My boyfriend of 12 years has been asking a girl to get her only fans back. This girl has been an issue in our relationship previously. This girl we both know and lived in our small town. He recently moved in with me and I was looking on his computer and he had a other Facebook account so I hacked into it and found out he has been essentially begging for her to get her OF back. I also found pictures of a girl he told he loved when we broke up a few years ago for a month? On his computer and screen shots of him commenting on her bikini pictures. I addressed this and told him it makes me uncomfortable and I’m very hurt and he just flipped out at me and told me I was insecure and he’s not cheating on me? I feel stuck do I break up with him. He also refuses to delete her saying it be rude for him to. Why would he care what she thinks?
Help a mama out and respond anonymously on our forum. My boyfriend asked for another girls only fans
Leave. Your not insecure. He is cheating and he is also acting like an A$$.
Girl break up with him. There are men out there that will treat you the way you deserve. You don’t deserve that at all. I can only imagine how hurt you feel. But you have to choose you and happiness for yourself.
He’s hiding stuff and gaslighting you. Kicj him to the curb you deserve better. Onlyfans is cheating.
Stop wasting your time on him… hes obviously interested in someone else. Time to move on
If you addressed with him what hurts you and he turned it on you, he is trash. It’s easier said then done but it’s probably time to get out.
Run honey!!! He is not a man he is a boy!!!
He’s acting like that cause he knows he’s doing slimy, dog shit. Get rid of him
Leave hiiiiiiiiim !.
Sounds like a narcissist to me get rid
RUN! If he is doing this 12 years into a relationship, he doesn’t value you now and never did. If he was afraid to lose you he would never do the things he has done.
What does your gut say
Sounds toxic. Realize your worth and leave, girl.
You housing the dude and you’re still the side chick
Re-read your own post but this time read it as if someone else wrote it, what advice would you give that person? RUN. End. Of. Story.
Honey, please respect yourself and love yourself enough to walk away from him. He is not ready for a relationship with you and you cannot make him want to. Those relationships suck.
He cares more how she feels than how you feel. Think about it.
Why is he still in your home ?
If he is worried about hurting someone else’s feelings, over you, when you’ve been together 12 years, leave.
Get out! He doesn’t respect you.
Get rid of him…he’s obviously a loser
Why you wasting anymore of your time thinking about him?! Be done with the user.
The question isn’t why would he care what she thinks …. It’s why doesn’t he care what you think …. Leave him he doesn’t care about you
- You didn’t hack, you guessed a password and snooped. 2. He’s hiding and lying, you are worthy of more than that. Any man who would make you have to read his DMs because of lack of trust isn’t a man worth keeping.
Dump him. He’s sneaking. He doesn’t respect you. He wants someone to take care of him while he plays. Run. Fast. You deserve better.
Tell him good bye girl, that’s only the beginning he will just get worse
Dont worry about why. Get away from this man ASAP It never ends. I have no prob with onlyfans but lying/shady is unacceptable. I feel like in healthy relationship nobody needs to hack / find dirt on your partner. Ive never gone through anyone phone.
Run girl. Run fast and don’t look back. You already know the answer. Don’t let him make you look like an idiot.
12 years? Previous break ups? History of issues?
Just moved in together? Gaslighting?
OnlyFans is the least of your problems.
You either walk away with dignity and self worth now or he will keep disrespecting you like of you’re some type of basic bitch give yourself your place as a Queen you don’t need that. The girl you don’t worry about she’s obviously not interested. He can keep begging her lose you and have to watch from sideline when he sees you with a new man that will respect and love the living SH** OUT OF YOU
Leave him… Enjoy life at this moment…
Invest time for yourself, stop looking…
You’ll find a Man later on, who’ll enjoy you and only you!!
You don’t trust him, …. so you hacked his computer. …. Sounds like you both have issues you need to work on ……
Run run fast as u can hes a user
You deserve to feel loved hun, he sounds like a selfish dick and if he’s so obsessed with another girl naked leave him so she can make him see how it feels to not be the only option.
Wow. He doesn’t care. 12 years and he just likes your doormat status.
You can do better. I don’t even know what you look like and I know you can do better. I’ve been with my bf for 10 years and I would end it in a heartbeat if he did any of that. Respect yourself more
If you have to hack in to his fb accounts and etc then why be in a relationship? There should be trust in a relationship
Makes you feel uncomfortable?
If he was in love, he wouldn’t be so easily distracted… time to go. You deserve better.
Yes!!! Leave is dumb ass
You are breaking your own heart at this point.
You deserve better!!!
Sad to say but if hes not all yours and wont cut someone off that was a problem for the both of you then hes not your man. Hes waiting for the opportunity to cheat. Leave him. Every woman deserves someone who is willing to hurt other female’s feelings for you.
Unless you wanna spend the rest of your life going through the same situations with him, it’s time to tell that boy bye! It sounds like he has shown you over and over what you mean to him, which is nothing. If you mattered to him, other women wouldn’t. A man doesn’t entertain other women unless he has an interest in pursuing said women.
Why are you allowing yourself to be disrespected? LEAVE.
You’re worth much more and it’s okay to not see it but you have to respect yourself.
12 years and your still just a girlfriend ? Seems he cares about the other females feelings more. Time to seriously ask your self if this is really worth the stress and insecurities and tell him he needs to go
Girl you know the answer. Boy bye
Red flags everywhere. You deserve more than that leave fast
Run now. I had a similar experience. Let’s just say I stuck around too long have 3 kids and left a 15 year relationship when she finally won. He cares more about her feelings and how he looks then he does for your feelings. I promise you can do better.
Narcissist! He is gaslighting u!!! Blaming his actions on u and calling u crazy… girl u already know the answer to ur own question… find the strength to follow through! No man that loves u, truly loves u will ever make u feel insecure about urself or try to look for “comfort” elsewhere!
Ditch him hun once a cheat always a cheat lifes to short x
It’s time to move on… I’ve been in a similar situation, and decided to leave… you will find love again.
In Spanish there’s a saying about a dog that wanted to sandwich and ended up with none She’s clearly not intrested and you deserve way better. Tell him go continue begging her for her only fans thats as close as you will get to that woman as for me I’m GONE
Without trust you have no relationship.
Tell him to pack his stuff and go. Entertaining another woman IS cheating. One doesn’t have to touch someone else to cheat. You deserve better.
Respect yourself and leave quietly you dont even have to explain yourself cause he wont Respect you anyway.
He sounds like a creep run
Leave and never look back.
Bruh he’s cheating. If he’s getting defensive he’s cheating
You already know the answer if you have to ask. This relationship will end whether you do it now or later. Better to do it now and just get on with life because it’s too short to sit and worry like this every day.
12 yrs and he won’t delete an account or won’t quit talking to someone??? Girl, um no. If he truly cared about you and only you then he would delete anything that made u feel uncomfortable. He wouldn’t have a fake account or be talking to other girls. I’m sry sweetie but go ahead and cut him loose.
Time to leave, been there and went through the same thing with my ex. Makes you feel so unworthy and makes you disrespect yourself and it just repeats itself if you stay. The longer you avoid the obvious the harder it will be to learn to love yourself again. Surround yourself with those who love and support you now…you’ll find your worth and better things in life will unfold best of luck darling!
Yes break up with him! It’ll hurt a lot less in the long run!
Whats only fans back?
Leave him!! There’s definitely some feelings there if he saves all that crap
He’s definitely cheating. The second they flip it on you, they’re admitting to cheating.
First off you’ve been together 12 years and you’re hacking a secret Facebook account. He flipped out instead of honoring your feelings. What he did is so incredibly suspect he should know if it happened the other way around he’d be leaving.
He is not faithful. He may not be cheating but he’s thinking about it. A REAL person in his life has an onlyfans and that’s for pornographic content so he is absolutely having sexual feelings about her.
You should leave. Don’t stay just because of the time together.
He cares how she feels more than you. Red flag get out of there. He isn’t taking your feelings, while you are in a relationship, into consideration. But he does the other chick. Heck no girl.
Nah, kick him to the curb!!
Dump him and move on! Don’t waste your time, he’s a l**ser
Run fast… he will cheat if the opportunity is there. He is a narcissist and will make you seem like it’s all your jealousy and insecurities, but in reality he craves attention and will not stop. I lived through it for 7 years, get away before it warps you for a good man like it has me.
Leave him, you deserve better
So why are you asking others advice on whether you should allow this man (who obviously has ZERO respect for you) to continue to disrespect you or not? Love yourself babygirl. Put YOU first ALWAYS! Because it’s obvious he’s DAMN SURE not gonna. It seems you already know the answer to your question.
1.- apparently you don’t trust him. 2- why would you move in? 3- if you have to ask here— you have no relationship. Get out and move on— 12 years and still just a boyfriend?
He’s cheating or trying to. When that’s the first thing he goes to, that’s what’s going on.
People get defensive and flip it on you when THEY are doing something wrong. Seems like he’s in love with her so Yea she matters more. He’s basically saying her feelings mean more than yours. People treat us how they’re allowed too. Pack up and go or stay and continue being 2nd to her. If she ever gives him the chance, he’d absolutely sleep with her.
You already know. Tell him to get to steppin. He ain’t care how this behavior makes you feel. He’s disrespectful enough to worry it would be rude to HER to delete HER ?! Nah I ain’t built like that. Kick rocks bruh and you can worry about HER feelings on tf over there where you ain’t bothering me.
What’s “her only fans back”?
Byeeeeeeee! Do not sign up for any more of this misery.
Girl if you don’t break up with his ass! He clearly has NO respect for you
Leave him he’s obviously cheating
Lots of people can give you advice, but only you can decide if this is the life you want
So, he doesn’t value your feelings about this issue. He won’t even consider that it upsets you. So, he told you exactly what you need to know. You are not a priority in his life. My question for you is, why is he still a priority in yours? You gotta make the big move here because you are the only one responsible for your happiness. Accept only what you deserve.
Break up with him. Gross.
Lol it would be rude ? Nah, he’d lose the chick he’s been talking to… the " other fb " is more than likely only for creeping and msging women.
I’ve had many exs be like that and they’re always cheating … if they won’t delete a female it’s cause he’s talking to her … my last relationship the guy was on sex sites messaging girls about working with them and having sex while at work. I had just gotten fixed cause he told me he didn’t want a child since I already had 4 I had just had a baby as well … well he ended up moving out and then a girl sent me screenshots of him asking her on dates as we were still in a relationship we broke up months later get back together and I had issues trusting him but tried to move past it well one morning I woke up and on a tablet he had said a girl sent him a picture but he had a lock on it even had a lock on his smart watch (like why???) Anyways I asked and we got into a fight so I told him to leave he packed up and I took him back to the city I picked him up from anyways the girl that sent him a picture and I had a mutual friend so I talked to that friend and found out that girl was his ex and he had been dating her on and off around the time he was dating me … glad I left him… anyways fast forward I’m with this great guy and I asked him about a girl thaylt bothered me even tho he wasn’t talking to her he blocked her immediately no question
He is gaslighting you, making you feel like you’re at fault. Move on bc he will continue to do this.
Leave and don’t look back. Period. it’ll hurt for a few days or weeks but a man is NEVER worth more than your own sanity, nothing is worth loosing your self over. Focus on bettering yourself, then look for love, or it might find you.
Why do so many women tolerate this BS
I know it’s been a long time with him. Y’all have been doing life together for a while. And you probably have been just taking and accepting some behaviors of his. But this is too much. I don’t think it’s a problem when men watch a little here and there. They’ll never know or meet the girls. But this only fans stuff is different. If you can actually reach out to them via a simple message, this can be trouble. You might have to let go of the relationship. And he living in YOUR house doing all that? I think tf not.
Throw the whole man out…boy bye
In your heart, you already know the answer.
He actually thinks she’s interested in him ? Lmao he’s delusional and obsessed and creepy. I hope she gets a restraining order on him for being disgusting. Definitely boot him and tell him he needs to get help.
Hes more concerned about her and how she feels then you. I know its hard, but how much is your happiness and wellbeing worth? Give thought to the guy who treats you like you deserve to be treated. You’re wasting your time with this guy who doesn’t respect you at all and doesn’t see a problem with his mistreatment. When you’re ready, you’ll be able to make the right decision for you
Do you really need for ALL of us to tell you ???
You already know this isn’t going to get any better, AND he actually picked her over you… The fact that you even have to ask him to delete her, THEN he said No ??
Is that the type of man you want? Is this the type of relationship you want?
What does he do for you? Does he give you emotional support? Does he pay all the bills?
Leave him and never look back, nobody deserves to feel the way you feel. You should be his priority not his second thought.
He cares what she thinks bc he doesn’t truly care what you think… which is completely backwards. The fact you addressed it and he knows it makes you uncomfortable but literally won’t do a single thing to reassure you AND he flipped shows all you need to know. We can all tell you our opinions but it’s ultimately up to you to realize your worth and get rid of him.
All those red flags are warnings … pay attention is this how you want to spend the rest of your life… prayers
Pack his crap and put him on the road. If he cant see the wrong in it, hes a narc. They dont change. Just work on you and forget him