just so that way you have to depend on him. Next time you leave to go wherever else it is you stay, I would bring everything with and just end it there.
You ain’t no maid everyone pick up after themselves girl cmon
I didn’t even read all of this but I can tell you it’s time to leave
Just leave. Don’t even try working it out. Pack up and go.
You don’t even legally live there just 4 days a week or 2 weeks if he wants you there, you give him your whole pay check and leave yourself with nothing, you cater to his every need, you sleep on a separate couch and he doesn’t even say I love you, correct? Sounds like he’s using you for your money and your services. You sound like his servant. Why are you with someone who treats you like that? You are worth more than living and breathing for a man.
He doesn’t love you. He is using you. Get away from him block his number. You deserve better. He treats you the way you allow him to. He is not going to change.
Girl leave. He’s straight using you for money and to clean his house.
Stop being there so much and don’t do his cleaning. It not tour place. Let him do his own shit. However talk to him about it all.Thats not love time to move on.
U need go home take all ur stuff money n all home with u n cut ties with him. U deserve better then that!!!
Girl Bye!!! He is user n you basically his care giver please leave and value your self worth
Read what you wrote and ask yourself why you don’t think you’re worth more… How did you not even feel it pouring your thoughts out like this? I think you should worry about loving yourself more than wondering why he loves his dogs more than you. I mean that with compassion. Open your eyes honey!
Baby girl, this boy is gaslighting you. Telling you he’s doing everything, throwing money (he didn’t even spend) in your face and saying he does everything when you KNOW it’s the other way around is a red flag. The fact that you stay over multiple times a week and aren’t getting the love you need says more than enough because he’s not trying. Actions speak louder than words love. What is he doing to help you? What is he doing to show you he loves you? If he’s making you feel bad about yourself despite all you do for him, that’s another red flag. He’s using you. If he wanted to live with someone who picked up after him and paid his bills and catered to his every whim, he should’ve lived with his mom. It is not your responsibility to take care of a grown man especially if it means neglecting your own needs. Tell him to either step out or leave him because that’s little boy behavior.
He’s a POS run!
I don’t even know you, and I know you deserve better.
Girl leave him. Stop being so naive n leave him
I think you know the answer. And in case you don’t, the answer is GET THE F**** OUTTA THERE ASAP and don’t look back. You are not in a relationship, you’re his maid.
Tbh i prefer my pets to most people and they do get treated better.
But other then that hes still a ass and you should get rid you can do far better
You need to leave, change your number, and never look back. That is all just too much.
What in the HELL did I just read?!! Ma’am you can’t be serious! No, he absolutely does not love you. He is using you. Period!!! Run AWAY right this second and never look back!!
Sometimes these don’t feel real. Read what you wrote… have some self respect and go home and stay there.
Wow… know your worth, your meant to be with someone who makes you happy and brings out the best in you, he is using you and has zero respect. It’s your decision, stay and suck it up or leave have a chance at finding someone who appreciates you and shows you they do. Sorry he sounds like a pig
You are evidently a glutton for punishment
I didn’t even read all of it… but it seems like he’s only keeping you around because you’re useful to him. Cleaning up after him, paying bills, etc. find a new man who worships the ground you walk on sis
U jus compared urself to dogs!!!dogs!! Mama!! They ain’t even in the running. U know how u feel u know what he does. Staaahhhhhppppp making excuses n be single for a bit. U gotta love ur self mama. U gotta be number 1. Girl be single for a bit
Sounds like you’re a live in maid/nanny, not his GF.
The same respect, care, and attention that you give him, you need to give yourself. You choose to live your life. Until you you put actions with your decisions you will always be unhappy. Let him go girl.
Why are you in this relationship?
I don’t think you ever had a relationship to begin with. Your legit his slave, seems to have always been that way. Might as well leave or tell him to start paying you
Gaslighting hell you just adopted him! You a live in maid! You need to go home and tend to you and yours and build yourself up. And if he comes crawling leave him on read! Honey I think you might need therapy.
LOL I’d make the biggest mess ever then leave
Girl u know he don’t love u why even ask u r a maid and a bank account to him .he don’t want a relationship he wants a sugar momma. Get out fast
Gurl pleeeeeeeease, you are a ONLY a ATM, sexual partner and housekeeper to him, PERIOD… He is a textbook NARCISSIST. PLEASE leave this non- relationship immediately YOU DESERVE BETTER.
Something to spit in ??
Leave now
.you his unpaid maid
That’s a lot of words for saying this man abuses you. Get out
Why, I repeat, WHY do you choose to be in a relationship with him if he makes you feel this way? It’s a give and take situation…you give, he takes.
Get out of that relationship! He’s using you…find someone who truly wants to be with you and isn’t afraid to show you.
Why are you with him? He is using you. Get out now! Run far and run fast.
Leave him why are you allowing someone to use you and not even love you , go learn to love yourself and don’t ever go back to him . He doesn’t want you . And stop spending your money on him . Go get a gym membership and start working on yourself you sound like the girl I used to be all low self esteem letting guys run all over me. But there’s a light at the end of the tunnel but you have to want it so start watching videos about how to love yourself because if you did love you, you would not be letting him or anyone treat you this way
You may as well just take care of yourself and dump this loser. You deserve much better and wouldn’t have to do all this extra to be treated less than the dogs.
Why do you allow yourself to be treated this way???
All I can say is run, to do all that,find someone that’s loves you , he’s using you !
Narcissitic behavior to the T. Just run…he wont ever change…they dont ever change
You’re his mom not his gf. Leave
In the time it took you to post this you could have packed your shit and got out of there. His actions say everything you need to know.
So why are you with him? The behavior you allow WILL continue to happen… it’s not going to stop. So either learn to deal with it or get out.
Uh…why would you continually deal with this…dump him and find someone who deserves you…
Your his maid not girlfriend
You are a live in maid, NOT a GF! Come on. Dump that!
He doesn’t love you, he loves what you do for him. Get out as quick as you can.
Time to leave.you are strong.
Are you dumb or just dumb?
I only ready to the part where he has you get this and that for him when you sit down… and he won’t sit next to you…
I’m sorry , but if you have your own place and you visit him… and he treats you like this, you’re just a part time live in maid to him.
If you stay it WILL get worse. Reach inside yourself and find your self love and worth . Dump his ass. Id personally just ghost him, and be done.
stay at your home make him beg you to come back or not let him miss you
Yikes
You gotta get away from all that toxicity!
He is using you as his housekeeper!
Please know you’re worth more! The right person will not make you feel like this, I Promise!
You’ll never win with this type of behavior. Leave and save yourself.
U cant be a doormat unless u lay down
Girl, I didn’t even finish reading that. It really comes down to simplicity. Is that how you wanna be treated? If the answer is no, then leave.
Leave he’s using you big time
What if your best friend ask for advice about the same situation you are in. You would tell her or him to run. Not sure if you have kids but you wouldn’t want your daughter to be with a guy who treats her like trash. You deserve so much better. There is a guy out there who will treat you like a queen. Being single isn’t that bad. Work on yourself. You are worth it.
You’re not his girlfriend. You’re his doormat and slave.
Why do you think so low of yourself and his behavior is normal and acceptable?
Ew. Say goodbye to that dead weight.
Reread this a thousand times to yourself. That is abuse. He is 100% using you. He sounds disgusting and extremely hateful. Why would you want to be with someone like that? He does not love you. He doesn’t even care about you! Run away as fast as you can and never ever look back. There are billions of men on this earth. If you stay with him you are preventing someone else from showing you what real love is! Run run run!!!
Sounds like you are the maid .
Sounds like he’s using you as a money source and a maid…. Leave him. That’s not love hell that isnt even a relationship
You should run. Quickly. As fast as you can. I’m sorry you’re going through this but he is wrong.
He never change, sort out your money, make sure you do, leave now with your own stuff, your a slave for him nothing else, find someone who deserves your love and kindness, let me tell you hun, he never will sounds like a bad man to me, leave now don’t waste any more time on him, do yourself a favour and go, best of luck to you
Im gonna say this ONCE and it might be hard to hear because it’s the truth but this is 100% your fault for staying with someone who has shown you time and time again that he’s worthless. What redeeming qualities are there that you stay? What he’s doing is gaslighting and abuse. You have absolutely no reason to be there. The only advice I have for you is to leave the situation otherwise prepare to live like this and don’t complain because he will NEVER change. Never!!! You aren’t responsible for his behavior but you are responsible if you let it continue a second longer. Sorry if that sounds mean it’s just sometimes we need to hear something not sugar coated.
You need to leave. You deserve better honestly you give, give give, do, do,do and don’t get anything in return. That’s not how it works.
Leave him and save yourself !!!
Question…why are you still being with someone who doesn’t respect you let alone love you…and don’t YOU think that you are more worthy than a couple of dogs? Queen…he’s already shown you his priorities…as my mother used to say…" baby you can do bad by yourself…so never let any man treat you like a door mat…love yourself 1st Queen and drop him off with his dogs
You only stay there 4 days out of 7 so presumably you have your own place. Why are you still there accepting this behaviour?
Leave now. The more you accept…the worse it will get
If this is the case and this is how he makes you feel then why are you his gf???.?
What’s the benefit to staying with him, honestly? I would get out while you still can.
Sounds like you should just stay gone
The dogs don’t even have to be mentioned for the red flags to be flying
Leave.
Keep kissing ass. Then one day he’ll tell you it’s". Over"